A peeve  

ConfusionFog2 55M
5 posts
8/9/2021 4:19 pm
A peeve


I don't know, maybe its just me ...

but the last thing I want to hear from a woman i'm with is "you know, i've always really wanted two guys at once for DP".
Its not that I am against it, I mean, different strokes for different folks, and so on and so on and shooby-dooby-dooby. Everyone has their own kinks and or sexual desires/fantasies and that's great.
But that is not what I hear. What I hear is that no matter what, no matter how good I am or not, no matter how good a person I am or not, no matter what, she would never truly be satisfied being with just me.
That's not only a red flag, its a red banner with its own float at the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.
This is A F F, after all, but as a member here off and on since 2001 I know this is not necessarily the place to be if you're not a swinger or swinger-type and again that's great, more power to you. It's not for me though.

Yeah, its probably just me.

HAMONMAN 62M
12914 posts
8/9/2021 5:15 pm




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lonlyforlove2 78M
22840 posts
8/9/2021 6:31 pm

Be your own self, do what is right in your mind.. the others be damned
Yes a big red flag,, and not good..

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idblueswoman 63F  
826 posts
8/9/2021 6:32 pm

I am here and not really a swinger.. I think this site is complex and so many different thing for different people.


BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
8/9/2021 7:32 pm

What I hear is that no matter what, no matter how good I am or not, no matter how good a person I am or not, no matter what, she would never truly be satisfied being with just me.
-That's what you heard, not what she said. Perhaps it was just her voice a desire or fantasy? I think it unreasonable to filter someone's words and then project your feelings onto that person without more information. You don't know what she *meant* (if other than voicing her desires) until you ask her.

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ConfusionFog2 replies on 8/10/2021 12:18 am:
Yes, I definitely understand what you are saying, that maybe its just an expression of a fantasy and that's great, as I said. I have no problem with anyone wanting what they want, but if that is what the lady wants, then i'm not the one for her nor she for me. That was pretty much my point.

seems6666 51F
4761 posts
8/10/2021 10:54 am

I'm by no means a swinger. I generally come on to read the blogs and chat. If someone said they wanted a 3 some with me and another woman, I wouldn't take offence.. after all it's most men's fantasy... But if I wasn't interested.. I would just say so... Maybe she just said it to "show off" to pretend she was up for anything.. who knows.. but I wouldn't take it personally


ConfusionFog2 replies on 8/10/2021 1:07 pm:
Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I realize that this kind of thing is many peoples' fantasies and that's fine, we all have fantasies and that is part of the human condition. I think a bit of my issue is the context from which that sentiment is expressed and how that expression affects a relationship with someone. Again, I have no problem with someone wanting that, if that is what will make them happy then more power to them, its just not for me. I guess I am just wired differently. I did take it personally though and while it didn't affect my friendship, it did affect how I interacted with the woman after hearing that, knowing she really wanted it and knowing I could not be a part of giving it to her. SIgh.

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