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How long does it take you to come?  

FresnoWoman 52F
279 posts
3/25/2019 12:27 am
How long does it take you to come?

Polls are fun to set up and I don't remember seeing this particular one being done.

So what's the typical a m o u n t of time it takes you to h i t the big O, by whatever the most effective method for you is?

AND DAMN, wish I could put more than options. Even a d o z e n would've helped. Anyway, of course some people are suffering from the side effects of prescriptions they have to take, or perhaps old injuries, physical or mental, might affect the time it takes for someone to . But I don't have enough options to break down by age brackets, or even non-binary/trans people, and this is not srs science anyway. Feel free to comment if you'd like to elaborate.

EDITED TO ADD: No more comments will be allowed. They're repeating themselves at this point. However, you're welcome to vote if you haven't already.
Female - less than 5 minutes
Female - 5 to 15 minutes
Female - 15 to 45 minutes
Female - more than 45 minutes
Female - I never/rarely come
Male - less than 5 minutes
Male - 5 to 15 minutes
Male - 15 to 45 minutes
Male - more than 45 minutes
Male - I never/rarely come

FresnoWoman 52F
883 posts
3/25/2019 12:34 am

Magic comment.

stammer50 47M
22 posts
3/25/2019 12:55 am

depends on alot of things lol

FresnoWoman replies on 3/25/2019 1:05 am:
For this poll, whatever a person gets off quickest to should determine how they vote. But, not srs science anyway.

LuvMusicSexMagic 34M

3/25/2019 1:04 am

it does depend on a lot

FresnoWoman 52F
883 posts
3/25/2019 1:07 am

And re-reading this post, apparently a m o u n t is another censored word. Sheesh! Ridiculous! "Typical of time" doesn't really make much sense, does it.

MyBaffies 53M
4983 posts
3/25/2019 2:34 am

Depends. If I'm with someone then I never have. If I'm on my own and it's a DIY job, then I prefer to take my time and I can go for 60 minutes quite easily.


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Likes2use 41M/39F
18 posts
3/25/2019 3:01 am

Him: less then 5 minutes if it's our first round.
Her: less then 5 minutes.
If we are masturbating it takes us both 15-30 minutes.

Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/25/2019 3:47 am

The most effective method or the most enjoyable method?
If it is the most effective and it's a race, (some prize money at stake 🏆💵💰), then it's my hands and I think, with the right motivation - under 5 minutes. Although, with edging and a patient hand, I can extend that past 45 min... lol I loose patience after a while. 😊 Don't you? 😱
But if it's enjoyment I'm seeking... then give me a vagina and the woman attached to it... 😍 and I'll easily meander in and out for an hour or more.... I'll take that option, any time.
So... how about you? How long does it take you? 🤔😘

Oh and by the way... all those messed up words.. the easiest fix, is to put a period in the word.. so amounts.. becomes a.mounts . Yep... it's stupid all right. I.m p.retty f.ed u.p my.self... 😁😘
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FresnoWoman replies on 3/25/2019 2:29 pm:
The most effective method, as in how fast can you come is what I was aiming for. Anybody would lose patience after a while, I'm sure, but perhaps the edging folks are fine with taking their sweet time about it.

I'll keep in mind the tip about using a period, although it seems using spaces works as well. The original post had the numbers ten and twelve, though, where I was complaining about the number of options. Those got dropped.

CleavageFan4U 65M
69374 posts
3/25/2019 6:55 am

Shouldn't the real question be - how hot is my partner?

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FresnoWoman replies on 3/25/2019 2:30 pm:
That's a different poll topic. And people find all kinds of things hot in a partner, highly subjective, whereas "how long does it take you to come" can be answered more subjectively.

