Are you good in bed?  

Jadzia11 52F  
125 posts
8/2/2021 1:21 pm
Are you good in bed?

I was asked this question today and I was perplexed on how to answer that. If I say the best ever, I am sure that is a lie. I certainly do not feel like I am horrible either.

This is such a scalable question, how does one honestly answer this?

I am never going to be the best everyone has ever had. I am not that unrealistic. I am also not the worst either that most men who have been with me would say. (At least I think based on some of the compliments I have gotten).

I have some pretty damn amazing sex at times. Even great sex one time with someone might not be that awesome next time depending on the mood.

I have also had some really disappointing sex as well. Does that mean I am bad or the person I was with was? Because I have had great sex other times. I can't be all bad then, so must have been the guy, right? I do not think that would be a fair assessment either.

So again, I circle back to how do I honestly answer that question?

My decision.... I am not completely bad nor am I probably going to be the best you have ever had. But based on how you are, it will directly reflect on how I am and vice versa. Together we can make what happens good for both based on discussion of what you and I both like and work from there. There may be some trial and error but overall, we get out of it what we put in.

So if you do not put in any effort, chances are I am not going to put much in either and it is not going to be great (yes there are exceptions to this thought). Because no lie, despite what you have been told guys, size does make a difference. It does not mean bad sex, it just means there needs to be some consideration for what you can and cannot do with it.

But if we both try together, I am pretty sure what happens will be enjoyable and good for both. So in the bigger picture of all of this, my final answer is...

I AM good in bed! Want proof? You need to meet me half way on that adventure.

CoffeewBaileys 64M  
81 posts
8/7/2021 5:47 am

Thats a fairly relative question and to me, its just ignorant to ask anyone.
I may have been the best in bed for some women, but not quite all that for another.
It depends on too many factors.
Getting inside a womans head and finding out what turns her on is most important to me. She will not have great sex if mental foreplay and personal investigation tactic arent used.
But then again, maybe some are happier just getting off and going home.
In my elder years here LOL my physical endurance and mobility isnt all it was in years past. Thats why i focus on satisfying my lady first and discovering all her sweet spots.
Anyway, like i said... its a silly question to ask of some one as far as i am concerned.
Halfway... is fulton?

the sweetness of cream
the PERKiness of caffeine
the ambrosia-like elixir of....

NJGUY08090 55M
4099 posts
8/15/2021 10:13 am

I like to think I'm good in bed and with the right partner we can be great together. I agree it is all in the interest and effort. I also like to think the more familiar you become the excitement should grow too. Push the boundaries a little, have more fun. You sound like you are on the same page a me.

agelesssexylegs 78F
1051 posts
10/16/2021 12:50 am

I only use my bed to sleep in these days

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