Married or Attached  

GreenEyedBlues 56F
199 posts
7/28/2019 6:37 am
Married or Attached

I don't want to be with someone sexually if they're married or attached - whether their partner knows about it or not.

Even if he tells me his partner is fully aware and supportive, I don't believe it. Even if it were true, I like to keep things simple and drama free. I just want to be with other single people like myself.

Sure, people can lie and say they're single. But when I figure out they're lying, I end it.

NOTE: I'm NOT talking about married / attached people who bring others into their sexual relationship.
Don't care - that's their business. I'll fuck 'em.
I feel bad for their partner but I'll still fuck 'em.
I feel bad for their partner so I won't do it.
If they're cheating on someone, they're assholes. I don't want anything to do with them.
Other - please explain below

GreenEyedBlues 56F

7/28/2019 6:39 am

Just curious. Yesterday I told a guy I wasn't interested because he's attached. He asked me why not. I answered that I try to steer clear of drama and his answer back sounded a bit butthurt.

Luv2bottom4u2 64M  
1828 posts
7/28/2019 6:53 am

I wouldn't fool with anyone if I knew they were attached and that there significant other didn't know about it.
Like you I prefer not to get involved if there is a home problem, but if there partner tells me personally it's ok, that's a different story

1980hwl 50M
90 posts
7/28/2019 7:05 am

I agree but don’t have to worry that often!

Better late then never

MyBaffies 52M
4875 posts
7/28/2019 7:16 am

Nope, it's not for me either.

I don't want to be that third person in the relationship which has to be kept secret, I don't wish to cause deception or lies in the relationship, don't want to have excuses told to me all the time.

Like you said, I don't want the drama of all that.


Link to my blog: MyBaffies

SomewhereSE 64M
312 posts
7/28/2019 7:37 am

If the woman is cheating it’s a flat out no go, finding out after the fact is a deal breaker, I have no interest in having to deal with an angry significant other.

Given that in today’s society open relationships and permission to play is within the range of normal, there is a slim chance I might consider getting involved with an attached/married woman if I can ask questions and be more than reasonably certain that she is doing so by mutual arrangement with her significant other.

Mikemike107015 51M  
135 posts
7/28/2019 7:39 am

I prefer women who are attached but only if there partner gives them their blessing. I find single women become clingy even though I am up front about my desire to only be casual. I will not be with someone I know is cheating. Interestingly enough, I've been talking to a woman for a few months and we obviously share a mutual attraction. I've made it perfectly clear to her that not only will I not be with her physically while she is attached but that I also don't want to be the reason she becomes unattached. Quite simply I'm only interested in being with her if she breaks up with her boyfriend for her own reasons, not because of my interest in her. ✌

Satyr48 72M
1905 posts
7/28/2019 7:54 am

Men are rabid dogs when it comes to sex... You're wise not to believe them without hard (excuse the pun) evidence... Personally, I don't lie, because I don;t have to, but if a woman doesn't want a married guy, regardless, I respect that, and don't press... there's plenty of other women...
A few years ago, my wife would have been 100% with you, but lately her "standards" have slipped, and she isn't as strict about relationship standard... Her current attitude is that she's getting older, and her sexual drive and ability won't last much longer, so she's "stocking up" now...

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...

thinkingofyou12 65M
3853 posts
7/28/2019 8:44 am

It Depends, I see a married woman in an open relationship. I know her and her husband very well and all know and consent. Our relationship is not for everyone but as long as everyone communicates and knows, there may not be a problem.

1_bolt 54M
1 post
7/28/2019 9:01 am

My wife and I have an open marriage. We both like to fuck a lot and I travel quite extensively. Sometimes I may be gone for several months. Because of this we both allow each other to play separately as long as we communicate to the other what we are doing. Sometimes it is just a simple text saying :Hey I'm getting laid".

2Saltie2 28F

7/28/2019 10:24 am

No attached men for me. Even if I met her and she said it's ok.

Love all animals. Tolerates humans.

s2ndegree 62M  
9796 posts
7/28/2019 11:47 am

It certainly lends credence as to why people don't want to be seen here.
To many people these days really never give a second thought even care about the disservice they do to others emotional health!

Using more than all the road!

lediscret31 40M
11 posts
7/28/2019 2:10 pm

Qu\'en pensez-vous ??

