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Me, Myself and I

My thoughts, feelings and fantasies
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hair vs. bare
Posted:Jul 19, 2018 2:14 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2020 2:20 pm

Men and women: Who do you prefer your partner's genitals landscaping?Please tell me why you chose your response. I rather curious.
Full bush
Light dusting
9 Comments , 57 votes
Am I Worth It? Are You?
Posted:Oct 9, 2017 7:20 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2020 2:21 pm

I've been on this site off-and-on for a number of years. I have to admit that the shocker to me has been the men that I have conversed with that live a considerable distance from me. They have been gentlemanly (and freaky). They are intelligent and great conversationalists. But, what is truly amazing is that they are accommodating and flexible. They are more than willing to take a chance and meet. I can't even get that from LOCAL guys. What the fuck is up with that?!

Now, for the reason I titled this post the way I did. A man I met flew into a nearby city, secured a room and all I had to do was drive to meet him. Also, I drove him to the airport on my way home. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and hope to repeat the experience. His career and my jobs make it hard for us to come together.

The next gentleman was willing to drive a considerable distance to meet me, before he transferred jobs (and states). Ironically, he is closer to me now. He is willing to fly me to meet him. We talk (text) pretty much everyday. He is cordial, and respectful. If all works out, we will be seeing each other more often.

Most of these local guys are completely worthless, in my opinion. You have a sexualized woman in your backyard and you act like she's a fly, not worthy of your time and effort. I KNOW my worth, and just because you guys think that because I am on this site, I must be desperate, think again. If I am not worth the time to get to know, you aren't worth the effort to meet. If I have met you and no longer talk to you, you did (or said) something to piss me off, and I no longer want dealings with you. (Had a man complain that it took too long for me to cum orally). Another one couldn't decide where to eat, asked me to pick, complained about my choice and then forgot to show up. I don't have the time, nor the inclination to deal with BS. If you are zipping through town, please bypass my profile.

So? Am I worth the time and effort? You bet I am. But the question for me is, are YOU worth my time and effort?
Anal Taboo
Posted:May 7, 2017 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2020 2:25 pm

I got to experience something beyond words this past weekend.

This guy flew in from another city to meet me. We had talked for a while and decided make some of our wishes come true. Alas, only a few came true, but I discovered something about myself that I never would have thought.

I truly love, love, LOVE having my ass licked. This guy LOVES licking ass. I was in heaven. My ass has never had so much attention. If it is possible to cum from having your ass licked, eaten and devoured, then it happened to me, over and over again.

If you can let go of the tabooism of the act, you may find an unbelievable and overwhelming pleasure unlike anything else. I cannot wait for part 2.
Different Sex
Posted:Feb 25, 2017 12:01 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2020 2:26 pm

Have any of you met a person who makes sex so good that with anyone else it's...not good, almost tedious?
Yes I have and we are still together
Yes I have and we are not together
Yes I have, numerous times with different partnters
No I have not
I really don't care
8 Comments , 58 votes
Happy vs. Happiness
Posted:Feb 20, 2017 9:03 pm
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2017 6:21 pm

My cousin posted a question. "Is happy/happiness a state of mind or a state of being?"

My answer to that question was..."No one is happy all the time (state of mind). BUT, if you can step back and look over your life and be satisfied overall, then that is happiness (state of being). Also, do things in life that make you happy and not regretful."

"To me, being happy and having happiness is akin to being in love and loving. Being in love can be temporary and requires more work (but worth the effort). Loving, like happiness, is something that you are calm and comfortable in. It's longer lasting."

I posted this because I wondered what other people's views are.
Posted:Jan 16, 2017 4:54 pm
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2017 6:38 pm

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Fakes and Flakes
Posted:Jun 22, 2015 6:19 pm
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2017 6:34 pm

