Sex and the Southern Lady
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My Views on Cock Size
Posted:Nov 4, 2019 11:27 am
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2021 6:55 am

Men often ask me for opinion on cock size and I'd say the question is more complicated than most guys realize.

I find most cocks are around 5-6 inches and if the guy knows what he's doing he can get the job done with a tool big.

Small cocks are great for anal. Also, if they are not too self-conscious about it, regular vaginal sex can be great but he may have to work at it a little more and be more willing to go down.. It has been experience men with smaller penises make up for it with knowing what do with it, and knowing what do with their hands and mouths too.

Big penises are awesome. If the guy doesn’t just rely on size, and is gentle the beginning, the sex is great. I personally prefer bigger cocks. I really enjoy vagina feeling full during sex and I even enjoy a little bit of pain once I’m turned on enough. I like the soreness I feel for a while after. Whenever sore pussy throbs it reminds of the sex I had with the well hung guy and I just get turned on all over again.

When you have a sexual relationship with a very large guy and begin a new one with a much smaller one there is a mental adjustment I often go through. I do miss the fullness in pussy during sex initially and it sort of feels as if something is off. I experience this when I sleep with an ex boyfriend who is very, very large and then follow up with sex with husband, who is smaller than average.

ex is almost 10 inches long and as thick as wrist. It's just an amazing thing see. When we first started sleeping together it was uncomfortable since it took a while to actually fit it in (even with copious amounts of lube) and I was occassionally having to deal with tears or a bruised cervix. Once I got used to it I was able to really enjoy it but it took a lot of practice and even now we have to take it easy or I will get hurt.

With husband sex is much easier do because we do not have do anything special avoid getting hurt. I never have use lube for one thing during vaginal sex and anal sex, which I love, is easy do without much lube either.

If I had choice I do prefer large cocks but there really is such a thing as too large. And I would tell men with small cocks if they practice their oral skills they can more than satisfy most women.
How I Make a Man Cum And Make Sure He'll Never Forget the Experience!
Posted:Oct 29, 2019 2:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2021 1:59 pm

I was a party recently and several ex boyfriends were talking about how much they used enjoy having give them prostate massages. fact they had nicknamed it the Special. I guess I was flattered but surprised they were so pleased with it. Based on this conversation several girlfriends asked for advice on giving a prostate massage so here is how I do it.

I start by making sure he knows I am the one control of the situation, although I can be very submissive when mood. I love getting a guy who is not thinking about sex suddenly crying for an orgasm.

I like initiate some kissing and touching while fully clothed. After a while, I reach hand down and start rubbing his cock through his pants. The whole time I'm still kissing him. I try keep it sensual and not rushed.

When the lump his pants indicates he is ready I slow down a bit and try tease him. I might even withdraw hand from his bulge completely. Some guys will start get antsy and try get resume but I remind them they do not have any say the matter because I'm control and if he wants this it has be done way. For some reason many men enjoy being teased like this.

I will usually keep kissing him and resume rubbing the cock until i am ready. Very slowly I unbuckle his belt or unzip him and reach into his underwear in order to gently and very slowly fondle his coc Many men start get impatient here but I never let the man dictate the pace of prostate massages.

When the guy starts calm down I cup and caress his balls with one hand. I might even squeeze them for a few minutes. I find many men feel vulnerable when they cock is while I'm fully dressed and this is part of what makes the Special so fun for .

Next, I move down between his legs and take one of the balls mouth. I try do it just hard enough so he definitely feels it but not enough give up on a free blowjob.

Then I accept his cock into mouth, still doing everything I can do it slowly and sensually. When lips have made the lock, I try maintain steady eye contact.

Initially I take it as deeply down throat as possible order get it as wet as I can. When covered spit and precum I start gobbing on it and really getting into rhythm. I start slow but gradually pick up the pace. Most guys instinctively begin thrust towards face slightly. If and when he comes close orgasm I pull back and may even leave him hanging for a moment before resuming the tempo set by . I may even repeat this several times.

I try keep the shaft well lubricated and fingers rub and tug as mouth and tongue circle and bob up and down his coc In experience most of the feeling is in the head of the penis. this point I am working pretty hard maintain the steady rhythm of mouth up and down around the tip of the penis.