C'est plus un site pour s'amuser et se passer le temps que pour faire des rencontre, mais en deux ans j'ai quand même rencontré deux personnes du sites avec qui j'ai eu quelques rapports, et vous ,

Srabon2017 33M
35 posts
7/29/2019 9:37 am

I don't know what is right or wrong?

sicky81 40M
23 posts
7/30/2019 5:26 am


MrRareity 61M  
4504 posts
7/30/2019 7:56 am

This maybe a sex site but I do have my standards. If a couple are swingers that's one thing, and I'm ok with that because all parties involved know. But when one person is married and says oh my husband isn't interested in sex any more, or can't get it up, and the man says that his wife has lost all of her sexual desires. Then do something about it there is help out there for you. But I refuse to go out, meet, or sleep with someone that is married when the other person doesn't know what's going on.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious

hotnhorny4nsafun 60M/47F  
5 posts
7/30/2019 4:35 pm

Well we are attached and have very open communications about meeting others. We dont hide anything from each other at all. She has no desire to meet others without me at this time. I meet others but she is always aware of it BEFORE hand unless its a last minute thing and that happens very rarely at all. Some ladies have said they want to talk to her first to confirm however she refuses to do that because she feels she is forced to give approval to somebody to meet me, and i agree that we are adults and her nor I own each other. We have full trust and openness between us so no need to receive permission from her, if they require approval then I wont meet them.

rh1972 49M  
604 posts
7/30/2019 6:20 pm

I know it's going to lead to some trouble for me, but I will fuck them even if I do feel bad for their spouse - but I won't abide being cheated on myself.

fffinder2000 57M
125 posts
7/30/2019 7:08 pm

I agree, prefer singles for less drama. Also, if an individual is less than truthful regarding one topic, how much of a stretch will it be for them to be less than truthful in regard to other topics?
Last, in regard to profiles mentioning "discreet". I know it signals a red flag BUT the concern is not always in regard to relationship status. Professional and community image are concerns for some people.

Oxygen4fun 51M/50F  
157 posts
7/30/2019 7:24 pm

Mr Oxy is allowed to fuck other women, but we are always together. We never separate. For us, we enjoy the experience together. If the other woman is straight, then we play all 3 that way too. Mrs Oxy has a few guys in her pocket for mfm fun, notice that was mfm, because we always play yogether. One of the guys is upfront and already told us that if he meets a lady, we'd have to take a break or stop with him. We completely agree. Honesty and openess eliminates the Drama! Cheaters are so so sad! We won't have anything to do with cheaters and agree with you completely.

BigBeautiBarb 53F

7/30/2019 7:28 pm

Can these numbers be broken out between male/female? LOL!

Havnfn1971 56M

7/30/2019 7:48 pm

When a female profiles says they are attached or married, I suspect immediately that the husband is bi and I am not interested. Since I never trust a married woman on this site, I stay clear.

nonamiezee 46F

7/30/2019 9:23 pm

It's tight on a bisexual wife who has no interest in anyone else's man. If she has posted looking for a woman (NOT a unicorn or couple), don't assume that her husband is involved and don't presume he has no idea. Sometimes it is what it is and nothing more.

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Soukyan 65M  
17 posts
7/31/2019 3:31 am

I've been really tempted a few times.

But I've only gone there when the guy knows what is going on.

How do I know he knows? Well, when he wants to watch, is one sign ...

oldman1973 73M/36F  
617 posts
7/31/2019 3:44 am

I Phon (F) will fuck and suck any man whether married or attached, I do not care if his partner knows or not. He need that dirty free sex same as me, but my husband is always there, takes pics and joins in.

This is a fucking sex site lets do it. I also do it with girls too in front of my husband but do not do sex without him there. I just love 3 hole sex anytime anywhere we can get it

routerdf220088 63M
54 posts
7/31/2019 6:54 am

its a matter for each person to make

dig76301 63M  
124 posts
7/31/2019 7:21 am

Really, who cares. Not here to care about another's problems. Got my own. Here for some adult fun, to enjoy each other for the short time we managed to arrange. That's all.

DWWD444 47M
15 posts
7/31/2019 11:32 am

Open marriages are probably the way to go

hookerman 66M  
26 posts
7/31/2019 2:39 pm

whoa, lets all remember, this is a site for Adults and Sex, what the other persons situation is doesn't matter, it's not our concern unless they involve you in it.