Allhard4u50 61M
1725 posts
3/25/2019 7:27 am

Idk, it really depends on a lot of things.....
1. How many times you've been intimate with the partner
2. How much alcohol you've been drinking
3. How 'turned on' you are
And many more

pett2224 70M

3/25/2019 8:28 am

as I get older,,,i'm lasting longer,,,,depending on how horny my wife is,,,,if she really cranks it up,,,i lose control,,,which is not a bad thing

originaltreeman 52M

3/25/2019 10:59 am

I noticed that when i am having sex with a woman that i think is really pretty (mentally or physically) i last MUCH longer than when i am with a woman that i think is not.

FresnoWoman replies on 3/25/2019 2:36 pm:
Really. I'd have thought it'd be the other way around.

looking4u69ca 62M  
4324 posts
3/25/2019 12:09 pm

A sober blowjob gets me of reasonably quick. Add alcohol and a condom to missionary sex and I might not get off at all. Not from lack of trying. Need to spice it up a bit.

FresnoWoman 52F
883 posts
3/25/2019 2:34 pm

Hey, I encourage more women to come and vote. Only four female voters so far.

Newbe509 46M

3/25/2019 9:39 pm

It depends on the person..

mrplumber2016 59M

3/26/2019 10:31 am

It mostly depends on the amount of foreplay for me anyhow.

AliOrbit 66F
624 posts
3/26/2019 11:03 am

Just voted. I am multiorgasmic so it starts for me in under 5 minutes.....

FresnoWoman replies on 3/27/2019 10:35 am:
Thank you for voting! I'm happy to get more female voters as well. And maybe there should be a poll for multiorgasming. I could only pick 10 options for the original poll.

12211male 59M/53F

3/26/2019 1:45 pm

Your poll doesn’t specify how orgasm is achieved..orally she’ll tire out first..intercourse wise at least 45 can be a curse at times..

FresnoWoman replies on 3/27/2019 10:39 am:
I said "by the most effective method" as I know the specific stimulus/i towards climaxing varies by individual.

fitguychi122 38M

3/26/2019 2:18 pm

Just def depends on activities and level of drunkness lol.

BigDick4All777 24M
4 posts
3/26/2019 5:29 pm

It usually takes me 20 to 30 minutes sometimes longer if its good pussy

lookn4fun688 59M
21 posts
3/26/2019 6:23 pm

I like being edged for a long time typically its more than 45 minutes, even hours. I can cum sooner (10-15 minutes) if the time is not available but what i prefer is the long edging orgasm.

SWMOpnp2 37M

3/26/2019 7:08 pm

it just depends sometimes...

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3/26/2019 7:49 pm



Cccsss44 48M

3/26/2019 8:56 pm

It’s normally 30 mins or longer. It’s been fun learning to control my cumming. Plus it’s nice that my partner cums frist

marc1venture 56M

3/26/2019 9:06 pm

It depends on a number of factors from a medical perspective and many factors depend upon a partner that reciprocates her desire. Us guys are visual, women prefer a romantic story, but lighting, scent, erotic mood all contribute to the ultimate outcome.

funasianma1e 48M
11551 posts
3/26/2019 9:19 pm

depends on how long before last sexual encounter, how turned on, if there was any teasing, foreplay etc....

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1papa510 64M
6 posts
3/26/2019 10:47 pm

Really depends on mood and lots of other variables. Anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour or more... Good foreplay extends that 5 minutes to 20 minutes or more... isn't that what is supposed to happen?

jajo696 112F
4287 posts
3/27/2019 1:43 am

Both DIY or with a partner...dependent of the stimuli.....5 to 15 minutes.

I voted ~~

fahrenheit451x2 62M  
188 posts
3/27/2019 3:30 am

I guess it depends on the moment. A glass of wine and a little weed can lengthen and heighten the experience. pace yourself!

dogslife2live01 70M

3/27/2019 4:23 am

masters and johnson's have answered those questions not with boasts but controlled studies.
now that said i would say the average time for me would be between two to three years (i am not so quick in procuring a woman)
if your question is while in the act... then my dear a gentleman does not hump and tell

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rohit_1611 42M/47F
19 posts
3/27/2019 5:05 am

it depends

glensfallsbibttm 55M

3/27/2019 5:18 am

I may not always last long...but my partner ALWAYS cums 1st!!!

