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An odd, angry encounter  

CandyShark 56M
14 posts
1/7/2021 12:01 pm
An odd, angry encounter


I wasn’t really interested in posting anything on this site, outside of naughty photos and giving the one-off compliments here and there to all of you adventurous, crazy people, but ... sure, why not.

So, I have overwhelmingly positive engagements here at TSdates.com. Made a few friends, joked around with a few of you, met one of you in real life a few years ago, etc., but also I’ve run across a couple of people who made some really awful comments that made me stop and think about a few things. For example, there are one or two extremely aggressive gay dudes in the area who don’t like even the kindest rejection, and there are still a few bigots (in the 21st century) who show up now and then with their ugly nonsense, or their support for bigotry in general, and then there’s the most recent one.

I won’t out the member (I probably should so others can avoid her) but, I had a really startling couple of comments last night from an outwardly attractive, mature woman in the Sacramento area (or maybe the Bay Area-- she has a made-up location and I have forgotten now where the map pinned her. I’m either blocked now from viewing or her is disabled).

Her judgmental and fairly incoherent rant (looked like it was written by a fourth grader, no offense to fourth graders) had to do with the fact that my profile pics are all of my penis. (Ya know because this is a sex dating site ... hello?)

First, she misunderstood the definition of “unsolicited” and somehow became offended that she (voluntarily) viewed my profile page. Unsolicited, for the empty heads out there, in this context, would mean I purposely sent her a *dick pic* without her permission via mail or whatever. No such thing occurred. And why would it? it’s right on the profile page.

She then showered me with her opinion of my “ideas that are not supported by actions,” (whatever that means) by schooling me on my communications methods and making “first impressions and playing by a set of rules.” No context here so I’m not sure what she meant by “set of rules.” The first impression though apparently has something do with the dick pic. Because well, reading the actual content of the profile is passé, I suppose? Granted, I’ve trimmed the profile down a bit—it was too long, too boring.

Cutting through all of the shit, it essentially boils down to not having face pictures on my profile page.

When I replied that having face pictures on this thing is a security/privacy risk that I am not willing to take—who wants their<b> boss </font></b>opening an email from some psychopath that outs them on TSdates.com?—she went on a complete tirade about how I must view myself as a penis—just really ugly, unintelligible and judgy nonsense. (Although viewing myself as a penis was kind of funny in a visual comedy sense—I kind of laughed envisioning a halloween costume.)

My reply was that instead of the nasty comments, she could have simply asked for a face pic in private chat. And, that this is not match [dot] com. It’s a sex dating site loaded with naughty singles and swingers, gay and straight doing naughty things to each other to satisfy the urge to cum in sets and multiples . It’s about physical (and sometimes emotional) attraction, it’s about crazy alien-looking toys, and fingers and fisting, and anal weirdness, and gang bangs, and even advertising poly lifestyles. Pretty straight forward. It is what it is—find your passion, find your kink, find your people. That seemed to end the conversation.

Normally, I would suspect a catphisher or some other scammer gathering information but, in this case, this woman has/had tons of photos, mostly of her face (of course), but the occasional body shots too and … a few with a dick in her mouth (so she’s not prudish—apparently), plenty of friends and admirers and some posts going back a few years. So probably not a scammer.

In my opinion, there's really nothing more unattractive than a judgmental person, making assumptions, telling you how to lead your life, and creating completely superfluous drama—why not ask questions? I mean maybe she was having a bad day, maybe she self-medicates, or maybe she needs to be on Plenty of Fish or Match, right? Maybe she’s independently wealthy and isn’t worried about a photo of her mouth around a cock getting out and being used against her. I’m not sure but her comments last night were thoroughly ugly, unattractive, unnecessary, and frankly … ignorant.

She’s cute on the outside, nice smile, nice body, but … on first encounter (maybe she needs to work on her “first impressions,”) seems to be a dark pit of anger, quick judgments and condemnation on the inside.

Note to self: Well worth avoiding these types in the future if you value peace and harmony in your life.

I’m curious what others think about face pics, personality and kindness as a source of beauty (and sexiness,) dealing with difficult people, and whatever else. Leave a reply below.

***Edit*** I had to edit this a bit, this application seems to get rid of certain words and characters, so apologies for any language weirdness.

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
1/8/2021 8:26 am

Face pics are a legitimate choice here. Nothing wrong with not showing for your reason. And that should be respected. Be glad you saw her as she really is. Those mean cute ones can be hell for you.


CandyShark 56M

1/8/2021 9:13 am

I would say over half don’t do face pics here. My guess is they were around long enough to remember the data breach a few years ago. Having your personal info show up on the dark web tends to wake people up. And if you live in the red counties down the center of California and get doxxed, you’re liable to get burned at the stake.

There are a ton of scammers on this thing. Imagine a 50-something guy consistently getting hit on by 30-somethings with one 20-something glam shot profile pic (easily searched on Google). Yep ... daily.

But yeah, a seemingly nice conversation turned into the Gospel according to Wackadoodle in ten seconds flat. Disturbing how people think they can tell you what to do and if you don’t do it? Well good luck, you’ll never make any friends or you’ll miss out on the privilege of meeting them (big deal).


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
1/8/2021 9:49 am

The site is what we make it and what we need it for. Dont assume that just because you view it as a sex hook up site, thats how everyone uses it. Despite what the hype of the marketing portrays.

IF she doesnt like your profile pic...she has the option to scroll on by. Plenty of keyboard thugs here. The other thing is, she may have had you confused with another.

Who knows where her vitriol comes from and why directed at you. Plenty of others have only those pics on their profiles too.

Its a personal choice what pics one puts out there. Im in a school district and was advised years ago...never to put a pic out there. Mine are reserved for people that i intend to meet....and by that time we have evolved to personal email or text. No sense in having pics out there with some random, is my thinking.

Me too..im sorry you met up with one of the nuts here...lol~~


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