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Strong, independent, intelligent women
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Strong, independent, intelligent women  I hear this all the time, guys who SAY they like and want stong, independent, intelligent women but unfortnatly, from what I've seen, a lot of times when confronted with just that, they run for the hills. There's a big part of me that thinks a LOT of guys SAY this, mainly because they THINK it will get them laid and as we all know, guys will in fact say just about anything to get the object of their lust on her back with her legs spread. I've never understood this particular delusion. First off, if the woman in question is truly strong, smart and independent, she's going to see right though this ruse. Second, even IF the guy is able to hoodwink her initially, she's gonna figure it out eventually and then..... well hell hath no fury..... especially when you piss off a strong, smart, independent woman my friends. I've never quite understood why guys are so threatened by the thought of a woman as an equal, as a true partner. I do believe that part of is societal, part of it can be answered in the way they were raised and maybe there is just a 'genetic' disposition for guys to act this way but eventually, you hopefully become a man and can stand up and actually be honest with the opposite sex. It's a shame, I actually see less and less evidence of this. I'm reminds of a post I did back in 2010 What it means to be a man . Tazzerman |
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Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means that you're not going to get your way all the time. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means the roughest edges of your personality will have to be smoothed out -- because she's not going to accept them. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you're no longer going to be able to transfer your work frustrations onto your relationship. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll have to be careful about how and when you raise your voice. AND... Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll have someone who is sharing your bed also watching your back. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll get perspective on your work and other frustrations from someone you trust. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll be exposed to perspectives and experiences you otherwise wouldn't have. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you will, as Tazzerman indicates, have a true partner. Some men don't want that -- and, to be sure, neither do some women. May they find each other and be happy. The rest of us will go for the partnerships. You know, I really haven't had a problem. If guys were scared away, I didn't notice it - probably because I wasn't interested in them in the first place. In my teens and twenties, I definitely did have a lot of power-struggles with guys I dated. I definitely did NOT mesh with dating other attorneys. We'd just argue about everything. I am much more laid-back nowadays. I get much more respect from men and people in general, now that I am older.
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I am an independent, strong woman. I am the only girl in an entire family of boys/men. I was given absolutely no slack at all and had to do everything they did just the same. MY grandfather was a master carpenter and he told me at about 5 years old that a hammer doesn't know you are a girl or a boy.. Swing it!! lol I own all my own power tools, a tractor, a pistol, and a chainsaw. I am very capable of doing things like roofing as I did have to help with 3 roofs my family did on our cabin and houses over the years. TELL THAT TO A MAN and they run like h*ll from me. I won't even go into my love of hockey..... my dad played.. does that say it all? That is one thing of many and after hearing "I love strong, independent women" so many times and watching them turn away I am sure many say it because it seems to be the thing to say. As I am intelligent I can pick it out quite quickly when they are lying as they never seem to stop talking long enough to not hang themselves..lol The man I am with and have been with for the past 10 years LOVES that he doesn't need to watch over me every second of the day. He knows that if something happens I am not sitting here looking dazed saying, "Oh no... what will I do now??" He knows I will find out what needs fixing, fix it, find someone to help me fix it, or do whatever is necessary to get it fixed if need be. I am not a wilting pansy. NOW... let me tell you for all of you that are reading this thinking I am Helga from the East German wrestling team..lol I DO still need to know I am wanted, special, and important to him. I very readily clean up well and am girly girl when need be. I am not a control freak, we walk BESIDE each other. There is no competition as to who knows more than the other. I think THAT is part of the problem with people that they feel the need to prove they are better than the other, in control, or their male prowess for the gender thing there too. Women built quite a bit of America. We 'walked' along with the wagons going West on the Oregon trail right along with the men. We helped build the cabins, make the trails, and keep things going. Weak women couldn't have survived in the wild West. There is no room for egos in relationships....lol just my thoughts.
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These are things that a man pen-pal friend and I have discussed, males and men. We see fewer men out of the male of the species and that's a sad thing. Instead of adapting and growing in their roles they have backed out of them completely and become large children who only want to play (sexually, too, since they are physically not children), but don't want anything that requires them to be real men with all that entails. Just because women CAN do it all (and we always could, don't let men-biased history fool you) doesn't mean we should have to do so. And a real man won't make us do so while they go off to play. *End of rant. 
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Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means that you're not going to get your way all the time. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means the roughest edges of your personality will have to be smoothed out -- because she's not going to accept them. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you're no longer going to be able to transfer your work frustrations onto your relationship. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll have to be careful about how and when you raise your voice. AND... Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll have someone who is sharing your bed also watching your back. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll get perspective on your work and other frustrations from someone you trust. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you'll be exposed to perspectives and experiences you otherwise wouldn't have. Being involved with a strong, smart, confident woman means you will, as Tazzerman indicates, have a true partner. Some men don't want that -- and, to be sure, neither do some women. May they find each other and be happy. The rest of us will go for the partnerships. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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