Attached, married, whatever it is, it's between the two of them and has nothing to do with you.

I do agree some people are serious fuckups and occasionally someone else will hurt thier partner and i've been involved, i feel bad for them but it's still not my concern.

we are grown ups here, it's sex, feelings are going to get hurt, but no one forced them to sign up here, no one forced them to meet for sex, it was a personal choice based on thier relationship and not my concern.

sexydad1167 54M
1352 posts
7/31/2019 3:59 pm

I have been approached by several woman asking me to train them for their husbands and they would fully give themselves sexually to me. That their husbands know and want them trained by another man. They could even spend the night with me on occasion or do weekends. I could talk with the husbands and give them updates on the training. I told them no, not interested. If I am going to train a sub to give away, I'm going to keep her for myself. More importantly I do not want to share.

Breezysmooth33 25M
1 post
7/31/2019 5:29 pm

Don't care just fuck

illtrynow 55M
69 posts
7/31/2019 6:24 pm

do unto others as they have done to you----im fucking

motoneta56 65M
29 posts
7/31/2019 8:42 pm

Creo que todas las opiniones son validas me gusto leer los comentarios gracias

Masti01011978 42M
3 posts
7/31/2019 10:12 pm

I love fuck n what my partner wish as per her wish

fahrenheit451x2 60M
160 posts
8/1/2019 3:20 am

Be in the moment rather than letting all the baggage get in the way. I've been on both sides of the fence and it turns into a willingness to share the risk.

1seeking1 56F
3747 posts
8/1/2019 3:42 am

No thank you, yes amazing how good some people are at deception. I believe in honesty and karma.

bootlacebob 54M
24 posts
8/1/2019 6:08 am

I agree, I don't need the drama and don't need to be the one causing the drama. It's not for me.

naughtyguy1950 71M
65 posts
8/1/2019 7:31 am

Been down that road once with a married woman. Won't do it again. To much drama.

Curiousthatsall9 47F  
11 posts
8/1/2019 10:22 am

Generally I say that's their business but I've learned that married guys are usually more trouble than they're worth. Unless they're traveling from out of town, then they can be fun.

Bluedragon6947 49M

8/1/2019 12:43 pm

I agree with you, I want an unattached person, who needs the BS

4DaBoy 56M
47 posts
8/1/2019 7:40 pm

I am married, but my wife lost all interest in sex many years ago. I love my wife and certainly have no intention of leaving her. News flash - there is a hell of a lot more to marriage than sex, especially after over 20 years together. But, to protect my marital status, I prefer a woman who is also married and has as much to lose as I do. That way there's no misunderstandings and discretion is maintained.

wn2bottom 63M
4 posts
8/1/2019 8:16 pm

It's great with her husband/partner watching or participating! I've been with a few attached/married women alone too and it was fun.

need2knowit2 61M
188 posts
8/1/2019 10:16 pm

you will be surprised on how many married women fuck around behind their husbands back. I prefer married ladies, they don't get clingy.

Azbear1969 52M
85 posts
8/1/2019 10:54 pm

I am married and do have permission to see others just as my wife has permission to do the same. I have been with another married woman and my wife and I have swapped. If the person is cheating without their other knowing, then I end it because don’t need that. If they say that they have permission, then we ask if we can check with their partner if that is true.

sexstarvedme1966 55M
381 posts
8/2/2019 2:59 am

What might have been really interesting is to split the questions up between the sexes. I have a suspicion that the majority of the "I'll fuck them anyway" answers come from the men, but I wonder how many come from the ladies...

h0rnyScubaD1ver 64M  
6 posts
8/2/2019 5:33 am

So, its tough being committed and no sex at home due to medical issues, my long term partner has no desire for sex and it painful. Told me to seek it elsewhere.. Whats a man to do.. Ive been seeking a woman who's other half has ED or something and just needs some good hard sex on a regular basis... Shit happens in life, everyone has a story.. Sometimes you stick with someone for other reasons...
Don't wish to hurt or embarrass anyone, I am attached and very careful.. Life happens...

louisianafun2 44M
29 posts
8/2/2019 7:37 am

Fun is fun...unless you're looking for a spouse.

