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It could have been just the holiday timing. When most people have a few extra hours free to actually get a chance to have a conversation without their spouse being due to holiday shopping. Or maybe that person's work schedule was more flexible. Some people I have talked to here the last few weeks have had time off due to the holiday which gave them more of a chance to start conversations. Now that the holiday time is over its back to normal crazy scheduling. That is just what has happened to me over the last few weeks. People just had the extra free time to make conversation.
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Eh, I get that too. I've even made plans to meet, send an e-mail to confirm but no response, so I figure I've been ghosted. I might still go to the meeting place, wth gotta eat anyway. If no show, as I expect, have lunch, shrug and move on.
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I go through that anxiety at times -- in fact, right now as I wonder if a sex date (we have already met and established chemistry) is going to materialize tomorrow (Wednesday) night. It has been a month since our first meeting, so I yearn for her greatly, as we did establish that there is "heat" between us. But, when all is said and done, I take the same approach as you.
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I've run into much the same thing, although I've been fortunate to not experience many of the "no shows". It seems a lot of the men who contact me are between 150-200 miles away. While they insist it's not that far, I know from experience it's not going to be something sustainable. When the messaging slows, then stops....meh....no big deal. Yeah, lethargy. lol Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Maybe most are just intimidated. Honestly a little scary to meet up sometimes, but it could be that there isn't just the portion that is married. It's also a portion of men that just want to meet up and fuck. Just bad luck I'd reckon
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1 post 1/14/2020 6:36 pm |
ohh thats really odd
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I think those men are window shopping in a candy store.lol.In other words they are always looking for something better or what they perceive as better.If a guy wants to meet he will.If for some reason he doesn't then it's possible you may have dodged a bullet .Always pay attention to what men do and not what they say.There are definitely good guys out there.
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I think it's a combination of things, on the "real ones" who send messages. From my experience, the reasons are inconsistent and varied. I ought to keep a spreadsheet on it sometime.  Scammers seem to be pretty consistent on "just not into you" once you expose them.   "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.
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1/14/2020 6:52 pm |
you are right on everything you said
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1/14/2020 7:08 pm |
I believe the longer it takes to meet, the easier it is to give up. If I can’t sit down for a meet and greet within 3 weeks, the interest on their part is just not there. So why pursue it.
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A great topic ! It appears to be a problem with some of us guys also. I have tried other dating sites and like you I found it to be a problem with other sites as well ! Lol when I joined this sight I was expecting to meet "Adults" that knew what an adult actually was, only to find the lack there of ! It took months of reading profiles before I did actually meet with a lady that was a nice lady and we still keep in touch ! I have also found a "long distant friend" that I talk with but, have never met in person. I do not have a clue why people act like "Horny Teens" on here. So, I do not have an answer to give you ! I do want to Thank You for bringing this topic up for discussion !! All the Best in Your search for finding a True Adult !!
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Nice smile,nice cheekbones..what's the problem..wher u from😛👹
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1/14/2020 10:01 pm |
If by "good conversation" you mean that the women in question acknowledges that I reached out to her, then I get about 5 a year, and I actually can't remember the last time that I had a more that one message conversation with a woman that I could realistically meet that I was interested in meeting, which has a great deal to do with why I allowed my paid membership to just expire. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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1/15/2020 12:11 am |
Nice smile
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1/15/2020 12:12 am |
Nice!!
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"hints at possible meets" ^^^ This is what I find time and time again... the guy talks great but never actually says those magic words "are you free to meet on X day at Y time?" He says things like "we should meet...." and "I'd love to meet...." but never actually makes the effort to look at his calendar and propose an actual time and place. It's laziness, pure and simple. Actually putting the effort into meeting someone (and especially with the internets telling them we're all fake bitches anyway) comes in second place to porn and jerking off.
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Persue all chance meeting with eyes wide open! If they don't show, they are the ones who loose out! 
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"I've become blase' and jaded" I've gone through that phase often enough. Sometimes it helps to take a break from here, maybe a week or more.
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