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More thoughts on dating on Adult Friend Finders  

FunbutIntense 55F  
11 posts
3/4/2022 1:44 am
More thoughts on dating on Adult Friend Finders

I require a meet and greet with everyone I meet on Profiles are great and I have found that the majority of people are honest and post their own recent pictures. Even still I need to meet in a public place to get a sense of who someone is and what their motives are. There are some very strange people and possible predators out there. Sometimes it takes more than one meeting before I feel comfortable enough to go somewhere where we can be alone.
I am looking for another FWB but I have to be safe and I have to be comfortable. When I am out with someone for the first time, many times the guy wants to kiss me, and that's acceptable. There is definitely an art to kissing, especially the first kiss. I personally like a kiss that starts out soft and doesn't invade my face. It does not turn me on when a man immediately thrusts his tongue down my throat. It actually turns me off and makes me feel violated.
I am not a particularly touchy feely person but I don't mind having a stray hair tucked behind my ear or a soft touch on my arm or back. I do not like to be groped, grabbing my ass, or being so presumptuous as to touch my breasts in public. I mean, we just met. All of these things have happened to me and more. That is technically, legally assault. If you keep things light and let things happen organically I will be far more receptive and more likely to want to make a second date.
Thanks for letting me rant!

Ironpony78 66M

3/13/2022 6:29 pm

You should always meet the 1st time in a very public place,maybe even the 1st couple of times.I prefer to meet 2 times in public before doing any private meetings.These days everyone has to be careful.Too many crazies out there.And I totally agree with the kissing and touching.

FunbutIntense replies on 3/22/2022 9:13 pm:
Thank you for your response and for understanding that safety is an issue not just for women but for men as well.

agelesssexylegs 79F
1145 posts
3/10/2022 11:57 pm

Oh yes i so agree with you,though i think most men are bad when it comes to meeting just for a chat,the amount of times i been groped intentionally,i always find places to meet that have more than one entrance often excuse myself to powder my nose and allows me my escape

FunbutIntense replies on 3/12/2022 1:05 am:
I have not yet had to “escape” from a meet and greet. I am very punctual so I usually get there first. I have seen my date walk in and I felt like I should walk out. I usually ask my date what he will be wearing so I can recognize him. It rarely happens that he looks nothing like his pictures. Maybe he is far older than his pictures or weighs lots more or less than he portrays on his profile. Or maybe those aren’t actually pictures of him and he though nobody would notice? When that happens I am immediately turned off and feel like I have been duped. Nobody wants to feel foolish because they fell for someone’s scam or were lied to. I’m glad it doesn’t happen often, but those are the times I will end a date early and trust me, I will tell them why.

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