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Of what use is a philosopher who doesn't hurt anybody's feelings?

Most men are within just a finger's breadth of being mad.

-- Diogenes

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Dio's Private Mailbox
Posted:Sep 23, 2018 3:12 pm
Last Updated:Oct 28, 2020 8:43 pm

This is a good place for comments, critiques of my blog, general observations or questions. Confidentiality is NOT guaranteed and subject to public ridicule at my discretion.

Constructive critique is highly welcomed as I work to improve my writing.

If you have a question for Dio, this is a good place to privately ask and he can answer it anonymously in his column. Don't be shy.

You're welcome.


Quacks, Charlatans and Genuises...
Posted:Oct 26, 2020 4:42 am
Last Updated:Oct 28, 2020 8:14 am

Here's my general opinion of therapists, counselors, psychologists, etc. They're not like a mechanic. A mechanic wants to fix your problem. Fix your car, take your money and never fucking see you again unless your car breaks down again from an unrelated issue. A therapist wants to keep you just fucked up enough that you keep coming back and giving them their fee.

Christian therapists are the worst. You might as well sit there with a three-ring-binder full of memes in your lap, think of a situation and go to that tabbed entry of the notebook. "Do unto others ..., turn the other cheek ..., love your wife like Christ loved the church ..."

Really? Like Christ loved the church? How did the church love Him back? How did that all work out? They stood around and watched while He got nailed up on a cross. Listen Doc, I don't like sharp objects going through my hands and feet. Or a spear piercing my side. I hate the taste of vinegar and gall. And I sure as fuck know I'm not making a return engagement in three days after she slowly kills me. So no, no, no Doc. Don't hand me that line of shit.

And that was the end of that therapist.

The only therapist I liked was a family counselor we went to early on in my first marriage. She. Was. Fucking. Hot! Hott - Double T! They went because there was constant turmoil in the house. I went because I didn't want to get thrown under the bus. Only the first time though. After that, I was asking every day, "Is today the day we get to see Dr. Smith? I think we need extra sessions." I didn't want to see anything fixed for a while. Did I mention the doctor was extremely attractive?

It was the same shit every session for weeks. Fingers pointed, denials made, tears shed. Jesus, Dr. Smith has got some nice legs. I could have Cliff-noted it from the first session. #1 has a drug problem. TheMother/FutureExWife is an enabler. #2 resents her sister and her mom because she isn't getting any attention. Easy solution. One of you needs to quit enabling. Someone else needs to address their drug issues. And the other one will work itself out when the first two events occur. The three of you figure out who's who and do your part for the solution. But I kept my mouth shut because, you know, legs.

Eventually the fingers, all 24 not counting thumbs, pointed at me. Somehow it was my fault because of my shitty childhood. My mom and dad were not textbook parents, at least not in the good sense. The three of them unanimously decided that it was me that needed some one on one counseling sessions. Dr. Smith said she was willing and available and asked me how I felt about doing that. I reluctantly agreed because, you know, legs.

Actually I was surprised at what came out of our session. She asked me about my mother. I told her that my mother was manipulative, controlling, overbearing, basically a cunt. I gave her a few examples from my childhood and the doctor said ...

"I think you married your mother."

And a light clicked on.

Dr. Smith has legs and brains. I think I'm in love.

I did feel a sense of relief after that revelation but that feeling was short-lived after she told me she didn't think I needed to come back. She didn't feel that I was a contributing factor to the problems of the ongoing family issues and that I have admirably handled any personal issues that may have been a result of a less than optimal childhood. Her words.

"So you're basically firing me," I asked, a bit crestfallen.

"Yes, I think you're 'fixed', as you're so fond of saying," she answered.

"What about my hatred of women?"

"We both know you don't hate women. Maybe 'a' woman."

"So our doctor-patient relationship is over?"

"Yes, we're done. Is there anything else you'd like to ask?"

"Does this mean we can have dinner sometime?"

Because, you know, legs. And brains.

And that face.

