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One foot, two foot......  

secret_lade 49F
14311 posts
3/16/2021 3:44 am
One foot, two foot......


I didn't quite feel like going to the gym last night but I forced myself anyway.

"Hey, I didn't know you come here!"

One of my more fit, more attractive coworkers was headed toward me, smiling his biggest smile.

"Yah, I started back up about two weeks ago. I was going before but with the COVID thing, it kind of put a damper on everything."

Oh fantastic.....

If I didn't feel self conscious before, now I especially do. That nagging voice in the back of your mind telling you that you are being quietly judged by others now included being quietly judged by coworkers.

"Well, I'm glad to see you're back."

And, there he stood, right next to me. Watching me. Waiting for me. Expecting me to say something back.

All I could think of was, good God man! Go back to what you were doing so I can change my shoes and head to a treadmill!

"Pardon me while I slip out of these super sexy Dr. Scholl's work shoes and transfer my orthotics to my sleek new Fila gym shoes...."

I was game show modeling the shoe insert in my hand, slowly waving toward the tennis shoe.

When in doubt.... Deflect that discomfort with humor I always say!

I breathed a sigh of relief when he said he was headed out the door. The only thing worse than small talk is small talk while you're trying to exercise.

Egads!

Happy Tuesday!

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/18/2021 2:55 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Gads McLade, that's awful! I changed my gym schedule around after my practice manager joined. She was fine, we got on well at work, I just didn't want to mix work life and personal life, well not with her at least. Also, she wore those daft leotard things over her leggings which ended up riding right up her crack........fine if you're into that kinda thing, but not a good look for a colleague who is supposed to be taking direction from you.

    I'm sure she thought the same about me, the grumpy auld yin, puffing and sweating away on the cross trainer!!
Oh good lord.... That look went out in the 80's! Yikes! Is she also wearing sweatbands and leg warmers??

Over here we're all wearing yoga pants and moisture wicking tops. Nothing climbing up the cracks.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
3/18/2021 3:49 am

Gads McLade, that's awful! I changed my gym schedule around after my practice manager joined. She was fine, we got on well at work, I just didn't want to mix work life and personal life, well not with her at least. Also, she wore those daft leotard things over her leggings which ended up riding right up her crack........fine if you're into that kinda thing, but not a good look for a colleague who is supposed to be taking direction from you.

I'm sure she thought the same about me, the grumpy auld yin, puffing and sweating away on the cross trainer!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/17/2021 3:34 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    Just wait till you see him at work .
    And he a are you going to the gym.
    We did it feel good to be back out and active.
He did ask, but I said I wasn't. My loud downstairs neighbors decided to loudly game until 3am this morning. I've literally been up since midnight when they were yelling in excitement about some stupid shit and woke me up. I bona fide hate them.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/17/2021 3:32 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    If what you're doing ain't working — try the opposite, and START with the growl! 👍

    If he takes to your roar, you might find a 'keeper.' 😶 ❗ ❗ 😎🍷🍷
It's not so much a scary growl as it is a "I'm disgusted with the world" growl....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/17/2021 3:31 pm

    Quoting  :

He's just a super nice guy, I think he may have a girlfriend. When I saw him today he was asking me how I liked the new elliptical. LOL


69ereatwetpussy 61M
6774 posts
3/17/2021 10:32 am

Just wait till you see him at work .
And he a are you going to the gym.
We did it feel good to be back out and active.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/16/2021 9:12 pm

If what you're doing ain't working — try the opposite, and START with the growl! 👍

If he takes to your roar, you might find a 'keeper.' 😶 ❗ ❗ 😎🍷🍷


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
3/16/2021 4:09 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    It's mostly guys there when I go, so I don't do much chatting with them. I kind of miss the older lady who had started going before COVID hit, she would usually walk on the treadmill next to mine so we could chat.
....just a thought... you can talk to anyone... I talk to men women young and old.... all ethnicity.... pretty soon people seek you out... it's fun... but then I'm Irish for real... so we chat with anyone....with ease....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 3:14 pm

    Quoting Apollo602021:
    We all do a little of small talk and I do not really know why!
Silence is uncomfortable for most, they feel like they have to fill that space. I'm one of those people that like silence so it doesn't bother me.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 3:11 pm

    Quoting merlot5555:
    ....oh my.... time at the gym... one of my lifelong pastimes... problem is... the more you go, the more people you see... the more people you see, the more people you eventually talk to... a random nod eventually turns into lots of random discussions about all sorts of stuff.....I used to schedule 1 1/2 hours at the gym.... now I add an hour... still 1 1/2 hour to work out.... and now ONE additional hour of chatter.... maybe not better than blogs... just different....

