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Demonstrable Demographics
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Demonstrable Demographics No, this has nothing to do with a crowd of fiends hanging around the local chat room. It is in fact a look at what the chances are of making a connection around these parts. This is something the Lovely Siren and I consider at length, since the requests we put forth for particular playmates seems to greatly inhibit the communications we receive. Which is not to say that we are complaining. We accept that with specific preferences comes a lessening of the number of views, and of course, thereby, fewer contacts. Where we take issue with some of our peers, is in the maintenance that there are numerous people just beating a path to all of our doors . In fact, it is those numbers themselves that we dispute. Consider for a second, how often in your Vanilla Life, have you heard ANYone mention a mutual acquaintance "in the lifestyle" ? Discretion, of course, would limit such occurrences, but surely a hint of some scandal would have reached your ear by now...... And yet...If your social circle is anything like ours, rumors of such hedonistic behavior among your neighbors appear to be lacking. While almost all of us have heard of "a friend of a friend" involved in those type of shenanigans, how many of us have first hand familiarity with such intimate intimates? No, to find folk with a similar mindset to ourselves, we'd need to come to a site such as this. And by doing so, we have in reality, reduced the number of possible contacts available. But...at least we are now more likely to have common cause with the people we DO meet..... Except...... Just because a person or persons are on a site like this, there is no guarantee that they will be seeking the same things as us. Within the parameters of a sex-site, there are numerous factors that ascertain who will align with whom. And each of these further reduces the number of opportunities available for intercourse . { In the conversational sense, or otherwise....  }For instance..... We like the idea of playing with women or couples...Reducing our numbers We desire that the women have a bi-sexual bent. Reducing our numbers... We Need non-smokers, due to allergies. Reducing our numbers... We like Slow Movers....Reducing our numbers We are fond of Part-time players...Reducing our numbers We Really like people who like to chat...Really reducing our numbers.... Therefore.....if you partition the entire population of the sex-site you've chosen as a gateway to debauchery into constituencies like this, or even your own partiality, how many numbers of the remaining stratification's will one have left available to invite into one's bed?? Far fewer than the general population of our fraternity ( or sorority, if you will...) would estimate. Because ..... It all SEEMS so easy...... But...as we've said in the past, ( and don't mind repeating... ) finding people who truly match the ideals of what one is looking for, even in a venue such as this, remains a chore of some magnitude. A chore that, to be sure, results in rewards of such great pleasure as to make it well worth pursuing, but a chore nonetheless. It takes work to make it work. Sometimes, as in this case, hard work is it's own reward. When a real connection Does happen, it seems as effortless as sliding downhill on ice. And it Does happen. If it didn't, would we still remain here boring you with such a long-winded post?? Not likely. However, even with what success we have had, it still rankles us that people with just some limited experience in a carnal medium such as this bandy about numbers based upon nothing but anecdotal hearsay. To hear some talk, it's just a matter of asking enough of the great mass of people awaiting their call. If such numbers quoted were indeed factual, we'd all have a never-ending choice of playmates. And If EVERYone is doing it, shouldn't we have a busier calendar??
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Good luck with your quest the both of you. It does take a lot of effort to find the right match in your relationship. I am sure with patient you guys will find it. One guy in my local area was only looking to hookup with a couple and he finally did after a year being on this site. Lots of meets and finally found the right connection. So it can happen to you. .Your right not everyone is on this site to hookup and meet.. I am only here to blog now.. hugsssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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After many years in swingerland (both downtown and in the suburbs) I've come to the conclusion that platonic friendship is the only true lasting benefit of the lifestyle. It's only easy to actually have playtime if ~you don't care who the other person is. ~you don't care who their other partners are/were. ~you don't need any kind of chemistry to get started. ~you don't differentiate between good sex and bad sex. ~all you need is a location. You'd think it'd be easy since we ALL want to have sex.... Thanks a lot brain. 
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Interesting topic...for someone like me, it seems that a good portion fulfill their fantasy or even end with just striking up a silly one sentence email with virtually no follow up. And I'll always be courteous enough to acknowledge their contact. Even with that, a majority come right out and ask to hook up like right now without ever considering that there is a real human on the other end that actually needs more than to be the "lucky one" selected as if she were an item on a grocery shelf awaiting her turn to be picked by Mr. wonderful. So I become a "commodity" in this "adult game", an asset to TSdates.com in that there are many people who desire some sort of intercourse as you put it with a transsexual. But being a real life, living full time, honest to goodness human being never seems to come into play here as for most, the conversation is one sided and usually all about their wishes and desires. Trust me, if the men really understood what made women tick, they'd stand a better chance of making a real friend that if the spark were there, would lead to something beyond their dreams! So like yourself, the calendar is quite full, but 99% of it seems to be filled with trying to prompt others to open up with a good conversation and act like you might if you were sitting in a club approaching a pretty woman that you're interested in meeting. But getting them to do so requires actual effort and thus they drop off...guess it's a game of numbers in here after all....and I truly have met some wonderful guys that have lead to some fantastic evening together. best wishes always... Traci xoxo
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Phew! After all THAT I need to add more to even be seen??
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