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AlyTal 35M/32F
290 posts
9/5/2021 10:54 am

My wonderful hubby and I continue to learn about the life style that we have enjoyed so much nearly from the day we married five years ago, namely our swinging with sexy couples, and beyond that our open marriage activities, particularly what we do in the hot wife culture. Occasionally we naturally learn from others we meet, the couples we party with, and the men that my hubby and I accept in the fun activities for me when he sometimes enjoys his voyeuristic pleasures, and when I occasionally enjoy my own solo independence to have fun as an individual . We have learned from our early mistakes to the point that we now feel pretty secure in our activities, and we are confident we can figure out whatever foibles there may be in the future. We do enjoy our sexual related learning processes just like we enjoy learning other things, and as time goes by my hubby and I do discuss the things we learn to continue being on the same page together, and applying our lessons as we go forward in our life style.

My hubby has an older lady friend thirteen years older than he is (his former step mother that was married to his father several years ago) whom he has accepted as “his hot wife husband mentor” so to speak, meaning she advises him on occasion from her own longer experience. After she and his father divorced ten years ago she and my hubby had a wild fling and an ongoing intermittent relationship for four years until she moved out of state. She is a drop dead gorgeous Asian woman in her mid forties who turns heads everywhere she goes. They have remained friends through the years, and occasionally they still get together briefly. I have also met her when he brought her home with him shortly after we married, and sometimes she even copies me in on their emails.

A few days ago my hubby was cleaning out some of his old files, and he found something he had received from his former step mother after he had asked her questions about hot wifing when we first began our activities. The following was her email response to his questions. My hubby asked me to post it somewhere for others to get the benefit of if they would wish to do that. So… following is some advice to hot wife husbands everywhere from a hot wife of apparently considerable experience. (Her experience with my hubby's father is another subject, and not something for me to elaborate on.) Take it or leave it. My hubby has chosen to make it a part of his hot wife husband credo.


1. Enjoy the moment
Don’t over analyze what she and your mutual male friend may do together. 
Don’t punish her for truly enjoying her time doing what you BOTH want her to do. 

2. She will love you no matter what. 
Don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and desires with her. 
Don’t feel ashamed when you embrace your role. 

3. Make yourself Joyous to be around. 
You can’t expect her to experience the same joy with you as she does with him if you constantly henpeck her every decision

4. Quit over thinking silence. 
If you pester her for reassurance, you’ll become a nuisance. No one wants to deal with a nuisance. 

5. She knows who you are, and who you want to become. 
Trust that she has your best interest at heart no matter what. She will even stop if she feels this will jeopardize your relationship. 

6. Plan for the moment. Not for eternity. 
Sometimes things happen that you don’t expect. Embrace the challenge to accept that you have say only in if you want to participate. Not HOW you are allowed to participate. 

7. She is the best thing to happen to you. Don’t fuck this up.

ClitLickB4DickU 64M  
1392 posts
9/5/2021 8:21 pm

Seems like Very Sound advice, and his Hot Asian Step-Mum is definitely in my Wheelhouse

heartshapedcock2 39M

9/6/2021 5:03 am

I'd love to have you shared with me.

Luv24Q2 46M
809 posts
9/6/2021 7:20 am

8. Develop medical science to clone Tallie & send her my way.

9: Aly opens "Orchid of Asia" Honolulu...You get it.

TallieAgra credo: "She is the best thing to happen to you. Don’t fuck this up." AMEN AMEN & AMEN!

AlyTal 35M/32F
134 posts
9/6/2021 9:28 am

    Quoting Luv24Q2:
    8. Develop medical science to clone Tallie & send her my way.

    9: Aly opens "Orchid of Asia" Honolulu...You get it.

    TallieAgra credo: "She is the best thing to happen to you. Don’t fuck this up." AMEN AMEN & AMEN!
Thank you guys for your really great comments I think YOU guys are the one's who make this place fun

Luvie... My hubby and I both think that you are a very cool riot LOL Humor can definitely count towards... a potentially fun future LOL

forgotforgetting 56M
8134 posts
9/7/2021 7:45 am

Sage advice. Not being part of the lifestyle I cannot speak to it but trust you in how it respresents your truth. 😊

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

48 posts
11/25/2021 9:31 am


karmic_cock23 44M

12/24/2021 9:41 am

Hi Ladies, suppose you could help me get laid? I sound pathetic but its been over a year!

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