TheMusings of a Jaded Old Lady
These are the thoughts and ramblings of a BBW Domme and Cuckoldress from rural Northwestern Pennsylvania, now living in the Southern Tier of Western New York.

As I have gotten older, I've really come into my own in terms of D/s. At one time, my leanings were much more vanilla than they are now. Its Become a very important part of my life.

I've included erotica, both fiction and non, that I've written. Feel free to comment!
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It's Saturday, and I'm feeling generous...
Posted:Nov 27, 2021 6:37 am
Last Updated:Nov 28, 2021 1:10 pm

As I peruse profiles of the men who have messaged me on, I'm irritated. Not so much by the content, but by the grammar, punctuation, etc. As a result, I've decided to offer up my services to redo profiles for those in need. Lord knows, I haven't been afraid to tell people when their profiles need help, so why not offer to rerewrite them?

I doubt it'll do any good, but why not offer? I can safely say that most of the folks who read my blog have no need for my services, but if someone was willing to give constructive criticism on it, would you take it as such?

I will give one piece of advice here - if youre going to take a selfie, do it from above. Make sure youre looking at the camera lens, not the screen! And smile!
Another Saturday, Another Poll!
Posted:Nov 20, 2021 3:46 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 9:47 am

I know this question has been asked a bazillion times on here, but I'm going to ask again: What are you here for?

Are you just here for the blogs? Do you chat? Are you looking for real time meets? I'm curious.

If more than one choice applies, let me know in the comments!
I'm just here to feed my voyeuristic tendancies, so I perv cams and pics.
Blogs are where it's at!
I'm here for chat.
I'm looking for someone to hook up with on the regular (FWB).
Strictly NSA for me!
I'd like to find someone to spend time with on and off AFF.
I looking for a long term relationship.
8 Comments , 32 votes
What a week.....
Posted:Nov 13, 2021 5:47 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 9:48 am

I feel like it's easier for to post weekly, and add in little bits and bobs throughout the week, so I think that may be what I do going forward. Unless I get a wild hair up my ass and start posting more often, but right now, life is a little more real than normal.

I will preface this by saying that it's pretty serious shit; I'm unpacking a lot.

My sister's fiance died suddenly a week ago, and I've been her emotional support animal. Bear in mind, my sister is 13 months younger than , is Bipolar Type I, and an alcoholic. After our Dad passed ten years ago, she went from being a functioning alcoholic to non-functioning, and now has a myriad of medical issues that go along with that. She and her fiance were very much codependent, and now that he's gone (and was there when it happened), she is not well.

She's been calling me at all hours of the day and night, and just cries. She repeats herself over and over. She tells me the only reason she's still on the planet is because our Mom is still alive and it would devastate her.

It's a lot. And I'm doing the best I can to help her. The house she's in belonged to her fiance and his ex wife (she's still on the deed), so now she wants my sister out ASAP so she can the house. I'm trying to talk my sister into admitting herself into an inpatient MH facility - she's almost there- but she's afraid the ex wife will take all her shit and throw it away. She doesn't have a lot of stuff in the grand scheme of things, because she was homeless before she moved in with her dude. And before you judge me for not having her move in with me, I've tried. She refuses to leave the city she lives in (and has since she went to college in the late 80s).

I think I needed to get this all out. I actually feel physically better after the word vomit came out. So, I guess, so if you're gotten this far, thank you. I promise every blog post won't be like this one.
Happy Saturday - It's POLL TIME!
Posted:Nov 6, 2021 10:20 am
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2021 6:09 pm

As I've been on this site again over the past couple of months, it almost seems as though the men who on/flirt with are all either a lot older than , or a lot . I got a message from a 20 year old with apparent Mommy issues right after I got a message from a 72 year old who wanted me to peg him. Maybe a quarter of the messages I receive are from men +/- my age.

So curious - Do you prefer your spouse/partner/ SO/lover to be older, or around the same age? Also, please comment the reason for your peference.
None of the Above
19 Comments , 80 votes
Posted:Nov 3, 2021 6:40 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2021 4:31 pm

If you think 's okay say anything you want, no matter how offensive or vile, a woman just because she has nudes posted, YOU ARE PART OF THE FUCKING PROBLEM!
Booster Time
Posted:Oct 29, 2021 5:28 pm
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2021 5:48 pm
It's raining and chilly in WNY tonight, and I'm already in bed, at 8:23pm. Today I got my Covid vaccine booster injection. it's been about 5 and a half hours, and so far, my arm is a little sore, and im tired. (I was tired before I got the shot though, as I've been awake since 3fuckingam for some ungodly reason.)

Wish me luck! Will update any symptoms and side effects. For now, I'm settling in under the covers. I got caught in a down pour today and haven't been able to get warm again!

Anybody have a fireplace I could borrow? And a big, comfy couch? And maybe a puppy?
Fall Vibes
Posted:Oct 23, 2021 10:32 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2021 10:05 am
I absolutely adore this time year! The leaves are changing, the air is getting cooler; its a beautiful time of year in the Southern Tier.

