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What IF YouR Tiniest DreamS... Became a RealitY... 😊  

Paulxx001 66M
8702 posts
10/9/2021 7:21 pm

Last Read:
10/31/2021 4:24 pm

What IF YouR Tiniest DreamS... Became a RealitY... 😊

I see her often — she's my youngest . I hugged her a couple of weeks ago and asked her what was new. She smiled and said to me, "Pa, there's this show next Saturday, at the club," she works there part-time. "Mario, the drummer, asked me to join them for a few songs in their set. We practised — it worked."

But then, she tripped me up. My eyes widened.

"Mario wanted to know if YOU felt like playing drums for a couple of songs. 'Creep' and another by the Chilli Peppers — 'Under The Bridge'.

"Are you kidding?" I said yes — in a split second.

It was past eleven, and that small club was packed and buzzing. The band got up on stage and powered through their set, then Mario introduced my ... and welcomed me up to the kit.

In my time, I've played for crowds of thousands, but to say I was a bit nervous — in front of THAT low ceiling — would have been an understatement. My has a powerful voice and has recorded with numerous groups. I wasn't worried about her — I was hoping that I wouldn't fuck up.

BOTH songs kicked so much fricken ass. So pure, with crystal clarity and a perfect mix. Such a smooth beat for a drummer to trip off and a great vibe to get blown away on. But...

The thing was, I was backing up MY — the spotlights were on her; I was smashing out the beat. A couple of hundred people cheered wildly, and her fans and friends screamed. I had a lump choking my throat and had a hard time focusing on anything but hitting my marks. The sound was heart-thumping through-the-soul epic, and my ears were fricken numb and ringing as I walked off the stage.

It was a buzz of a lifetime. DAMN, did it kick ass! Those two songs are legendary and I was so proud of her; but I'm thrilled that I didn't drop my sticks. I guess you had to be there. Life is short.

Drive fast, carry a double-kick in your 'overnight', and fuck the rest. 😎❗

..........

Do you prefer big venues or small clubs?

What IF YouR Tiniest DreamS Became a RealitY


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/9/2021 7:24 pm

I miss performance bars and live bands and listening to musicians bend their hearts out to a welcoming crowd. 😎❗❗

I'll die with a pair of sticks in my car. I'll make sure to hit that cement wall at two hundred without those seatbelts... holding me back...
There's no 'Old Folks Home' in my future.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/9/2021 7:24 pm

Am I alone when I talk about the love of live music and loud vibes? ðŸĪ”


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
10/9/2021 10:05 pm

What a heart warming post. Sounds like you had a great time. on stage with your daughter.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


EroticMusings2 59F  
661 posts
10/9/2021 10:59 pm

That is beyond cool, and such a wonderful memory made too.

*Creative Outlets of All Forms thru Me*


PonyGirl1965 58F
22090 posts
10/9/2021 11:13 pm

How incredible for both of you!! I hope you two get to do this again. And again


Biggblackk27 33M
1 post
10/10/2021 12:29 am

I would want to never stop dreaming.


countryqueen1 74F

10/10/2021 2:43 am

That sounds like such an amazing experience for both of you. I would have loved to be in the audience, I love music.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
10/10/2021 3:15 am

What a wonderful experience that both of you will be sure to remember always!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
10/10/2021 3:45 am

One of the best feelings in the world is sharing experiences with your kids and watching them shine.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:51 am

    Quoting flannel_light:
    What a heart warming post. Sounds like you had a great time. on stage with your daughter.
Listening to a live band is always soothing. I imagine, when things settle down for you, you might find some peace in a melody at a club? Or do you like live bands? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:52 am

    Quoting EroticMusings2:
    That is beyond cool, and such a wonderful memory made too.
I hope, when you feel better, you'll be able to enjoy live music in your favorite spot. Do you have one? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:53 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    How incredible for both of you!! I hope you two get to do this again. And again
I'll betcha there's a bar or hangout in your neck of the woods that you visit from time to time? Do you have a favorite type of music you like?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:55 am

THOSE, are true words.
Are there any you're still chasing?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:57 am

