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Swinger beginnings  

jlz43 80M
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7/3/2020 4:31 am
Swinger beginnings


My purposes in writing this and the associated<b> open relationship </font></b>paper are twofold. The first is demonstrate that extramarital relations can be beneficial a marriage. Also, talk about our experiences in this lifestyle, maybe hear about your experiences.

When my wife and I met, the purpose was very plutonic, to make a long car trip, to visit her aunt and uncle. I knew both, from work. Her aunt asked bring her with . My wife had been previously married. We got intim quickly. By the third d we had intercourse, at her request. That was an memorable experience, in that she changed from street clothes put a night gown and then kept . The next time, she was naked. By the end of the second month of dating, we decided get married. months later, we did the deed. It was a short romance.

Since I had been around the globe on business, I had my share of sexual partners. However, I was willing take the monogamy road. That was something that I learned early on our getting. One night, she apologized for not being able satisfy my desires. As I remember, she was not feeling well. I glibly told her that it was alright, my old girl friend took care of me. Believe me, that was the wrong thing to say. From that point on, monogamy was alright with me.

However, after we did get married, I did find it annoying that my new wife showed a tremendous amount of jealousy. Whenever I mentioned I had a conversation with a female at work, about work, the green-eyed monster reared its ugly head. She didn’t get violent, but sulked. I learned quickly not to mention any conversations. If they were, I did not mention the gender of the person.

We used to spend lots of time on weekend mornings, talking about lots of subjects, including what our first house should look like, our sexuality, giving me advice on what she liked or didn’t like. Since I wanted her to enjoy sex as much as I did, I listened and learned. If I got off base during any activity, she would remind me and I never took offense. She preferred a steady rhythm compared to quick movements. She liked clitoral stimulation. My philosophy of trying to please my partner first was still in place even as a married couple. Believe me, any woman would please me. During several of those conversations, we talked about swinging. There was never a commitment made from either of us, but it was never negated, either.

After the baby was born, as soon as we were sure the baby was healthy, after 24 hours, my wife had a tubal ligation. That surgical procedure took the worry out of being close.

During the early stages of our wedded life, although she liked oral sex, my wife was not big on swallowing, and spit out the semen in the bathroom sin However, she was willing keep trying since she knew I liked it, which I learned from the girl I was dating when I met my wife. Up that time, I had never experienced oral sex before.
We continued have normal sexual activities, oral and vaginal, and she started swallow. reassure her that I liked her swallowing, I always made sure I kissed her immediately afterwards. Then, 6 months after her tubal ligation and we were sure the surgery worked, and our sex life changed forever.
After one Sunday afternoon session, I took a Polaroid snapshot of her, still laying in bed, naked. As soon as the picture developed, which seemed like a very long 60 seconds, she got dressed, took the photo next door, and showed the picture to our neighbor. He was about older than us. Obviously, since his wife was out shopping, because he followed my wife back our place. They proceeded get undressed and the of us got into our bed.

Just for the record, I never asked her to have sex with anyone. All the men were her choice
Although, I had been in the military, with communal showers, I had never seen another with an erection. In that era, if you did, they probably would have dishonorably discharged you immediately. However, in this situation, I got a bird’s eye view, of his erection. My face was no more than inches away from it. I did not have any desire touch him, just watch. Since I was very near sighted, this was perfect. I didn’t need my glasses.
Picture this, my wife was laying on her back, with her knees bent over him. He was on his side, inserted into her vagina. I was in a 69 position with my wife, getting a very close look at real intercourse in action. This was not the stuff of porn flicks. I truly enjoyed the shore, not so much for his penis, but for watching her vagina being used.

After all of us finished, I was amazed how great of an experience I just had. The neighbor had fun and my wife quickly realized that she could not be jealous of talking with a girl, when she knew I just watched her have intercourse with another guy. It was the best thing for our life together, since her jealousy was pushing away. At that point, a threesome was the greatest sex, ever.
The next day, she has second thoughts and she said she didn’t want do it again. I agreed. It was fun, but she had be a willing participant, I would never going force her do anything she was uncomfortable doing. There would be no pleasure in that, just like I cannot understand anyone getting any pleasure from ..