A Not-So-Secret Admirer?
Posted:Sep 30, 2020 9:19 pm
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2020 8:17 pm

An interesting chain of events has happened over the last few days. I would like to relate the timeline of the events and then ask a few questions.

On September 27, 2020, a fellow blogger contacted me through my private mailbox and asked me to explain a point I had made in one of my posts, they didn't understand the context. I gave the timeline to them, starting with the fact that the whole thing was started by a comment that another completely different blogger had made on one of my posts. The particular blogger that made the comment has since left the site but left their blog active.

Later that same day I visited the inactive member's blog to see who had visited lately as I have periodically done since she made the comment on my blog. My username was the only one that had been showing up on the "Recent Visitors" list as of late but I did notice earlier that a certain user had visited on or around the date, August 2, 2020, as did a number of the "usual suspects" that had seen my post and the comments.

On September 27th, almost two months after my original post and the instigating comment, the same day the fellow blogger contacted me, that same certain user appeared as had visited the since departed member's blog. Of course, the recent visitor's list does not time-stamp recent visitor's visits so there is no way for me, a standard member, to find out the exact time the visit had been made (before or after my response to the fellow blogger) but because I am inherently suspicious, it seems a bit too coincidental to have that certain user visit the exact same day that I replied to the inquisitive fellow blogger in my private mailbox.

I might note here, that the latest previous date on the Recent Visitor's List was August 24, 2020, 34 days earlier, by an uninvolved person.

Since then, I have been the only visitor to the other blog that shows up on the list since that certain person's visit on the 27th. Today is the 30th. That certain user visits my blog and profile daily, sometimes two and three times a day. They have not visited (at least by record of the Recent Visitors) the other blog in three or four days.

I also noticed that the "Last Updated" date-time stamp on the other blog updates itself to the current date and time that I visit. It does not do that on any of the other blogs that I visit.

Does anyone have any idea what could be going on here?

Is it possible for non-employees/members of the site to read private mail-boxes?

Or is this all coincidental with the probability of 0.000001%?
RE: "To Shame or NOT to Shame ..."
Posted:Sep 24, 2020 6:22 pm
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2020 7:41 pm

I would really have liked to have focused on the content of the post because it was very well written, but you know what kept me from doing that and really stuck out to me?

There weren't any missing words.

Shadowbanning ...
Posted:Sep 20, 2020 6:52 am
Last Updated:Oct 11, 2020 3:48 pm

The powers that be keep shadow-banning my [post Think Before You Rant For Once ]

It was up for almost two days, then denied, re-posted and now keeps disappearing.

I thought what was good for the goose was good for the gander. Or vice versa.

(The good stuff is in the comments, just sayin' ....)

Think Before You Rant ... For Once
Posted:Sep 18, 2020 8:14 pm
Last Updated:Oct 28, 2020 2:24 pm

Source : https://www.thefader./2019/06/26/who-owns-lyrics-explainer

By Steffanee Wang
June 26, 2019

Here’s what you need know about sharing lyrics online

Lyrics can hold an immense amount of power. You scribble them on notebooks, repeat them in your head as mantras, adopt as life principles the ones that feel particularly aligned with your soul. You can fuse the words permanently onto your body through tattoos. It’s one of the things that makes engaging with music so powerful and rewarding: geeking out over bars, marveling at phrases and descriptors that feel so insanely correct they must be thoughts taken straight from our own heads. They can begin to feel like they belong to you.

But in the world of copyright and ownership, lyrics have entered a grey area of misuse and misunderstanding, an issue that’s only been heightened by the recent reports of Genius accusing for lifting the lyrics published on their site. Who owns lyrics in the first place, and why do they feel like the least copyright-enforced part of songs on the internet?

I spoke with transactional music attorney Erin M. Jacobson about this. Turns out, if you’ve ever shared lyrics online at , you were probably infringing upon somebody’s copyright.

Who actually owns lyrics?

Like every other part of a song, songwriters and/or publishers own the copyrights their own lyrics. Anyone who wants use those lyrics, or even simply republish the lyrics online, would need get permission from the owners via a license agreement, which Jacobson says is most used for reprinting lyrics on greeting cards, T-shirts, books, etc.

