Misery loves company... that is why I am a loner.  

Daytimer09B 53M
517 posts
3/11/2020 5:55 am
Misery loves company... that is why I am a loner.


After reading a friends post yesterday I was reminded of how sad some people are on here. The old saying "Misery loves company" is true. People who go onto others blogs and post nasty things about them are miserable. They are most likely lonely and will never find happiness.

You have to CHOOSE to be miserable or happy if you think about it. For me, it is my human nature to be kind, helpful, thoughtful and giving. I get a super rush of positive endorphans when I do things for others. A smile can be just as contagious as a negative comment. Have you ever been out at a restaurant and smiled at a baby sitting at the next table? They will always smile back. Why is this? because it is in your human nature to be happy. Miserable people really have to work at being so miserable. They are many times self-absorbed and the only way they think they can be happy is to make others miserable like them. Hence, the phrase "Misery loves company."

Today I challenge you to smile at strangers, do an act of kindness for someone you do not know, it could be as simple as holding the door for them. Trust me, you will feel better inside even if they do not acknowledge what you have done for them. But if they do acknoledge, most likely you brought some sunshine into their day and they will most likely pass it on just be cause you made them feel special.

...and no, I am really not a loner but I do spend a lot of my time a lone. But I am also not miserable because I choose otherwise.

Daytimer09B 53M
889 posts
3/11/2020 5:58 am

Reading that friends post yesterday reminded me of the miserable lady who use to be on here for years. She was at the top of the watched blogs and if any other lady was to get close she would attack them and call them fake and other things. She was even known to report them with lies to try to get them kicked off. I had several friends leave here because of her and it was so childish that she never grew out of that middle school mentality. I bet some of you who have been on here for a while know exactly who I am referring.


Paulxx001 64M  
21976 posts
3/11/2020 7:26 am

So... ya notice some of the nastiness and drama here, do ya? lol 😂 😮
Yep... I stay from all that clutter.
It's occasionally surprising when I read some of the vile debris popping outta these pages. But as in any social gathering - it shouldn't be unexpected.
Positive thinking breeds positive results.
Good post!
Do people here... read? 🤔


Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:20 pm:
Well Paul I believe you are one of the few men on here that actually read. Thanks for dropping by and contributing.

onelastchan00 52F  
4593 posts
3/11/2020 8:30 am

    Quoting Daytimer09B:
    Reading that friends post yesterday reminded me of the miserable lady who use to be on here for years. She was at the top of the watched blogs and if any other lady was to get close she would attack them and call them fake and other things. She was even known to report them with lies to try to get them kicked off. I had several friends leave here because of her and it was so childish that she never grew out of that middle school mentality. I bet some of you who have been on here for a while know exactly who I am referring.
what an excellent post my friend,,, I have come across one member here that loves to pick on others,,, Its actually pathetic to see full grown adults that are more immature than kids

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Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:23 pm:
Thanks! It is sad that these individuals not only have to be that way but do it while hiding behind a keyboard and a fake identity. They will only know misery.

dogslife2live01 69M

3/11/2020 8:40 am

when i close the computer i step into reality
when i open my computer i step into fantasy
it is good not to confuse where you are
what they say here has little value... therefore we must forgive them for they know not what they do

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:24 pm:
That is true but I know of some people who really take what people say on here to heart. They came here looking and unfortunately this is not always a nice place.

positively4you 72F  
4524 posts
3/11/2020 9:22 am

I am the same. I love being alone yet try not to take it too far. I choose alone any day over chaos, drama and disrespect.


Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:25 pm:
Values and kindness, not something that all people have unfortunately.

superbjversion2 66F
23798 posts
3/11/2020 10:12 am

Not much of a challenge for me - I smile at strangers all the time and often do random acts of kindness.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:27 pm:
Just seeing your smiling profile picture makes me smile. It is amazing how far a smile can go and an act of kindness will lots of times be passed on. Kind of like pulling through Chick-fil-a and hearing that the car in front of you paid for your order. So of course I do not want to be the one that ends it so I buy the next cars meal. Feels good both ways.

fakesrevealed 46M/49F

3/11/2020 1:16 pm

As long as you don't confuse people who are being honest to those who are just being down right rude.

Sometimes truth hurts, so does reality. Stupid hurts also, and you can't fix it either. Can numb it though...LOL


Daytimer09B replies on 3/11/2020 2:29 pm:
Most of the time honesty comes with a little tack. It is the simply rude and obnoxious because they can hide behind their keyboard that is so sorry. It seems this happens to women a lot more than men on here.

jajo696 66F
4043 posts
3/11/2020 2:15 pm

Here is a microcosm of society and mans inhumanity to man is at an all time high out there.....as well as in here. I avoid it at all costs. Alot of people here didnt pass the ' plays well with others' check list. Those same people never learned to leave some things unsaid. Then there are others who just dont care and spew hurtfulness all around. We all have our own ways of coping with life...some are maladaptive~~


Daytimer09B replies on 4/7/2020 11:09 am:
Just seeing this. True, some people can only be happy if they can make someone else more miserable then themselves. Not people I want anything to do with.

author51 58F  
126493 posts
3/13/2020 12:25 am

Great post my friend and one those miserable ones who post nasty comments on other peoples blogs need to read.If they do read this one, just maybe this positive post may be a positive influence on them..One can only hope...


Daytimer09B replies on 3/13/2020 7:01 am:
It is better to live a JOYous life than to live with a bitter envy. Attacks of any type our just empty feelings and hurt where being poitive and kind will build more happiness and JOY!

author51 58F  
126493 posts
3/13/2020 12:29 am

    Quoting Daytimer09B:
    Reading that friends post yesterday reminded me of the miserable lady who use to be on here for years. She was at the top of the watched blogs and if any other lady was to get close she would attack them and call them fake and other things. She was even known to report them with lies to try to get them kicked off. I had several friends leave here because of her and it was so childish that she never grew out of that middle school mentality. I bet some of you who have been on here for a while know exactly who I am referring.
Yep..I know who you mean and I find it incredibly sad when those at the top feel it is important to be there..This is not the real world and if they think it is, they seriously need to get a life..


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