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How long is too long?  

secret_lade 49F
14312 posts
1/30/2020 2:21 am
How long is too long?


The lava lamp in my living room has been on for..... Good lord, knows how long now.

Long enough that the colored wax is one solid mass that slowly moves from top to bottom in one, endless rotation.

Time to shut that thing off before it becomes a safety hazard!

I sit here and wonder, this morning, how much of what I do is because I want to do it and how much of what I do is of habit.

I'm going to venture to guess the majority of it is of habit.....

Routine...

I feel apprehensive today as I'm going to be breaking my after work routine. My meal-prepping work friend and his girlfriend have invited me to try out their gym today as I'm considering a membership but want to check it out before I make the commitment.

I'm not new to the gym thing.... I'd done it for years in the past.

The problem is, it's no longer my routine. My anxiety is on high alert. Every part of my being is saying...

Stick to your routine!

Wish me luck.

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 4:57 pm

    Quoting dayzeeme:
    so, how was visit to the new gym??? Going to make it part of your NEW routine?
Today was my second day going... so far I'm really liking it. I like that it's open 24 hours.


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
1/31/2020 1:56 pm

so, how was visit to the new gym??? Going to make it part of your NEW routine?


fwblook4unow 48M

1/31/2020 2:29 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I wore black yoga pants, a black tank top, and a pink tshirt over it. LOL Nothing real exciting.
No bra and panties underneath right?😊


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:25 am

    Quoting fwblook4unow:
    I would love to see you in your work out clothes....what are you going to wear?😘
I wore black yoga pants, a black tank top, and a pink tshirt over it. LOL Nothing real exciting.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:24 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Sounds like it's time to replace the lava lamp! lol They're fun to watch.
    Good luck with the gym. Hopefully it will be nice and you'll feel comfortable enough there to add it to your routine.
It was nice, and I did feel comfortable. I got myself a member ship and plan to go every day. I think I'll be going later at night though, when it's not so busy.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:20 am

    Quoting txslowpoke:
    so whats your routine that your anixety doesnt want to give up in making room for the work out??? only you can tell if it doesnt feel rite to you
Routine -

Pick daughter up after work, chat with son and ex-husband for a few minutes at his house, run any errands that need to be run, go home and cook dinner.

Doesn't sound like a lot, but feels like a lot.

Anxiety issue - don't pick daughter up first, doubt myself as a parent because I didn't make her a priority. Think about it the entire time I'm doing whatever I'm doing. Because I'm late, I miss talking to my son because he is now at his friends house. Think about that the rest of the night because I didn't get to see him.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:15 am

    Quoting Leonardo20s:
    Oh, I thought you wanted and answer like "anything over 8" LOL
Over 8" would be a good thing...


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:14 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I get plenty of exercise at work, it's all about walking. I like my routines, I feel like I need them.
My current job has some walking, but I'm mainly in my office. I also feel like I need my routines.... I feel a lot of anxiety when I venture from them.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:11 am

    Quoting stringtime666:
    i think if you make the first step (again too) the next is easy and can give you much more fun back
You are right... I did make that first step, and I'm happy I did. I look forward to making this part of my routine. I felt pretty good when I got home last night, the good endorphins were doing their job.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:08 am

    Quoting  :

You are absolutely correct. I'm glad I took action.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:07 am

    Quoting benard69:
    Geez it's only exercise...
It's not the exercise.... Anyone who suffers from anxiety will know what I'm talking about. It's the new interactions with new people.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/31/2020 1:05 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    thanks for sharing

    sometimes I take different routes to get to where I'm going, just to change it up

    keep that feeling of unpredictablility

    make the day your day

    hmm

    Sheryl Crow - "Change"

    Ten years living in a paper bag
    Feedback baby, he's a flipped out cat
    He's a platinum canary, drinkin' Falstaff beer
    Mercedes rule and a rented Lear
    Bottom feeder insincere
    Prophet lo-fi pioneer
    Sell the house and go to school
    Get a young girlfriend, daddy's jewel
    A change
    (A change would do you good)
    Would do you good
    (A change would do you good)
I am completely a creature of routine... I can change things up when I need to, but prefer not to. It is easier, though, to not have to do it alone. I was thankful to have a couple of friends with me yesterday.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
1/30/2020 6:41 pm

thanks for sharing

sometimes I take different routes to get to where I'm going, just to change it up

keep that feeling of unpredictablility

make the day your day

hmm

Sheryl Crow - "Change"

Ten years living in a paper bag
Feedback baby, he's a flipped out cat
He's a platinum canary, drinkin' Falstaff beer
Mercedes rule and a rented Lear
Bottom feeder insincere
Prophet lo-fi pioneer
Sell the house and go to school
Get a young girlfriend, daddy's jewel
A change
(A change would do you good)
Would do you good
(A change would do you good)

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Good luck!!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/30/2020 3:25 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Breaking routine can be very trying . Do it once and maybe an entire new world of options will open up..And the stress level will go down. Luck!!
Well, I broke my routine today. It caused me a lot of anxiety all day, but once I got there, piece of cake.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/30/2020 3:22 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Don't sweat it. I'm sure you'll slip into a new one easily enough. 30-days... and it's an old routine.
Social anxiety is tough to live with. Breaking out of an old routine and getting into a new that that requires social interaction is even tougher.... Looking forward to it becoming an old routine....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/30/2020 3:19 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Yes, I do tend to stick to the same routine. I want to change that but first I need to get out of the rut I'm stuck in.
Those ruts can be comfortable.... Speaking from experience.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
1/30/2020 8:00 am

Yes, I do tend to stick to the same routine. I want to change that but first I need to get out of the rut I'm stuck in.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
1/30/2020 7:45 am

Don't sweat it. I'm sure you'll slip into a new one easily enough. 30-days... and it's an old routine.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
1/30/2020 7:36 am

Breaking routine can be very trying . Do it once and maybe an entire new world of options will open up..And the stress level will go down. Luck!!

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benard69 66M/66F  

1/30/2020 5:31 am

Geez it's only exercise...


stringtime666 62M
1128 posts
1/30/2020 5:07 am

i think if you make the first step (again too) the next is easy and can give you much more fun back

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mc_justmc 63M

1/30/2020 5:06 am

I get plenty of exercise at work, it's all about walking. I like my routines, I feel like I need them.


Leonardo20s 58M

1/30/2020 4:39 am

Oh, I thought you wanted and answer like "anything over 8" LOL


txslowpoke 70M  
2557 posts
1/30/2020 4:12 am

so whats your routine that your anixety doesnt want to give up in making room for the work out??? only you can tell if it doesnt feel rite to you


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
1/30/2020 3:25 am

Sounds like it's time to replace the lava lamp! lol They're fun to watch.
Good luck with the gym. Hopefully it will be nice and you'll feel comfortable enough there to add it to your routine.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


fwblook4unow 48M

1/30/2020 3:22 am

I would love to see you in your work out clothes....what are you going to wear?😘


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