I am also gripping the shaft gently and firmly with one hand while I reach down and start playing with his balls. Again, it helps lock eyes. It’s an intense moment and I often see in the guy's face a sense he is pleading not stop without saying it. This is the signal he's ready for his prostate massage.

When I feel his balls get hard and begin disappear I remove hand from his sack and very gently begin insert one of fingers into his asshole. When this happens most guys stiffen and arch their bodies toward face.

As people may be aware the prostate gland is about the size of a golf ball and is located above the scrotum but front of the anus and it is about 2-3 inches above the asshole. When a men becomes aroused the gland swells up with seminal fluid, which will carry the semen through the penis. The more aroused the man is, the larger his prostate swells and when it is touched all the nerve endings located nearby get a seems cause most men experience a prolonged feeling is as pleasurable as an orgasm but one can last as long as you can continue massage the gland.

With one of fingers I gently stroke the front of the guy's rectum and usually I can feel the swollen prostate because it feels like a small marble but it took a long time figure where it was when I first started doing this. It actually takes a fair of pressure for the guy enjoy the massage. You only learn this through practice.

Usually the guy starts relax and sort of settles into a trance. Sometimes I'll also push the prostate with finger like it is a pleasure button hidden inside his body and most guys sort of gasp a little but in a good way. I usually resume a hand job with other hand this point.

After about minutes I increase the speed of the blowjob and finger rubbing his prostate. The weird thing about a prostate massage is it does not automatically trigger an ejaculation when he cums. If you focus only on the prostate he can cum but a clear milky fluid comes out does not contain semen. If I combine the massage with a hand job it will feel as if I am pulling an orgasm right of his coc

When the guy blows his load I am comfortable letting him shoot it anywhere he wants. If he wants cover my face that's fine. Swallowing it means less clean up so I am happy do that as well. Swallowing also shows a deeper sense of commitment on my part. Like i really took this seriously. In this case I open my mouth and show the evidence that I'm in the process of swallowing his cum and then again after the deed is done so he knows it went down.

Men seem to also enjoy it when I clean his cock and balls up afterwards with tongue and it is a big thrill watching the guy react when I do this. Sometimes it even leads to a repeat performance.

Anyway, these are thoughts on the prostate massages ex boyfriends Special. Love hear if there are any other techniques for delivering one.
Your Preferred Topic For My Next Blog
Posted:Oct 29, 2019 8:07 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2020 1:53 pm

I'm having a hard time figuring what future blog topics most appeal to all the readers there so I decided do a poll understand what you all want read about.

If you select 6.) Other please leave more details the comments section. I'm more than willing talk about any topic people want to hear about.

Sex tips
My sexual bio
Random thoughts about sex
Details about my open marriage
A woman's perspective about sex
2 Comments , 25 votes
What is your favorite role playing scenario?
Posted:Oct 25, 2019 11:02 am
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2019 1:26 pm

I'd love to find out what the most popular role-playing scenarios are. Here are some of mine.
With someone you love
Hot teacher
Sexy nurse
Sexy secretary for office sex
Bored housewife
Sex with a stranger/random pick up
Date you met online
Other - if you pick this one please leave more details in the comment section
8 Comments , 44 votes
Open Marriage
Posted:Oct 18, 2019 1:44 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2019 10:51 am

My husband and I have been exploring an open marriage for some time now and I wanted to share some of my thoughts on it.

We've been together for several years and even knew each other in school but didn't date. Eventually, years later, we reconnected and eventually married. I had had a very active sex life before we got married but for some reason he had not. And after being married for a while our sex lives was getting fairly bland.

One day he found a bunch of my old sex videos from my single days and surprisingly enjoyed watching them. He said it was like being married to a porn star. We're actually very conservative and I had worried he would not react as well as he did. After a while we both opened up and started communicating a lot better about our sex life and I asked if he was interested in trying an open relationship. I was overjoyed when he said, yes!

We established some ground rules. Our main rule is the other one has to approve of our other partners before we meet up unless its a one time thing and we don't plan on seeing the person again. I got started fairly quickly but it took some considerable time for him to have his first date. It's much easier for me to meet men for sex than it is for him to meet women so he only goes on a date very rarely.

