The Vanishing Act  

EroticMusings2 57F  
1172 posts
10/22/2021 1:51 am
The Vanishing Act


Initially I thought I was too tired to post tonight, but I seem to have caught a second wind.

I was thinking about how difficult it can to find a quality and real FWB. Sure there are scores of men chammering and wanting to have your attention. Generally only those that are very persistent get my attention. But what gets me is this: Why waster your time and energy to only then disappear.

I have had this happen about half the time. They spent the time promising you the stars and moon. Oh yes I want to get to know you, yes friends first. Yes I want to take it slow, this isn't just about the sex, though that will be wonderful. I want to date you, romance you, treat you the way you deserve to be treated. These are some of the things said to me.

Then even though you see them on this site, they never say another word to you. Or very few at least. And no there way no sexual talk, so it isnt a case or cases of them getting off and then walking away.

If I spent the time talking with you, that means something. If I spend the time talking to you at length and sharing bits and pieces of myself, that really meant something. I do not let many into my inner sanctum .

I don't know if women do the same thing or not. But there has to be a better way to week out these posers.

Ann

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spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39316 posts
10/22/2021 3:50 am

When I joined this site as a swinging couple, the biggest problem was single men pretending to be a couple, either they had no partner or their partner was unaware of their profile. They would string you along for ages until we said we wanted to speak to their partner on the phone!


WyoCowboy7751 68M
2333 posts
10/22/2021 5:26 am

As it has been brought up before on this Site; it would be Nice if a Standard could respond back to various things and NOT require an Arm and a Leg too do so ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก I.E. 200 plus Points just to send an E-mail that May or May Not even get a Reply ๐Ÿคฌ What has been received from Others IS Appreciated BUT Unable to follow thru as is Supposedly Allowed to Do ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿค 


Granny872 69F  
4035 posts
10/22/2021 6:03 am

I think the "woo and vanish" act is pretty consistent for most dating/singles sites, at least in my experience. It even happens despite posting "not meeting" (in my case), 'cause ya know, men don't read profiles.


positively4you 72F  
4514 posts
10/22/2021 6:22 am

    Quoting Granny872:
    I think the "woo and vanish" act is pretty consistent for most dating/singles sites, at least in my experience. It even happens despite posting "not meeting" (in my case), 'cause ya know, men don't read profiles.
โ€œwoo and vanishโ€. Good way to define it. I take no one seriously until I am in the same room as he.


Paulxx001 64M
21904 posts
10/22/2021 8:39 am

In big cities, like this one, ya go to Walmart and wait...or Costco, or whatever big box store is open. Flutter your eyelids and look confused and BAM โ€” before ya know it, a new friend is helping you lug that box to your trunk

And... the rest... is up to you. ๐ŸŒน
lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ‘
There are no shortcuts! ๐Ÿ˜ถโ—


agelesssexylegs 78F
1051 posts
10/22/2021 9:06 am

I think to most on here it is just fantasy ,a pipe dream,i have been caught up in a few interesting messages that last up to a week then he vanishes or deactivates his account


jajo696 66F
4029 posts
10/22/2021 3:32 pm

Its what started my blogging here.....the vanishing act. At least i received a nice lunch though. I understand not being everyones cup of tea....but please communicate that. Another told me that he wanted to erase the sadness from my eyes....so smooth that was. Many text and conversations later = the vanishing act.
People dont realise they are dealing with real live emotions, or they dont care. Its disappointing to say the least ......and sad~~

If you come up with a way to weed out the weeds, please let us know....


travellerabc123 51M
3981 posts
10/22/2021 6:49 pm

I wish I could find something like what you talk about near me.

Embrace the suck


johnjuan40 63M
60 posts
10/23/2021 8:05 am

Love your blog!


EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:28 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    When I joined this site as a swinging couple, the biggest problem was single men pretending to be a couple, either they had no partner or their partner was unaware of their profile. They would string you along for ages until we said we wanted to speak to their partner on the phone!
I hate it when people play games like that.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:29 pm

    Quoting WyoCowboy7751:
    As it has been brought up before on this Site; it would be Nice if a Standard could respond back to various things and NOT require an Arm and a Leg too do so ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก I.E. 200 plus Points just to send an E-mail that May or May Not even get a Reply ๐Ÿคฌ What has been received from Others IS Appreciated BUT Unable to follow thru as is Supposedly Allowed to Do ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿค 
What if a Gold Member emessages you? Can you then answer without a problem? I sure would message you then if that was the case.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:29 pm

    Quoting Granny872:
    I think the "woo and vanish" act is pretty consistent for most dating/singles sites, at least in my experience. It even happens despite posting "not meeting" (in my case), 'cause ya know, men don't read profiles.
Oh yes, same thing here

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:30 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    โ€œwoo and vanishโ€. Good way to define it. I take no one seriously until I am in the same room as he.
That is the best way to be, until you see the proof in the pudding.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:32 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    In big cities, like this one, ya go to Walmart and wait...or Costco, or whatever big box store is open. Flutter your eyelids and look confused and BAM โ€” before ya know it, a new friend is helping you lug that box to your trunk

    And... the rest... is up to you. ๐ŸŒน
    lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ‘
    There are no shortcuts! ๐Ÿ˜ถโ—
Weel now you tell me lol.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:33 pm

    Quoting agelesssexylegs:
    I think to most on here it is just fantasy ,a pipe dream,i have been caught up in a few interesting messages that last up to a week then he vanishes or deactivates his account
I have too, then I feel so dumb for falling for the lines.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:34 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    Its what started my blogging here.....the vanishing act. At least i received a nice lunch though. I understand not being everyones cup of tea....but please communicate that. Another told me that he wanted to erase the sadness from my eyes....so smooth that was. Many text and conversations later = the vanishing act.
    People dont realise they are dealing with real live emotions, or they dont care. Its disappointing to say the least ......and sad~~

    If you come up with a way to weed out the weeds, please let us know....
Well at least there is a good outcome with us all blogging and becoming friends.

*Creative Outlets of All Forms thru Me*


EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:35 pm

    Quoting travellerabc123:
    I wish I could find something like what you talk about near me.
Wish my FWB wasnt all the sudden seemingly too busy. Wish someone like you lived closer to me.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/23/2021 2:36 pm

Well thank you kindly Sir.

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WyoCowboy7751 68M
2333 posts
10/25/2021 5:26 am

Had a GOLD message me once . All I could see is that I had a Message but Could Not read it !!!


EroticMusings2 57F  
548 posts
10/25/2021 11:12 pm

    Quoting WyoCowboy7751:
    Had a GOLD message me once . All I could see is that I had a Message but Could Not read it !!!
That really sucks!

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WyoCowboy7751 68M
2333 posts
10/26/2021 5:02 am

Message received but was blurred out !! Box comes up showing, " Upgrade to GOLD " too read Message ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿค  I'm NOT Interested in Upgrading given some of the Site Issues !!!!


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