911curly 72M/70F
147 posts
3/27/2019 6:22 am

Also depends on how much fore play , and if toys are used .

BBC4matureF 48M

3/27/2019 8:07 am

Depends on the partner and what there doing

Sensal2 42M
17 posts
3/27/2019 8:39 am

its about age and experience, the more you have of these the longer you will last, provided you can still get an erection.

tunginsider 55M

3/27/2019 9:19 am

Suppose it all depends on circumstances .. if I've been drinking ... scenario,partner .. but typically 15 / 45 minutes

WGA40 54M
85 posts
3/27/2019 9:36 am

Nice results

Solfan55 68M
500 posts
3/27/2019 9:53 am

I have to agree that it depends on a lot of variables. Still a fun read though so thank you for posting.

FresnoWoman replies on 3/27/2019 10:46 am:
You're welcome, and I'm glad you enjoyed the poll. It's a topic dear to many AFFers' hearts, I can tell.

kip91322 60M
1 post
3/27/2019 12:44 pm

Depends on how fast i drive .

fahiem2010 51M
67 posts
3/27/2019 2:12 pm

A nice wet pussy OMG I have a hair-pin trigger

1seeking1 57F
3767 posts
3/27/2019 3:32 pm

Masturbation, daily toy in shower less then a minute, yhose are weak orgasms, barely takes of edge.With partner and right connection can orgasm from a kiss. Being multi orgasmic squirter, I cum easy, but need those orgasms that lead to climax. By big o do you mean climax?

petergun40 73M
22 posts
3/27/2019 6:42 pm

I think I am to fast, but it is what I do before with my partner and it is good for both of us, at the end I think both are satisfied

Noone7610 41M

3/27/2019 8:23 pm

There are different factors that effect how long it takes, but usually 40-45 minutes.

moh_11 42M
13 posts
3/28/2019 2:28 am

But it depends

Shepshep63 59M

3/28/2019 3:34 am

That is a tough question. It depends. My goal is to make the lady come first. With my mouth or cock. Time is not important in that case.

coyotefun2000 68M
27 posts
3/28/2019 4:52 am

It takes me forever to cum. Only complaint I have ever had

Orgasmic_Fingers 49M
25 posts
3/28/2019 6:09 am

I can get off in under 5 mins for the right person doing the right things, but prefer to last longer, sometimes prefer not to finish and to stay horny for days.
My reload time isn't what it used to be, but there are lots of sexy things to do while waiting.
Using a cock ring really helps staying power and helps with the reload time aswell

sniflicksuck 56M
55 posts
3/28/2019 8:46 am

That's a good question but do some of us really care they just wanna cum cause u can always cum again 😉

pineconer9 72M  
245 posts
3/28/2019 10:07 am

It depends on what I am doing with or without partner and it does usually take me a very long time,,and if I am just stroking by myself I do like to edge for a very long time as I watch hot porn, and with partner like to take lots of time the journey not just the destination

ajax085 48M
28 posts
3/28/2019 12:43 pm

Eh, everyone is going to have unique issues but you did a good job of acknowledging that at the introduction of the poll. It looks like you were still able to establish rough average s despite the limited options you had at your disposal. ... great job!

riverranch696ya 61M
1 post
3/28/2019 1:03 pm

Hi I like your post

xxx_steezy_xxx 37M
15 posts
3/28/2019 4:19 pm

depends on the girl im fucking 30mins to an hour

Sexczy69 67M
3703 posts
3/28/2019 4:59 pm

Can cum is a few seconds or a few minutes? All depends on how horny i am and how good she make me feel???????

sweetkink33 39M

3/28/2019 6:32 pm

I think men will always say they last longer lol

Attentive14Fun 49M

3/28/2019 7:31 pm

Depends on how good my partner is.

RyuFujin 55F
1445 posts
3/28/2019 9:08 pm

For me, there are more factors involved.

If it's been a while for me, and the stimulus is oral, it could happen in as few as 10 minutes. If you have mad skills... well, I'll do my best to hold out a little longer... because I want to experience all of your linguistic talents.

