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Need You Now
Need You Now One my favorite songs on the cool down portion of my workout mix is "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum. The lyrics beautifully describe the intense sense of longing that accompanies the memories of someone very special from your recent past that fills your mind in the empty hours of night. Fighting that temptation to reach out and touch some of the passion that is missing and putting aside whatever circumstances have pushed you apart. I feel blessed that from the few relationships I have had over the years that all of my memories are wonderful and luckily they often "cross my mind"". The lyric in the song that always strikes me deeply is the bridge "guess I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all". In the context of the song, I'm never quite sure if it is the memories that are causing hurt or the acceptance of the risk of reliving the pain of whatever has pushed them apart to experience the passion they shared one more time. The fear of hurt serves as a form of personal confinement. All things that are full of joy and passion come with a risk of hurt and the greater the reward, the greater the potential cost. Buffering your heart by building trust and managing your expectations can cushion the blow but never offer full protection. The only real protection is to exist in the shelter of "feeling nothing at all". We all manifest that existence in different ways burying ourselves in work, immersing ourselves in books or media, but at "quarter after one" without those distractions the memories of how wonderful truly living feels creep in. I would much rather hurt than feel nothing at all because the hurt will fade away and whatever joy created it will endure. I need to get better at living by that mantra. Are you limited by fear of hurt? |
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Hurt doesn't always fade away, sometimes it remains as a protector.
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Hurt doesn't always fade away, sometimes it remains as a protector. Always be yourself
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I have been a long time follower of your blog and can very much relate to your story. I was raised on a dairy farm and many of your experiences bring back memories of how hard and yet wonderfully special that way of life is. I unfortunately also deal with the issues of an empty marriage. I hope you can find that ability to feel again. You are such a genuinely sweet and giving person, you deserve someone that will truly let that shine.
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Just like a child touching a hot stove, it takes time to trust others with your feelings when you have been burnt recently. I hope time is kind and allows you to find that ability to trust again.
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Sounds like a very fortunate man to have that ringtone assigned. A little gun shy is never a bad thing. A little caution not only offers protection but it often keeps our heart from blurring our better judgment.
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Thanks so much for the sweet comments. The same emotional depth that makes hurt so unbearable is also a treasure. it may hold back your willingness to put your heart at risk but it also greatly enriches those experiences when you let your heart engage.
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Im limited by fear on several things... fear of water keeps me from boating, etc... I love Lady A. ! Most country music actually... I listen to that or classic Rock. Thanks so much for the comments
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Im limited by fear on several things... fear of water keeps me from boating, etc... I love Lady A. ! Most country music actually... I listen to that or classic Rock.
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Thank you
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