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Six Reasons He Doesn’t Want to Have Sex  

sexyldy1000 68F  
10139 posts
8/8/2020 12:01 pm
Six Reasons He Doesn’t Want to Have Sex


Are you getting turned down in the bedroom? Don't worry, it's not about you.

If your partner is turning down your advances there’s probably a good explanation for their lack of interest—and it likely has nothing to do with how they feel about you. Here are some common reasons why your partner might be turning down sex.

Suffering from depression
Clinical depression is one of the biggest killers of sex drive in men. Men of all ages, even teenagers, may experience much lower sex drive when they’re struggling with this mood disorder.

What you can do: Remember that clinical depression is a physical illness and not a character weakness. There are plenty of online resources available to help you and your partner better understand depression and how it can affect your relationship.

While antidepressants are very effective in treating depression, they can also contribute to low sexual interest.

Low testosterone levels
When a man gets 'to.' be over 40, his testosterone levels begin "to." decrease. If this happens mildly over time, then a man will gradually lose his sexual prowess. But sometimes males can lose testosterone very rapidly. This condition is sometimes referred to as andropauseand comes with symptoms that include loss of energy, depressive symptoms, and low sex drive.

What you can do: Low testosterone is a physical condition that can be treated by a physician. If you suspect your partner is experiencing some of the symptoms associated with andropause, suggest they ask their<b> doctor </font></b>for a testosterone test to determine if low levels are "to." blame for their lack of desire.

Trouble with plumbing
Though erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are common problems, a man who experiences these difficulties may withdraw from his partner for fear that they will be disappointed.

What you can do: This can be a difficult subject "to." discuss with your partner, but don’t avoid the issue. A problem left untreated could result in resentment between partners down the road. Approach the situation very delicately. Start by saying, ‘You know I love you no matter what.” Don’t make a big deal out of it or make him feel like it will affect your interest in him as a partner if he can’t make it happen.

Stressful job
Worrying about work can be a real mood killer, especially if your partner tends "to." equate professional success with self-worth.

What you can do: Discuss the situation away from the bedroom. Right before bed isn’t always the best time to engage in a deep conversation. Instead, mutually decide on a good time "to." chat about what’s going on. Ask if there’s anything you can do "to." support them through a stressful time, but be clear that their demanding job is taking a toll on your relationship.

Exhaustion
Chances are, if your partner is too tired for some late-night nookie, they’re really exhausted.

What you can do: Don’t take it personally. Rather than acting hurt or angry, set the stage for a conversation about what’s going on in their life "to." make them so tired. But if the problem persists for more than six weeks, it’s time "t." consider getting help from a therapist or physician.

Relationship is moving too fast
If a new person you’re dating turns down an invitation "to." “come upstairs for a nightcap,” they could be trying to tell you that they’re not ready to sleep with you yet. There’s a lot of emotional involvement that comes with having sex with somebody.

What you can do: Slow things down. This could be a sign that they want "to." get to know you better before getting physical.




sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 12:05 pm

Trying to determine why there may be sex-related problems in a relationship takes patience and understanding. I would love 'to." hear from Women and Men what their thoughts and strategies are for dealing with this.


SomewhereSE 66M
336 posts
8/8/2020 1:01 pm

Losing interest can also be a matter of not having anything to get excited about once the novelty of a new sex partner wears off. As one of my friends said about his sister, they got married because they discovered sex together, and divorced because there was nothing else to base a relationship on. There is nothing one can do but move or end up mutually miserable or in worse circumstances than that.


shadowtoo69 68M  
1056 posts
8/8/2020 2:28 pm

You forgot his Mistress wore him out..


justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
8/8/2020 3:57 pm

One of my favorite excuses (I think I saw it in an episode of "Modern Family"):

Claire and Phil are in bed and Claire signals that she is in the mood for sexy time. Phil pulls an exasperated face and confesses, "I just jerked off." One wonders how often *opportunity* knocks just a bit too late.

Your talking points are- of course- more salient. Many of them are avoidable with proper nutrition, exercise and sleep. What greater incentive for making good life-choices do we need?!


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
8/8/2020 4:01 pm

What a great reminder thanks for sharing I hope you have a great evening..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
8/8/2020 4:04 pm

It’s super bowl Sunday...


mc_justmc 63M

8/8/2020 5:06 pm

I believe I am a victim of symptom number 1, though I didn't feel depressed I had 3 significant losses within a 3 yr period which coincided with my decision to stop dating.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
8/8/2020 5:34 pm

Hmmm...
Well THAT, explains a lot. 🤔
Are you available for private consultations?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:35 pm

    Quoting SomewhereSE:
    Losing interest can also be a matter of not having anything to get excited about once the novelty of a new sex partner wears off. As one of my friends said about his sister, they got married because they discovered sex together, and divorced because there was nothing else to base a relationship on. There is nothing one can do but move or end up mutually miserable or in worse circumstances than that.
Yes that's a valid possibility too. People then have a choice to make. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:36 pm

    Quoting shadowtoo69:
    You forgot his Mistress wore him out..
LOL - Yes no doubt that's another possibility!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:39 pm

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    One of my favorite excuses (I think I saw it in an episode of "Modern Family"):

    Claire and Phil are in bed and Claire signals that she is in the mood for sexy time. Phil pulls an exasperated face and confesses, "I just jerked off." One wonders how often *opportunity* knocks just a bit too late.