I go out regularly and worried his lack of dates would cause him to be frustrated and change his mind. My biggest surprise was finding out how erotic my dates are for him. I’ve come to learn that this is common for many people into kinky sex and various alternative sexual lifestyles, but at the time I had no idea.

Usually if its not too late when I get home he can't keep his hands off of me. Sometimes he is so turned on all he wants to do is have sex with me and this horniness can last a day or two. I assumed the novelty of all this would wear off but so far it hasn't. If anything it is getting more intense.

The second surprise was how much I enjoyed all the flirting and seducing you do when you are seeking new sex partners. I always knew I’d like this lifestyle but I didn’t know just how much fun it would be. I love the flirty texts and the dirty talk over the phone. I like the excitement of putting on a sexy outfit and discovering what a new partner is like in bed. I like that crazy sense of anticipation that comes with a new sexual relationship. Knowing I have a date planned can keep me horny all week long just thinking about it. I really like all the things that can’t be replicated in a long term marriage.

It's hard to describe but I find myself falling a little more in love with my husband every time I come home from a date. But a very important part of all this is the fact that this situation only works because I know he is enjoying it as much as I am.

I'll write more about this in the future.
Ideal Breast Size
Posted:Oct 10, 2019 2:44 pm
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2021 6:54 am

For the men: What is the breast size of your perfect fantasy woman?
A cup
B cup
C cup
D cup
E cup
F cup
Much larger than nature can provide
34 Comments , 244 votes
What Sexually Attracts You to a Woman?
Posted:Oct 7, 2019 2:40 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2021 12:51 pm

Question for the men: What sexual characteristic most attracts you to a woman?
Pretty face
Bra size
Shapely ass
Attitude about sex
35 Comments , 280 votes
Getting ready for that hot date
Posted:Oct 7, 2019 9:51 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2019 7:02 am

Many men have asked me what I'm thinking right before I meet a potential sex partner for the first time so here are my thoughts on the topic.

Usually I'm trying to avoid getting too excited and try to manage my expectations. Before I've decided whether or not to share my body with him I try to clear my head so I can make a serious decision I won't regret later.

I do find myself fantasizing about sex with him before we actually meet but I try to avoid getting too aroused just in case he doesn't measure up and we don't end up sleeping together.

If I think I'm too aroused prior to the meeting I may masturbate just to relieve myself. I don't want to sleep with a guy who may not be worthy just because I'm so turned on I can't say no.

When I get dressed I often wear sexy underwear but classy clothes. Maybe I'll show a little cleavage or wear something a little tighter than I'd usually wear. I often select sexy lingerie because it makes me feel sexy. It also lets the guy know how much I love sex when/if he gets a chance to see me wearing it.

When we do actually meet I'm usually pretty excited but trying to play it cool. Many times I may be pretty wet down there just out of nervous excitement that comes when you know sex is an option if I want it.

It takes maybe 15 minutes to know for sure if I'll sleep with him. I've already posted a blog about the signals I give off when I'm sexually aroused by a man and want sex.
How to pick someone up in a bar
Posted:Aug 9, 2019 9:25 am
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2019 11:06 am

For years, guys have asked me for advice on how to pick someone up for sex in a bar. To me it always seemed kinda obvious but I finally decided to collect my thoughts on this topic and put it in a blog so here goes.

My first thought is don't go after the girl who is the hottest in the room. Find someone who is outside your usual "type." Every guy wants the busty bombshell but you face some pretty ferocious competition if you're going after her. I'm not suggesting you go for the heavy chick, but a lot of guys do. All I'm saying is try something different. Just make sure whoever you end up hitting on excites you in some way. Maybe you like her hair or butt or whatever.

Guys seem to struggle to read our signals in bars and clubs and I often hear them ask how they can be sure a girl is open to hooking up. The truth is most women who go to a bar, particularly if it has a reputation as a meat market, are open to the idea of hooking up with a hot guy. You just have to convince us that you're that guy.

If you approach a girl at the bar and start making conversation and notice she is lighting up to what you're saying there's a fair chance she's considering a casual hook up with you. No one goes to a bar nowdays expecting marriage and babies.

