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methuselah7 56M
80 posts
4/14/2017 6:26 am

you've met real people on here ....fucking hell, do miracles really happen !?


feelinflips 57M/49F
86 posts
4/14/2017 6:39 am

We meet people from here all the time - when they show up!!


brandygirasol 52T
673 posts
4/14/2017 6:42 am

Yes I Always Have Room In My Life For A Guy To Come Along That I DIG .. I've Met And Hooked Up With Many Cool People HERE ... However I'm Not Always On The Hunt Because I've Generally Been Successful With My Preference Towards Enjoying Semi Regular Hook Ups With Fuck Buddys. Not Into Numerous One Time Flings With Strangers- But I'm Open To Meet A Cool Guy Who Is My Type- Straight Acting MANLY


itsallfantasy 54F  
1063 posts
4/14/2017 6:47 am

NOT EVERYONE IS HERE TO MEET PEOPLE!! I am here for EXHIBITIONISM ON MY CAM!! I know of quite a few of us that are here JUST to cam. So don't assume we are all here for the same reason. The site does not say it is exclusively here to get people to meet, that is PART of its purpose. This is an Adult Social Network and it has many uses such as people that wish to WRITE sexual stories and fantasies, blog, and just plain TALK with other people of the same mindset.

Some people have no desire to leave their homes nor have anyone come to their home, they just wish to connect with people.

Thought I would add that friendly note as many people assume the meaning of the site is to meet for sex and only that.


methuselah7 56M
80 posts
4/14/2017 6:51 am

no i haven't met anyone on here and very much doubt i will, the girls in the UK are very ignorant & stupid


valdezvicvic 63M
996 posts
4/14/2017 7:43 am

I had a face to face this week, I've been here less than a month, so maybe...


itsallfantasy 54F  
1063 posts
4/14/2017 7:49 am

Yep, that is the LINE they give to GET PEOPLE TO SIGN UP!! If anyone is so ignorant to think that there is a site that you can go to and JUST get sex and not have to do anything then they need help.

STRAIGHT OUT OF THE HELP SECTION HERE ON THE SITE:

What is the purpose of TSdates.com?

The purpose of the TSdates.com site is to make it as easy as possible for you to meet people, using the power of the internet. At TSdates.com, you'll find a community of people using the site as a tool to make connections and find partners for dating, romance, friendship, and a variety of encounters.To find your match, we offer several powerful features, that allow you to narrow your search so you can find exactly the kind of person you, are looking for. On various occasions, we also add new features to make your time at TSdates.com a successful and fun experience.

That is the FULL description and NOT the advertisement made to get men to give up their money...


Leegs2012 48M
87291 posts
4/14/2017 7:53 am

They are here, you will find some people to play with. Enjoy!


itsallfantasy 54F  
1063 posts
4/14/2017 7:54 am

I also want to point out I AM NOT A CAM GIRL GETTING PAID TO BE ON CAM!! I find that disgusting. I am on the cam because "I" want to be and that is the only reason. I want NO money and delete and block men that offer it as I am not a whore.


CedarsPrince 42M
1531 posts
4/14/2017 8:01 am

I have met a few ladies from here in MI and FL.

It depends on the area and how selective people are, especially with me being attached.

I am not a gold member so I am limited in how to contact members or read profiles. I rely on Chatrooms used to be busier a few years ago but are now ghost towns and IMs and those are hit and miss and not sure if my messages go through. Met a few ladies after chatting with them that way.

I'll admit that I preferred the ladies in MI than the ones in FL. The ladies I met with here in FL only turned into one encounter and nothing else.

I don't think I will be meeting anyone new soon because of the way the site limits points but you never know.

Have a nice weekend.


CedarsPrince 42M
1531 posts
4/14/2017 8:30 am

They used to give a lot of points out but now, I have to rely on my friends to donate roses/points. You used to get 25 points a day just by logging in. Not anymore. I never wanted to pay to be a gold member, and my concerns were justified after the site got hacked and the fact that the site always seems to have bugs that needs to be worked out.


