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A (second) bit of trivia for the day ...
Posted:Apr 19, 2019 1:25 am
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Posting the article in comments 'cause it has so many numbers that TSDates will surely mangle the content, lol!
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A bit of trivia for the day ...
Posted:Apr 19, 2019 1:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2019 5:12 am
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In the early 20th century, the area now known as Glass Beach in California was used as a trash dump. Decades of ocean tides have cleared the beach and polished the discarded bottles and automobile tail lights into colorful pebbles of sea glass.



PC: Ggerdel - Foto de: Gustavo Gerdel [CC BY-SA 4.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0)]
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A bit of trivia for the day ...
Posted:Apr 18, 2019 3:44 am
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According to the National Opinion Research Center, the average American couple reports having sex 66 times a year. Married adults under age 30 say they have sex an average of 9 times a year. The average drops to 70 times year for 40-somethings and 52 times a year for people in their 50s.
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Men are from Mars ...
Posted:Apr 15, 2019 7:57 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2019 5:28 am
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It is no secret to anyone men's and women's attitudes about sex, love, lust and relationships can be wildly different, depending on whether you are talking about different cultures, historical periods of time, generational groups or racial populations.

Whereas men are 'typically' most influenced and drawn to the visual stimulation of sex, women are 'typically' most influenced and drawn to the psychological satisfactions (the looks, touches, words) at least when it comes to sexual relationships. Men are primarily driven by physical urges, women by emotional urges.

But are these differences because of biology, physiology or are they because of psychology? T.h.a.t. is, do we behave like men or women (in terms of relationships) because our biology is in charge of our emotions and behaviors or because we have been culturally molded by our environment to think and act like a 'man' or 'woman' ?? Well, yes and yes I think.

In "Love, Sex and the Brain" author Dr. Louann Brizendine states 'Perhaps the biggest difference between the and female brain is men have a sexual pursuit area is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only t.h.a.t., but beginning in their teens, they produce 20 to 25-fold more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence. If testosterone were beer, a 9 would be getting the equivalent of a cup a day. But a 15 would be getting the equivalent of nearly two gallons a day. This fuels their sexual engines and makes it impossible for them to stop thinking about female body parts and sex.'

But environment plays a role too. Think of religion, culture and social movements and how they have shaped and influenced social responses to marriage, courtship, civil society and behavior. American dating norms versus the coming of age rituals of the Kreung tribe of Cambodia ... look it .

Given such varying influences and factors, isn't it amazing all men and women manage (ever) to find satisfaction with each other?

Love, Sex and the Brain article accessed http://TSDates.com
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FROM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE
Posted:Dec 9, 2018 5:36 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2019 1:19 am
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I realize that I am treading some very dangerous water here by sharing this particular blog entry, but as the expression goes ‘the truth will set you free.’ Consider this a rare rant about something serious, something about sex, and something besides the frivolous commentary usually seen in blogs here.

Many of the profiles posted on this and similar sites contain the phrase “D&D free,” or similar wording. I don’t dispute that the owners of those profiles intend for that phrase to assure their potential lovers that no nasty bugs will pass during coitus, but it’s a weak bit of reassurance, IMO. Unless you are tested immediately before having sex with someone, and get those results immediately, your previous status means very little, especially since the standard tests are usually limited to about 6 different diseases, and there at least 30 actual STDs/STIs. Test results are only as good as the day your samples were tested; if you have sex the day after, you run the risk of becoming less-than D&D free. Nevertheless, I get it. It’s intended to imply … safety .. and the person in the profile is probably hoping that the self-labeling will get him/her laid quicker or more often.

Pfftttt.

From the perspective of a person with an incurable (but quite common) STD, please let me share my thoughts.

I contracted HSV2 from someone over 30 years ago and I didn't even know I had it until I had a breakout after I became a mother (the change in my personal biology probably triggered the breakout.) Sexual safety wasn’t as big an issue then as it is now, at least not in my social circle. The bigger concern was an unwanted pregnancy. I don’t know who gave it to me, and I’m not sure if he even knew he had it. Regardless, he was guilty of spreading an STD, and I was guilty of naivete and not asking the right question beforehand. Done and done.

But let’s put one thing right out there and dispel some misconceptions. Well, maybe a couple of things.

First, it only takes ONE sexual experience to contract a disease. It could be your first sexual encounter, or your 500th … it just takes one time with someone who carries a virus or a bacteria that could be passed to you. This is not a morality issue people … STDs are a fact of life, and everyone who is sexually active is subject to contracting something, sometime in their lifetime. And on the issue of morality … check any ‘holier-than-thou’-ness at the door. Consensual sex is not the only way to contract a disease; if you are a child you are just as likely to contract HSV1 by getting a kiss from your great Aunt Martha when you’re a kid and then guilty if you spread it as an adult to someone you have oral sex with. And lest we dare forget, victims of sexual assault are often the unluckiest of the unlucky … they are crime victims but can also be the unwilling recipient of STDs in the process. So much for your moral judgments.

Second … it rankles me that a person without an STD (or perceived to have no infectious disease) calls themselves “clean,” while anyone with an STD is considered the opposite … “dirty.” This is how slut-shaming, stereotypes and bad jokes are allowed to exist unchecked. Consider that STDs or STIs have been at all-time highs for the past several years, and then decide if it’s wise to point the finger. How many people are guilty of spreading infection because they are in denial about their own health, too scared to disclose to potential partners, or just don’t give a damn about anyone else except themselves? How many of your friends or relatives may be silently suffering when the horrible jokes are made and everyone laughs about STDs, or when you brag about your own ‘cleanliness?’

I disclose to anyone I might be considering having sex with, if our relationship gets to that level, and I don't take it lightly. It is the right thing to do. And yes, it gets me shut down most of the time. And yes, I will get some email or responses to this that will consist of name-calling or lectures, telling me I’m dirty, disgusting or whatever other self-righteous beratement they can come up with. But that’s okay. I’d rather take the high road than be accused of being deceitful. I’d rather give a potential lover the choice, because I wasn’t given the choice and I have paid the price. WIth medication, use of condoms and avoidance during times when I am most likely to pass an infection, there is only about a 1% chance of me spreading my illness to a partner. I was married for 32 years and my late husband never contracted it. Much better odds to have sex with me than with someone who doesn’t know their risk factor, or worse, who knows and doesn’t disclose to you. Just saying...

Don’t tell me you’re sorry about my situation, and don’t give in to the hype. Speak your truth and support others who are not brave enough to speak their own truth yet.

The truth will set us all free.
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