    Your talking points are- of course- more salient. Many of them are avoidable with proper nutrition, exercise and sleep. What greater incentive for making good life-choices do we need?!
Yes - another possibility for sure. It's a subject that could have as many reasons as there are partnerships. To get the best out of the situation you have to be at your best. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:40 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What a great reminder thanks for sharing I hope you have a great evening..
Thank you for continuing to be a supporter of my blog. Keep smiling and be safe!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:41 pm

Or in our case up here, the Stanley Cup Final


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:43 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I believe I am a victim of symptom number 1, though I didn't feel depressed I had 3 significant losses within a 3 yr period which coincided with my decision to stop dating.
Thank you for your honesty. Depression manifests itself in many ways. Often people do not realize that's the reason for their feelings and behaviours. Be well and be safe.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:47 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Hmmm...
    Well THAT, explains a lot. 🤔
    Are you available for private consultations?
Information is enlightening! I do have a background in sociology and human resources and am told I am a very good listener .


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 8:49 pm

    Quoting  :

This was a compilation, so I chose to limit the reasons to six. I don't think your reason is politically incorrect. It does happen on either side of a relationship.


ULIXBIG 69M
9288 posts
8/8/2020 8:52 pm

Thanks for showing some empathy!
I found that stress is a huge contributor ...


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/8/2020 9:16 pm

    Quoting ULIXBIG:
    Thanks for showing some empathy!
    I found that stress is a huge contributor ...
Stress can impact people in more ways than they realize. No one is perfect and keeping an open-mind is important. Nice to see you back checking out my blog


ProfessorNaught 111M
1406 posts
8/9/2020 12:04 am

Well you certainly hit on one of the more common (the last item) regardless of age group. Unfortunately, there are a) expectations, b) social norms, c) interest-personal & sexual, d) interpretations & misinterpretations, e) disappointment and f) reaction. All attached to that single item above. I've heard what goes through women's minds (far too many times-from far too many sisters) in these situations and unfortunately, it can't be unheard

I could list six more that most women never actually consider.
But I'll see what they have to say above first . . .


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
8/9/2020 3:12 am

I agree with all . Men are hard to understand too . I think communication will help . Most women can be understanding . We are human and things happen . i know i am ...lol


trixietrixster 56F  
3125 posts
8/9/2020 7:18 am

Sex is part of a relationship - it's not the glue. Too often people base their chemistry on physical attraction, which wears off, ultimately leading to the rest of a person's "pieces" totally unfulfilled. This is why I base my connections on more of the innards of a person and the not the outer shell. Anyone can press bodies together, I prefer men who put in, first and foremost, have capacity to mental spar with my mind. It makes their outward appearance way more appealing. Happy Sunday!

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/9/2020 11:58 am

    Quoting ProfessorNaught:
    Well you certainly hit on one of the more common (the last item) regardless of age group. Unfortunately, there are a) expectations, b) social norms, c) interest-personal & sexual, d) interpretations & misinterpretations, e) disappointment and f) reaction. All attached to that single item above. I've heard what goes through women's minds (far too many times-from far too many sisters) in these situations and unfortunately, it can't be unheard

    I could list six more that most women never actually consider.
    But I'll see what they have to say above first . . .
Yes the list for either side of the relationship could be limitless. Communication is fundamental to acknowledging and hopefully, resolving issues in and out of the boudoir. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/9/2020 12:00 pm

    Quoting lyavu:
    I agree with all . Men are hard to understand too . I think communication will help . Most women can be understanding . We are human and things happen . i know i am ...lol
Human beings are complex creatures! Different things can happen and influence the 'success' of a relationship. The effort put in to address them has a direct affect on the success of resolving them. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/9/2020 12:25 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Sex is part of a relationship - it's not the glue. Too often people base their chemistry on physical attraction, which wears off, ultimately leading to the rest of a person's "pieces" totally unfulfilled. This is why I base my connections on more of the innards of a person and the not the outer shell. Anyone can press bodies together, I prefer men who put in, first and foremost, have capacity to mental spar with my mind. It makes their outward appearance way more appealing. Happy Sunday!
For many, sex IS the glue and when it loses it's luster (for whatever reason), they want to bail. You and I think similarly in terms of what attracts us. It's one of the reasons my signatures says, "Stimulate my mind and let's see what happens". Thank you for sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/9/2020 12:30 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you for providing further elaboration on your statement about "political incorrectness". Equality in how both genders are viewed and treated in all aspects of their lives, is something I don't expect to see during my lifetime. However, movement is going in the right direction.


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