If the stimulus is intercourse, it can still happen, especially while in doggie style, though generally will take longer. Up to an hour, depending on how well you know your English.

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Fertilestream15 42M

3/28/2019 11:15 pm

The other variable that is to be considered is also the partner you are with,
As each lover is completely different with each experience.
Thus the closeness between both also affects the time as well.
Especially the emotional connection created.

benben75116 36M
64 posts
3/29/2019 2:45 am

just voted we can try together and how long does it take

benhereagain 65M
50 posts
3/29/2019 4:49 am

i must paraphrase i normally can last a good 20 min but new pussy can get me off quicker ,, lol

ItsThtPervertGuy 42M
484 posts
3/29/2019 6:47 am

Depends. How long its been since I had sex,Chemistry ,attraction how good the sex is. A few things But over 30 minutes to start for sure. If I am Backed up I would like to get that one out!

boofsss 32M
1 post
3/29/2019 8:55 am

first round 15-45 then next rounds r game on

CompleteFreak22 36M
19 posts
3/29/2019 10:58 am

Yeah I fall under the 5 minute category...

engcumman 52M
53 posts
3/29/2019 1:01 pm

I find that it doe, as others have said, depend. However, if I take an average session to go by it's between 15-25 minutes. At other times, if I don't want to cum, especially when masturbating, I can keep going for a lot longer.

1025mws 59M  
677 posts
3/29/2019 5:57 pm

It does depend on a lot of things..
I have came in a short time and I have stayed up and came in about 45 minutes to a hour.

Biplayerdo 53M
2 posts
3/30/2019 2:24 am

I never set out to come, because it happens, or not, and in the end, my cock will explode and my nuts drain so quickly that I cannot walk, think or even feel the earth beneath my feet. Of course, I am usually lying prone when I stroke myself into the necessary frenzy that will bring my spunk to light. I come hard, like when I have been fucked so vigorously that my insides feel not a part of who I am. The best sex, hands down, has always been with myself. The most powerful cumming I have done has been the consequence of a personal discourse with my imagination, where the fire in my loins burns so hot that only the explosion of my come into the world quenches it. I can come in nine seconds, or I come after hours of intense stroking and touching of myself in obscene ways. The question of how long it takes to come falls to how a cock is insistently agitated, either by the hand, or by a fucking so precise that a man screams as he unloads the end of his cock with a whimper.

LetsRide74021 51M

3/30/2019 5:51 am

It really depends on the person Im with, if they are super wet then it takes forever for me, if they are super tight, about ten minutes the first time and maybe even longer the second and third time. I like to take my time most of the time and hold back, if the lady is getting tired then I release, if we are both enjoying ourselves then I can take longer, its like exploring, but when we go doggy style, its over for me ………….lol

bigstuff_1989 33M

3/30/2019 7:17 am

fun poll. thanks for sharing

hotredsox67 50M  
151 posts
3/30/2019 12:54 pm

i can cum stay hard and keep going for quite a while i love to lick a woman to orgasm first so we can get multiples when i put it in while she contracts it gets super tight then

Sexistephine 37M

3/30/2019 4:32 pm

I like to take my time by myself or when I’m on cam. But with someone it’s quicker

YaImMarried 48M

3/30/2019 8:04 pm

Situation is everything! Add alcohol and a condom with a partner that I'm not into, and well..... I'd be lucky to keep it hard.... But a sweet lil thing that gets me going, 8ish minutes....

FresnoWoman 52F
883 posts
4/1/2019 1:16 pm

No more commenting allowed; I will be deleting any further comments from this point on, as mentioned in the edit to the main post. (Can't find option to disable them for this post for some reason.)

JessicaMiya 28F

4/28/2019 4:21 am

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Dougie5089 29M

7/2/2019 1:08 pm

All just depends. By myself I'll usually get close in about 5 or 10 min. If I'm with someone I usually last longer for whatever reason. Maybe I'm trying to? Idk

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