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Curious about something... Optimistic or Pessimistic?  

Daytimer09B 54M
460 posts
9/25/2018 2:57 pm
Curious about something... Optimistic or Pessimistic?

I think sometimes my optimistic thinking gets the best of me. I think I trust and believe people maybe a little too much some times. When I was here before I made some really good friends or maybe I should call them pen pals since we were so far apart. I did get to meet a couple of them and it was great. They were as wonderful in person as they were on here. We didn't have sex, we just met for lunch and one for dinner and great conversation. But a recent comment got me thinking and now my curiosity has gotten the best of me.

Which statement best describes you... or expand below in the comment section.
Male: I am optimistic about women both here and on internet.
Male: I am optimistic about women here but NOT on internet.
Male: I don't trust women in either place.
Female: I am optimistic about men both here and on internet.
Female: I am optimistic about men here but not on internet.
Female: I don't trust men in either place.
Sometimes I wonder why I am even on this site.

benard69 65M/65F  
6298 posts
9/25/2018 3:16 pm

It's always a good idea to be Optimistically Pessimistic on here!

Daytimer09B replies on 9/25/2018 3:26 pm:
Very true.

Platosgames 100M
3189 posts
9/25/2018 3:45 pm

I have a philosophy of trusting others, male or female, until they prove they can't be trusted. Believe me, I have more than enough impetus to not trust. But life is just a drag if you constantly think the worst.

Do I get burned occasionally. Sure. But I'd rather live with a few bumps and bruises along the way, then close myself in with trust issues.

That said, if I were a woman, I'd trust little about men till they earned it. LOL

" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx

Daytimer09B replies on 9/26/2018 5:39 am:
I think that is a pretty fair analysis. It is a shame that some men ruin it for others so that trust can not be in the equation until after they have done a lot in order to earn it. Thanks for commenting.

bitchkitty2017 70F

9/25/2018 3:53 pm

lol after being stood up 24 times since joining in Dec I have very little trust and or faith in any kind of intimacy between me and another but in saying that I chat with a lot of guys that would do well here as opposed to the local ones already here to choose from..but again till someone proves me wrong I stand by my convictions...

Daytimer09B replies on 9/26/2018 5:41 am:
I can certainly see why you feel the way you do. I just hope you do not lose all hope in humanity as it will hurt you more than all those who choose to play games.

positively4you 73F  
4605 posts
9/25/2018 4:42 pm

I try to be optimistic. Operative word is “try”. I like to think I am not desperate but hopeful. There are some really good men around. I am hopeful to find one. And hopeful I can recognize him if I do.

Daytimer09B replies on 9/26/2018 5:46 am:
I think the last sentence in your comment is very important. It sounds to me like there has been so many who have been burned that when they do meet the potential right one they might come across unapproachable and that will turn a guy off in a heartbeat.

Yours_4A_knight 57M
1502 posts
9/25/2018 5:05 pm

My personal experience with internet introduction services has been overwhelmingly negative but I do accept that my expectations are unrealistic so your experiences have a greater chance of getting met than mine.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

Daytimer09B replies on 9/26/2018 5:48 am:
I would rather live with unrealistic expectations and be let down than to be negative going into a potential relationship. In my opinion you will have a happier life in whole being a little to positive thinking.

NudeDon69 53M  
1442 posts
9/25/2018 5:40 pm

I think I am more of an optimistic realist.

I look for, and hope for the best, but not really expect it, I just want to remain a kind and helpful person, and hope others will be the same.

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Daytimer09B replies on 9/26/2018 5:51 am:
That last part bites me all the time. I am a giver. I have a hard time receiving. I am a doer and have a hard time letting others do stuff for me without wanting to go overboard repaying them. But with that said, the last part of your comment is what hurts us the most. My generosity has been taken advantage of to the point that it really hurts to realize the other person doesn't appreciate the gifts/gesture.

amkamk48001 55M/52F

9/26/2018 6:13 am

We been stood up from women on here but men. Makes it hard to trust women

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