Leegs2012 48M
87291 posts
4/14/2017 8:41 am

    Quoting Leegs2012:
    They are here, you will find some people to play with. Enjoy!
I already have swing friends, if I meet someone on here that will be fine. If the right person or couples comes along, I am willing to meet them. It's all good


s2ndegree 62M  
9797 posts
4/14/2017 8:58 am

I haven't.I was close and it was the only time I went against my
belief that those that won't show their faces or real bodies
are hiding something.

Initially here to blog and just look around.It has been during this time that I realized I don't possess a measured personality based on one criteria alone!

I never believed the sub title after the logo when I joined. since it read
at that time "Find sex in 24 hours guaranteed!" I thought it rather disrespectful to those that have the ultimate say!

Using more than all the road!


itsallfantasy 54F  
1063 posts
4/14/2017 11:19 am

I am not upset with you at all... I do thank you for the clarification though. Many men on here are totally pissed at women asking them for money and I do not in any way, shape, or form want to be confused with those SCAMMERS asking for money.

I pass no judgments on anyone either, but many on here do so I have found out unless one says "I am not THEM" one can and often will be confused with those people that do that crap. Sadly, many men think if a woman doesn't want to fuck them instantly we are fakes.


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/14/2017 11:22 am

To me, the bad part of all of this is the men that see only that one line "get laid in 24 hours" and think this is an online whorehouse. They think anyone not into their dick should leave the site and I have had emails on that constantly as I have found what I wanted and am happy. Quite a few people do try to show everyone that this is not just a f*ck site and it is not just for men to get what they want, women have preferences as well. Unfortunately as the men are usually what is hunting for sex as women can get laid just about any time they wish if they just drop their preferences, those men ruin the site for everyone. They are rude, insulting, and less than what anyone is looking for when they send out hateful emails calling women fat, ugly, and whores when they can't get what they want. The only place one can go and get instant sex exactly as they want without having to work for it at all is at a bordello. The site is not an online whorehouse, I can't say that enough.


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/14/2017 2:22 pm

lol Feel free to check out my blogs as they are specifically on the emails that we get on the site. I have them in four categories and they are rather interesting to say the least.

#1...Best Complimentary Emails wupdates
#2...Emailslame, boring, or just plain stupidwupdates
#3...A polite No Thank You can cause thiswupdates
#4...Unsolicited HATE Emails no prior contactwupdates

You will be amazed at how crude and rude some can be on their first email as well as how the nicest guy can suddenly become a total jerkoff when he is told no thank you no matter how politely it is put. So many assume that if we are here we are horny sluts and will do anyone that asks and I was getting up to 150 emails a day, yes, A DAY. I couldn't do that many men even if I wanted to. First off it is gross and secondly I am not attracted to everything with a dick swinging at me. More men are not selective as to the women who are selective.


GreenEyedLady_60 61F
1925 posts
4/14/2017 9:08 pm

I'm here at the moment for strictly entertainment purposes....but clearly state that on my profile so no one is mislead or lied to!

As far as I'm concerned it's to each his/her own. People are here to meet..to cam/watch cams...blog/read blogs....view profiles..make some friends and a whole bunch of reasons. All good and okay in my book...as long as honesty is given!

Good luck & have fun!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/15/2017 12:23 am


funsmartfriendly: Yikes, 150 messages a day?! You must be in a very busy zip code!


