So, does this really work.  

JackJack1971 49M
34 posts
3/10/2021 6:17 am
So, does this really work.


Hello fellow TSdates.com's.
I've been wondering if this site truly delivers. I've been on here for a couple of weeks now, and I haven't had much success. I've used IM and the internal email and i haven't gotten much in the way of responses. I totally understand that members, especially women get a lot of messages. But I've gotten about a 1% response from the women I've messaged.
I'm a fairly good looking guy, at least I think so... lol and I've tried various introductions and nothing!
So I ask if this site works. I would love to hear from you on your experiences and what introductions have worked for you.

1delightfulm69 67M
82 posts
3/10/2021 7:57 am

Welcome....it is "hit or miss" depending on how contact is made. Try not to get your hopes up too high. Like anything on the net...a grain of salt is always needed. Way too many "scams" to deal with is why caution is the KEY word. I'm sure you knew this already. So keep your whits(?) about you!!


BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
3/10/2021 9:42 am

You've been here less than two weeks. If you thought this site was insta-sex, then you might as well delete your account.

I will say what I always say when men ask this question: the sites doesn't "work", it doesn't do anything other than exist. YOU have to work the site. This means you should have: reasonable expectations for what and who you want from here, a healthy sense of discernment, and a boatload of patience. IF the 1% response rate you estimated is even close to accurate, you're doing better than most men who've been here a helluva lot longer. I didn't meet anyone for the first time until after I was here for 3 months. I engaged in a shit ton of conversations prior to that.

I know you didn't ask, but I'll just give you feedback about your profile. Edit it immediately. Your profile reads like 99.99% of the other male profile here. Other than posting a face pic, there is nothing about your profile that should make someone choose you over the other 99.99% of male profiles. For instance, these things are on almost every other male profile, but worded differently:
-"looking for FBW or strictly NSA"
-"Must, must, must!!! Love oral receiving and especially giving."
-"Not looking for multiple partners. Or a relationship." (for this one, it's expecially the "not looking for a relationship" part, which is ambiguous at best)

Your "My Ideal Person" section is also the same as all others profiles:
-"Open to hot sexy fun, Kinky fun, dirty fun..."
-"Age and race doesn't matter."
-"MUST love oral, both giving and receiving!" (repetitive)

All that said, consider this, what would/should differentiate you from all the other men here so a woman chooses YOU? Just my feedback since you asked.

Good luck!

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JackJack1971 49M
21 posts
3/10/2021 12:34 pm

Awesome, thanks for the replies!
@BigLala, I appreciate your feedback, I never looked at other males on here to see what they've written, and didn't realize it was pretty much the same as the others. I will be rewriting my profile quickly!
@1delightfulm69 thank you for your feedback, the small percentage were scams.
Cheers and take care all!


rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
4/21/2021 6:47 am

    Quoting BiggLala:
    You've been here less than two weeks. If you thought this site was insta-sex, then you might as well delete your account.

    I will say what I always say when men ask this question: the sites doesn't "work", it doesn't do anything other than exist. YOU have to work the site. This means you should have: reasonable expectations for what and who you want from here, a healthy sense of discernment, and a boatload of patience. IF the 1% response rate you estimated is even close to accurate, you're doing better than most men who've been here a helluva lot longer. I didn't meet anyone for the first time until after I was here for 3 months. I engaged in a shit ton of conversations prior to that.

    I know you didn't ask, but I'll just give you feedback about your profile. Edit it immediately. Your profile reads like 99.99% of the other male profile here. Other than posting a face pic, there is nothing about your profile that should make someone choose you over the other 99.99% of male profiles. For instance, these things are on almost every other male profile, but worded differently:
    -"looking for FBW or strictly NSA"
    -"Must, must, must!!! Love oral receiving and especially giving."
    -"Not looking for multiple partners. Or a relationship." (for this one, it's expecially the "not looking for a relationship" part, which is ambiguous at best)

    Your "My Ideal Person" section is also the same as all others profiles:
    -"Open to hot sexy fun, Kinky fun, dirty fun..."
    -"Age and race doesn't matter."
    -"MUST love oral, both giving and receiving!" (repetitive)

    All that said, consider this, what would/should differentiate you from all the other men here so a woman chooses YOU? Just my feedback since you asked.

    Good luck!
This is excellent advice!! I know you have changed your profile since she wrote this and I didn't see the original, but I have to agree that you have absolutely nothing in it that says "choose me" to a woman. As for what BiggLala wrote, she is correct. Men on a whole write the same stuff over and over and instead of seeing the site for what it is... a site... they expect it to 'work' and it is you that has to work the site. This is not the sluts - r - us drive through where you order up one vagina, 2 boobs, and a side of a** to go. LOL I am not saying you did or are doing that, but men's ideas of what a profile should read and what they are looking for read more like that drive through order and women are not here looking for 1 dick, 2 balls, and 1 a** on the side. We want MEN, not dicks. You have to stand out from the others and show us, as women and thinking like a woman not a man, what we want to know about. More men just want to know if you have big tits as opposed to women wanting to know you want no strings sex, which translates to us to you want sex and not have to work for it.

Men need a location, women need a REASON. Give us the reason and be Patient!!!!!!! It takes time no matter where you are. If it was that easy to get a partner for anything there wouldn't be spas, gyms, cosmetic companies, match making companies, and dating sites. We would all just be hooking up with anyone that walked by and we all know that isn't happening.


1seeking1 56F
3750 posts
4/21/2021 6:58 am

Welcome to fantasy land. Had you read the profile before emailing? Did you you mention something from her profile, are you really compatible with the profile? Pandemic certainly has impact on this..


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