This practice should be followed on the internet as well, in the sense that anyone who reposts or republishes the lyrics should be getting a license from the copyright owners beforehand. That can range from lyric hosting sites like AZlyrics, www.thefader./ Metrolyrics, Genius, the way fans posting transcriptions of the lyrics in YouTube comments.

Wait, even those lyrics under YouTube videos that I use when I want sing along my favorite songs are illegal?

Yes, even those helpful netizens transcribing lyrics in the comments out of the goodness of their hearts, out of love for their favorite artists, should be getting licenses.

The spectrum of lyric-sharing is very broad, and it’s made the more complicated by the grandness and share-friendliness of the internet. That’s partly what makes holding copyright infringers account so difficult, for better or for worse. Jacobson also acknowledges that the lack of public education and awareness on copyright law is mostly the reason why lyric infringement still runs rampant today: “Like so much on the web, people just put things either not realizing or not caring that they actually need go get a license from somebody.” Well, now you know.

What about fair use?

Fair use is usually the go-to defense for those who’ve been accused of copyright infringement. It essentially states that their use of copyright material is okay because it is using the work for educational purposes or because the original work has been transformed in some way. Satires and parodies — like “Weird Al” Yankovic’s songs — fall under this category, as do educational videos and other art that builds on top of an original work How much or little of the original work that gets used matters, too, and as its written in section 7 of the Copyright Act “if the use includes a large portion of the copyrighted work, fair use is less likely be found.” So, say using just one line from a song versus an entire verse.

Fair use judgements are made on a case-by-case basis, Jacobson says, though one indicator that something most likely is not fair use is if it’s used for commercial purposes. “Lyric sites have funding, they have ad support, and they're using all of the lyrics,” Jacobson says. “All of them need to be licensed and any of them that are not licensed are just infringing.”

What’s the incentive to go after fans?

Sadly, there doesn’t need to be an incentive outside of the fact that the owner of the copyright simply wants to, and can. Often it's up to the principles of the songwriters and owners. Prince, for example, said in his 2007 statement that he was suing YouTube and Ebay for copyright infringement, that he was going to “reclaim his art on the Internet.” That same year, Universal sent a DMCA takedown to Stephanie Lenz for a video that featured her dancing to “Let’s Go Crazy.” That incident led the near decade-long court case, Lenz v. Universal Music Corp., that ended in 20 and decidedly ruled in favor of Lenz and fair use. (Granted, this case wasn’t over song lyrics, but it’s not hard imagine something similar happening over a non-official lyric video going viral.)

It also wasn’t that surprising when Taylor Swift, who wrote in a 20 Wall Street Journal op-ed that “music is art, and art...should be paid for”, had her legal team send cease and desist letters Etsy vendors who were selling items with Swift’s trademarks and lyrics printed them. “It becomes a business decision about whether they want go after a person or not,” Jacobson says, “because they are completely in their rights go after them if they want .”

But don't panic, yet! For the most part, Jacobson says, “You could have a full staff just tracking of those infringements, but from a business perspective, sometimes it’s just not worth it spend the time.” Especially for smaller infringements that are generally unknowingly committed by fans, Jacobson says, “You might look at it and say ‘Is the backlash we're going get [by taking action] going hurt the artist or the writer, more than its actually going help them?”

At the end of the day, copyright law is severely outdated.

The Digital Millennium Copyright Act — an amendment the Copyright Law most publishers have been using take down copyright infringements — was signed by Bill Clinton in 1998, when the internet was far less of a force than it is today. More recently, the Music Modernization Act passed in October 2018 in an attempt to enforce royalty rates and payments in the age of streaming, but there is still a huge gap when it comes to addressing the new ways in which music listeners interact with and share songs and lyrics currently.

“Technology has moved so fast that the law hasn't really caught with it yet so that’s the first problem,” Jacobson says.“Hopefully, we can get the lyric sites licensed, but the law and policy take a while get changed. The Music Modernization act was several in the works but it’s definitely a starting place for getting songwriters and rights owners fairly compensated for the music that they make.”