If you're looking to get it that night, wait until you've established that there is some chemistry between the two of you then be straightforward with her without being crude. This way you are not pretending to want something other than a hookup and no one's feelings will be hurt. Women really respect this part.

Lines that guys used successfully on me included anything from "what are you doing tonight" or an unmistakeable "want to go back to my place for sex?" Whatever your phrasing, just be clear about what you are looking for.

Be prepared for any kind of response if you are being honest with her. She may turn you down and that's ok but if she's interested she doesn't need an hour of conversation.

Men complain that women aren't as sexually aggressive and ask why we don't make it better known when we want sex. The truth is most women view hookups as a guilty pleasure and when we're doing the walk of shame we often feel like sluts. In some way by not being aggressive about seeking a sex partner we feel as if we aren't as slutty as one of those other girls we might mock or make fun of.

If you are getting ready to hookup with a complete stranger, safety ALWAYS comes first. For women especially we have so many fears about sleeping with a guy we just met no matter how hot he is. Don't push her to do something she's reluctant to do. Try to accomodate her fears and make her more comfortable. Usually women let a close girlfriend know what they are planning so someone will know where she's disappeared off to. Many women stop drinking once they know they are about to hookup so don't keep buying her drinks. Be cool if she wants to bring you back to her place even if its all the way across town and your place is closer. for her having sex in a familiar place is a comfort.

Most women may be having doubts at this point no matter how eager she seems to be to have sex so giver her a chance to change her mind or even warm up to the idea. There may be issues going on you have no idea about. She may be dating someone or even married and is struggling with the idea of crossing the line and actually having sex.

Sex for women is much more complicated than it is for men. We have to make sure we are truly comfortable with the idea of a one-time hookup and are comfortable with the idea long after the guy has gone off. If we're going to value our body less after letting a stranger enjoy it, we can be opening ourselves up to a lot of serious issues down the line.

I hope you find this helpful. I have additional thoughts on this and will likely continue this as a blog topic. I'd also love to hear your comments.
My Sexual Milestones: dating a man-
Posted:May 5, 2019 8:41 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2019 3:22 pm

In college I had dated a handful of boyfriends and they were all nice guys who my parents had loved. As I prepared to graduate and look for a job my current boyfriend and I tried to figure out what the future had in store for us. He was very open about wanting to get engaged and he’d go to work for his dad but I was restless and didn’t feel ready for that. My parents thought I was crazy and warned me that my boyfriend would move on if I didn’t seize this opportunity. I didn’t know what to do so I tried to put it off. My boyfriend assumed I would come around if he gave me time and agreed to take a break.

Almost immediately I met a guy who would introduce me to kinky sex. He was ten years older than I was and easily the most handsome man I had ever dated. He worked as a personal trainer and had the most exciting body I had ever seen. I still remember him wearing these tight tank tops which showed off his muscles.

Obviously, a guy like this had a reputation as a man . He didn’t seem to have many serious girlfriends but I knew a few other girls who had hooked up with him. At first I was disgusted but a lot of them had crazy stories about all the wild sex they had had that made me envious.

When he asked me out I was surprised because I wasn’t his usual type. He seemed to date the girls who struggle to be a bikini model before settling down to work at one of those breastaurants. And that was not me at all. I was raised as a Baptist and took my faith seriously. I had never hooked up and felt somewhat guilty about the sex I had had with the guys I had dated so going out with him was risky. He was also an infamous player so I agreed to go out with him knowing this was probably going to be nothing more than sex.

I was so wrong! He took me to a pool party for most of the day and we ended up back at his place where he cooked me a fancy dinner. The whole time he was the perfect gentleman and I wondered if sex was even going to happen. When it did happen it was absolutely mind blowing. After several serious boyfriends I had had sex and considered myself experienced but it was clear I was practically a virgin compared to him. We didn’t sleep at all that night and I remember seeing the sun come up while we were still doing it. We crashed for a few hours of sleep before I woke up to do my walk of shame. This is still one of my most memorable sexual experiences but years later he told me he barely remembers it.