    Quoting countryqueen1:
    That sounds like such an amazing experience for both of you. I would have loved to be in the audience, I love music.
I've been to your city and there are a lot of bars with live bands. Do you (did you, BEFORE that bug), go to any of them?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:59 am

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    What a wonderful experience that both of you will be sure to remember always!!
I don't know if Mario will ask me back but I hope we get another chance, down the road.
You're a party animal, dja ever seek out those live bands when you travel? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 5:01 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    One of the best feelings in the world is sharing experiences with your kids and watching them shine.
With your family growing up, you know about THOSE feelings! 👍 😊
Can you imagine — when your daughter is old enough — going to a bar and watching a band with her? 😎❗❗


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 5:04 am

    Quoting  :

We've shared a ton of epic nights, but I, was always the one on that stage.
I always have spare sticks strategically placed, just in case I drop one. It's not that hard to play with one hand... if the beat isn't too wild.
That concert you saw sounds like a classic.
Are the bars opening up across the pond? ðŸĪ”
Or is that your style?


mc_justmc 63M

10/10/2021 5:17 am

That sounds fun, I bet it felt great!


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
10/10/2021 6:33 am

Thanks for sharing, sounds like it was an amazing time, I prefer a smaller crowd.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
10/10/2021 6:35 am

Lovely story. 🎞

I do miss live music. My favorite venue for many years was First Avenue. These days, I have to admit I gravitate more toward someplace where i can sit for at least part of the show.


mufdiver69er2 63M  
1953 posts
10/10/2021 11:06 am

if the emojis worked id have a line of them for the pop n gal dynamic duo...

woop woop


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
10/10/2021 1:09 pm

This is the coolest. I sense the pride in your words. Ive always said....never miss a chance to make a memory. U done well dad . Kudos !!


lunchandconvo 53F  
4034 posts
10/10/2021 3:25 pm

what a special moment!!
i hope you have more like this together!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 3:42 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    That sounds fun, I bet it felt great!
It felt really good to get behind a set and to play with pros... yep!
Are you into live music in your part of the planet 🌏? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 3:43 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    Thanks for sharing, sounds like it was an amazing time, I prefer a smaller crowd.
So many great clubs in Ottawa, are any of them opening up? Have you started to venture out? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 3:46 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Lovely story. 🎞

    I do miss live music. My favorite venue for many years was First Avenue. These days, I have to admit I gravitate more toward someplace where i can sit for at least part of the show.
Each summer, I'd enjoy the festival scene here in parks and places like that; they give you a chair to sit on. lol 😂
It's been quiet for a few years now, obviously.
Anything opening up over there or are things still locked 🔒 up? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 3:51 pm

    Quoting  :

I knew you'd be able to relate. It was also the musicians on stage with me. They played those songs EXACTLY like on the CD. and they're tough to nail!
I miss playing... Anything cooking on your scene? Any good clubs in your local? ðŸĪ”


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 3:58 pm

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    if the emojis worked id have a line of them for the pop n gal dynamic duo...
Ya mean one of these guys? 🧑‍ðŸĶģ🧓🧑‍🚀ðŸĪī🙍💁🙋😎ðŸĪ”😀
Some people think I'm full of shit for using too many of those emoji things. But hey... sometimes I've got nothing else to say. Ya know what I mean? ðŸĪ”

Yeah... I tripped out that night! 👍


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:10 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    This is the coolest. I sense the pride in your words. Ive always said....never miss a chance to make a memory. U done well dad . Kudos !!
Thanks. 😊

It was a bit more than that 'Poppa pride' thingy; it was an out-of-body experience. The band duplicated the CD — to the tee — which is tough on those two songs, and her vocals were off the charts.
I was floating there, listening, watching as the songs unfolded; it's a rare experience.

Have you ever been a part of something and yet watched it from a distance? ðŸĪ”
Are you into live music OR musicians? lol 😂

They're sooo trippy! Ya don't wanna know. lol 😂 👍


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 4:15 pm

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    what a special moment!!
    i hope you have more like this together!
Funny thing is, back in the day, SHE'D sing backup in MY band. Now, I've gotta rely on HER contacts to get me up on stage.
I'm hopeful we'll do it again. She's connected!