In honor of the changing weather, I figured I'd post a new picture. I've got my cup of tea, I have a pie in the oven, and I have cinnamon candles burning around my apartment. It's a definite vibe I'm happy to be feeling.
Sexy vs Fat
Posted:Oct 16, 2021 3:52 pm
Last Updated:Nov 21, 2021 2:06 pm
I hang in the BBW room here on It's a more comfortable room for to in, as I am a big . Men there are interested in big girls; some fetishize us, but most just have a preference for larger women. Different strokes for different folks, amirite?

My biggest issue is with the idea, even among admirers of BBW, that they can't us fat. Like, it pains them to say the word. Now, I dont know if it's because they dont want to hurt our feelings (trust - we know we're fat), but it gets really annoying when a man tells not to myself fat.

"Oh youre not fat, youre fluffy". No, friend, fucking fat.
"I think you're beautiful on the inside, and what's on the outside doesn't matter". - Total horseshit. If you didn't think I was attractive on the outside, you wouldn't give the fucking time of , and that's the truth.

If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times - BEING FAT AND BEING SEXY ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE! It's very possible to be both. The average clothing size for American women is /18. That's a thick . Anywhere from 0 to 2 pounds. When I was , and a size 18, I was called fat. I wasn't unhealthy, but I was told I was, and was put on diets from the age of . Is it any wonder I have a horrible relationship with food?

We are getting bigger. Can we please normalize the word already?
This Morning...
Posted:Oct 15, 2021 5:27 am
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2021 10:24 am
I took today off work. I stayed later last night in the hopes I might sleep in a little, and made it 7am. Baby steps, right? Anyway, I woke horny. That rarely happens. Usually ,I get , get ready for work and I'm out the door without even having a chance think about it. But not today. I've already had 2 orgasms, and I've been awake for less than an hour and a half. Who knows? Maybe I'll just stay in bed day, and have a marathon masturbation session, something I haven't done in literal years.

I wonder how wrinkled and pruney my fingers can get in one day? Let's just hope I've got enough batteries.
Subscription Renewal?
Posted:Oct 9, 2021 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2021 3:07 pm

My sub expires on Monday, and I've been really struggling with whether not I want re-up. What do y'all think?

Let me know in the comments why you chose the answer you did.
4 Comments , 10 votes
We All Have Preferences....
Posted:Oct 3, 2021 8:53 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2021 4:10 am
's true. Everyone has a type or trait they prefer in their lovers/sexual partners/SO...whatever. So here are mine:
*Submissive. I like my boys do as they're told. And true submissives. Not someone 's just read my profile and thought "Oh, she's a dominant. I wonder what would be like be dominated by her?". I say that, because I get in messages and IMs. A LOT. D/s is a way of life
for me, and if you choose me, should be for you, too.
*Intelligent. I want to be able to have a conversation about things other than sex and the lifestyle. If you can't carry a conversation beyond that, I will lose interest very quickly.
*Have a sense of humor! That's a huge turn-on for me. If you can make me laugh, you could win my heart, and my pussy.
*Generous. And I'm not talking about buying me things. I'm talking about a generous and giving spirit.
*Between the ages of 30 and 65. I will make exceptions for this if you're a VERY good .
*Taller than me. I'm 5'6, so that isn't too hard for most folks. When you get in the 6' or taller range, I'm even happier.
*Fit/Average build to Dad bod. are some great BHM out , but I'm a big , and the logistics of sex between two very large humans is just difficult!
*Single. I have no interest in being a side piece or second choice. I'm far too demanding for that.
*Relocatable. I live an 60-90 minutes drive from all of my immediate family, including my septegenarian and my grandchildren. I also have a job I love and don't intend to leave. Long distance relationship ultimately fail for me because 1. Im demanding and 2. I get tired of waiting.

I know, I know. It's a lot. But I'm at an age where I don't want to settle for less than what I want. And I won't. I would rather become an old cat lady, sitting on my porch, yelling at to get out of my yard, than be in a relationship that is less than what I want.
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Happy Saturday?
Posted:Oct 2, 2021 8:32 am
Last Updated:Nov 6, 2021 10:21 am
It's a beautiful day in Western NY today; the sky is blue and sun is shining! High is allegedly headed up toward the mid 70s, so I'm going to try try try to get out of this funk I'm in, and get some motivation.

I'm pretty the boy and I are done. I haven't heard from him since Wednesday. I'm actually afraid something could be wrong with him physically, as he's an ultrarunner, and had a pretty significant injury this summer. If I could reach out, I would. But if there isn't anything wrong, I'll just bring a world of pain into his life, and not the kind of pain I prefer to inflict. I'm not out to ruin anyone's life.
Posted:Sep 25, 2021 9:36 pm
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2021 6:44 pm

Australian film director, screenwriter, and producer Baz Luhrmann (best known for The Red Curtain Trilogy) delivered this speech to a graduating 1997 college , dispensing important life lessons that may have not crossed their minds at that age.

The words are from Mary Schmich’s commencement speech essay, “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the ”, which was published that same year.

Ladies and gentlemen of the of '97
Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll back
photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. On some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours


Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults, if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements


Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have , maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will make you feel ugly

Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you whenever I can

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust , maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run

Never mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will 85

Be careful whose advice you but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth

But trust on the sunscreen

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