LOL No, actually most of us actually get emails from men from out of state as well as in our state. I get them from men all over my state as well. There is a myriad of men that don't read profiles and only look at photos and seem to think we have tons of frequent flier miles and will pander our butts all over the country. There are also men that are willing to drive or fly sometimes over 1000 miles if they think they have a chance to get laid. I find it rather unrealistic, but it happens constantly. Even with my profile saying I am not available I still get men that send me dick photos and emails asking for me to make an exception as if I will just see their penis and rush to have that one. Sorry, I am quite happy with the man I am with and his penis. LOL I have often wondered how these same men would feel if a guy came up to their girlfriend or wife and showed her their penis. I am betting those same men asking me to leave my guy for them wouldn't appreciate it at all if it was their woman being treated that way and they actually have in their profiles how honest and caring they are. I do write back that to me that is not the way a caring honest man acts is to ask a woman to cheat for them. Asking me to be a liar and a cheater would be very uncaring of me. They assume the site is here for sex and sex only because they read those words you pointed out and the ads saying "get laid in 24 hours" and assume that all women on here just want to f*ck and if not then get off the site as it is a sex site blah blah blah. Many of them would get kicked out of a whorehouse with the behavior they have on here. They beg for a response even if it is a no thank you, but 9 times out of 10 we get flamed for it no matter how polite we are.

Once one includes not only their own state, but out of state, married as well as single men, all ages regardless of what a person writes down as a preference you can and often do get flooded with emails. I am considered a 'high profile' profile as I have participated in the focus group here on the site, blogs, the advice lines, and even in some of the more tame contests, but that was years ago. When you change your photo you get put back into the new members list and that is why I have not changed my photo. I look the same, but I am not looking anyway, so there is no reason to change it and get the headache of the guys thinking I am fresh meat to hit on. So many of them think we don't get emails the same as men don't get many and they read as if they are doing us a favor by saying they will f*ck us. "Wanna f*ck?" is the most common email received on this site. I have been here for going on 13 years chatting and blogging as well as helping newbies and that seems to never change.


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/15/2017 7:56 am

funsmartfriendly:
Thank you for the detailed follow-up reply and information. Is interesting to read the experiences of a single female (attached? We didn't look at your profile) who has been here 13 years. We were Gold members a little over 10 years ago here and our experience back then was poor. We were probably doing like most members at the time: being reactive instead of proactive.

We do feel for SOME single guys somewhat. They are probably what, 70%+ of the overall 70 mil+ members? Single women are definitely the minority and they have (some/many?) couples interested in them, single men and some transgender.

We don't know if what we do with single men would work for you, but it has helped to cull the ones that we are interested in. Check out our profile and you'll see what we ask single men to do. Since you're a blogger maybe it would work for you. We've found that most men don't follow our instructions, but when we insist, a small percentage do. This narrows the field and makes it easier for us to choose from those who do rather than talk to the masses. Our logic behind why we do this is explained in the next post.

Read more about this here: 1 in 100+ Single Men Will Do This

We can continue the conversation in the comments of that post if you like.


Okay, as you didn't read my profile, I don't need anything to 'work' for me as I am not here looking. That is why I said I am not looking in the previous answer. Even my photo has right on it "Item no longer available" so as I tried to cut down men actually not reading the profile would see that I am not available and not looking. I have extensively used color boxes and things to make the words I am not available, please do not contact me for meetings or dates stand out. It still doesn't work for many guys. They insist we are all here 'for the same thing'. Even if one is here for sex it may not be the same thing as it may be for same sex contacts not m/f contacts. There are so many variables and so many just don't get that.

Yes, most do follow the instructions I have written and now I get only about 3 to 5 emails in a week. I find it very sad that so many, especially guys, don't even write a profile they simply write "ask me" as if we are curious enough with just a dick photo to ask, but then they just ignore what others write assuming we all want dick. LOL I do feel bad for a number of guys here as they lose out due to the douche bags that ignore profiles and are rude/crude!!! They are totally outnumbered by the jerk squad and therefore women don't read all their emails and weed them out usually starting with did they fall into their preferences i.e. distance/age/status and then I have heard many delete anything with a dick photo next.

I do love helping the newbies though. Some are glad to get the help, but unfortunately a number of them truly think their Neanderthal approaches are good and work and you can't fix stupid.


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/15/2017 1:10 pm

Honestly, no, it is not important to me to go out and solicit more readers. I know you are trying to help, but I wasn't asking for help. I don't need a journal as I am not interested in that. If I was I wouldn't even be online. If someone wishes to read then I hope they read, if not that is okay as well. Too many people get on this site and get all caught up in the attention and getting it. I could care less about attention on this site. lol I always saw your point. lol This is merely a conversation to me as I again repeat I am not seeking your advice. I was adding to it.