HornyCoot4 69M  
6 posts
8/2/2019 10:17 am

Well, I didn't answer the married question until I was chatting up a woman and mentioned I was married, she got real pissed. I kind of got a charge out of it, but changed my status. However, it's cliché, but truthful that my wife's interest in sex is minimal.
Consequently, I'll fuck any man, woman or couple that is comfortable with fucking me.

BiGuy4U53 59M
161 posts
8/2/2019 12:10 pm

i cheated on both my wives. all i can say is i would not ruin anybody elses marriage. because in a divorce nobody, i mean NOBODY no i would not be with any one married again

brow6902 56M
98 posts
8/2/2019 2:14 pm

swinging is a lifestyle and if they both agree I am in....especially if he wants to join in and make her even happier!

couple4fun_STL 53M/45F
24 posts
8/2/2019 4:02 pm

Depends on the situation. Poly and open relationships are becoming more of a thing. Cheating is not cool, but sometimes it's kinda hard to tell

fancy_legs 49F  
93 posts
8/2/2019 6:06 pm

I don't care to get involved in anyone that is married/has a girlfriend/ live in FWb or multiple fwb. If they are not truly single they are NOT worth my time. If they will cheat on someone they are already having a relationship with. They would definitely cheat on me. Don't need the drama or heart ache. If they are not happy with their own sex life. Get divorced, change their relationship before hurting someone else emotionally.
Communication is the key....

Funtime__19 31M  
23 posts
8/2/2019 7:03 pm

Cheaters suck

campgdp6969 46M/43F
6 posts
8/3/2019 6:01 am

Every situation is different, so it would depend on that person and situation.


mike1958773 63M
945 posts
8/3/2019 6:24 am

en lo personal soy divorciado lo he hecho con chicas casadas que tienen ganas x mal atendidas o su pareja viaja mucho x acuerdo entre ambas partes se ha consumado sin problemas

swfla56 65M
99 posts
8/3/2019 12:02 pm

I agree No bullshit drama free. Less problems more fun.

FitAndFrisky60 65M

8/3/2019 1:30 pm

Here’s another “poll” for all of you:

If my spouse has no interest in sex (due to physical issues and/or other reasons), we’ve tried multiple rounds of counseling and that didn’t help, but we love each other and have a great relationship otherwise, then my spouse gives his/her blessing for me to get sex elsewhere as long as I’m safe and discreet and don’t fall in love, what do I do?

A. Try a site like this, but not find anyone because they don’t want “drama.”
B. Seek “professional help.”
C. Suck it up and do without physical intimacy the rest of my life.

Note that “get a divorce” isn’t an option here, for those of you who think that’s the answer to every marital problem. 😏

earth2adam4u 57M
109 posts
8/3/2019 5:37 pm

Wow - it seems like most people "don't care". I am not sure that is how I would phrase it but I do believe that people are going to fuck who they want to fuck and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So, any "arrangement" that dose not recognize that is hiding from the reality of life.

LickDripLick333 48M
3 posts
8/4/2019 8:50 am

This looks like a good way to get some free points

rubymn 100F  
406 posts
8/4/2019 9:39 am

As clearly stated in my bio:
"Single/Div/Widowed Only
No Open/Poly/Married/Separated/Attached in any way shape or form.
I'm single and a free spirit who wishes to avoid those dramas."

And still married men and couples message me often. F'n twits.

farmboy499 48M
23 posts
8/6/2019 10:08 am

cheating is cheating its not right especially a freinds wife

couple496fun 42M/41F
45 posts
8/6/2019 3:53 pm

I started fucking a married man cause his wife was a bitch and i kind of like it.

FishersMan67 54M
42 posts
8/6/2019 5:26 pm

why should I worry about married or attached. It's a fake constraint the religions have designed to manipulate people into feeling guilt. Guilt that the religion can then twist to their own measures. So if someone is horny there is a reason and I believe that they deserve at least a momentary respite. Who am I to turn away a horny woman.

Ccuntfucker 31M
28 posts
8/7/2019 10:43 pm

i dont care if its mutual

moviestar7 64M
28 posts
8/8/2019 7:49 am

my best way of doing things.... is meet them for coffee talk with them for a while ..then after a couple of coffee if we both want to do something... we will... but I also ask if they are married or attached... And I tell them that I do not want to hurt them so either I just come friends with them or not … I do not want to hurt them or brake up there family.... I would feel really bad about it ….

