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Easing the Soul
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lost my partner for different reasons ,still feel the loss greatly ,for me getting back to my roots helped , been 4 years since cancer took her .
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Each love is different, and when you really fall hard and lose them, you are never the same again. The only thing that really helps me get over someone is to find someone new, and by that I mean someone to care about and not just fuck, and then I can put things in perspective again. But actually handling the losing when it happens? That I can't give any thoughts on, I have never done it well. I'm not the same guy I was 10 years ago after I lost one. The longer the relationship, the harder it is to get past. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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In my experience the void never completely goes away. You learn to live with the pain and in time that pain becomes less... or perhaps you just get used to it. (I half jokingly refer to having layers of scar tissue over my heart.) You have a lot of great friends that will always be there for you to help fill that void or at least take your mind off it. Build new memories you can revisit when the painful ones get to be too much. If you can get past the current pain and longing for what was, you will leave yourself open for what may (or more likely will) be... either with somebody new or possibly even with him if he makes those changes you needed him to make. The biggest things is to keep moving forward, for yourself. Don't hold yourself back. And don't be afraid ( or too proud!) to call on your friends when you need to. That's what true friends are for.
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Don't know, still searching. If you find out, let me know. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Liquor and whores! Sadly, Bubbles was wrong about that one, but it helps   When I figure out how to handle such things I'll let you know. Growing up sucks!
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I don't have much of an answer beyond feeling my feelings and time. I do make sure I take care of myself as best I can. I use the question: what can I do that will make me feel just a little bit better? That seems to be a little bit of a release valve because I don't put pressure on myself to resolve it all right then. Oh and writing helps me too...whether I post them or not. And sappy heartbroken songs. I'm sorry - I know this is hard. Big hugs! Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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Hey Soaks, shoot me an email if you're free around 5 today and want to revisit day one of the 7 days of fucking
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At 44, I've probably had more heart-ache so I can offer a but if advice on what NOT to do. Don't grieve. Don't seek closure. Don't obsess. Don't stay in contact. Everyone is right, TIME is the only thing that heals. So the only thing you can do is find other things (people) to distract yourself. Just make sure they are healthy (something you are passionate about, or makes you better) and not destructive (drugs, alcohol, sex with the wrong people). The void does actually go away, when/if the following happens... - You find out he or the relationship weren't really what you thought they were. - He goes on to really fuck up his life, and you realize he probably would have earlier except that you always saved him. - He completely screws up some other woman's life, and you realize you dodged a bullet. - You meet someone new, fall in love, and realize you are better off. But if you let yourself brood, get depressed, do self-destructive crap ... you just won't be in the right state of mind to meet someone really great. And you really need about five years to pass to see how shitty things turned out for him. You can mentally talk yourself into believing you never loved the person, or that they weren't right for you ... If you focus your mind on everything that was BAD about them and the relationship and downplay everything that was good. If y'all are broken up, there was more bad than good. Yeah, you are changed as a person, but pretty much everything in life changes you.
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Luckly never had a profund loss, so i don´t know how to handle it. Kisses
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