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10 Things Guys Think You Lie About on Your Dating Profile
10 Things Guys Think You Lie About on Your Dating Profile According to www.marieclaire.com Lodro Rinzler,considered an expert, reached out to men across the country to ask what they were worried about when looking at your online dating profile. Here's what guys think women might lie about online: 1 -Your Looks The number one thing the guys polled think a woman might lie about on her online dating profile is her looks. I am using "looks" as an umbrella term here that covers everything from your height to your weight to your body type to you using a photo of yourself from five years ago. Also, please note that a picture of just your face tells us that you either don't have a nice body or you don't like the body you have. Be confident enough to show your full form. 2-Your Age "I've definitely gone out with women who say they're 25 but are actually 29," said Eddie. Sometimes a woman may change her age to initially attract a man, but it's such a silly lie to chose; was Eddie's date going to pretend to be four years younger for the rest of their relationship? Since so many men have had this experience, don't be surprised if a guys casually glances at your drivers license when the bouncer asks for it at the door. 3-That You LOVE to Travel Many women will put that they "LOVE to travel" even if they haven't gone on any real trips or vacations in three years. I don't recommend saying this on your profile because a) everyone says it so you don't stand out from the crowd at all and b) even if you do love to travel, if you haven't lately it might get real awkward real quick when he starts grilling you about all your recent vacations. 4-The Amount of Time You Spend at the Gym One of the gentlemen I reached out to, Dave, told me, "I think women will exaggerate the amount or frequency of exercise they do." A woman may want to show off how important it is to her that she takes good care of her body, but if you list that you go to the gym every single day a guy may think you're exaggerating. 5-That Impressive Book/TV Show/Movie You Mentioned One person I reached out to, Sam, said, "I think women will leave off interests that might be considered too girly or immature-any kind of guilty pleasure TV show or magazine, etc. and try to list more intellectual things like books they've read, even if said book was required in high school ten years ago." If you love Portrait of an Artist as a Young Man, put it on the profile, but don't be surprised if your date expects you to actually remember it in detail. 6-Your Level of Independence Lots of pictures with you and the girls is nice, but when a woman keeps posting about being fiercely independent and not at all clingy on her dating profile a fella might raise an eyebrow and grow suspicious. It's a bit like saying "don't think of a pink elephant." Why bring it up if you don't want a guy's mind to go straight there? 7-How Easy Going You Are Similarly, when a woman says how she is a laid back, easy going, go-with-the-flow sort of person a man may begin to question if, in reality, she is actually very sensitive/easy to trigger. Best to leave those qualities out of your profile and show, don't tell. 8-Your Interest in Sports I f a woman says how much she loves a sport, a man might be suspicious about whether she is just trying to appeal to how much he loves that sport. If a woman says she loves a specific team or calls out a particular player as her favorite, he tends to be less skeptical. 9-How Successful You Are "I think some women want to project high aspirations even if they aren't successful right now," said Eric. Men are guilty of many of these ten things too, but perhaps I'd say men more often inflate their job title or position. We may be suspicious of how successful you say you are because we lied on our own profile about this one! 10-What You're Looking for Romantically If you say you're looking for something casual a guy may not take that at face value. Many of us (us being all genders) have had that casual hook-up buddy that after a few months all of a sudden wanted more. Sometimes you may think you want one thing (to be casual) and end up wanting something else (a real relationship). There's nothing wrong with that, unless you're purposefully trying to trick someone. If a guy has had that experience, he's likely to be wary of you stating that you just want to be friends-with-benefits. Lodro Rinzler is a teacher in the Shambhala Buddhist lineage, the author of five books on meditation, and the founder of M N D F L and the Institute for Compassionate Leadership. SO DO AGREE OR DISAGREE? |
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My opinion, these can be true of both genders. I know men on here that lie about their age and body type just as much as the women. I have met a few!! It isn't just one gender or the other that uses old photos or posts a photo of just their face or a single body part (we know which ones lol ) because they feel the rest of their body doesn't par up to what they think it should. Both genders can be insecure about their looks. Love to travel... okay, that one is weird. I don't know that many people that say it and it may be true, but I do love to travel and haven't traveled for more than a few years, but I have been to 41 out of 50 states, the Caribbean, as well as Mexico and Canada. Just because I haven't been in the last few years doesn't mean I shouldn't say it. It means I haven't had the funds to keep going. lol Going to the gym? I don't think that people place that much value in it once they SEE you. If you look like you went 3 times a week they are not going to question if it was actually 5 times or 2. I also know men will say the same thing. Again, gender is not a factor in this lie. Easy going.... LOL I can't tell you how many people I know personally that say they are easy going and then they turn around and complain about the most mundane things. LOL Both genders again and I don't think that much value is placed on the words, more is placed on the actions. Interest in sports and