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Instant Messenger issues
Posted:Apr 3, 2021 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2021 6:03 am

I've noticed in the past week or so, the I.M. constantly boots m.e. off....
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WTF is up with that?
Covid dating realities of late...
Posted:May 6, 2020 6:24 pm
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2021 12:31 pm

You know who’s really gonna suffer during this social distancing? Guys on dating apps.
Welcome back to courtship, guys. Say goodbye to random hook ups and pointless empty sex. Welcome back to talking to a woman for weeks, perhaps months before meeting up. We’re pen pals now, my dear. We about to get Jane Austen up in here. And no, I don't mean online sex to get to know me because, after all, that ain't real sex! Lol.
Who cares?
Posted:Mar 9, 2020 3:17 pm
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2021 4:35 pm

I don't, lol. IM message sent to me:

Dumbfuq: Penis Preference: Length/Girth? Trimmed/Shaved?Uncut/Cut?

Me: who fucking cares. Your dick is the least of my concern.

Love your dick much? LOL!
Presto changeo
Posted:Oct 11, 2019 8:05 am
Last Updated:Nov 2, 2021 8:33 am
So, I chatted a couple of times this week, with a guy who clearly has no memory of ever chatting with me, lol. He had a pic of himself up, sporting a large tattoo on the left side of his chest. Today, he pinged me on IM with a simple Hi. I do the usual look at the profile, only to see 2 completely different photos, supposedly of himself, sans tattoo. Look, if you are going to steal someone else's photos and claim them as your own, at least be consistent, and have them look the same as you do. Sure, you picked 2 photos that seem to have the same body build as the picture of you with the tattoo however, there are other slight differences between the photos. This guy claims to be educated and a civil engineer...LOL. Anyway, you be the judge....I see two different people

I love it when....
Posted:Sep 2, 2019 9:32 am
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2021 12:30 pm

.....Guys I don't even know, get all pissy with me, and pitch a manchild hissy fit, then throw the, "No wonder you are single" crap me, when I won't indulge them with online flirty games . Well hey, lol, I'd still be single anyway because, online is not real. Paradox? Oxymoron? Oh wait, I's that sense of self entitlement. You do get see a nice guy's true colours rather quickly on here, when you won't indulge him with online play. LOL. But hey, so glad I was able you get off, even though I didn't lift a finger, LOL!
On being E-Maintained/E-Tethered
Posted:Aug 31, 2019 6:10 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2021 4:07 am

So, I am a bit of a researchy type woman. I came across an interesting article on how some men (and possibly some women too) will keep you online for as long as possible. This one is about E-Maintenance, also known as E-Tethering, which are new terms for me. I never knew it was a thing, until I got caught in it a few of times in the past. In fact, it just happened to me with 2 men in the past few weeks however, I am aware of it and was just playing along with him until I got bored of partaking in such a colossal waste of time. People who do this, do so for the following reasons:

Some men do it when they’re in between relationships
He is married or has some sort of a significant other
He isn't who he says he is
Has no intentions of ever meeting anyone
He wants to keep his options open
He wants an ego boost
He is content to jerking off to your photos or just fantasizing about you
He is lonely and online is enough for him
Some men do it just because they can
He is too busy or bored and wants a diversion
He is too broke to take you out or not in a good place mentally
To see how much of a doormat you are
Some men do it to get easy sex
So they can date multiple women with minimum effort

Here we go....

What is E-Maintaining

E-maintaining is when one party uses electronic forms of communication to ‘maintain’ the other party. And ‘maintain’ I mean give just enough table scraps of attention to person to keep them on the hook with the least of effort. Women can e-maintain men but typically e-maintaining is a tactic used men to keep multiple women on a string with little commitment on his part.

E-maintaining comes in various forms and different degrees but don’t be fooled it all boils down to the same thing: he aint into you and he wants to keep you on call at his convenience.

