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Speed improvements in chat rooms  

Andrew 54M  
2482 posts
4/8/2014 2:35 pm

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Speed improvements in chat rooms

While this was live for a couple of weeks, I was hesitant to post until the new instant messenger is fully improved and live. I was told that it's must more stable this week (especially for broadcasters with more than 500 viewers) and they are planning the final launch next week.

For this post, just wanted to tell you that our group chat software is now up to 3x faster. To speed it up, you'll need to update your settings as shown below. You can also view who you're chatting with by mousing over their usernames.

I'll post later about upgrades going on for our mobile product. Look tomorrow for friend network to be on mobile

rdy2try4 57F  
3330 posts
4/8/2014 2:41 pm

Will you be updating the downloadable chat? I know I love it and many others, so I was just wondering.

Andrew replies on 4/8/2014 4:04 pm:
Are you referring to "Flash Chat"? We are considering updating it as the software is not supported much compared to other technology. Improving group flash chat will be looked at after improving IM.

anastasia666 44F
2231 posts
4/9/2014 3:44 am

Thanks Boss, always good to see you announcing great new improvements.

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rdy2try4 57F  
3330 posts
4/9/2014 7:22 am

No, there is a downloadable IMC that one was able to actually download it and it stood on your desk top and one could access the IMC without having to actually come to the site and click on the box to get the IMC open. Will that be upgraded as well? I know I love the downloadable style.

Andrew replies on 4/9/2014 9:37 pm:
Oh, I liked that one too... we wrote back in 2006 but it's not been maintained.

sweet_VM 64F
81699 posts
4/9/2014 2:12 pm

Ty Andrew and I see they finally got the trending board fixed for now hugs V

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JN63JPN 59F  
27439 posts
4/9/2014 10:00 pm

Although I personally don't use the IM, I am glad to see this tool finally being attended to, since it's one of the most popular features on the site.

I would rather see more usability in the mobile site's homepage. Really, the cock pics take up valuable real estate while the menu button is dinky, unresponsive and placed in an inconvenient corner.

The message center in the desktop version of the mobile site is unresponsive as well.

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rdy2try4 57F  
3330 posts
4/10/2014 7:49 am

Andrew, at this point in time the downloadable IMC IS working perfectly!!! I logged into it last night. I got the last update on it in 2011 directly from Ryan, and it logged in rapidly and worked fine. Do NOT take it away from me now!!! LOL If you want that file let me know and I can send it to you Andrew.

Andrew replies on 4/15/2014 7:54 pm:
We don't plan to discontinue the download at this time.

Texan12291845 63M  
125 posts
4/10/2014 8:10 pm

Are you really proud to be the CEO of this organization? Every time there is an "upgrade" to this or that feature.............something else gets screwed up. Get some quality assurance people to.............actually review the changes before they are implemented. This site is pathetic!

Andrew replies on 4/15/2014 7:55 pm:
As I'm trying to improve things rapidly and then polish later, there will be bumps on roll outs but the trajectory is up. I've been gone for 6 years... things take time to get right.

rdy2try4 57F  
3330 posts
4/16/2014 9:32 pm

Freeskier4fun, even the Hedonist trips do not allow single men. If you gave free memberships to men the site would be 98% all men as they would be flocking here thinking they are going to get free sex. You NEED more women here and this is a way to try to get more women here. It is like a Ladie's Night at a bar. They do not have Men's Night at bars because they want to mix it up and get more women in, not more men.

rdy2try4 57F  
3330 posts
4/17/2014 7:57 am

Wow, I would just like to say that I actually sent my reply here directly TO Freeskeier4fun so he wouldn't miss what I had said, it was not for anything other than to let him know that someone did read his post and I tried to answer it as best as possible. I did state that there were many rude and abusive people here and to possibly go read my blogs and see what I was talking about only to be blocked and told I was preaching my opinions and I was 'out of bounds' by doing so in emailing him directly. I can only say that, again, I did this so that he wouldn't miss a post that was written to try to help him as I am part of the 'community' and did care that he had an answer. I stated that although he may not participate in this bad behavior here that there were many that did and that not everyone here acts like an adult. Well, I think I can see part of the problem here, and it was not with me actually reaching out to try to help.

