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IAFunTime3000 42M
60 posts
1/23/2015 8:42 pm

Hell, I don't even think that the male has to orgasm and for the same reasons

I've had an escapade or two in which my stamina was just "on" and although my partner had orgasmed a few times, I hadn't. I had a fantastic time with foreplay, sex, more play, and sex again that it didn't matter if I came or not. Her insistence on it actually diminished how I ended up feeling about the entire evening. I agree with you that it is more important to have fun and enjoy the time than focus on the outcome of that romp.

honeydipt4u 62F  
122 posts
1/23/2015 8:59 pm

its not necessary but its like the cherry on top of the ice cream sundae.... does it need to be there? no, but it does add to the overall satisfaction of the ice cream....

mutually satisfying sex shouldnt be a competition to see who can make the other orgasm first, quicker, or the most....
it should be a shared journey with both sated when finished...

jeannie409 67F  
503 posts
1/23/2015 10:12 pm

I think we get wiser as we get older and it is truly about the contact between two people, and the journey, I agree with your thoughts

wogreturn 45M

1/24/2015 6:06 pm

wish more women would see it as you (and jeannie), especially some i've been with
it could have make my (then) partner enjoying more our relationship if she wasn't so "focused" on reaching orgasm

WellTraveledFun 62F  
29 posts
2/14/2015 2:12 am

Hmmm...I saw the post you are talking about, too. I interpreted his question as meaning "ever". But I agree with your assessment! It is the journey, not the destination, that is important. I have the most generous, selfless man who loves for me to climax again and again. But I sometimes love to just bring him pleasure and release, as I relish making him happy. So it isn't imperative for me to cum on those occasions. It is completely fulfilling and satisfying to make it all about your partner - as it should be! It is all about give and take, and pleasing each other - a two-way street.

leonstayhard 67M
2 posts
2/20/2015 4:46 am

Love your comments CindynCindy,
I can see where your coming from hmmm but I love to enjoy the journey to but always feel a little let down if a women doesn't allow me to bring her to orgasm.

stickynicky98 54M
236 posts
4/12/2015 2:05 am

The selfless person that I am, I would rather the other party (female) gets pleasure than me. Even if I don't get off, I still think there is a positive outcome or outcum as it ended in pleasure for one of us. Plus, I can always get off afterwards at the thought of giving her orgasmic bliss.

BandersUS 65M  
79 posts
6/30/2015 7:14 am

Perhaps not necessary, but I would say getting your O is preferable!

stiffie2011 50M  
23 posts
7/10/2015 10:22 pm

i try to hold back until my partner has climaxed, it makes it so much better, and prolongs the joy!

Golly06 69M  
1929 posts
12/7/2015 7:22 pm

I would sneak into my brother's room and would read his sex books on pleasing women (thanks bro). One thing I remember, and found out when I was old enough to have sex, is pleasuring begins first on the whole body, all those delicious and sometimes unexpected erogenous zones. As arousal continues, it becomes more focused on the sex organs themselves, and their stimulation leads to orgasms. To me, the whole body experience is just as important as orgasm itself. Orgasms are great, and I love to have my lover squirming completely out of control, but if for some reason they (or cannot reach orgasm, I am very satisfied with all the kisses, touches, sighs, and moans we shared. And then there are those unexpected O's without genital stimulation, that are in a class by themselves, through either mental stimulation or body touches.

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Unzipmeslowly51 51M
551 posts
10/2/2021 12:27 pm

Its a journey well worth the ride...btw i really need to check out your cam sometime if you dont mind😊

HermanG67 54M
8462 posts
10/19/2021 9:45 am

I can make myself orgasm

a connection
pleasing a partner
their pleasure
new dimensions

this makes an encounter truly erotic

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