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A question to the "Masses"
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A question to the "Masses" Okay, just a question.... We get it that this is TSdates.com that right at the top of the page it says: TSdates.com Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now but is that an excuse for people on IM or via email to be crude? Thoughts anyone?  |
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is that an excuse for people on IM or via email to be crude? Its the excuse guys with no concept of how to converse with a woman (a.k.a. no game). But its actually lucky for me that they do cause it makes me look sooo much better.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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but is that an excuse for people on IM or via email to be crude? .... Yes. They're horny, they are getting directly to the point of why they contacted you. So just say , "Yes" or "No". This is a hookup site.... not Sunday school.
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Some just say things to try to illicit a response, knowing full well that if they said it to your face, you would probably haul off and deck them. As redrock said, they have no game/idea how to talk to a woman. It may be a "hookup site," but getting the approval of both halves of a couple is they only way they are going to succeed ...... if they actually want to. Some just want to stir up sh!t. Drop in and visit my blog sometime, but you'll probably regret it 
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If you can't deal with raw conceptual speech , then maybe you shouldn't be on sites like this one. You might be one of those hypersensitive people.
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NewBeginnings699 replies on 5/10/2018 7:16 pm: Ahhh, valid point Heathen, however to be direct one does not have to be crude. to quote one fine individual, "Your bitch looks like a fantastic cumslut, can I fuck her?"..... Crude ========================== one does not have to be crude. .... Indeed, "Doesn't have to be", but certainly may be crude. That may just be his personality. Every woman takes that risk of encountering a variety of personalities when she joins sites like this one. In fact, men take the same "Encountering" risks as women. to quote one fine individual, "Your bitch looks like a fantastic cumslut, can I fuck her?"..... Crude..... Unrefined, indeed, hence crude, but he is still entitled a "Yes" or "No" response. What does jump out as a mistake he made , was saying , "Can I fuck her". He probably meant , "May I fuck her"........ but that's not the mistake.... the mistake was "Asking permission". Before you get angry, read on..... "Asking" is a weak approach. Saying, "I want to fuck her", is better because it elicits a strong visceral arousal from the woman, where as she hearing , "Can I ..." from a man , a man requesting permission from her doesn't make her excited. Keep in mind, a "Yes" or "No" response would be given by either the woman being asked , or the woman being told. In both forms, neither is violating the woman. The only difference is one form is weak, and the other is strong. Think about it this way: If your husband said, "Will you come over here and sit on my lap", could you really feel that is exciting? It would be much stronger [exciting] if your husband took control and said, "Come over here, and sit my lap...". Or instead of , "Will you give me a hug".....he'd say , "GIve me hug". The question form, is "boy Child" form... the statement form, is "Grown man" form.
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5/13/2018 8:33 am |
No need for that at all. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
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Makes you wonder if it ever works for them....lol I can't imagine!
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I too wonder why some think being crude will get them what they request. Most days I just shake my head and ignore. Then they wonder why I ignore them... again *shaking my head*
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Heathen is trying imho to point out that such talk is not in and of itself crude. I understand the problematic aspect of stigmatizing the attempt to be verbally forthright about one's intentions. However my usual response to this phenomenon is along the lines of "Just because I am interested in having sex does not mean you can talk to me as if we are already having sex." It is a matter of etiquette for some. I perceive it as one of consent. Basically one is bypassing several steps in negotiation when communicating this way. And yes, there must be consent in moving on to the next level of communication and negotiation. But consent another topic...
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