I hear men constantly complain that the women here are fakes or flakes. Well, I am here to tell you that the men here are just as fake and flakey (if not more than) the women.
In recent history (since the beginning of 2015) I have TRIED to see if any of the men are sincere in their requests for a meeting. So far, I am batting 100% (for flakiness).
One cat couldn't decide WHAT he wanted to do. And I got stood up by 2 more. But, yet and still, I got emails and text messages saying how much they want to meet me and how long they waited. Newsflash: My time is valuable. I refuse to waste it on inconsiderate jerkwads who aren't being honest with me.
So, as my profile states, 2015 is my no BS year. I have added 3 more flakes to my BS pile. I am sure this wiill double or triple in size by the end of the year.
Don't come to me with your B game. Don't BS me and think I am so stupid or desperate that you can say and do what you want and I am just going to gloss over it. No PARTNER. I don't play that. First impressions are lasting. And, to those who have missed our first / second meet, don't bother. I am no longer interested. NEXT!!!
No Exceptions.
Posted:Jan 23, 2015 7:29 pm
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2015 9:20 pm

I received an email from a gentleman that stated the he could not load pictures. I responded by telling him how. He then said that he would send some to me if I was interested. I checked his profile and, of course, he is married. As nicely as I could, I declined his offer of sex/an affair. The response I got was ... not what I expected. He assumed that the reason I declined was because of "moral" issues.

I have stated, on my profile, that I am not interested in married or attached men. There is NO exception to this rule. I don't care if your dick is dipped in gold. I am not interested and I will give you my reasons for this.

Firstly, if you are found out by your significant other, it is the 3rd party, ie the "other woman" that tends to pay the price. Oh, don't get it twisted. Your woman will be mad at you, but she is with you for a reason and it is easier to blame someone you don't know than it is to look at the person you are involved with. A woman will sacrifice much to get and keep the man they want. If he steps out, then they will justify it in their minds, but the need to lash out will fall upon the "mistress", who may not even KNOW that the guy she is with is in a relationship. So, my safety is of the utmost importance to me. If a man is single, don't have to worry about being stalked or harmed by a girlfriend/wife.

Next is availability. If you are in a relationship, the man is not available to do certain things. Even IF it is only sexually based, I cannot spend the night at his home or vice versa. I cannot go out in public with him for fear of being seen by someone he knows. I cannot call him up and say let's do something on the spur of the moment. Messing with someone who is involved with another LIMITS the amount of time spent together and what things can be done.

Finally, I know what it feels like to be cheated on, being the cheater and the mistress. NONE of those roles suited me. I find that lowering my standards to get laid is akin to being a . I have moral standards? Yes I do. I know what it feels like to have the one person that is to love you forever, seek solace with someone else. I know what it feels like to experience the desire of another man because he made me feel that. I also know what it is like to be "allotted" time because he can't get away to see me when I want him to.

So...if you do not or cannot read my profile, here it is in plain English. I am not interested in any man that has a relationship with someone else. Don't waste your time or mine, trying to be the exception to my rule. There isn't any. I am on here to chat and view an occasional cam. That is all.
Contact or no contact
Posted:Nov 19, 2014 9:01 am
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2015 10:23 pm

I recently came across a post that asked why is it that we humans need physical contact. It was a question that I wanted to answer in my own way, but felt that it was not appropriate in that forum. So I will answer it MY way on MY page.

Firstly, Biblically speaking, God never intended man to be alone. Hence the creation of Eve. He created Eve to be Adam's helpmate, wife, confidant. Not only did He extend this to Adam, but to ALL of the creatures He created. So, NO species, alive or extinct, was meant to be alone.

Chemically speaking, pheromones are given off to entice the member of the opposite sex. It is built in our genetic makeup to try to attract mates. Take a look at the animal kingdom. Female dogs go into heat to attract a male counterpart. Nature is ensuring the longevity of a species.

Aesthetically speaking, we do things as humans to make ourselves more appealing to the opposite sex: perfumes/colognes, grooming, clothes. All these things to attract a potential mate. Again, the animal kingdom does this as well. MALE peacocks have the most beautiful feathers whereas the female's feathers are various shades of brown. EVEN in this environment, men are striving to entice a female to give him a chance. He struts and preens for the attention of the female. It is up to her, to decide whether she likes him or not

Which brings me to another point, only somewhat related. Some species of the animal kingdom seems to do things that are .... outdated to humans. They court the female, they defend their female and, in some species, they mate with their female for life. In my opinion, we humans are transient, selfish beings that seldom look beyond the end of our noses. If our spouse, lover, fwb or whatever doesn't do or say something we like, we fire them and get another to replace them. If we see someone that is more appealing, we tend to pursue it(him or her) without thought or consequence.