I wanted to see him again but assumed he saw me as just a piece of fuck meat. I didn’t want to get my hopes up and didn’t reach out to him. A couple of days passed and I didn’t hear anything until we bumped into each at a fast food restaurant. He acted like we were old friends and we ended up back at his place for several intense hours in the bedroom, kitchen, living room, bathroom and the little balcony of his apartment. I had work the next day so couldn’t stay the night but we made plans to see each other again.

We got together every few days. The sex was always hot and sweaty and could take several pleasurable hours to complete. Initially much of what we did was new to me. I had heard of most of these sex acts and was curious. But there were other acts so bizarre I had never imaged people actually doing them. Gradually I tried just about everything you can do with a partner and learned to actually enjoy certain sexual activities that had been on my list of things I won’t do.

He came on very strong. He told me how amazing I was and how I was the hottest girl he knew. He made me feel like I was the only one for him. I wanted to believe this but I still saw the relationship as a short term thing before he stopped calling. I still don’t know how I kept his interest. My sexual skills were so basic in the beginning he could have done much better with any of the other girls I assumed he was probably sleeping with at the same time as me. It’s still a big mystery.

When we were together he was the most charming person you have ever met. He always knew exactly what to say to make me feel special. I was becoming emotionally attached but was so addicted to the incredible sex we were having I couldn’t walk away, something many of my friends advised me to do.

With all the late night booty calls, his requests for sex in the middle of the day when I was at work or the times I cancelled weekend plans with my friends because I was having sex with my new guy was starting to wear me out. I didn’t know if I was a girlfriend or fuckbuddy so I was leading this double life where I spent most of my free time fucking this guy while not really being able to explain to family and friends what I was doing.

I was turning down legitimate dates from very good guys because I didn’t know if my sexual situation allowed it and this forced the conversation about what kind of relationship we were having. I remember laying in bed wiping his cum off my body as he told me he had considered me his girlfriend for a long while and he was surprised I didn’t know that. I was elated!!

I now felt more comfortable investing even more effort and emotional and sexual energy in the relationship. It was nice not having to hold my emotions in check. I kept my own apartment and a roommate for the sake of my parent but practically moved into my boyfriend’s place. Being so close to each other gave us even more time for sex. We probably started averaging 3-4 times a day and some of these times were several hours long.

It seemed as if we spent all our time together having sex or coming up with nasty, kinky new ways to sexually challenge each other. We did it all. Met up with other couples, regularly went to a sex club and got off as dozens of people watched us fuck, joined several local swingers groups and even explored group sex and gangbangs. The most amazing thing about this time in my life, despite all the sex we were having we were also both chronic masturbators. Sometimes after fucking for hours I’d wake up for n the middle of the night to masturbate. I would even rub one out in the ladies room at work because I was still so turned on.

I was having the time of my life and learning new things about myself on a daily basis but gradually I started to have doubts. Sex took up all our spare time and we barely did anything else. I even started using vacation time to stay home for multi day sex sessions.

I gradually lost contact with family and friends because I was so busy having sex. I was amazed to learn a close friend had gotten married when I hadn’t even know she had a boyfriend.

I was having a lot of risky sex but didn’t consider the consequences. My boyfriend never wore a condom and many of the others I slept with through the swingers groups and other group activities went bareback too. Fortunately I never came down with anything too serious but I was having to visit my doctor more frequently than I would have liked.

All this sex left me jaded and needing even kinkier sex to get off. Even fairly kinky sex became boring to me. Eventually even sex acts that I considered gross barely amassed me and this pushed us to try even riskier sex acts.

I started to develop a sense of shame about what we were becoming as a couple but part of me felt incredibly fulfilled doing these things. I looked at our relationship and realized it was entirely sexual and it didn’t really have much substance. Even worse it didn’t seem to be developing into something new, which I viewed as an essential part of any healthy relationship. Despite my misgivings my boyfriend seemed incredibly happy with how it was going and began talking about getting engaged!

In the end I broke it off because I couldn’t see myself happy in a continuing relationship with him. The break up proved very challenging. For one thing I seemed to go through a sexual withdraw. I had had such an active sex life for a year or so and now I had nothing. For those who wonder I am still close friends with my now ex boyfriend and I hope to share the details of how I survived the break up and my continued friendship with my ex in a future blog.
My sexual milestones 2: initial sexual experiences
Posted:Jul 1, 2018 9:06 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2020 10:49 am

After spending years masturbating I was frantic to start school, find a boyfriend and try sex. Since 6th grade i had had close relationships that seemed possibly open to more than friendship but we were so young and inexperienced nothing ever happened.

