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Pictures..... can we be fair?  

Daytimer09B 54M
461 posts
10/31/2018 12:42 pm
Pictures..... can we be fair?

Most people on this site have at least one picture. We all know that a profile with only one picture or no picture at all is most likely a fake. Not saying they are all that way but you really don't contribute much when you only have one or less images.

Here in the blogs the selfies or even HNW pictures are something that help you connect with your blog audience. Now I know that there are probably 30x more men on this site than women and if a woman posts a picture on this site they will get lots of compliments. Lets face it, it is not to hard to get a man to compliment a picture. However, I do notice that a lot of women on this site will compliment another woman on the site but rarely a guy. I am a straight male and I get more compliments from gay guys than women... just saying. I am not insecure so it does not bother me but it is nice on occasion to get a compliment, after all, we are all human and want to feel a little bit desired, even if we will never actually meet in the real world.

Couple of questions for the ladies and then one challenge:

1) When you take and post pictures, are you fishing for compliments or are you just wanting to express your current feeling through a visual? I spent most of my day today doing a Fall outdoor shoot that will be used in a publication. Beautiful day here today. Did not shoot any shareable images as in the past it has appeared to be a waste of time.

2) What kind of pictures would you like to see of guys? We have all been told no dick pics so I am fine with that, but what do you want to see?

Challenge: Sometime before this weekend, compliment a GUY on this site for one of his images... but ONLY if you REALLY mean it. Trust me when I say, you will make him feel super tall and you will have done a great deed. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong or off base with this post. Thank you!!!

Daytimer09B 54M
901 posts
10/31/2018 12:43 pm

BTW... I am not shopping for compliments. Just wanted to encourage thought and engagement. This goes for everyone both male and female, when was the last time you complimented someone? Today... or has it been a while?

positively4you 73F  
4605 posts
10/31/2018 2:04 pm

I do want to see his face but I get if he doesnt. I like anything but cum shots, anal views, and his action shots. A tasteful penis view is ok and that depends on the angle and lighting. Thanks for advice on complimenting him. I can admire yet shy about expressing it I guess.

Daytimer09B replies on 10/31/2018 2:12 pm:
Thanks for being so real, and even being honest about being shy sometimes and that making it hard to express your true thoughts. I am also a kind of shy person until I get to know someone, but I have also found that I feel good about myself when I make others feel good about themselves. It is hard sometimes for me because I feel I am really honest with people and sometimes if I say something as a suggestion or consideration it comes across as being critical. I really have to watch it when using texts because people can not hear your tone. I am with you that I have never seen a... pretty anal shot. Hope you have a wonderful Halloween Evening with plenty of treats!

luvgluv19 74M

10/31/2018 2:23 pm

If it works for you at least you are showing your personal side and not being fake

Daytimer09B replies on 11/1/2018 5:01 am:
I have never understood how some people can be so negative all the time or why someone wants to be fake about their existence. People will eventually see through it and it can never work out for them.

pocogato12 70F  
37236 posts
10/31/2018 3:06 pm

The pic I have posted took me a long time to consider putting up. I am extremely well known in my area and one just never knows who/what lurks in the back of this site. I know on FB at work we had to sign papers that we would not post comments on our page about the job or it could be grounds for dismissal.
I am honest in my comments to guys and gals on here and in some instances, blunt, would be fitting if the pic was unsolicited. I am more apt to compliment something that has been "said" than a vision- I am far more interested in who you are than in what you may have on.
Face-to this dude was quite handsome but I do not have permission to post

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Daytimer09B replies on 11/1/2018 5:10 am:
That looks like a really nice smoker. I have seen many of those here in my area when they have BBQ competitions. Love the way the air smells when they come to town.

Honest compliments are always best, even if it is something sexy in fun talk. And yes, being blunt for an unsolicited picture is very appropriate in my book. Some guys take the... if I send out enough pictures someone is surely to bite. Definitely not anyone with any self-worth.

missthee 56F  
4511 posts
10/31/2018 3:55 pm

I don't comment on pictures of men in their profile albums, or their profile pics. It may be construed as flirting, that's what's holding me back. Here on the blogs I do try to comment , but the male bloggers are a minority, and the male bloggers who post pics of themselves are even fewer in number.

I don't have a problem with dick pics per se. I have a problem with erection pics, of men showing off their maximum arousal. I'm not a prude, yet it makes me uncomfortable. Is it a 'profile pic', or is it 'porn'? I can never be quite sure. A not-so-erect pic, well, most probably it's 'real.'

When I pose naked for a photo intended for this site, I am revealing my body, my real-ness, not my arousal. So it's not a surprise that I don't care to know if my pics make anyone aroused - those types of compliments I can live without.

Daytimer09B replies on 11/1/2018 5:21 am:
I see an on-going topic here with women on A F F where they are afraid to compliment men on their pictures for fear of them taking it as flirting. I really wish I had an answer for that so I could relieve the fear. I do think there are a lot of people on here not searching but just looking for a release from their normal world. I live in an area that is very conservative, nothing wrong with that, but I come here to express my sexuality and not worry about any repercussions. I would encourage you to look for those guys who you have interacted with, whom maybe live a long ways away, and give them a compliment from time to time. I think too many women on here forget that MEN have needs like feeling sexy themselves. We are just taught at a young age to suck it up, don't cry or show any emotions and be a man. Well if a woman wants a man who is caring, loving, passionate, etc. then they must help the guys break down these barriers taught to them at such an early age. Sorry to sound like I am lecturing cause I am not. I just really appreciate your honesty.

14861 posts
10/31/2018 4:21 pm

I Compliment Almost Everyday.

Especially Words Of Encouragement*

~Good Blog~

>Happy Halloween<


Daytimer09B replies on 11/1/2018 5:23 am:
Smart man. One of the five love languages. I find myself now being a little more careful with how often I compliment a certain person because I have been taken for granted to often because of it. Keep it P, you'll do well in life.

bitchkitty2017 70F

11/12/2018 6:51 am

I tke my own pictures because I sit in a wheelchair most of the time and do not take full body pics much because of my disability and its not unusual for women to take any pics if she feels good on any given day..compliments are nice especially from men who appreciate a woman looking good as an older woman ..I don't care much what anyone says or don't say ..the site asks for pics I put up what I have ..I don't send pics or anything except what I have posted because a lot of men collect pics but never chat.

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