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Fears I'm putting together a series of surveys targeted at members without profile pics. These are active members who broadcast, send real emails, leave testimonials - they just choose not to upload a profile pic. I thought I'd ask in here to and see if you guys had any feedback. Maybe there's something we are missing, maybe there is a privacy setting that would allow women to upload their photos, but not show to everyone. Privacy Questions: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? Questions for Women: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? I'm going to put out some broad surveys asking these questions, but I know you guys have opinions on this. I'd love to hear any thoughts you have. |
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1 > no photo? No clue. Not a face photo? Pick a series of reasons... from people hunting you down, to stalking ( don't laugh - someone found me in NH when I did have a face photo up ) to just don't wish to 3 > I have only ever shared 1 email here - the one that has been in effect for years - and that the site says in inactive.  question 4 is missing 5> The cupid settings are vague at best .. and useless to someone like me who would be fine without ever seeing another piece of mail from here 6. Overwhelmed sure, annoyed with the stupidity - sure. Not sure about the other two. That's why my auto response has been active since day one.. 7. Fear also includes gripe. There is so much cross marketing that there is no illusion of privacy. ~ [blog kelidgh]~ I am, indeed 
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8/1/2011 7:30 pm |
1) You cater to a wide verity of sexual deviants who freely express less then traditional views and desires(good for you). Shame, judgement, and to disconnect private lives from there internet lives. 2) No, but my sense of shame is sparse. 3) I use A separate email of course. The first message I got was a badly translated message from a obviously fake girl. I was impressed with how quickly you guys handled it. Remember me. For remembering is so much more a psychotic delusion, then it is to forget.
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Privacy Questions:What privacy are you alluding to...we don't have any here really even with that mythical "filter setting" which was pointed out at one time to only be available to subscribers...which I was when I set it to exclude me from search engines...you have google analytical code embedded into every page on this site including the IMC...which according to the SSB is part of drawing traffic to this site section 5 of the TOU... 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? Because they don't have to...it's not a requirement...some simply do not want to... 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? I've always had a face pic...have I been stalked...yes...but the block feature has it under control so far...frankly if someone is looking for me here...aren't they already a member also?  3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? Anyone who does not have more than one email account...really needs to re-evaluate that...I maintain several for different purposes...and never give out my main from my ISP EVER...
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I want to comment on question 2. The argument that wd40w and other uses doesn't consider an issue that affects me. Yes, if people see me on site, they must be on site too, so what is the issue? For me, it isn't that people know I'm on site; they will know I'm gay. I have been completely honest with posting my true birthday and hometown, but I'm not ready to post a face pic. In my small town, other residents on site wouldn't care them I'm on site, but they surely would tell everyone they knew that I was gay. Unfortunately, even in this day and age, that would not go over well in small town Alberta.
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I'll answer 1-3 based on my experiences with the men on this site: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? When I ask that question, the main answer I get is privacy issues. Some are uber paranoid (yet, they're on this site) and don't want anybody to recognize them in any way whatsoever. 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? What with the way some search engines work, never know what'll show up in a fluke. 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? I've found some less-than-careful ones use their work addresses but on the whole, they seem to use free webmail services. 5&6 don't really apply to me, but I've come across some profiles/blogs that answer these questions: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? I'm sure if the option's there, there are quite a few women who'd like to take advantage of it. You see quite a few profiles list NO MARRIED MEN! 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? I've seen a couple of blogs by newbie women who're overwhelmed by the number of emails they're getting soon after they joined the site. 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? Probably the inability to trust the privacy settings.