I had several boyfriends in school and slept with most of them. I lost my virginity to a boy I knew from both school and my church. Our parents were good friends and fully approved.

I assumed he would give me sex, we’d graduate and go off to college together and get engaged our senior year.

Now this seems foolish but I did feel as if I loved each of them at the time and I was fully commited to them as a loyal girlfriend but there was always a powerful sexual tension. I pushed each of them for sex and usually got it. But it was awful sex and not at all comparible to what I had heard about through friends or on the porn I was finding online. My sex life was mostly 10 minutes of oral and 3 minutes of my boyfriend pumping me until he got off. I masturbated all the time and it was the only way for me to orgasm.

The whole time I was leading a double life. I only told a few close friends I was having sex but denied it when asked most people. I joined a abstinence and even became a student leader for a while. I did volunteer work where I lectured disadvantaged girls on the need to wait. I was praised most adults for this work and even got a award for it. I was a complete hypocrite.

When we first started dating my boyfriends loved my willingness to have sex but after a while they would complain. Some of my boyfriends told me I was a sex addict who needed . Several called me names like slut or hoe and one boyfriend broke up with me saying my need for sex was coming between him and his relationship with God! I took to heart what they said but had no idea how to change. How does a teenage girl change her sexual urges?

I tried to deal with all the bad sex through lots of masturbation. And I do mean all the time. I did it in the morning when I woke up, I snuck off to the bathroom between classes, and often spent an hour or so playing with myself while I lay in bed waiting to fall asleep. I was not having orgasms during sex so I would often masturbate right after sex. Sometimes I’d do it two or even three times with my boyfriend watching me until he’d get bored and leave.

Sex was always on my mind. I couldn’t concentrate on anything for more than a few minutes without planning my next sex date with my boyfriend or fantasizing.

When I wasn’t thinking about sex I was trying to get it. I remember having sex with my boyfriend in the living room while my parents were upstairs. Another time after begging my boyfriend we did it in the ladies bathroom of a local shopping mall. He actually got in trouble and his parents had to take him home. He lied, which he hated doing, to protect my reputation saying he wandered into the wrong bathroom mistake. I didn’t get in trouble but he broke up with me. One of the darkest memories was convincing another boyfriend to sneak out to his car during lunch at school. I spent maybe half an hour giving him oral and a handjob to get him hard but much of the time he was hyperventilating and muttering something about needing to prepare for a test next period.

I did seek counseling through my church but struggled to open up about my sex life since I felt so ashamed it. In these sessions it felt as if I was being told that I was treating my boyfriends like objects to get me off rather than people. It’s true I broke up with all the boyfriends who didn’t sleep with me enough but I rationalized that they should be thrilled to have an attractive girlfriend who was very happy to share an active sex life.

My sex life impacted my grades. I had always been a good student and in school I continued to do well. I did great on tests but always struggled to turn in homework since I was often having sex when I should have been working on it.

The most amazing thing about my school sex life is that I didn’t get pregnant. I wasn’t on the pill and my boyfriends rarely had enough condoms to use one everytime.
The Balance Between Sexy And Slutty When You Have Big Boobs
Posted:Jun 28, 2018 9:02 am
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2019 3:19 pm

Like most women when I was younger I was always very disappointed with my breasts. They were small and I was never satisfied with the way I filled out a dress. But eventually I made the decision to get a breast augmentation and my life has never been the same since.

It may not seem very enlightened to admit but having large breasts are very powerful tools when seeking mens’ attention and even finding dates or sex partners. When you first get used to them your first instinct is to rush out and buy a new wardrobe of clothes to help show them off. After numerous attempts to strike the right balance between sexy but still classy and downright slutty I came up with a few rules and I’m sharing them in this blog. Keep in mind these rules are what worked for me. Other women may have their own and I welcome any new ideas. No one ever has the right to slut-shame a woman just because she enjoys showing her breasts off and this blog is meant as a resource and not a way to put other women down if they made other clothing choices.

