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Here’s your sign!  

Daytimer09B 54M
460 posts
10/5/2018 6:17 am
Here’s your sign!

I made a comment on someone’s post recently and her reply got me to thinking. I mentioned something to the fact of “being in the friends zone” with girls and she replied that is just a made up thing by guys. (Insert, scratching my head thinking about that reply here.) Are we guys missing obvious signals women are giving out, or maybe it is just me. This lady talked about wanting SEX but the guys just don’t catch her signals. For me, I like someone to be a little more forward, straight to the point. It can be simply talking about things they love and maybe wishing they had someone to do it with. Oh, so that may be to direct for most women but short of just grabbing me and ripping my shirt off that is probably what it will take. I think that might also be why there are so many men on this site. At least here you know they are looking for something sexual as well and that can break through a lot of the things that take so long to get through.

On behalf of all the (nice) guys here, and especially myself, LADIES…

1) can you tell me what are some of your signals indicating that you are ready and want it that we are missing?

2) I have never been to a swingers party and I am wondering if it is any different there with signals to tell a guy you are interested in having a little fun with them?

3) is "the friend zone" just something men made up?

Daytimer09B 54M
901 posts
10/5/2018 6:20 am

4) For those who have been around for a while, does it seem like the blogs have less interaction than they use to several years ago? Seems like a much smaller group of people interacting these days.

classicalrebel4 67M  
1755 posts
10/5/2018 6:28 am

I think it is easier for women to be friends with men they don't want to be romantically involved with. Whatever you want to call it, its there.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.

Daytimer09B replies on 10/5/2018 7:11 am:
I think maybe they give up easily sometimes. Facebook messaging has brought to my attention some lady friends of mine from high school, wanted me but I was to nice. Now I just want to slap myself for missing obvious signs.

SoulMasterMD 53M
9 posts
10/5/2018 6:32 am

Omg please get answers here. Sometimes the signals are clear - other days not so much. Way to subtly.

Daytimer09B replies on 10/5/2018 7:13 am:
We communicate in such different ways. We tend to communicate the way we want communicated to and they are the same so we both miss opportunities. Hopefully some ladies will come on here and share their take on the matter.

friendlypirateAV 56M

10/5/2018 6:48 am

I've been in the friend zone a couple of times. I found it is the result of not being forward enough. I didn't make the first move and should have. I've also missed those signals. They went right over my head. I looked back later, or was in a conversation with the woman later and realized what I had done. Could've kicked myself. But... Another thing I learned is things usually work out the way they should. Sometimes missing those signals save us.

Daytimer09B replies on 10/5/2018 7:14 am:
Every bit of your comment is true to form. But I really was way to nice of a guy in college and missed out on a world of fun. Where was the internet back then.

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