Maybe you guys had one great date and he texts you once a week to say “hey” or “what’s up” maybe he even asks how things are going and uses a little winky face emoticon or perhaps he even addresses you name and uses lots of exclamation points!!!

And every time you hear from him you feel relieved “oh he does like me, I knew he did” Or you think to yourself “aww he’s thinking of me… and he’s flirting…I’m going to send a winky face back!” But weeks pass without any face to face interaction.

Or here’s the other scenario. He writes to you on an online dating site. And you two exchange lots of flowery emails. You may have even become friends on Facebook. And he “likes” several of your posts and it makes you feel like the most witty and interesting person ever! Or maybe it gets even hotter and he “likes” or *gasp* comments on one of your pics!! Your heart flutters and you think to yourself. “He thinks I’m hot!” But he never asks you out.

Now it may sound like I’m mocking you but I assure you I’m not. If either of these scenarios have played out in your life you’re not alone. Chances are if you’re a single woman and you’re over the age of 25 you have experienced this at least once in your lifetime if not several times.

It’s not your fault.

The way I laid it out in this article is really blatant and you may be thinking to yourself “oh I would neeeevverr let happen to .” But the thing is when it’s actually playing out it comes across a lot more subtle.

Often times a combination of well timed texts, flirty emails, and other consistent online contact can feel like a real relationship. But the problem and the danger lies in the fact you are rarely if ever seeing this person in person.

How to avoid being e-maintained

Don’t settle for an e-relationship because you deserve something real.

The first step in avoiding being e-maintained is to change your psychology. Make a firm commitment in your head today no man’s little crumbs of attention are good enough for you. Acknowledge you are better than table scraps. Once you fully commit to and embody this psychology no man will be able to e-maintain you. Once you realize you are worth more those empty texts used to excite you won’t even be a blip on your radar.

Next, don’t into the game. When a guy disappears for a week or more then he pops up with a random or Facebook ping don’t into it! See it for what it is. Realize he is probably bored at the mechanic waiting for his car to get fixed not he just couldn’t stop thinking about you so he finally reached out to you. Don’t give more of yourself than he is giving to you.

If he texts “what’s up” resist the urge to open up and have an authentic conversation via text. He sent an empty text so you should send an empty text right back if you even respond at all.

This isn’t a matter of playing games or playing hard to get. It’s just not a good idea to be investing your time and energy into a conversation the other person is not invested in at all. It will simply cause you to imagine an intimacy ’s not there. So even if it’s something seemingly affectionate like a “hey babe” don’t into it. Give back to him exactly what he is giving to you which is nothing.

Lastly, set clear expectations early on. When you first give a guy your indicate you would like him to call you. Make it clear you intend for him to communicate with you like an adult who is interested in you which means picking up the phone when you two can’t meet in person. You don’t have to be abrasive about this you can be flirty and playful but make sure the message gets across.

If you meet the guy online after emailing back and forth a few times don’t be afraid to state you are no longer interested in emailing if you two aren’t going to meet in person. Usually if it gets to the point where you have to say it’s not a good sign but many a man has gotten away with e-maintaining far too long and will straighten right up if they meet a woman like you who will raise the standard. And if he doesn't then kudos to you for screening him out early on setting a higher standard.

Now’s your time. Rise up and raise the bar, girlfriend for all womankind!! Don’t let yourself be e-maintained again.

Good luck and Happy Dating!
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Women Aren't Having Orgasms. Men Don't Know Why. Let's Talk About It.
Posted:Aug 27, 2019 6:18 pm
Last Updated:May 31, 2021 4:07 am

