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Sexual cravings and fulfilling a bucket list item.  

Daytimer09B 54M
462 posts
10/16/2020 6:17 am
Sexual cravings and fulfilling a bucket list item.

start with, it has been a little while since I have written something on here but I have just been in a little bit of a 2020 funk (no other way describe ). Also, has been over two weeks since I have last had sex so my sexual cravings and desires are pretty strong right now. Several things have made me wonder about my topic and one falls in the category of not going through with the bucket item.

Normally I am pretty vanilla on this site, but I don't think I can truly express my thoughts and feelings without being a little more detailed so you will have a chance to understand the topic better. Also, I am a little embarrassed about mentioning this but here it goes... So I had the chance a couple of months ago to off a bucket item list of mine. Some people might get really turned off of by this but I have no clue if the thought process is normal or just my creative warped mind. I told my lady friend, and I have never mentioned this to anyone EVER before, that one of my bucket items was to give a cream pie, eat it out of them and return it to them in a passionate kiss. She agreed to it and the fun began. I lasted absolutely no time because I was so excited about the opportunity and it was a huge explosion or should I say out pouring. When I stepped back to complete the second leg of the process I saw something that really turned me on, however, my strong sexual craving/desire went away as fast as I had gotten . WHY?

I have noticed this before that when I blow my load all of a sudden all of my strong sexual cravings vanish. Is this a normal thing? Also, makes me understand better how some women talk about not getting fulfilled on their end because the guy doesn't follow through after getting what they want, the sexual tension release that comes with shooting your load. Because I have ALWAYS been more of a pleaser and wanting make sure my partner gets her fill first, I felt really deflated that I was unable complete my on fantasy. Yes, I turn into a fantasy because if you can not deliver is not something that is real. I have seen myself do this a thousand times in my head and I have even used that thought process in order finish when the sex was not all that good and I just needed something put me over the edge so I could finish.

So be brutally honest with me, is this a strange thing desire do? Has something like losing your strong sexual desire gone away when you finally got the opportunity? Would love hear from others on what they think and their thoughts on the subject.

P.S. is a good chance I end up deleting this post if I get embarrassed about .

Daytimer09B 54M
901 posts
10/16/2020 6:18 am

I will be anxiously awaiting to hear a few responses, esplecially from my lady friends on here.

countrygal848 72F

10/16/2020 7:24 am

It sounds normal to me but I'm no expert. I think your body automatically relaxes after you've gotten your release and when that edge is gone, it's hard to be excited about continuing. I wonder if watching the act on porn while you're doing it might help?

Daytimer09B replies on 10/16/2020 8:48 am:
First thanks for your response. I think watching it on porn might actually make me fire even faster. I am so visually stimulated that it doesn't take much. I think that is why I love lots of foreplay to try and cool the rocket before taking off.

author51 59F  
130010 posts
10/16/2020 7:50 am

Hi Hun..It is nice to see you here on blogs again and hope you are healthy and safe.. I love when I can taste both myself and a lover on my tongue with a passionate kiss at the end, but have never had a man to fullfill your now fantasy at all... If he followed through, I would have no problem with it and find it erotic myself...

As for my own bucket list,I have two which will remain strictly a fantasy..MFM and office sex are my two... xoxo

Daytimer09B replies on 10/16/2020 8:52 am:
Thanks for your reply and I have missed interacting with you and others here. I think it is healthy to have a bucket list, whether it turns out to be only a fantasy or not. But it sure is disappointing when you get that close to fulfilling one and it just ends prematurely. Totally my fault not none of hers. I will be forever grateful for the opportunity. Maybe you will get to fulfill my fantasy one day and you can let me know how it went. (P.S., send me a friend request so I can comment again on your blog. Thanks!)

TicklePlease 54F  
13851 posts
10/16/2020 9:54 am

I think it's perfectly normal to think you want something and to get somewhat fixated on it and then, when the opportunity arises, it's not really what you wanted after all and you're left feeling almost guilty for fooling yourself. Sexually or not, it's just one of those funny mind games the brain plays I think.

Good to see you again here.

Daytimer09B replies on 10/16/2020 1:25 pm:
Thanks TiklePlease, it is like I still want it but have to be able to keep that sexual desire in order to finish. I will just take it for what it is at the moment and hold out hope that maybe one day it I will be able to follow through.

oral4bothU 59M  
953 posts
10/18/2020 6:51 pm

Yes normal, guys do have weird fantasies, a bucket list is cool, I've tried a few things out of the ordinary. As far as loosing the intense lust to finish what you started, I bet every guy has had this, I wondered about tasting my own cum many times, just couldn't do it. So I came in a small container, & froze it, next time I wanted to JO, I thawed it in hot water. This worked perfect, 'I had my cum & ate it too', it's not like the real thing though. The best way is to have her on top, tell her to sit on your face immediatly after you cum, you don't have a chance to think about it, that will be fun for her to make you do it. You
could give someone a blow job and transfer it to her. Good luck

Daytimer09B replies on 10/19/2020 6:59 am:
Thanks for your reply. It is not so much about me wanting to taste the laod but the intimatcy of eating her out and giving it back to her. For now I will just live with it in my head and maybe one day will give it a go again.

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