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kellylizjones 63M/61F  
40 posts
6/24/2016 4:11 am

"phantom views" I LOVE THAT TERM! we have caught on to this ,,but we wish that solo males, would "catch on" also,, one such gentleman, INSISTED we viewed his profile 3 times in 5 minutes,, we didn't actually view his profile till after he messaged us telling us" he KNOWS we want him,,"
Some days we sign on and see some voluptuous , young couple from thousands of miles away viewed us,,,and we know it's a "phantom view",,,
usually it's after we have NOT been on for a few days,,,,

so your not alone,,

bull_in_florida 62M
966 posts
6/24/2016 5:28 am

Interesting perspectives...

Agree with the Phantom Views comments totally.

Blog Lurker - I guess the term "lurker" for all who read, but, do not comment on the blogs sorta throws me. I'll read and comment on those blogs/posts which get my attention or where I feel I can contribute...constructively. Yet, even on the bloggers who I really enjoy keeping up with, I don't always comment. Never felt that reading a blog, should generate a mandatory reply? I mean seriously, how is that lurking when you visit/view is logged by profile and counted, regardless of whether or not it is responded to or commented on? Though, I can see from some of the posts/comments I see on blogs here, not all readers are reading to be sociable. Now, if the blogger is a "numbers" collector, as some bloggers are, I can really see where readers reading and not commenting could be problematic on an ego level, but, that still doesn't make the reader a lurker... does it?

Profile Lurker - totally bad form! Comments are pretty spot on for the most part. When someone views you, checks you out, and it's very visible to you on just as it is often in public. And, you respond back - the dead space is very noticeable at times. And yes, I definitely can agree the lurkers there can be frustrating, especially when they profile and information does seem very compatible. Three things to consider... cat fishing and posers; and, glitches. Well there are a couple of others too...but all, get ignored after that and I move on to those who actively engage, instead of just "lurking". I also think the glitches ping high on views, that aren't views. Algorithm - I think you are onto something there. management is about "numbers", you can see it everywhere on the site. So many of the causal mistakes, scroll over view, etc, may be counting and be reporting.

Have fun!

citizen4722 63M  
73536 posts
6/24/2016 7:52 am

I will usually respond to messages or views after I have viewed the profile of the sender. It often depends on age, gender and even distance.
If I get a good comment from a member that's visited for the first time, I always reply and check out that blog.

BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
6/24/2016 8:20 am

Oh, I feel so much better. I'm like Roxie and Tom with the stalker-ish profile lurkers...over time or after so much viewing without initiating contact, I also block them. I just don't want to see them looking at me anymore, regardless if they're intentionally looking, 'phantom' or site assisted.

I used to occasionally message someone who viewed me if I was interested, and/or if they also flirted. However, I've mentioned before that the interactions have not been fruitful when I've initiated contact. Even with the multi-viewers. Go figure.

Mainly, I just think with repeated views (if 'real' views) that the person is perving my pics, which they cannot do now since I only have the one. They still could perv on that one, but eh, where's the fun in that? lol

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BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
6/24/2016 5:55 pm

"Wouldn't take the low response rate personal."
-Oh, I don't take it personally. I just think it funny because that is one of the biggest complaints is that 'women don't respond, even to say no thank you'. However, as a test, last summer I emailed several members who ranted around the blogs about that very thing. Guess how many responded to me? Go ahead, I'll wait, guess...

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BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
6/25/2016 5:22 am

funsmartfriendly replies on 6/25/2016 6:36 am:
Ding, ding, ding! You are correct.

To clarify something you mentioned in a response above, you don't have to be on someone's network 'friends' list to hot list or top fan them.

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BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
6/25/2016 6:15 am

Nope you are not wrong. Not one single guy responded. They didn't even have to say 'not interested' as I didn't email them to show interest, I just offered polite chit chat.

"Would have to read back above to read specifically what we said, but we were talking about the ability to leave notes -- and please correct if wrong."
-It was in your response to TomServo. I might have not known the context of your comment, though.

I'm not sure what you mean when you speak of leaving 'notes on your friend'. Are you talking about pictures in friend's only folders? If not pics, then I don't know what you mean.

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BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
6/25/2016 3:27 pm

Ah gotcha. I recall that feature. I used to use it, but stopped. I didn't find it useful; if I've met the person then I remember what I need to know, if I haven't met doesn't matter.

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StandingOH 58M
2 posts
6/29/2016 7:37 pm

It seems that when ever I open the home page, the entire dozen profiles that populate under each tab (online, new, near,vip) winds up on my 'viewed' list whether I really looked at them or not.
At least that's the reason I tell myself for a pathetic 40:1 ratio

rob5ice2 64M
199 posts
7/3/2016 1:38 am

Like mentioned before. People may like the subject and so on. And the comments already posted addressed what they would have said. Or sometime people figure if they post a comment. Then they have to worry about replying back to something ....

And 'some' bloggers really only prefer people who agree with them. But even if a visitor may not agree with them. Or necessary interested in doing xyz. -- It doesn't take away from the post being of value.

Also, I've noticed that dependent on the device being used. It is easy to hit certain people profiles as people try to check out others). Smaller the device, the harder it is to maneuver around and not accidentally register something too.

lol... Hey.. Maybe set up a poll. And see who what kind of visitors you are getting? Wouldn't be perfect. But what the heck.

Have a good weekend.

videobandit2 44M
6 posts
11/13/2016 8:12 am

As a single make, I receive several phantom views and don't mind as it at least gives me new profiles to view and see if the person is somewhat interesting. I'm quite comfortable being the one initiating contact.

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