I have say this...I am absolutely flummoxed about how the majority of men still think women will orgasm during penetrative sex. After all, men climax during penetrative sex, so a woman should too, right? Wrong. Whenever I am asked what favourite position is, I say I do not have one , as I am one of the majority of women do not orgasm by fucking. What!!? So, how do you cum then? ? Ok , the percentage of women do not cum by fucking is something like 75-80%. That is huge. Not so, say many men. I've had women cum by penetrative sex. Well then Mr., you are either lucky you found a woman who has an orgasm by fucking, or else she fakes it. Who wants to fake it? I was looking around on the internet and found an interesting article. It is a bit on the long side, so for those men who want learn a thing or 6, read on. For those who are cock oriented and selfish, don't give a shit about a woman's orgasm or enjoyment, and you are too focused on yours, you may skip this article. One final thing before I launch into it, Squirting...not every woman who squirts is having an orgasm with it. Some squirt because you are jackhammering her either with your finger or cock, and it is rather uncomfortable. Others squirt as they are blissfully enjoying their orgasms. Just sayin'. Now, on to the article. Enjoy.

The orgasm gap is real...and here's how you can fix it.

Sex can be romantic. Animalistic. Should be pleasurable. Egalitarian. Messy, but in a good way. Fun. Often, it’s straight-up confusing. When it comes a guy’s climax, the routine is fairly simple: You get a little turned on, there’s some touching or rubbing or partnered stimulation of some kind, and then when you’ve reached the point of no return—a release!

But women’s orgasms can be as confounding as a Westworld plotline. First we have to feel generally comfortable around you, then remember whether or not we left our curling iron plugged in this morning, reassure ourselves that we unplugged it, then remind ourselves that we’re making out with a guy we like. The blood eventually rushes our genitals, and the touching from then on has to be juuuuust right—not too hard, not too soft, and usually on the exact right spot. Things are going well! We’re feeling it! And even then, sometimes when an orgasm is ascending like a firework—poof!—it turns it was just a dud.

So it’s not exactly shocking read new research in The Journal of Sexual Medicine that says that men have a difficult time telling when (or even if) women climax during a sexual experience. In the study, which looked at a nationally representative sample of nearly 1,700 newlyweds, researchers found that 43 percent of husbands misperceived how often their wives orgasm, in most cases overestimating their wives’ O’s. Remember, these weren’t random hookups but people put rings on it and, barring any 90 Day Fiancé–type situations, had had a few or so explore each other’s bodies.

“The general lack of men’s awareness was surprising,” says Nathan Leonhardt, a Ph.D. candidate at the University of Toronto and lead author of the study. “We were expecting some [gap in awareness], but such a percentage tells us this is a very prevalent issue.”

Why the Confusion—and Why It Matters

If you around, you’ll start see similar data in other less, um, scientific places. A recent survey of 1,000 men by sex-toy start-up Cunni—they make an oral-sex simulator, obviously—asked if men gave their partners orgasms during oral sex. Fifty- percent of men answered yes. But when asked if they knew what their partners liked during oral sex, 59 percent of guys said they didn’t. And then 67 percent said they sometimes weren’t even sure what they were doing during oral sex.

Maybe it’s true that all those men did give women orgasms. But they also could use a lesson in what women want in bed—even if they don’t think they need it. Another recent survey found that 42 percent of men gave themselves an A rating in bed. Nice, guys.

So what’s going on here? Why the disparity between what men think is happening and. . . reality? (Before you go there, yes, faking happens, but you can’t fake it forever.) Not all men are clueless around a vagina. But that’s not say some of y’all couldn’t use a refresher.

Understanding the orgasm takes some practice, but it’s important yourself on your partner’s pleasure, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., the man literally wrote the on it, 2004’s She Comes First. “In practice, there are a lot of orgasm gaps and imbalances,” Kerner says. “And I can tell you that if any partner is not consistently enjoying sex and orgasm, it can have a big negative impact on a relationship.”

Of course, most guys in a committed relationship want please their partner during sex. “In the vast majority of
cases, a husband wants his wife be pleased with the sexual experience and wants her have an orgasm,” Leonhardt says. “Sometimes men just need
have the courage bring up the subject, talk it through, and be willing adjust the things that they’re doing make sure she’s having a good experience as well.”