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Ok, I'll bite :  So to speak that is..LOLPrivacy Questions: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? I do not know why others choose to not load a photo. I was told/warned years ago by an FBI agent investigating my stalker that I should NEVER post a photo of myself anywhere online. Since he put the fear into me, I never have. Once I know/trust someone I have met here, than I share pix with them 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? No, I let everyone I know I am member here. Friends and family know I am a member here. I have nothing to be ashamed of. This is where family/friends hang out, where my blog and my writing is. Mom was not to happy with this site but she knew and liked my friends I met here. I have promoted the site to some friends but sadly in the case of my friend who became a member than was kicked out the same day, had to email/call to get her profile/handle back and was never told why/what happened to her, I am no longer promoting the site to people . 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? No, I use my one and only email addy as I would not give it to someone if I did not trust them in the first place. I know friends have a ton of different email accounts but I use the one I like the best. Questions for Women: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? LOL..I get emails from everyone. I reply to every email I get even when 90% of them are not someone I intend upon meeting or getting involved with. I think a nice reply and a No thank you can go a long way. 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? LOL again..I suspect if it bothered women or men they would simply opt out of receiving them or do the auto reply to take care of that issue. 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? As Keli wisely said to much cross marketing.It would have been nice to have been asked if members wanted their emails given out to all the other various inc sites. My "gripe " to borrow Kelis word is that the trolls who threaten other members continue to do so and wreck havoc here on the site so other members, good members this site needs to keep/grow with, are quitting in record numbers. If no one is going to fix anything than why should any member follow any of the rules or TOU ? The fear is no one really cares about any of these issues or the members..it all comes down to money in the end and that is so very very sad. I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart 
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Just my two cents, and I DO post a face pic (although I didn't always) ... Privacy Questions: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? Afraid they will be recognized by their employer. 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? Of course they are. I'd be willing to guess that more than half of the people on here are attached and looking for something on the side, other than a divorce. Or what if you have kids and they accidentally surfed on in and found Mom or Dad showing off all their pink bits. That could be horrifying. 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? You HAVE to have a separate email, or else you really should not be on the internet at all. Questions for Women: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? That would be awesome. But lots of guys lie about that anyway. 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? I ignore winks anyway. And a lot of the "wanna fuck" emails too. 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? Stalkers. I had one drive through my town once and hunt me down. Now I don't put my town on my profile. 2022... it HAS be better, right?!
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1) Why don't some people upload a photo? so you asked...i will give my answer... because uploading a profile is not mandatory... my question for you is that, what good is it anyway, when TSdates.com is allowing members to upload the fake pic ripped off the internet.. for your information, under the "hottest members" page, 30-year-old, female from Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India, i can't really mention her name here, but sexy_shaxxxa (xxx part is withheld for purposes) is using two of the photo ripped off of internet... one is a megan fox's...another one from ana beatriz barros, brazilian model... i reported for abuse, however, the site, still allow her/him/whatever, to post the fake pics as the profile pics...and nothing has done... what good is it anyway...i would rather not to see any photos at all, if they can't post their original pics...
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Privacy Questions number 1. Maybe they just don't want to show who they are as could get into issue. 3. I don't use my main email address to sign up on here. Questions for Women 5. It don't really matters. If not of my interest, I just ignore. Other would have different answer them me. 6. I don't get too much. If I do, I don't really get freaked out. 7. Stalker and Privacy.
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On your question number 2. I am going to relate the experience of two former female members from Indiana. One was recognized and lost her job because people kept going to her place of employment and bothering her. She lost another job that she was going to be hired for when another employee of that business told the personnel person that she was on this site. The other was out shopping with her teenage daughter when she was accosted by a male member who demanded to know why she turned out his generous offer to have sex with her. He did not have the sense to not make a scene and embarrass her in front of her daughter. Both of these former members blogged about their experiences before they left the site. AKA The Clit Whisperer. 
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Yeah, my preference is free guys. Would like to see that somehow in my preferences, matches too! Not really interested in gays... Not having my full face pic here: living in a country with less than half a million people, want to have some privacy too What I would like is, as a match, instead of blings given to me... : single guys, not gays, living in the area I chose. Only universal or also in Scotland Where to start my day or is it month Of course I39ll change I39ll do whatever you like Heatseeking missiles  Squirter's life
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Privacy Questions: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? They are trying to be discreet & often send a photo to someone when they are comfortable /ready to meet or via the private friend albums. They are worried about someone they know asking WTF are you doing on here. 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? Yes, they are. 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? Separate email just for this site or other online sites. For one it's private & less likely to be discovered or found in a search engine & TWO, we know all the spam that comes from Various Inc, because that's the only address we give y'all. Questions for Women: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? Of course. Everyone has a type & a preference & some standards. Come on. 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? It can become an overload for them, yes. 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? Meeting a psycho /stalker & being attacked by all the fake ass profiles & pictures on here that no one seems to be able to do anything about.