About a month later, an “plutonic” friend called her and he wanted to swing with us. I really suspected she called him, but I didn’t care. She wanted to try it again. This was a good thing.

Regardless of who called, his visits became a monthly regular occurrence, for several , with the exception of one month. I always liked it that my wife shaved her pubic region. She liked it shaved because the hair blocked clitoral stimulation. One time, she wanted to shave me and I let her and I shaved her that time. For some stupid reason that I don’t remember now, I was embarrassed to be seen naked until the hair grew bac Now, I give myself regular haircuts. How we all change over the .

He did present an interesting situation, though. During intercourse, his rhythm was not what she liked, he was more like the proverbial rabbit. After a couple of times, she asked me talk him, tell him of how satisfy her needs. Before coming bed, he always wanted shower, he came directly from work and before he went home his wife. On more than one occasion, I followed him into the bathroom, to tell him how she preferred intercourse. To this day, I always thought that was weird, telling another guy how was the best way to have intercourse with my wife. I truly wanted her to enjoy the experiences. Often, he would forget and I would have to grab his buttock, to slow him down. As soon as I did, he remembered. I had no problem grabbing him, but there was never an interest in having sexual contact with him. This was the first time I had ever touched another, other than a hand shake or a past on the bac
On one occasion, he and I were taking turns with my with my wife, or closer the truth, she was having sex with while he watched. Then, while I recovered, she had sex with him. It was during one of my rest times, I watched her and developed a phenomenal intense love for her. Yes, I loved her when we wed, but this emotion was much more intense. This was so odd, feel such an intensity, while watching her have sex with another. I can not explain it.
I enjoyed him in normal conversation. We would sit in the living room and , until we were sure the were asleep. many occasions, he brought a girl for . He also always brought a gift for my wife. There was one instance with the foursome, I was on my back, with my wife on my face, she was doing him, I think, and someone was doing me. I have no idea who. Another girl had the softest pubic hair, similar the hair on her head.

The last time we ever saw him, he had a girl friend with him, for some afternoon delight. When they left, he asked my wife if the next time we would be open gay sex. He wanted do oral sex with and his girl friend go down on my wife. We could be passive participants and not required reciprocate. We talked about it and agreed. My wife always had a fascination with watching multiple men in porn movies. So, I imagine she wanted see a couple of men having sex, up close. Unfortunately, we never saw them again. We surmised that his wife might have caught him.

There was another change on her. She stayed dressed for our first sexual encounter. After we started swinging, she went streaking, with a neighbor lady, through the apartment complex.

Before the internet, magazines were the source of swinger connections. We tried it once; bad. We had them our house, first get know each other and determine whether take it the next level. was good. When they returned, they wanted be in separate rooms. This became our first time of swinging apart. We flipped a coin and I got the living room and my wife got the bedroom. Unfortunately, this girl was having her period, which I did not let disturb me. After I removed her tampon for normal intercourse and I also had oral sex with her. Of course, I was a bloody mess, like I was with Custer. I required a shower. When we finished, it seemed quiet in the bedroom, so we walked upstairs, see how my wife and her husband were doing. There was a certain amount of hostility with my wife. After the other couple left and my wife told the problem the guy could not get an erection. That was our last attempt at using a magazine for a source of partners. I always wondered why she would want swing, while having her menstrual cycle and maybe this explained why they wanted separate rooms.

You may wonder what happened with our neighbor. He wanted repeat performances. However, my wife would not consider it, without me in the bedroom. He also wanted her give him oral sex, but she would not. He had not been circumcised; vaginal intercourse was OK, oral was not on her list. I never questioned other than she felt it was not clean. She was open minded about a lot of things, but that was one she stuck with. On several occasions, when he would visit, she would stand him in the corner of the dining room and masturbate him. I never saw him again, in a sexual environment, and eventually she told him not to return.

One day, my wife asked me whether I would object to her trying sex by herself, to learn whether she would get more pleasure without my influence on the bedroom. Why not? Her only request was that I would not use this as a reason for getting a divorce. That thought has never entered my mind.

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