What She Says

Because how a gets orgasm can be as complicated as trying understand blockchain (seriously, what is it?), we asked real ladies and experts tell us what women want more of in bed—and why it matters that you get it right.

First things first: Women definitely want orgasm, probably just as much as you do. “There’s a big, culturally propagated misunderstanding women don’t care as much about having orgasms during sex as men,” says Kerner. “And that does an injustice women.” In fact, in Leonhardt’s study, a wife’s sexual satisfaction was directly linked the frequency of her orgasms. The more often she orgasmed, the more content she
was sexually.

But there’s more good sex than a bed-breaking climax. As tempting as it is rush P-in-the-V action as the clothes are still hitting the floor, spending some time up her nether regions is worth it. Most women, up 77 percent in some research, say foreplay is necessary for a good orgasm. “The best kinds of sexual experiences I’ve had are when it isn’t all about the sex,” says Zoe, 21. “So often I feel men are in it just for the act of penetrating and finishing, meaning they skip the foreplay, and as soon as they finish, it’s over. Chances are if you finished, she hasn’t yet.”

According Kerner, most women need at least 20 minutes of pre-penetrative acts (kissing, touching, and sexy talk) to get aroused. “I think the mistake that a lot of men make is thinking, ‘Oh, we got into bed, we got undressed, I kissed her for 30 seconds, and now I’m going down on her for minutes, and then I’m going insert penis,’ ” Kerner says. “There’s a whole Act I that’s missing.” arousal takes time, but it’s worth the wait.

When it comes oral, do it. “It’s refreshing when men go down on women,” says Elizabeth, 21. “And it’s better if it’s not a tit-for-tat exchange but an unexpected move, without the assumption of ‘returning the favor.’ ” Once you’re down there, women want you be mindful of your technique, too. “There’s a difference between a poking tongue and a flat tongue,” says Grace, 32. For the record, she’s a flat-tongue fan—it creates a softer touch.

The Moves That Get Her There

Suggestions from individual women are subjective, of course, but they aren’t just anecdotal. There’s serious data to back up what kinds of touches are most likely to make women orgasm. Unsurprisingly, most techniques involve the clitoris, that nerve-packed area at the top of where her labia meet. It’s about the size of an eraser head and packed with thousands of nerve endings—similar to the amount in a penis.

Last year, the Kinsey Institute partnered with OMGYes, a research-based website that educates users on pleasure, in a groundbreaking study that found exactly what kind of clitoral action gets women to climax. Of the 1,055-strong sample, 37 percent of women said they needed clitoral stimulation to orgasm during intercourse, while another 36 percent said it isn’t necessary but that it enhances the whole experience.

The researchers went even deeper and asked what kind of clitoral touching women liked most, and thirds of respondents said they enjoyed direct clitoral touching. When asked about the shape and style of touching, women responded that they like, in this order: up and down motions, circular, side to side, pulsating (rapid pushing in spot), pressing, then flicking. For patterns of touch, nearly all women in the study said they preferred repeated, rhythmic motions. An almost equal said they liked circular motions around the clitoris. May your fingers and tongue never get lost again.

How to Talk About It—with Confidence

Even when you know exactly what most women crave, the truth is every woman is different. woman’s orgasmic heavy breathing could be another woman’s signal that she’s just, well, tired and of breath. And not all women whimper and howl as they’re about climax, even if that’s what porn taught you as a . There’s way truly find what the woman you’re sleeping with likes: You have ask her.

Foreplay can be a great way get the conversation started, says Kerner. “Arousal releases a neurochemical cocktail that disinhibits you a little bit, so use that time as an opportunity
begin communication,” he suggests. As a pre-sex makeout sesh begins, start describe a fantasy of yours, then ask her hers. Or describe the parts of her body you love the most—and then kiss her there.