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#1 and #2...I personally do know of people that HAVE lost their jobs for being on sites like this. MOST jobs don't want to have someone that may be considered a 'whore' or has their dick hanging out on the internet working in their offices. Second, it has personally happened to ME.. people CAN take and copy the photos you have on here and some of mine were copied and ended up on profiles meant to slam/defame/cause damage to me by another. It has happened more than once. Some people can't take 'no' or what your profile preferences are and get very vindictive. I have removed almost all my photos since then. #5...Most people have preferences, although man men have 'height/weight/size/age/race on matter' meaning more or less they will do anyone...lol sorry but I see it constantly. Sad fact is that even with a preference you CANNOT stop them from contacting you or sending you hateful emails because you say 'not interested in...' and they don't like it. I personally think that IF I state 'no ...' and set an age limit or married etc... that this person should not have the option to contact me. IT IS MY Profile not theirs and what I want means more to me than them getting to have their way and bother me when it is pointless. #6...YES.. many people get swamped and the most common email is "wanna f*ck" and a dick pick.. nothing else. IT IS NOT a turn on to have 50 of those a day, it gets old FAST. People ignoring profiles and preferences happens daily to many on here. Many use the flirts as a way to contact when they are blocked for a myriad of reasons. YOU CAN'T BLOCK A JERK BEFORE THEY ARE A JERK.. you have no way of kwowing who will be one. I DO NOT like the thinking that the sender of messages and seekers rights outweigh the owner of the profile i.e. not being able to just block out flirts or messages from those that do not match cupid settings we set. MY GREATEST FEAR is that one day someone is going to be seriously injured by another on this site as there are some privacy issues. No you can't protect everyone, but certain things CAN be done to protect people better than are being done right now. There are some really big 'trolls' on here that have nothing better to do than harass others and they just make new profiles and keep coming back over and over. That should be stopped.
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Privacy Questions: 1) Why don't some people upload a photo? There's the obvious reasons, they are married or have a partner and don't want to get caught, they don't want their kids-neighbors-co-workers to see their face. Another big reason is that it's not required and they don't think they need one. 2) Are you worried about showing their face on the site, that people they know will find them? Of course. This is still a dating site with a focus on sex. 3) Do you guys make a separate email account, or do they give out their main email address to people they meet? I don't know about all guys, I've encountered a couple who didn't seem to. Generally, I think almost all women do (including me). Questions for Women: 5) Do they want to be contacted by only a particular type of person (like non-married)? I think it depends. Married men are always bitching on this site so I'm going to assume that the single guy does better here but I'm sure it depends more on the person. 6) Do women ever get too many emails, winks and get freaked out? It's not the amount that freaks women out but the content. Picture after picture of disembodied erections, some of them spurting can be at once boring and distasteful. It's the one and two sentence messages rife with incomprehensible spelling and grammar. It's the multiple messages from some guy tying to get you to change your mind. It's getting tired of men who don't even know you call you "bitch", "cunt" and "whore" because you dare to tell them, "No thanks, I'm not interested" Below is the full text of 4 different messages I've gotten recently. I cut and pasted, I haven't changed the the spelling or coherence of any of them. Take a look at what freaks a woman out: #1 you are sexy i would like to play with an i will treat u right u got a nice sexy ass i like to fuck i hope to here from you tim i im a nice guy [My ass is not on really on display in my profile] #2 hey sexy how are you? Wanna have sum fun? Can i lick my cum off your precious tits too? #3 i m 42, single, no kids, add me and i'll show u cam or a pic? id is down2earthnjmale #4 You sound INCREDIBLE! I'm finishing my move to Trenton as a single man finally and I'd love to chat or meet to see if we click. I'm a fun guy up for most anything that YOU would enjoy. I LOVE to please! I especially love giving oral to my lady till she cant cum anymore. I even love giving it to her after she has just been fucked by her other lover too! Ever used a strap on on a guy? I'd love a lady to do that to me. 7) What is your greatest fear about the site? I take a lot of precautions when I meet a man. Only in broad daylight, in a neutral space not near my home, getting full names and googling *before* meeting, letting someone know where I am going and who I'm meeting and a bunch of other stuff. I also realize that I can take the best of precautions and I might still meet that "wrong guy" who will sexually assault me or worse. And That my pictures, profile, blog posts or other information is repurposed for other dating sites or for Penthouse publications.
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