    ...oh and at the gym, if it's a good one .... everyone is giving you kudos for just showing up...

    ...carpe diem...
It's mostly guys there when I go, so I don't do much chatting with them. I kind of miss the older lady who had started going before COVID hit, she would usually walk on the treadmill next to mine so we could chat.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 3:08 pm

    Quoting  :

I used to like to bring my daughter with me to keep me company..... And then she became a horrible teenage monster that hates my eyebrows. Ugh! It's so much easier to not feel self conscious when you have someone with you that actually likes you. LOL I will definitely try to not feel so self conscious going forward, though.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 2:58 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    'Small talk' is an acquired taste, if you have the time for it. When I'm at the gym, I don't always have the patience. But hey...😊

    You haven't figured out — people LIKE you?

    If they didn't (trust me), there'd be no 'small talk'. You'll have to get much, much uglier, become totally less interesting, lose ALL of your bubbly personality and drop that killer smile; oh, and stop showering.
    It'll also help if you can you learn how to growl. 🤔

    THAT'LL fix things up, real quick. Guaranteed, you'll have no worries with 'small talk'. 😶
    💕 ❗❗🍷🍷😎❤️
Oh, I can totally growl. LOL

You know, as bubbly as my personality is, and as cute as I am, and as killer as my smile is.... You'd think it would be a little easier to find my partner in crime. I know I'm much, much pickier now, expecting said partner to actually have a job and not expect me to be his side hustle, but it's proven to be a challenge.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 2:38 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I like to make a light hearted comment as I'm walking away.
Even when I try to walk away, people just follow me.... It's a curse.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 2:36 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Yes, best to let your shoes do the talking. They have tongues too
You and your corny jokes! LOL Do they call them Dad jokes over there too??


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
3/16/2021 1:49 pm

....oh my.... time at the gym... one of my lifelong pastimes... problem is... the more you go, the more people you see... the more people you see, the more people you eventually talk to... a random nod eventually turns into lots of random discussions about all sorts of stuff.....I used to schedule 1 1/2 hours at the gym.... now I add an hour... still 1 1/2 hour to work out.... and now ONE additional hour of chatter.... maybe not better than blogs... just different....

...oh and at the gym, if it's a good one .... everyone is giving you kudos for just showing up...

...carpe diem...


Apollo602021 63M

3/16/2021 1:48 pm

We all do a little of small talk and I do not really know why!

Please become an Apollo602021 blog follower!


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
3/16/2021 10:09 am

Yes, best to let your shoes do the talking. They have tongues too


mc_justmc 63M

3/16/2021 8:43 am

I like to make a light hearted comment as I'm walking away.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/16/2021 5:55 am

'Small talk' is an acquired taste, if you have the time for it. When I'm at the gym, I don't always have the patience. But hey...😊

You haven't figured out — people LIKE you?

If they didn't (trust me), there'd be no 'small talk'. You'll have to get much, much uglier, become totally less interesting, lose ALL of your bubbly personality and drop that killer smile; oh, and stop showering.
It'll also help if you can you learn how to growl. 🤔

THAT'LL fix things up, real quick. Guaranteed, you'll have no worries with 'small talk'. 😶
💕 ❗❗🍷🍷😎❤️


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/16/2021 3:45 am

I didn't quite feel like going to the gym last night but I forced myself anyway.

"Hey, I didn't know you come here!"

One of my more fit, more attractive coworkers was headed toward me, smiling his biggest smile.

"Yah, I started back up about two weeks ago. I was going before but with the COVID thing, it kind of put a damper on everything."

Oh fantastic.....

If I didn't feel self conscious before, now I especially do. That nagging voice in the back of your mind telling you that you are being quietly judged by others now included being quietly judged by coworkers.

"Well, I'm glad to see you're back."

And, there he stood, right next to me. Watching me. Waiting for me. Expecting me to say something back.

All I could think of was, good God man! Go back to what you were doing so I can change my shoes and head to a treadmill!

"Pardon me while I slip out of these super sexy Dr. Scholl's work shoes and transfer my orthotics to my sleek new Fila gym shoes...."

I was game show modeling the shoe insert in my hand, slowly waving toward the tennis shoe.

When in doubt.... Deflect that discomfort with humor I always say!

I breathed a sigh of relief when he said he was headed out the door. The only thing worse than small talk is small talk while you're trying to exercise.

Egads!

Happy Tuesday!


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