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Recapping My First Month on AFF/Passion  

elRoginBoca 65M
55 posts
10/24/2018 8:23 am
Recapping My First Month on AFF/Passion


10/24/2018

Well, here I am after a month on this site and since I like to write (and my hobby is being a respected blogger in my passion . . . no pun intended) I thought I’d give my first take on all this.

Running the Gauntlet

Like any newbie to something like this, it was both with curiosity and trepidation that I signed up for The Gold Membership here. Didn’t see the point of the Free membership since the whole point here is to fulfill needs and based on what I’ve heard there are far more ACTUAL men then ACTUAL women signed up here and certainly a lot of phantom one-day profiles in the female side, so I think women have a more legit chance of finding what they want with a Free membership than men do.

Of course, a new man my age here is like raw meat to some of our younger women here . . . is he a potential Sugar Daddy? Or from Asia . . . can I get a green card or married with family support types? That’s the first wave. Throw in some prostitutes . . . they aren’t that overt, just ‘buy me a store gift card so I know you a real person’ type. Amazon gift cards seem to be this site’s version of Bitcoin. It’s really sad to have to go through all that with someone that can’t see what they truly are doing.

There’s a wide range of sophistication among these women. Some try to play it fast and some really try to slow play it, by chatting for weeks before trying to cinch the deal. But it all comes down to the same thing; an attempt to get money in some form out of you. Whether gift card, or amazon debit card or ‘help me with paying my bond for property and I’ll pay you back when the deal closes’, it’s all the same. Very friendly until you say NO.

Of course, I had my defenses on ‘red alert’ for those. If anyone who reads this is still tempted to try just note that as a Financial Advisor, I have the ability to refer to our industry’s Anti-money Laundering rules to push back. Don’t bother going there, it’s a lost cause.

Of course, even though on the TSdates.com platform it is completely taboo to try to require an Online Verification ‘Shield’ to protect them during your meeting, some still try that scam to get you to give up a credit card and charge. They’ll tell you it won’t be a charge against your bank account but it will be if you don’t immediately cancel your account.

The next level you go through is the ‘I’m in town, let’s hook up’ attempt, again using the Online Verification scam. I had one yesterday on another site and had a lot of fun narrowing the box down on her before I walked away. I live in Boca Raton, and frankly, it is possible someone is in town visiting since we do get a lot of tourism starting around now. I got out of her as we chatted that she was at the Courtyard in Boca on Glades Road and when I informed her I was only 5 minutes from that she got all excited about getting together. As I went to leave to take her for drinks at Houston’s, which is NEXT DOOR to the Courtyard, she immediately pulled out the Verification card on me. I told her she could come down to the lobby and we would walk through it together. Of course, she refused to do that.

The way I then handled it was to step by step make her sound unreasonable in her stance. I offered to buy drinks and then drop her back off, no sex required. No better way to show my ‘gentlemanly side’ than that. Of course, she refused. I then asked would you ask me for Verification if we were set up on a blind date? ‘No’ was the response. How about if we had met by chance at the bar at Houston’s and liked each other . . . would you ask for Verification? She didn’t answer that one.

Of course, the canned response was ‘I hate guys like you’ . . . heck, I have no idea why a scammer would think that would work. Or why you would hate an honest man . . .

There’s a famous back and forth that goes like this:

A very sophisticated gentleman and a very respectable lady at a party. They are talking about , “Well,” says the gentleman, “just for the sake of our argument, suppose I offered you $1000—would you spend the night with me?” The lady, smiling coquettishly: “Who knows—I might very well!” The gentleman: “Now suppose I offer you $10 for the night?” The lady: “But what do you think I am?” The gentleman: “We’ve already established what you are. Now we’re just haggling over the price.”

Ladies looking for money . . . don’t put yourself in that position. There are honest men out here. If it’s about being paid you are only one thing and it isn’t flattering to you.

Of course, just like what I expect is pretty much the same for any 60-year old male on TSdates.com, I seemed to be very popular in China (and for some reason, London) with the 30-year olds, although it was getting kind of silly when I’d be Viewed by 10 of them on Saturday and all ten profiles were gone by Monday. Why even bother going through setting those profiles up?

And then we come to the headscratchers to me.

The real women here who are all over the board.

The first contact here was a woman two years older than me who wanted to have dinner to see if we connect. Well, we had the dinner and didn’t but that WAS encouraging and it proved that an actual human being was sitting across from me in a live meet.