How old can a drummer be, before he's TOO old to carry a set of sticks? ðŸĪ”
Are you into live music?


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
10/10/2021 4:42 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Each summer, I'd enjoy the festival scene here in parks and places like that; they give you a chair to sit on. lol 😂
    It's been quiet for a few years now, obviously.
    Anything opening up over there or are things still locked 🔒 up? ðŸĪ”
True, there’s nothing more blissful than an outdoor concert on a nice summer evening. I managed to get to just one this last summer, but I enjoyed it.

Music venues are open in my area and most of them are requiring proof of vaccination or a recent negative Covid test. I’ve still been feeling a little hesitant about being in a crowded indoor space, but I’m thinking about getting back on the volunteer schedule at the nonprofit venue I used to volunteer at.


Paulxx001 replies on 10/10/2021 7:33 pm:
How ironic, I'm thinking of the same thing. There are SO many places where I can offer my time and energy.
I'm working on it.

As soon as I fix my fricken car radio. *ugh*
Silence is good. I'm learning how to meditate and focus on my OWN thoughts, instead of someone else's.
Ya know what I mean? ðŸĪ” It's going to be a struggle.

Paulxx001 replies on 10/10/2021 7:41 pm:
They have these 'passport' thingies — QOR smears — and it's surprisingly effective and easy to manage. I feel, sorta safe; but I still keep a distance of about four feet. It's become a habit. Hmmm... I think it'll become a permanent idiosyncrasy in my life. Strange, how things will change.

Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 8:20 pm

    Quoting  :

Drummers are sick; quiet, yet deadly. lol 😂
Bra?
How's about them panties, girl! 😂 ðŸ˜Ū
Yeah, you would have rocked, with the rest of us.
I love that midnight vibe. It's outta control, but civil and so much fun.
But is it real?

It's real for me... until my ears stop ringing. Ya know what I mean? ðŸĪ” lol 😂
Yep... life... 😊 👍


pollly_anna 60F  
697 posts
10/10/2021 9:46 pm

......Lovely story,Paul.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/10/2021 11:09 pm

Thanks for popping in. You have kids, adults... lol... I'm sure you've lived proud moments. 😊
Are you into live music?
They have a ton of clubs in your part of the city. ❗


loneleix 64M
978 posts
10/11/2021 2:10 am

Pretty fantastic!

My daughter plays and sings around town some. I don't think I could manage to play with her but we have in the past at home. She used to do standup comedy and one night read something I had wrote to her about a dream I had while I was there. Nothing beats watching your kids do well at something.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/11/2021 4:30 am

    Quoting loneleix:
    Pretty fantastic!

    My daughter plays and sings around town some. I don't think I could manage to play with her but we have in the past at home. She used to do standup comedy and one night read something I had wrote to her about a dream I had while I was there. Nothing beats watching your kids do well at something.
Stand-up? ðŸĪ” Now THAT'S something that sounds scary. omg...
I've attended an open-mic night at several clubs, and I've been dared, but I never had... uhm... the material ready.

Your daughter sounds diverse. Are those YOUR genes she carries? ðŸĪ”


scoupe42 60M

10/11/2021 6:16 am

You raised a talented daughter, but you my friend have a lot of talents yourself! But to be on the Spotlight, your talented daughter and your back her up. God loved you both! For he bless you both in so many ways!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/11/2021 6:28 am

    Quoting scoupe42:
    You raised a talented daughter, but you my friend have a lot of talents yourself! But to be on the Spotlight, your talented daughter and your back her up. God loved you both! For he bless you both in so many ways!
You're right about that. 😊👍
Now, if HE would only fix my car stereo, I'd be REALLY happy.
Ya know what I mean? ðŸĪ”


loneleix 64M
978 posts
10/12/2021 6:22 pm

She's very talented... in a lot of different ways. The genes she gets directly from me are probably more the stubborn and angry kind; it's her immediate reaction to not understanding something.

She had several opportunities to take her standup out on the road but declined as she likes to have a life I think.