Discreetmeetfish 54M
41 posts
8/8/2019 2:24 pm

when it is as difficult as it is to finally meet someone I'm not going to rule out and potential partner based on a piece of information that Is only their business.

vagatariun 64M
118 posts
8/9/2019 6:25 am

Now that is a great question, would be interesting

BiGuy48125 47M
47 posts
8/10/2019 8:42 pm

I'm in an open marriage and she encourages me to find others to be with. But yes, nobody believes me.

18 posts
8/12/2019 12:45 am

it is mutual desire to have sexual satifaction .

armydommguy6 37M
3 posts
8/13/2019 6:20 pm

like married women

themick6982 66M
91 posts
8/15/2019 7:12 am

Only if the other partner is there, as in threesome.

101daydream 56M
66 posts
8/15/2019 7:25 am

I'm one of those guys. Everyone lives in a different world and their are circumstances that drive a person here. I hope u understand that and that we are not evil. Everyone needs to be honest and live by the rules they set for themselves.

buddy5501 57M

8/24/2019 3:32 pm

I believe that there are no instant answers to such a decision. All of people’s reasons are as varied as there are people that walk the earth. I always listen to their reasons before making a decision.

Grangeroanonimo 43M
209 posts
9/1/2019 6:34 am

Quiero un cojin namas

4DaBoy 56M
47 posts
9/4/2019 3:17 pm

I'm married. Wife lost all interest years ago. So I specifically look for a married woman who wants some extra-marital excitement. My take on it is that it is better to be with somebody who has as much to lose as I do - it's insurance of discretion (hopefully). And I do have a lot to lose. I love my wife, and the lack of sex has only made me realize how much more there is to our relationship than what goes on in bed.

truthchecking209 56M
2 posts
9/9/2019 6:20 am

have you been meeting yourself?

truthchecking209 56M
2 posts
9/9/2019 6:22 am

bigbeautibarb, have you ever met a guy in person??

author51 58F  
125928 posts
9/9/2019 7:57 am

I steer clear of the married and or attached ones. I only come from exclusive long term relationships and know how bad it hurts to be cheated on. They do it once and I find out, there is no second chance.. I am no ones sloppy seconds or option..My ex long term did it and I tossed him out.. One has to think how they would feel if the shoe is on the other foot.....

You can never have enough JOY in your life...xoxo


23 posts
9/13/2019 8:04 am

I have had more than 3 women tell me they were separated. One of the women's husband kicked in the door and I had to fight him naked. Another one claimed she had her own apartment and when we walked in I had a gun put to my head. I am lucky because it was in Texas and legally he could have shot me. But, I was bigger and faster and was able to knock the gun away. If a woman wants
to fuck you and she's not happy but is married and living with someone they will say anything to get you to sleep with them.

Punkerelli 41M

10/5/2019 1:20 pm

I only play with couples/ married women. But the husband must know and approve. I do not want to be an affair and be a home wrecker.

With that, I am currently dating a married woman. Her husband knows. We've been together for about 2 years now. It's great because there is no pressure to get married, have kids, buy a house together etc. Our sex life is great too.

I am also free to play with other couples, with ground rules. it is primarily for kinky sex. I do not want to date another married woman, so I do not meet or solicit married women to be alone, only as a couple. #1 ground rule, the husband/partner must be present. Either in another room, watching, or participating.

maybe1932 67M/52F  
43 posts
10/11/2019 6:22 am

If they are far from home and married I'm ok with it. That means they have to be discrete. Most guys like to brag to their friends "hey I fucked so and so's wife" If your out of town it don't matter.

Roxbororomeo 55M

10/17/2019 1:22 pm

I totally understand the objections. Adultery is the only sin mentioned twice in the 10 Commandments, so to many it is a big deal. It is also complicating and usually means that your partner isn't as available as an otherwise single person would be, and definitely limits hosting and sleepovers.

That being said, I cannot help but be turned on by cheating wives. I want to sleep with them and send them home to their unsuspecting husband. I know it's wrong but I cannot hide from the truth. And for the record I am not a hypocrite, as I would fully support my own wife doing it

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