I DID try and I stand by my answer. The site is in need of women and are trying to do things to make the place more female friendly. Andrew, I am behind you in your efforts even though I took a hit again for reaching out and trying to help someone.

Ladywithatti2d 82F  
485 posts
4/17/2014 8:29 am

I am just going to say that in all my years, and I am in my 70's, I have never ever ever seen a "Men's Night" at the bar. I can just envision a bar full of men calling in MORE men so there is a real sausage fest in there. Yeah, men want to spend time with more men as they are all trying to find women. That is kinda lame honestly. I can see why Andrew would not be giving out memberships to more men so that there is nothing but them. Not happening I don't think.

Talos142 45M
44 posts
4/17/2014 9:00 am

As a guy I am all for doing whatever it takes to get MORE WOMEN!!!!!!! Tell that douche that he is just pissed off he didn't get a free membership. I don't want men getting free memberships because yeah, there would be tons more dicks here and I don't mean just dicks if you know what I mean. I WANT MORE WOMEN!!!

houstonamon 40M
9 posts
5/11/2014 11:50 pm

In regards to the fake emails, I believe everyone is referring to the icebreaker feature that allowed the site to send pre-generated emails to random members on their behalf. It was a shady tactic that made people think there was interest when there was none. I haven't seen the emails in a while though.

Then I can confirm that the pop-up views show as a View. Not very fond of that because now I REALLY don't have a clue over who has an interest in me.

Texan12291845 63M  
125 posts
6/17/2014 10:58 pm

Seriously dude - the site is a fucking mess.

SinfulCindy66 38F
1 post
8/19/2014 5:57 pm

The IM and cams still have many many issues after four months. Mine used to work perfectly, I have not been able to use it in about four months now.

The emails show 200 messages for me yet I only have a few. Where are all these other emails? Then you sorting them out for me, so I have to go digging to find them, why not just have them all in one box like every other site does? I do not understand why you guys spend time "upgrading" things that are just fine how they are and you let things like the cams and the IMS be broken for months. It's aggravating!

velvettouchbigrl 65F  
133 posts
8/20/2014 11:58 pm

The IM still has major issues. When I broadcast, the cam freezes and if i try to respond to someone, chat freezes up completely and IM crashes. This is an ongoing issue. At one point I couldn't even broadcast, but now that's somewhat working. When are all these glitches going to be fixed???

velvettouchbigrl 65F  
133 posts
8/21/2014 12:04 am

And by the way, by giving away free memberships to women and couples, all you are accomplishing is having men sign up as a couple so they can benefit from a free gold membership and hit up women as a 'couple" who just so happens to be single. You might want to rethink that tactic.

sha_la 53F
16 posts
8/21/2014 5:44 pm

Why does it show up as a 'view' to someone's profile if you just roll over a name in the chat room?? I look at who I viewed these days, and 80% seem to be women and couples who are in the chat room I frequent, and I have never looked at their profile, but my mouse pointer might have gone over it. It is most annoying as I spend more time trying to make sure my mouse isn't anywhere near the names than actually chatting.

timetwofucu 55M
157 posts
8/25/2014 10:10 am

If you read 'Andrew's' reply he doesn't actually address the question that was asked - do you send out 'fake' notifications.

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BelleATL 43F
3 posts
8/25/2014 7:44 pm

As a member of the computer programming business I respect the challenge you have to make IM work. It does work for me but why when I respond to anyone the typing does not respond and is so slow.Is anyone working on capacity for IM?

21 posts
11/21/2014 9:43 pm

Wow, I am Pissed.....
SO for the 3rd time in a Row, I have tried to Cam and Chat AND Everything Freezes or Sticks or Locks Up or just Disappears....
Andrew, Do You Even Care That this Site, Your Product, Your Business, is Sh*t on a Shingle at this Point or are You just cashing checks and Don't Really Give a F***....?
Seriously.... That is A Serious Question from One Web Professional to Another....
What The Hell....???
I Don't even Really Expect a Response.....
I am Seeing that You just Do Not Care.....


semaakter 40M
5 posts
9/24/2015 1:47 pm

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