The Dick Pic Dilemma
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Posted:May 15, 2021 10:47 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 1:39 pm
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OK, let's get this out of the way: This is just an opinion post. That's it, nothing else.
I have finally been able to pinpoint some of the things I find problematic with the unsolicited dick pic. Historically it's just been an "Ewwww" reaction, but I could never really quantify why it bothered me. We are, after all, on an adult site, why should I care?
Also, I think this is true of any unsolicited explicit photo but let's face it, the significant majority of people who send unsolicited pics are men, and of those I think it's fair to say a significant number of them are of their dick. Ok, so that addresses your "...not all _____ do it".
Also, I'm not talking about what people post or fun hot selfies between people who are having a good time. I'm only talking about the whole idea of introducing yourself with a dick pic when you have no idea if it's welcome, or as I often find on TSdates.com, when it's explicitly clear it's not welcome.
First, it suggests that the sender has zero interest in consent. The recipient has not been given the opportunity to provide consent to receiving pics of your genitalia so clearly consent is not something that concerns you. In my opinion, healthy sex, kinky or otherwise, doesn't occur without consent, so you've just ensured that I am not going to have any interest in anything you might want to do with me. Who knows? Maybe that's your intention.
Second, it suggests an incredibly selfish play partner. The person who does this sends a very clear that their arousal is way more important than anyone else's pleasure. Why would anyone want to play with someone like that?
I long ago came to the conclusion that people who do this aren't really interested in getting laid, but I continue to be perplexed by the number of whiny "I'm having a really hard time meeting people" statements I see on TSdates.com. It's fascinating how often I see this and then go to the profile only to see nothing but dick pics with a profile that reads "looking for fun". If you're not even willing to put out the effort to offer anything of consequence for a partner, don't bitch about the fact that no one is wants to play with you.
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OK folks it really necessary ?
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Posted:Apr 20, 2020 7:48 pm
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2020 7:51 pm
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...to post unsolicited nastiness (not the good kind)?
If you don't fancy someone's profile, pics, interests etc....just move on. It's not necessary to send mean-spirited childish messages, especially if said person hasn't solicited or contacted you in any way expressing interest to begin with.
This , is referred to as "manners", and persons who seem to demonstrate them are a great deal more likely to get lucky, so if nothing else, do it for your own self interest.
If anyone in Redmond Oregon (particularly women) want to be warned off the Dick of the Day, PM me.
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I didn't put anything in my profile because...
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Posted:Mar 5, 2020 9:28 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 1:39 pm
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I'm private - You're on an adult website looking for someone to f*ck . Pardon me if I have doubts that privacy is a real concern here.
I'm worried about my info being hacked - Newsflash. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS CYBER SECURITY. You can take lesser and greater risks, but the bottom line is if you provided enough info to create a profile, you've already provide enough info for a determined and moderately gifted hacker.
I don't want anyone I know to recognize me on here - Sorry, not buying this one either. You can cover your face, change your name, and tell me a lot about yourself without providing details that make it easy to identify you.
Just pony up and admit that you want to check out nekkid folks and hopefully get laid with the least amount of effort possible. Nothing wrong with that, but then don't get upset when people opt not to engage with you.
If you're taking the "bare minimum" approach it's just going to mean some folk don't want to spend time chatting with you because they're interested in something different than what you're offering, don't get cranky about it!
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Thank you for your kind note...
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Posted:Feb 11, 2020 8:43 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2020 8:44 pm
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It's very sweet of you to send me a note via TSdates.com or KIK saying you'd like ...
1. to fuck me
2. to get to know me
3. me to call you "for a good time" or "because I'm in the area"
But riddle me this...
Why should I? You have told me nothing about yourself, either in your note or on your profile. You expect me to tell you all about myself and yet are unwilling to take the time to do the same.
What this tells a woman is that you are interested in her only in so far as she might serve your immediate needs.
This is attractive why?
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How to write a basic profile (Because apparently it's needed...)
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Posted:Jan 29, 2020 6:22 pm
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2020 7:50 pm
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I find it quite interesting how many people don't take the opportunity tell a little something about themselves. There are *a lot* of options folks. You can do it in your introductory e-mail, write up something for your profile, or answer the personal history questions TSdates.com has so conveniently provided. I see a lot of profiles with no picture and some semblance of the following
"I hate these things, I never know what to say with these things, these things are stupid..."
Ok. Want to know how to write a simple basic profile? Here is a template.
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Hi. My is (doesn't have be your real folks). I am a (man/woman/nb) seeking a (insert desired relationship type here).
I like (insert or more: favorite hobby, activity, , game, movie, celebrity, conversational topic)
because (this tells the reader a bit about how you think).
I am from (location). I'm looking for someone (local/not local). I (am/am not) willing to travel.
Sexually I like (men, women, vanilla, BDSM, sex toys, cuddling etc.)
*Note: This is of course optional but will increase your odds of a response.
Sexually I do not like (men, women, vanilla, BDSM, sex toys, cuddling etc.)
*Note: This is of course optional but will increase your odds of a response.
I communicate best by (writing, text, phone, in person).
I want to know what you are looking for. I'd like to know...
Your name
What you like (insert or more: favorite hobby, activity, , game, movie, celebrity, conversational topic)
because (this shows you give a flying f*ck about what this person is interested in)
I am interested in where you are from. I want to know if you are looking for someone (local/not local). I want to know if you (are/are not) willing to travel.
What do you like sexually? (men, women, vanilla, BDSM, sex toys, cuddling etc.)
*Note: This is of course optional but will increase your odds of a response.
What do you not like sexually? (men, women, vanilla, BDSM, sex toys, cuddling etc.)
*Note: This is of course optional but will increase your odds of a response.
How do you communicate best? (writing, text, phone, in person)
Please reach out if you are interested. If I don't hear from you in (insert # of days here), I will take that as a lack of interest and wish you the best.
Sincerely,
(Insert here, see caveat re: real above)
Now upload at least realistic photo of yourself and post the f*cker.
You're welcome.
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Reasons you might not hear back from me...
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Posted:Jan 17, 2020 9:58 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 1:39 pm
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You dick pics and nothing else...meaning you didn't take the time to read my profile.
You write "Hi" AND pictures of your dick...meaning you didn't take the time to read my profile.
You say "Tell me more about you" without telling me anything about yourself, without creating your own profile or posting images of something other than your dick...meaning you didn't take the time to read my profile.
You say "You should write me" without telling me what's in it for me...meaning you didn't take the time to read my profile.
You write to ask me what I'm interested in/looking for/into...meaning you didn't take the time to read my profile.
It's a theme. I'm just sayin'...
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What do Women Want?
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Posted:Aug 24, 2019 2:58 pm
Last Updated:May 15, 2021 10:48 am
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I'm just going share this as own personal perspective and experience. This is based on what I hear from friends and what I've seen myself.
I can't tell you how many times a man has said "God I just wish she'd tell me what she wants". I can't tell you how many times a woman has said "I tell him what I want but then I'm a demanding bitch!"
Here's the thing. In my experience "Tell me what you want"; usually means "Tell me what I need do for you get into your pussy". That is not the thing as "Tell me what you want". If you're not having success there is a very high probability that you're not being honest with yourself or her about what you're asking.
There is *nothing* wrong with the second question, nothing inherently wrong with it *at all*. Just be honest with her and yourself about which question you're asking. if you're looking for different things, move on, find a lady is looking just get laid as much as you are and has no real interest in any intellectual or emotional exchange. Believe they're there. There are plenty of women just fucking love sex and aren't interested in anything else. If you're honest with yourself about the fact that that's what you're looking for, you'll have much better luck 
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