The best thing about big boobs is they can actually empower the women who have them. I found both men and women quickly notice if you’re sporting a pair of DDs or larger and they treat you very differently then they do women with smaller breasts. Usually this is a good thing. As you would expect my new boobs gave me more options for choosing sex partners and when I made the decision to share my new and improved body with someone I could perform many more sex acts that only a big breasted woman can do. I can also use my boobs as a makeshift purse or cupholder for the remote control or a cup of my favorite beverage even though it’s not my most ladylike look. I can’t remember the last time I bought my own drink in a bar or club and I’ve even been allowed to cut in line at the DMV, which probably saved me half an hour. All this is great but I have learned the biggest impact on my life was that my augmented boobs give me much more attention than before and this means I have to devote much more time and effort to manage what people think of me.

It’s not all peaches and cream when you’re busty. Having large breasts can put you at many disadvantages people may not be aware of. Both men and women won’t take you as seriously. Either you’re a threat or perhaps you’ve turned down a potential sex partner who won’t let you forget? I had two coworkers’ wives ask the boss to invite me to leave the company. Both coworkers apologized to me and agreed not to be alone with me in the office or during business trips. I had always been irritated by players and their mind games before, but once I got larger boobs I become a prime target for every sexually aggressive guy I met. On dates most men, even the nice ones I met through my church, assume they’d be able to have sex with me. Even though i never dress provocatively I’m routinely asked if I had ever worked as a stripper.

While many people think big breasts are more desirable society is still very leery of women who are seen as flaunting their sexuality. No matter how appreciative people are of your boobs, there will be times when having too much, or in this case, showing too much, of a good thing can be bad for you. I don’t want people to think Im complaining. Having big boobs is awesome! I got my boobs done because I wanted more attention, especially from men. I just didn’t realize how different people were going to treat me and am acknowledging some of the challenges involved with adjusting to my situation.

By dressing classy, busty women limit, even if they don’t eliminate, all the negative attention that can cause a lot of headaches. When I was developing the ideas shared in this blog I worried all I was doing was covering up my new boobs to the point where I’d start to regret getting them. Eventually I realized you can’t hide really big knockers and by using a few tricks I could flaunt them in such a way so as to to appear classy but with enough sex appeal to enjoy the attention they bring me.

Maintaining good posture such as keeping my back straight seems like a small thing but it makes a huge difference. It has helped me change the types of subtle signals my initial body language was sending and helps take the weight off my back muscles. I am a born sloucher but resisting the urge gets easier over time and after six months I never had to think about doing it. Body language I avoid is arching my back in public to stretch my shoulders or leaning forward when I’m talking to a guy because it causes my boobs to sort of dangle off my chest.

Good posture doesn’t cost a thing and I love that but it also positions my boobs front and center. In the right bra and outfit they can’t be missed. A friend told me recently the first thing people focus on when they see me are my breasts and that’s exactly the point of all this.

I wear a lot of tight, form fitting tops but rarely show any cleavage. These tops include anything from a t-shirt in the summer to a tight sweater in winter. I avoid multi-colored tops if i don’t want to camoflage the shape of my breasts pushing out against the fabric. Combined with a nice underwire bra for extra support and to get maximum lift, my boobs sort of jut out and can’t help but be noticed without seeming to be a desperate cry for attention.

Finding good bras in my size is a major challenge and I have to pay $100 for a decent one. The best bras for me have reinforced straps to avoid digging into my shoulders. If wear the right bra and the fabric of my top is tight but still stretchy I can get my boobs to visibly jiggle or gently role on my chest when I walk but the effect can only be noticed by someone looking directly at my chest.

I never wear botton-down blouses unless they have been altered. If I don’t take this step the shirt is either too baggy or too tight across my chest, which causes the bottons to appear to be straining to keep my boobs contained. I end up buying blouses that fit my chest and having them taken in. The tailor I use charges between $20-30 per shirt to don the job right so it gets expensive.

I rarely dress to show my cleavage but when I do I only show an inch or two of the tops of my breasts. This works well because it is a subtle way to catch people’s attention. Sometimes I use highlighting powder on the ample parts of my cleavage so when the light hits them in just the right way everyone within my immediate vicinity will have to stop and look.