Add in the lack of resources and technology available actually go after all cases of infringements in terms of lyric republishing, and it means that songwriters and publishers will always be one step behind from being fully compensated for their wor Which sucks. So the least we can do is pay for our music.

Note that this piece was properly sourced in its entirety according to copyright laws. Emphasis is my own.
A Harridan, a Pearly White and a Daily Points Giveaway Walk Into a Bar ....
Posted:Sep 16, 2020 12:04 pm
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2020 6:28 pm

Here's a free idea for a daily points giveaway question....

Is it the left or right incisor that's gone AWOL? Or both?

You're welcome.

FWIW, missing body parts should be addressed in photos under the truth in advertising clause.

*** Disclaimer -- toothless Harridans are JUST NOT MY TYPE ***

Updated 9/17/20 to reflect that it is an incisor. Top front teeth for us nomenclature-challenged non-dental neophytes. Kinda figured as tight-lipped as that smile is. What a pretty picture that paints. And a little hint in getting your four free giveaway points. C'mon, say "cheese" for us.

You're welcome.
Saturday's Song: Elements - Lindsey Stirling (w/pics)
Posted:Sep 12, 2020 7:58 am
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2020 3:43 am

These words really spoke to me.
I Did My Own Poll ....
Posted:Sep 11, 2020 4:45 pm
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2020 5:02 pm

I drove around the city and did an unscientific yard sign poll.

Biden is a distant third place behind Trump and free firewood.

New Pictures Coming Soon ...
Posted:Sep 3, 2020 5:53 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2020 3:21 pm

As soon as I figure out this new software program, I'll post some new selfies ....

... should only take a few years to learn but the pictures will be current.

Trust me.

(Note: I did not take the original picture. Nor did I do the photo editing. I did take the screenshots on the video on how to do the editing.)
What's In a Name.?
Posted:Aug 23, 2020 10:12 am
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2020 1:47 pm

I’ve never named another human being. Sure, I’ve called other drivers’ names when they’ve done something stupid, but the names I called them aren’t printed on their birth certificates, nor will it likely appear on their tombstones. Unless, of course, they go by a nickname. “Dumbass”, “Dipshit” or maybe “Stupid Cocksucker” to name just a few.

There are lots of animals I’ve named over the years. Many dogs, a couple cats. A crocodile named Crucible that I won in a radio station contest. Snakes, fish, monkeys, lizards. But never a human being.

TheFirstWife had two when we got married. They were old enough that they already had names. TheCurrentWife also had two when we married and they too were already named. TheNextWife doesn’t exist, thank God.

The closest I came to the privilege of naming a homo-sapien was TheGirl#3 who is the biological of TheGirl#1, making her TheGrandGirl#1 technically. We knew we would adopt her, so I got somewhat of a say in her moniker.

The proposed name was Anastasia. I told them no fucking way. That sounded like some wizards and demons kind of name, and if they chose that one, I would blare Uriah Heep non-stop until the graduated from high school. They relented and she ended up with a name that was actually longer but had an obvious shorter nickname that I could easily teach her to spell. Which was the real reason I didn’t want Anastasia. If I didn’t know how to spell it, how was I going to teach her when the time came?

I got that idea from my parents. My older brother has six letters in his name. My name has five letters. The next siblings each have four letters. The baby of the family has just three letters in her name.

And this is my hypothesis of how parents choose their ’s names. They start out hopeful and optimistic of their offspring’s mental capacities but as another one comes along, disillusionment, disappointment and reality set in and they progressively pick shorter names. Each subsequent one easier to teach how to spell.

Are there any single letter names?
Embracing the Inner Hag ...
Posted:Aug 4, 2020 5:07 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2020 4:55 pm

Deny an allegation of "hag" and post a photo to prove it.

Say "cheese"!!

Fun Math Fact #1
Posted:Jul 30, 2020 5:51 am
Last Updated:Sep 28, 2020 6:26 pm

A woman's level of desperation is directly proportional to the number of comments, quotes and re-quotes of herself she makes on a post.


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