Paulxx001 replies on 10/12/2021 8:08 pm:
Hmmm... I know what you mean me by, not, having a life when you're on the road. Well, good for her.
The only thing that I miss is the money, and the laughs and the great people I met and the crazy parties and...
... DAMN, I miss it. lol 😂 ðŸ˜Ū

sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
10/14/2021 4:11 am

The fact your daughter wanted you to share in that moment proves what a special relationship you have. And who doesn't love live music that highlights great vocals and a kick-ass drummer


Paulxx001 replies on 10/14/2021 7:08 pm:
In any case, it was more of a testament to the confidence Mario had in me than anything my daughter wanted. I would NEVER allow another drummer to play with my band unless I KNEW he could do the job.

Mario's band was the highlight group and spot-on with their renditions. They were pros, and they had no patience for any fuck-ups from random wanna-be drummer dads. He'd heard me play — it was his call.👍😎

Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/14/2021 2:47 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    The fact your daughter wanted you to share in that moment proves what a special relationship you have. And who doesn't love live music that highlights great vocals and a kick-ass drummer
I think musician parents and their musician siblings — transcend the typical stereotypical precepts of kids and the relationships they have with their mothers and fathers.
I read, all the time, about some 'old fogey' getting up on stage with his offspring. Music seems to create a bond that mends the stereotypes of broken bonds and builds bridges between generations. I believe it has a lot to do with how a creative mind is wired.

I imagine every mother and father search for some sort of 'invisible link', to their seedlings, no? ðŸĪ” 😊❗❗


HermanG67 56M
8464 posts
10/19/2021 1:00 pm

life IS short.... seize what ever little bit of it that brings you joy


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/19/2021 3:26 pm

    Quoting HermanG67:
    life IS short.... seize what ever little bit of it that brings you joy
Always excellent advice to follow. Some of us take a lifetime to learn that lesson. ❗
Thanks for popping in and sharing your thoughts. 👍


missthee 58F  
4511 posts
10/24/2021 11:30 pm

A memory-making experience! ðŸĨ ðŸĨ ðŸĨ
Hope you get a chance to relive the magic again 😊

https://youtu.be/R6f_7G71p_w <--- reminds me of a concert I attended with a local blogger from here, who also happens to be a drummer
https://youtu.be/qYQABJXHfpE <--- reminds me of a bar gig where another local blogger (bass guitar) performed


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/25/2021 1:06 am

    Quoting missthee:
    A memory-making experience! ðŸĨ ðŸĨ ðŸĨ
    Hope you get a chance to relive the magic again 😊

    https://youtu.be/R6f_7G71p_w <--- reminds me of a concert I attended with a local blogger from here, who also happens to be a drummer
    https://youtu.be/qYQABJXHfpE <--- reminds me of a bar gig where another local blogger (bass guitar) performed
Muse and Supertramp are two great bands — I loved — from two different eras, with such contrasting yet unique and vibrant styles. What great shows to have seen. Wow! ❗❗👍
Excellent drummers powered both groups. I'd always try and pick something up from those guys with the sticks.
My daughter and I share a love for music, and we might collab in the future at some show — if chance permits.
Thanks for popping in and sharing your experience. I can only imagine how HUGE those concerts were. Muse is seriously aggressive. lol 😎❗❗
Do you still go to concerts? ðŸĪ”


bustinout20202 67F  
1080 posts
10/29/2021 9:25 pm

OMG Paul! that had to be a totally epic night! I'd be "bustin' my buttons" proud if I were you too! AND freakin' just a bit for my own playing! Kudos to you and to your darlin' daughter!
Yes, live music is alive and well here. I listen whenever I can stay awake enough to listen!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/31/2021 4:23 pm

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    OMG Paul! that had to be a totally epic night! I'd be "bustin' my buttons" proud if I were you too! AND freakin' just a bit for my own playing! Kudos to you and to your darlin' daughter!
    Yes, live music is alive and well here. I listen whenever I can stay awake enough to listen!
I kept things reeeelee simple and didn't try any flashy stuff, and — lo and behold — those sticks stayed glued to my hands. It was a thrill and one I hope to repeat. Ya never know. I'll make sure I keep in practice so I don't lose my chops. 😊

Stay awake? 😂 Whatcha doin' sleeping at a live concert? 😎❗❗


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