There is nothing more annoying to me than people offline and online that try to get everyone to see their point and convert. I am NOT saying that is what you are doing, but over 13 years I have seen those that come on here and are one way and leave another as the site itself converted them. Being the top blogger is suddenly the most important thing in the word and having the most friends in your network is a major award winning thing. I don't mind helping people, but I don't go out and ask people if they want my help. I have no desire to be top anything on here, although I did have the honors way back when, at a time when it actually meant something, to be one of the top 5 advice line responders. That means that I was one of 5 people that others knew would give a good answer and not just slam out multiple answers as many as they can to be there. People actually had to vote if you were a person with good answers or not and it wasn't a popularity contest. I give answers that are fair and impartial and I don't criticize or condemn anyone. I try to be truthful in my replies and always think of how that person feels so as to do my best to not hurt anyone's feelings. It isn't always easy as with even this thread something is lost in typing that you can't get when you actually talk and can hear inflection.

I do get your point, I always have. I am not here to convert people, only help when I can; otherwise, I just go along my merry way ignoring blogs that I find redundant or not of my interest and selectively answering some I feel I have some input to. I am good with being a wall flower. lol


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
4/15/2017 2:47 pm

    Quoting CedarsPrince:
    They used to give a lot of points out but now, I have to rely on my friends to donate roses/points. You used to get 25 points a day just by logging in. Not anymore. I never wanted to pay to be a gold member, and my concerns were justified after the site got hacked and the fact that the site always seems to have bugs that needs to be worked out.
Hello CP. Read your comment. I have a surplus of points that I hardly ever use, so I'm more than willing to share. Just to let you know I use the Top Fan feature to share points so people receive the full value of them versus sending gifts.

Feel free to reply here and let me know.

Happy Easter! 🐣

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rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/15/2017 3:52 pm

funsmartfriendly: We have reached the point where this conversation seems no longer productive (we're starting to weave way off topic and discuss things that were never even mentioned or in question). Thank you for the passionate discussion as we enjoy those. We welcome your input any time, even if/when we disagree

lol No problem. I just didn't want to leave what you said unanswered and you wondering. I wanted to give you a complete answer so there was no misunderstanding this time is all.

There are many people here looking for many things. The site is not just for meeting people for sex and sex only. Unfortunately the site runs ads that are meant to get people to sign up and give them money, so they of course say that this place is for meeting for instant sex. There is a plethora of ads they have used over the years some of which the women of the site DID stand up and say enough of such as the day they opened the portal to the site called "MySecretSlut". Women did not appreciate that title at all and men were signing up totally with the wrong idea of the ladies here.

There ARE people looking as you are, in fact the majority. In 13 years here I have not seen anyone actually post a fix all for making it work. The only thing I have seen posted repetitively that I would say is the best advice, BE PATIENT!! hahahahahaha The instant sex doesn't really happen.

Thanks for the great thread!!


citizen4722 63M  
73580 posts
4/16/2017 1:05 pm

There does seem to be a lack of compatible matches in my area. What I did find was that it's often just the distance aspect that isn't ticked green.


CedarsPrince 42M
1531 posts
4/16/2017 7:12 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Hello CP. Read your comment. I have a surplus of points that I hardly ever use, so I'm more than willing to share. Just to let you know I use the Top Fan feature to share points so people receive the full value of them versus sending gifts.

    Feel free to reply here and let me know.

    Happy Easter! 🐣
Wow, that would be mighty kind of you Ms. Lala. Much obliged


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
4/17/2017 7:30 am

    Quoting CedarsPrince:
    Wow, that would be mighty kind of you Ms. Lala. Much obliged
You're welcome. When you have a moment please message me on my diary post (link in my signature) to let me know how many points you need...or here, whatever you're comfortable with. I started to top fan you, but see that you already have one. I'm not trying to start a bidding war, lol (long story...been there when offering points, oy! ).

Have a good day!

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