Independence I am going to put together here. I LOVE sports and if I listed every sport I watched to prove I do we would be in trouble. Formula 1 racing, hockey, football, and more. I know men that say they love independent women and women that are into sports yet when they sit down with a women that really means it they often leave quickly. I have faced this first hand multiple times. I know more about hockey than pretty much 10 men put together because my father played for a team and I know many NHL players due to it. Watch the faces of the men change when a female knows about a sport and they look not so intelligent. Many HATE it. Independence goes with that because again once I start showing I really don't need your money or your care and I am quite capable of managing a house, a job, a car, and my life they feel less needed or their egos are hurt or something and they walk away. I am so not trying to sound conceited here, really I am not, but when I face this constantly and I have to tone down my talk so they don't feel bad it really isn't fun for me. What one is looking for... again.. both genders. I know men that have said they didn't want anything and the next thing you know they are at the door and on the phone constantly and the women can't breathe for them being under their feet and they want more. Women get wary of it as well. I don't know anyone that truly wants to be alone for the rest of their lives and always having to hunt for the company of another person. After awhile the first date thing gets tiresome and both genders want someone for more stability. My summary is totally both genders can and do fall into almost all of these things. Even the books things. I know men that don't want to say what they read or like because they don't want to hear they are all wishy-washy and such. There is no one thing that anyone can place on one gender or the other specifically in these scenarios. Good post though!!
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My opinion, these can be true of both genders. I know men on here that lie about their age and body type just as much as the women. I have met a few!! It isn't just one gender or the other that uses old photos or posts a photo of just their face or a single body part (we know which ones lol ) because they feel the rest of their body doesn't par up to what they think it should. Both genders can be insecure about their looks. Love to travel... okay, that one is weird. I don't know that many people that say it and it may be true, but I do love to travel and haven't traveled for more than a few years, but I have been to 41 out of 50 states, the Caribbean, as well as Mexico and Canada. Just because I haven't been in the last few years doesn't mean I shouldn't say it. It means I haven't had the funds to keep going. lol Going to the gym? I don't think that people place that much value in it once they SEE you. If you look like you went 3 times a week they are not going to question if it was actually 5 times or 2. I also know men will say the same thing. Again, gender is not a factor in this lie. Easy going.... LOL I can't tell you how many people I know personally that say they are easy going and then they turn around and complain about the most mundane things. LOL Both genders again and I don't think that much value is placed on the words, more is placed on the actions. Interest in sports and Independence I am going to put together here. I LOVE sports and if I listed every sport I watched to prove I do we would be in trouble. Formula 1 racing, hockey, football, and more. I know men that say they love independent women and women that are into sports yet when they sit down with a women that really means it they often leave quickly. I have faced this first hand multiple times. I know more about hockey than pretty much 10 men put together because my father played for a team and I know many NHL players due to it. Watch the faces of the men change when a female knows about a sport and they look not so intelligent. Many HATE it. Independence goes with that because again once I start showing I really don't need your money or your care and I am quite capable of managing a house, a job, a car, and my life they feel less needed or their egos are hurt or something and they walk away. I am so not trying to sound conceited here, really I am not, but when I face this constantly and I have to tone down my talk so they don't feel bad it really isn't fun for me. What one is looking for... again.. both genders. I know men that have said they didn't want anything and the next thing you know they are at the door and on the phone constantly and the women can't breathe for them being under their feet and they want more. Women get wary of it as well. I don't know anyone that truly wants to be alone for the rest of their lives and always having to hunt for the company of another person. After awhile the first date thing gets tiresome and both genders want someone for more stability. My summary is totally both genders can and do fall into almost all of these things. Even the books things. I know men that don't want to say what they read or like because they don't want to hear they are all wishy-washy and such. There is no one thing that anyone can place on one gender or the other specifically in these scenarios. Good post though!! When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Apllies of course to both genders, and in our experience men lie just as much in not more about age, but mostly you can tell when someone looks 10 years older on their profile pic Wanton_Wench If you apprehiate this blog,please give a or a
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A friend of mine has a super happy relationship that she found on M. She had had no luck at all until her male best friend rewrote her profile. I read it; it was beautiful and true, but so clearly from a guy's perspective. It even stated that it was a male friend writing it which gave a sweetness and credibility to the terrific description. Guess he knew how to package it in a way a guy would want to hear it!
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