Self Importance  

New2Midlo 52M  
727 posts
9/17/2021 5:55 pm

Last Read:
9/26/2021 7:22 am

Self Importance


You were in my 'recently visited' category as 'interested/visited’ - a site ploy. This does not mean that you are fake/not real, just that the ’supposed visit’ never truly may have happened. The site time-stamps all visits - could be even from a bio appearing on your homepage, or you in chat or w/e, hence a 'site ploy'. Anyway, I'm not interested, but thanks for stopping by, and good luck! Just clearing the queue. PLEASE- Do Not Reply. Seriously. Adios.

I received the above message earlier today and like many other things in my life, it pissed me off. Why would you feel the need to send me a note indicating you aren't interested, solely because the site spoofed my visit to your profile, you self-important bitch? If you're fairly certain it was TSdates.com doing TSdates.com things, did you really need to make sure I knew you weren't interested?

Of course, I attempted to tell her to fuck off, because she told me not to reply, but somehow, she disabled replies to her messages. If it weren't a breach of generally accepted protocol, I'd out her right here, because she deserves it. Yes, I realize copy pasting messages is also a breach, but I'm surprisingly out of fucks to give at the moment.

New2Midlo 52M  
1037 posts
9/17/2021 5:55 pm

Sorry, I'm not interested in you


OldStandardDudeX 69M  
120 posts
9/17/2021 9:29 pm

I am challenged by this...instances that reach out and poke me....I so want to poke back....and yet the reality is that these people won't get it , they are beyond rational suggestions,....lost causes....and so I take a deep breath and step away....

I am getting seriously grumpy as the years go by....


New2Midlo replies on 9/18/2021 12:17 pm:
You're likely correct. She also blocked me from viewing her profile, but what I could see on the hover preview, she's a bit touched. Lead off about plandemic and various other conspiracy babble.

I'm so upset she's not interested in me...

COguy81416 44M
10 posts
9/17/2021 10:58 pm

That was a nice way of saying “piss off” by her. But that doesn’t mean you any less of a person. When it happens to me. I just shrug shoulders and move on.


New2Midlo replies on 9/18/2021 12:22 pm:
It would only be slightly demoralizing to be rejected by such an amazing catch, except I neither possessed nor showed any interest in her.

nsnguystill 69M
390 posts
9/18/2021 2:55 am

venting is good/bad
it makes you feel like you got the last word in/ it lets the world see how easily you are thrown off balance
bonne vie

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


New2Midlo replies on 9/18/2021 12:23 pm:
Hence why I have a blog. Funny, I hated that an ex of mine was a blogger, because of the license it gave her to peddle revisionist history to her readers, many of whom knew me.

bustinout20202 64F  
936 posts
9/18/2021 9:05 am

"just clearing the queue"???! who the f*ck has time to clear their queue???

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


New2Midlo replies on 9/18/2021 12:27 pm:
I think a large chunk of men have ample time to clear theirs, not because they lack other ways to fill said time, but because a queue doesn't exist.

With the exception of engaging blog responses, mine was cleared before I woke up this morning.

BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
9/18/2021 11:54 am

I could see IF you had messaged her first. But as other women have said here...WTF?!?!?!

That said...in a *way*, I get it. You never know whether a guy is actually going to message you, and what he'll say. This is like the guys who message you JUST because they think you looked at their profile. Ummmm...nope, it was a roll-over, I didn't view you. Hence...why many women--like me--view profiles invisibly. In either instance, we have egos at play.

Oh and yeah, this, "...somehow, she disabled replies to her messages, means she blocked you. Yep, she has a need to feel important. Bless her heart, poor thang!

Need a way to message ALL members?...click here for helpful instructions in setting up a private messaging blog post.


seems6666 51F
4759 posts
9/18/2021 12:24 pm

I'd LIKE a queue


New2Midlo replies on 9/18/2021 5:27 pm:
I'm with you!

Although I did get a note from a woman out of both my age and distance criteria inviting me to come to the dark or well caramel side.

If only the amazing Lala would send me such an invitation.

New2Midlo 52M  
1037 posts
9/18/2021 5:25 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    I could see IF you had messaged her first. But as other women have said here...WTF?!?!?!

    That said...in a *way*, I get it. You never know whether a guy is actually going to message you, and what he'll say. This is like the guys who message you JUST because they think you looked at their profile. Ummmm...nope, it was a roll-over, I didn't view you. Hence...why many women--like me--view profiles invisibly. In either instance, we have egos at play.

    Oh and yeah, this, "...somehow, she disabled replies to her messages, means she blocked you. Yep, she has a need to feel important. Bless her heart, poor thang!
Re: browsing invisibly - I've had that setting checked for as long as I've been on the site and just confirmed it hasn't changed.

OMG, she blocked me??? However will my fragile ego recover after being rejected by a woman who didn't appear on my radar in the first place?

Okay, I'm over it...baking cookies with an absolute fuck you amount of really good chocolate chips.


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
9/19/2021 8:45 am

If only the amazing Lala would send me such an invitation.
-So what...asking you to marry me doesn't count?!?!?!?


Need a way to message ALL members?...click here for helpful instructions in setting up a private messaging blog post.


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
9/19/2021 8:46 am

    Quoting New2Midlo:
    Re: browsing invisibly - I've had that setting checked for as long as I've been on the site and just confirmed it hasn't changed.

    OMG, she blocked me??? However will my fragile ego recover after being rejected by a woman who didn't appear on my radar in the first place?

    Okay, I'm over it...baking cookies with an absolute fuck you amount of really good chocolate chips.
Don't be talking to me about fresh-baked chocolate chip cookies if you're not going to share. Greedy!

Need a way to message ALL members?...click here for helpful instructions in setting up a private messaging blog post.


New2Midlo 52M  
1037 posts
9/19/2021 9:01 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    If only the amazing Lala would send me such an invitation.
    -So what...asking you to marry me doesn't count?!?!?!?

If only I could dream of such bliss. Perhaps, I should concentrate my job search in OKC in order to make it a reality.

In the meantime, next time I'm about to make cookies, I'll ask you to pm your address and will send you a lovely care package. Or perhaps, I'll deliver them personally.


CL_Love 49M/48F
385 posts
9/20/2021 11:52 am

I know that the site causes people to have appeared to "view" people who have never done so (or at the most hovered briefly over a picture just long enough to see it at a size that doesn't require bifocals). I like you said...even if you did actually do anything indicating interest...why be such a bitch? I don't do anything other than reply with a simple...not interested thank you (if I have the points to IM). Weird. I would've outed such a bitch myself. Uncalled for.


New2Midlo replies on 9/20/2021 6:04 pm:
Speaking of being a bitch, I'm anything but a misogynist, but I used the alter ego account I have on this site to view her profile today and that's the only word I find that accurately portrays this woman. Her profile is one of those where 80% of the content is complaining about what she doesn't want, 10% stating the very narrow criteria she will accept, and 10% conspiracy theory. She has a blog which is solely used to bitch about every transgression a man has perpetrated on her on the site.

After checking it out, I can unequivocally state I haven't so much as viewed her profile recently; it would have stuck out with a mental 'what a fucking bitch' notation attached.

lindoboy100 58M  
23892 posts
9/22/2021 8:08 am

Oh go on, admit McMid, you wanted into her knickers.......!!

She sounds like a lovely piece of work, I know a few who blog who fit your descriptions fairly well!!


New2Midlo replies on 9/24/2021 2:48 pm:
I don't even know who she is!

Become a member to create a blog