If you can’t tell if she’s feeling it, stop for a second and take stock by asking
her, “Does that feel good?” If the answer is no, redirect. And don’t worry about it messing with the flow, which can be resumed. “Being attentive is ,” Elizabeth says. “It shows you’re into and into having a great time.” Plus, Kerner says, the way you communicate early on in a sex session (and in a relationship) paves the way for future talks. And much less confusion.

How to please her during every moment - Before

Early in the game, spend time caressing and kissing her less obvious erogenous zones: the insides of the wrists, behind the knees, the earlobes. Soft touches in unexpected areas create intrigue—and give you the chance check in with her along the way.


Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm—it’s science! When you’re doing
it doggy, slip a finger between her legs and move it from side to side, like a windshield wiper. Giving her C-spot some attention is an almost guaranteed way to make sure she’s satisfied.


Some experts say that “afterplay,” the time you spend cuddling and recapping a job well done, is as important as the deed itself because it strengthens your bond. Spend time in
each other’s arms after you’ve both orgasmed—after you’re done -fiving.
The Sad Solicitations We Receive
Posted:Aug 3, 2019 4:21 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2021 4:07 am

This random little gem popped into my inbox, LOL.

Angrydom: Want to fuck you hard sweet bitch!


Angrydom: Want cock bitch?

Me: ROFL!!

Angrydom: You do cunt you need cock up your asshole bitch

Me: Hehehe....You're fucking hilarious man!!! Thanks for the

Angrydom : Does your pussy smell bitch? Bet it does from being fucked so much pathetic bitch still looking for more cock on this site.
Does your mother know you are here bitch?
Would she approve of her advertising her ass men fuck you?
Pathetic cheap

Me: You're killin it tonight...LMFAO!!

Angrydom: Men look at women like you as a piece of meat no respect no more a Fucken hole fuck and

Me: Have you ever thought about taking your show on tour?

Angrydom: You are nothing but another notch on a mans belt

Me: If you do decide to take it out on the road, better have an agent to handle everything

Angrydom: Pathetic looking for cock at your age! Loser bitch

Me: Hmm, it could become quite expensive for you t.o go on tour, you'd have to make some mo ney on the side. Maybe selling cocaine or something

Angrydom: Can’t keep a man can yuu bitch? They use you and your sorry ass
Bye cunt

Me: Ok, fuckface. See ya.....LOL

You're all welcome for this short comedy spot....
Oh, you sweet
Posted:Aug 2, 2019 5:46 pm
Last Updated:Aug 23, 2019 5:53 pm

Billydumfuq: Wanna fuck? 6:23 PM
: Hey! great!! You? 6:38 PM
Billydumfuq: horny..u? 6:38 PM
: I had the greatest work 6:38 PM
: The I had, nothing could top it!! 6:39 PM
Billydumfuq: That's not what I asked lol 6:39 PM
: I couldn't have planned a better myself 6:39
: LOL!!!!! 6:31 PM

Aaaannnd crickets. I guess that isn't what he asked....
Random stuff, lol...
Posted:Jul 24, 2019 2:26 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2019 9:30 am

U been naughty today 3: PM
Unsure if the letter U has been naughty. Perhaps the letter R was naughty instead, I dunno 3: PM
U work 3:18 PM
The letter U might be work, as well as the letters A,B,C, not sure though 3:19 PM

Hmm, well that was short lived. I was expecting a game of letters here, but I guess he ran of words, lol.
What I find funny and ironic is....
Posted:Jul 10, 2019 4:38 pm
Last Updated:May 31, 2021 4:08 am

The men who complain about women who don't meet, are the same ones who feign interest and drop communications within 3 or 4 days. After a few years of being on and off this site, I finally met a great guy online who completely met my profile criteria. He is really easy to talk too as well. That is very rare on here. Communication was going great, and I suggested we meet on our days off during this weekend. He said he'd love to meet, yet he has dropped off. Probably found something new online, lol, and will drop communications with her at any moment then move onto another one. Is it any wonder why women are reticent in meeting you then? Good grief!!!

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