One of the most popular tricks to subtly bring attention to boobs is to wear a necklace that hangs low between my breasts. I find myself playing with the necklace with my fingers when I’m bored and this seems to draw even more attention to that part of my body.

It’s a lot of fun using my breasts to get attention but anyone reading this needs to realize some of the attention may be unwanted. It’s not fair to dangle your breasts like bait and then scold men who respond. Most men eventually figure out when a woman is using her body to manipulate them.

These are just a few of my thoughts about this topic but I’d love to know if you have any of your own.

Thanks for reading!
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The Signals I Give When I'm Sexually Attracted to a Guy
Posted:Sep 19, 2017 6:20 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 10:40 am

On many of my dates the guy gets my signals wrong. When this happens the date isn't going to end well for either of us. Sometimes the guy assumes I am very into him and I'm not. But just as often I'm very interested but somehow he does not get the message and we wrap up with a sexless date or we end up wasting an hour or two leaving us with practically no time to get the deed done once we figure out the feeling was mutual.

I hope this blog entry can illustrate some of the signals I have been told I give off or I have seen my girlfriends give off when we have made up our minds to sleep with someone.

First of all, most women are open to sex if we agree to meet at all. It is not a done deal just yet but the guy is halfway there. When I'm thinking about having sex with a guy I'm about to meet I choose an outfit that will showcase my body in the best possible way. I dress fairly conservatively most of the time but if I'm showing some deep cleavage or wearing a tight top that shows off my boobs my dates should assume there is some serious interest on my part.

If we don't feel the chemistry or the mood just isn't right we might start to subtly cover up. But if I'm attracted to a guy I'll freeze to death no matter how chilly the A/C is before I put on my jacket if my blouse is showing off my assets.

if your date is smiling a lot and agreeing with every comment or joke this is usually the first sign she's into you. I know I like to show some appreciation and that I'm enjoying his company when I'm into him. The best way I can do this is to let my date know I'm having a fantastic time.

I've been told by numerous girlfriends that when I first meet a guy and he turns me on, I start touching my face and hair. I've only caught myself doing this a few times but I keep hearing it from people who know me. Sometimes if the guy gets up to use the restroom I have instinctively freshened up my makeup and this may be part of what my friends are talking about.

When your date touches your arm or knee, this is a signal that she feels comfortable with you. This does not always happen in public but if you are meeting in a private location it is a very clear signal.

Another sign the woman is increasingly comfortable is when she accepts a second or third drink. Usually when I'm with a man I don't know very well I hesitate to drink too much, especially if I think there's a good chance the date won't go well and I'll end up driving home sooner than I thought.

Usually before I meet a man I chat with him online for a while and we often get into some pretty graphic detail about what we like sexually. When I'm into a guy and he starts to talk about some of what we've discussed, that can actually be a big turn on. For every woman we like reassurance that men find us sexually attractive so if you indicate how aroused you got from our previous conversations and she responds positively, you're probably going to get sex.

I often find myself crossing and recrossing my legs if I'm wearing a short skirt and start to feel turned on and a little wet down there. Ladies, am I the only one who does this? When this happens I'm not just attracted to my date. I've reached a point where I want to have sex with him and soon!

For most of the women I know, it is rare to just say to a guy we just met and say "I'm incredibly attracted to you. Can we go back to your place?" We are more subtle and I suppose want to be able to back out without embarrassing ourselves too much if the guy decides he does not want to sleep with us. Men should not be waiting for something that obvious and I know this tip may be very frustrating for a lot of guys.

But if a man picks up on the signals I talked about above and is not rude about it there's nothing wrong with just suggesting we go back to your place or someplace we can be alone. A girl could still change her mind but when i get to this point I've already made up my mind and only something very dramatic is going to cause me to change my mind.

Do not be offended if she wants to follow you in her car. I'm rarely comfortable enough to go home in the guy's car on the first date and even had a few negative experiences where I got stranded and had to call for help after we were done.

I hope this is helpful. I'd love to find out if you agree or disagree with what I'm saying. I look forward to reading your responses.

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