My first real offer was from a gorgeous 36-year old in Miami who had one simple request . . . that I become her fulltime submissive sex slave. It even got to the point where she definitely chose me and the first order was to immediately take down my TSdates.com profile. A reasonable request. I thought about it since I had wanted to experiment with submission, but I certainly didn’t want to go from taking public transportation to driving an open wheel drag racing car. Experimenting with someone who demanded the ‘n-th’ degree on something I want to really ease into trying was a bridge too far and I had to pass on the opportunity. Also, being 40 miles away with my work responsibilities didn’t make it practical.

It was a legitimate opportunity and I thank her for it.

There was Smili***P** in Kentucky, which was an unusual situation, or at least I thought at that point. Talking on the phone, texting, etc., but then disappears right after I said I was not shipping money. I even reached out to her fans on this site and the Top Fan said they had no idea who she was . . . maybe TSdates.com admin needs to check on how that could have happened.

My favorite was a 46-year old in Atlanta who immediately sent me her email and phone number because she thought I was cute. We actually talked and sent many emails but as time went on she kept trying to circumvent my profile about a long-term relationship. Those of you who read it know that I am very honest and specific about my situation and you have to be mature enough about it.

But so many of the emails read like one of those Fabio novels. Love polemics. Made me feel like the windmill in Don Quixote and I was the mission to conquer. She was pretty hot if the pictures were real and I had my only phone sex session with her . . . or should I say FOR her, since it lasted about 90 minutes and it consisted of me seducing her for 30 minutes and then putting the phone down for the next 60 as she moaned in the background while completely ignoring I was on the other side.

When we next emailed I pointed out that it was time for us to chat online on Skype or Hangouts so we could actually see each other and she refused to do so.

That was not the last time that happened.

A 47-year old Asian woman emailed and texted back and forth for two weeks and I thought we were starting to connect but eventually I realized she was looking for perfection in the situation and how do you do that over the phone 1,000+ miles apart? I really found her physically enticing but couldn’t seem to reach inside her at all.

A recent aborted possibility was a woman in my age range, living near me, who reached out to me first. We spent a week chatting online and I finally said I thought it would be a good time to meet for a cup of coffee near her to talk in person and she told me I was rushing her(!?) I used that (!?) because I remembered it as a chess term used for the chess columnists who thought the move was both brilliant and risky.

Okay, enough of that explanation.

Anyhow, after pointing out to her this is basically a sex-oriented site she said that she didn’t realize it was. When I pointed out that nude cock and pussy pictures on the main page MIGHT have been a tipoff she pulled back and continued along the thread of not being rushed. I never knew a Starbucks coffee meet could have such trigger potential . . .

Cutting to the Chase

That term was used by the first woman so I’m culturally appropriating it for this section.

I’m a little surprised by some etiquette I found here. No matter how outlandish the message I get I always respectfully answer it. I’m curious at times about the experiences of others here and have reached out to a few women who joined here but none of them have replied to me. I can understand if you get so many lousy messages professing undying love for your vaginas, etc., but some of us are genuinely reaching out to understand how this site works better and I would appreciate your input.

I answer all messages because that is the type of person I am . . . maybe Leo Durocher was right. Maybe nice guys DO finish last on this site?

I know what I ask is tough for a number of the women here. I can tell from how many times my profile has been looked at by the same person that there was something that appealed to them. But alas, no further than teasing me. Two of them were close in location to me and really seemed like someone I would love to get to know. Imagine my surprise when I found out one of them actually LIVED in my Subdivision! Pieced it together when the profile says “< 0 Miles Away” and I recognized our common pool area in one of her photos. Even wrote a very thoughtful message about filling a niche on the bench for her.

Didn’t work.

Also, there’s one woman I want to apologize to because the way I wrote my messages to her came across the wrong way. Hollie (she knows who she is), my wordage to you was not fair, I did not mean to insinuate you are any sort of backup choice. You stand on your own and I’d like to take you to dinner to make it up to you. Let me know if you want to.

But, for those still out there who have gotten this far . . .

First, thanks for taking the time!
Second, get a life! No, just kidding about that one.

My profile is pretty simple in what I am hoping to find but maybe it needs some fleshing out.

I’m limited in how much I can host, due to when my partner travels for business.

I’m looking to experiment sexually within the male-female relationship. I’ve noted above about the submission exploration and would like to play a dominant role too within the role play realm. I never tried pegging but am interested in experimenting, assuming we use the starter size to being. Role play in general is interesting to me too. And I LOVE giving oral pleasure to the woman too.

I can’t believe there isn’t someone out there for me that isn’t a plane trip away. Even if you are looking for a long-term relationship and are having trouble finding one surely you might want a stop gap while searching! And you might be able to fulfill a few of your fantasies while working towards your goal.

Well, let’s see how this goes.

I’d hate to think I can’t find someone here!

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