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Oral Aversion?
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Here is something else to consider... kinda on the topic, but not quite. If a person knows they are going to be made fun of or laughed at for not liking something i.e. oral sex, will they tell you? Most of the time no, so they fake it. You don't really want someone to fake it now do you? What kind of person wants a bj so bad (or cunny) that they humiliate someone till they do it? How do you enjoy any sex act when you know the other person doesn't like it and isn't enjoying it??? Whenever I see anyone complaining they can't get oral or b*tch about someone not giving oral I just ask them that.. how do you honestly get off on it when you know you forced them to do it with verbal abuse or pressure? I am GLAD there are those like you that respect other people's preferences.
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See the pain aspect of it, I do kind of know about, but here's where I'm skewed, kind of like some of the ladies, how the hell can a guy not want a bj? Now it makes sense, its just almost beyond my grasp that it hurts, unless she terrible at it, has a small mouth etc...I would never denigrate someone if they said it hurt, there's no way. Each person does in fact have heir own thing be sex to food, I respect peoples preferences wholeheartedly.
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Oh I want to add, sorry an after thought here.... when we condemn someone with words like 'there is something wrong with you' or 'how could you not like it?', all you are doing is perpetuating the problem by making them feel bad or more self conscious about it. That is the wrong approach and it makes people more defensive than accepting. Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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I work in the medical field. Honestly, it is uncomfortable and almost painful for some women. The nerve endings are that sensitive that it hurts. It isn't that there is something wrong with them and I have always taken great offense to anyone that tries to hurt a person by telling them they are defective. I also don't like the idea that some people think they have a magic tongue or that a person just hasn't been with the right person. That may be true sometimes, but to assume that everyone someone has been with is a jerk is just wrong. You don't know that and it is again hurtful to the person you are saying it to and they may actually reject you based on that as an insult to them. All bodies function differently. There are men that don't like fellatio for the same reasons, it just isn't pleasurable to them. Many women don't orgasm from it, but they will receive it as it makes their partner happy and they do enjoy it, just no climax. There is honestly no one thing that makes every person happy. There is no one quick fix to getting laid either. There are many reasons for why a person does or doesn't like certain sex acts performed or to perform them. We should be less condemning and more understanding, it gets a person farther. Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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Oh I want to add, sorry an after thought here.... when we condemn someone with words like 'there is something wrong with you' or 'how could you not like it?', all you are doing is perpetuating the problem by making them feel bad or more self conscious about it. That is the wrong approach and it makes people more defensive than accepting.
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I work in the medical field. Honestly, it is uncomfortable and almost painful for some women. The nerve endings are that sensitive that it hurts. It isn't that there is something wrong with them and I have always taken great offense to anyone that tries to hurt a person by telling them they are defective. I also don't like the idea that some people think they have a magic tongue or that a person just hasn't been with the right person. That may be true sometimes, but to assume that everyone someone has been with is a jerk is just wrong. You don't know that and it is again hurtful to the person you are saying it to and they may actually reject you based on that as an insult to them. All bodies function differently. There are men that don't like fellatio for the same reasons, it just isn't pleasurable to them. Many women don't orgasm from it, but they will receive it as it makes their partner happy and they do enjoy it, just no climax. There is honestly no one thing that makes every person happy. There is no one quick fix to getting laid either. There are many reasons for why a person does or doesn't like certain sex acts performed or to perform them. We should be less condemning and more understanding, it gets a person farther.
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As a woman who loves... well, pretty much making love in all its forms, including oral...I don't really "get" why some don't like or want it. But I have heard that some are too self conscious... like they won't allow it unless they've just gotten out of the shower or unless they apply flavored oil or... or... dang. Honestly I can't remember what I was told. But discomfort with how they think it looks or smells or tastes down there turns some off the idea. Others... some probably view it as "unnatural". Or perhaps they had a bad experience and don't care to repeat. My first oral experience was.. well, I let it happen. But kept thinking "This is what all the hype is about? I thought it would feel much different based on all the romance novels I'd read". His tongue was cold and it just felt odd. Thankfully I still held out hope and my next relationship... well, he proved the romance novels right. haha. I've had varying degrees since but seldom "romance novel" great, but never so bad as the first time. Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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As a woman who loves... well, pretty much making love in all its forms, including oral...I don't really "get" why some don't like or want it. But I have heard that some are too self conscious... like they won't allow it unless they've just gotten out of the shower or unless they apply flavored oil or... or... dang. Honestly I can't remember what I was told. But discomfort with how they think it looks or smells or tastes down there turns some off the idea. Others... some probably view it as "unnatural". Or perhaps they had a bad experience and don't care to repeat. My first oral experience was.. well, I let it happen. But kept thinking "This is what all the hype is about? I thought it would feel much different based on all the romance novels I'd read". His tongue was cold and it just felt odd. Thankfully I still held out hope and my next relationship... well, he proved the romance novels right. haha. I've had varying degrees since but seldom "romance novel" great, but never so bad as the first time.
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Nope not a dork! To you its Mr Dork! Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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Who'd a ever thunk you loved it? However, you pic seems awfully receptive too it, I'd dive right in there! I finish up and I always clean and lick my plate, er I mean your pussy, yeah If I'd pass on the licking, as if I would, but if I did, could I still get blow job? Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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I think you may have just answered you own question, and maybe the "why" factor of why some women don't want it. I was with a woman the other day, that refused it, I'd of prodded it on, but eh if I prod her she'd boot me, as if she didn't anyway! Anywho! Women who refuse it have probably never been able to get comfortable with the act and/or the person/s and as such they just never got off, and figured from there that they never will? So they just choose not to want it thereafter? That may not be totally correct as to why some women refuse it, but I think it largely may be correct? I'd ask the woman that refused me offering here recently, but like I said I'm little scared too, for now anyway. Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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Dude that's a hilarious spin on it! Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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Yeah its strange, but I don't push the point, or I'll push myself out of gettinglucky! I've been with woman who didn't like her tits played with either, actually she preferred to be fucked in a dress, but that's a whole different story! Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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that first cartoon with the man is hilarious...i give and take... Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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that first cartoon with the man is hilarious...i give and take...
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