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Sexual Frustrations with Partners  

Daytimer09B 54M
461 posts
10/18/2018 6:06 am
Sexual Frustrations with Partners


I am sure we have all been there. That place where what would or could have been a great moment got ruined by something your partner said, did, or is doing. It is those times that you just want to do it yourself because you know how you like it and at this point you just want to get it done and move on. Any of that sound familiar?

I can imagine a lady being a little up tight when a sex toy is in the hands of an amateur, or someone who doesn't know their own strength or is a little to hyper at that moment in time. I know I would not want some hard toy like a glass dildo or one of the non-bendy types being in someones hands who thinks because it is 12 inches long that you should be able to take all 12 inches within 5 seconds flat. Ouch!

The same goes for getting a bj from someone whose mouth might be a little on the small side or their teeth keeps scrapping some super sensitive skin.

So here is what I want to know... how forgiving or how much lead way do you allow before saying... just stop and let me finish.

Do you have a funny/horror story to share and was that the end for that person?

Daytimer09B 54M
901 posts
10/18/2018 6:10 am

I remember a time in college, at a party, where this really cute girl I had been admiring and I started making out. We started kissing and for the life of me I have no idea how she kept banging my teeth with hers. Needless to say it ended there for me and I did not go any further. If she can't kiss without banging my teeth with hers there is no way she is getting close to a vulnerably sensitive part of me. And it is a shame because I was extra horny that night and really could have used some relief.


positively4you 73F  
4605 posts
10/18/2018 6:37 am

Getting oral and he treated it like a dog with a chew toy. It was first and last time with him.. My fault is that I do have a hard time offering constructive criticism. I should have said “ you do know eating it is just an expression, don’t you?”. I had to ice it.


Daytimer09B replies on 10/18/2018 7:05 am:
Teeth are beautiful in smiles but they are a no go in the Midlands. Sometimes it is hard to say something because you do not want to ruin the mood, but in the end it really hurts more if you don't speak up. Just the thought of chew toy is both funny and horrifying. Thanks for stopping by and sharing!

Sweetnsexysarah6 51F  
5 posts
10/18/2018 7:16 am

I think us women tend to just keep quiet and let things go. But a lot of men do need some direction.. to be shown right wear the spot that drives us crazy is after all each of us have it in a different spot.. If we want to have a good lover and to be a good lover we need to have good communication and accept and give criticism .. do it as kind and gently as possible or with humor after all sex is mentioned to be fun and enjoyable by all party's involved..

Have a beautiful day .... kisses..😚😚😚😚


Daytimer09B replies on 10/18/2018 9:47 am:
Guys like me get aroused more when our partners are visually showing great excitement levels from what we are doing for them. I want to see her getting excited and wet, I want to take her breath away in a good way. Then when it is my turn to go in with penetration I have the visuals replaying through my head and that makes me harder (seem like it anyways) and more fulfilling. Nothing feels greater than both people reaching a high climax and hitting that relief and then falling asleep cuddled in each others arms. Because of this, I want to know what feels good, feels great, and what to avoid. I want her to be comfortable enough to speak up and know that I am listening. As for the other type of guys, well... they probably won't listen anyways because it is all about them.

Sweetnsexysarah6 51F  
5 posts
10/18/2018 7:18 am

I think us women tend to just keep quiet and let things go. But a lot of men do need some direction.. to be shown right wear the spot that drives us crazy is after all each of us have it in a different spot.. If we want to have a good lover and to be a good lover we need to have good communication and accept and give criticism .. do it as kind and gently as possible or with humor after all sex is ment to be fun and enjoyable by all party's involved..

Have a beautiful day .... kisses..😚😚😚😚


author51 59F  
130010 posts
10/18/2018 1:08 pm

This is the reason why I have to know my lover really well before ever sleeping with him... I have always let my partners know precisely like Slow Down, Don't Bite so Hard, I need more lube.. stuff like that.. The first time is always awkward but between communication, talking and listening to your partners bodies and how they react, and asking questions..it can turn into exquisite love making...


Daytimer09B replies on 10/18/2018 3:40 pm:
Communications is definitely a major key for an intimate relationship. I know many times I fell to communicate because I may feel my desire might be trivial or embarrassing.

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