Someone once said to me that "I don't think humans are meant to be with one person the rest of their lives" ie marriage. I looked at him in amazement since he has been married for 15 years. I don't know if he ever cheated, nor do I want to know. But, I pondered this because many species are lifetime maters. Why wouldn't humans be as well? I believe that we were INTENDED to be lifetime maters, but it got screwed up somewhere. Whether it was Biblical (when sin entered the world) or evolutionary (survival of the fittest) I do not know.

Just my thoughts on a subject. Feel free to comment. All are welcomed.
Who is Playing?
Posted:Oct 4, 2014 7:38 pm
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2015 8:26 am

I hear so many men complain that women don't want to meet.

Well. I am learning that the same goes for men. The local ones say they want to meet, but in reality, they are scared to (my opinion). They compliment a woman on how pretty/beautiful/ sexy she is. But when it comes time to ante dough. Now don't get me wrong, everyone is not everyone's cup of tea and I understand that. But if a person expresses a mutual interest, what harm is there in meeting? Oh!!! Maybe it is because of all the pumped up stories one tells about their sexual prowess. Or maybe it is a game.

Then you have the ones that are "swinging through". Keep swinging. I need more that a "What are you up to tonight?" at 8pm. How about I am NOT meeting you. My pussy doesn't rule me.

And finally, we have the ones that profess affection, knowing that there is NO hope of ever meeting because they live hundreds, if not, thousands of miles away. I am a realist with dreams. I know that I won't meet most of the people (men and women) that I talk to in here, but DAMN!!! And yes, I have affection for some, but I KNOW that I cannot feel anything more than friendship.

So, to say that I am tired of the BS and nonsense, is a gross understatement. If you want to meet, MEET. Otherwise, quit lying, get a clue and STFU!!!.
Posted:Sep 6, 2014 8:49 pm
Last Updated:Oct 3, 2014 8:11 pm

I have been on this site for more than 4 years. In that time, I have "met" a few people in cyber world and real life. Some of those that I have met in real life have been eye opening experiences, both in good and bad ways. Lately, I am finding that my life, such that it is, is being narrowed down to cyber only. What do I do when I get off from work? I log into the site to see who is here. Same thing when I am not at work.
I look at myself and see how pathetic I have become. I yearn for human touch, but will stick to the safety of cyber world, so that I won't get hurt. I find myself looking for excuses not to meet in person, or finding reasons why I don't like a person. What makes this worse is that I know who I am and what I want, but I am not overly happy about the person I have become. I am dependent upon people I will never meet and those that I have met (and liked) are disappearing at an alarming rate.
So, with this being said, I think that my time here needs to be minimal. I need to find someone for me that is beyond a dick picture or the standard "I want to fuck you's". Today, at some point, I felt a part of myself die. And, upon further inspection, I have been dying for a while. I live vicariously through others rather than living for myself. This hollow feeling seems to grow with each passing moment and what is left of me is getting smaller by the minute.
To those of you who have been my rock, my shelter, my friends, I will see you around. I will not leave completely, but I have to find some sort of balance. I know you will understand.
Thank you all.
When does it get bad?
Posted:Aug 10, 2014 1:53 am
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2014 7:19 pm

Have you ever had sex with someone that was absolutely phenomenal? And not just once or twice, but every single time you had sex? Have you ever had that partner that gave you what you wanted/needed rather than them giving you what they wanted you to have? I can say that I have. But sadly, I may never have that again. Circumstances have dictated that we may never be together again. When I think about finding someone who will be the kind of lover I need, I lament. I don't believe I will find the kind of lover who can be what I need. But more importantly, I don't think I'll find that kind of lover I can trust.
I have been on a journey of self exploration, especially sexually. I have come to realize some things about myself, about my needs and desires. And I still want to continue this journey. How am I to do this when I lose the best fucking lover I have ever had? The conversations were easy. The time we spent together was fun. The sex was effortless, flawless.
Maybe I will find someone comparable, but I am not holding out much hope.
No Words Needed
Posted:Jul 7, 2014 2:04 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2015 2:32 am
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