adamcatta88 33M
8 posts
7/30/2016 4:14 pm

when you enter into a relationship and stay faithful but she wont give head .......what to do....

mufdiver69er2 61M  
1899 posts
7/30/2016 5:03 pm

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because no one should have to do anything they arent comfortable with sexually.you can always figure,its her loss.

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FarmGirl6969 58F  
286 posts
7/30/2016 8:23 pm

Maybe should have discussed mutual interests prior to entering the relationship. Hope you find what you're looking for.

rdy2try4 56F  
3305 posts
7/31/2016 7:35 am

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    because no one should have to do anything they arent comfortable with sexually.you can always figure,its her loss.
I TOTALLY agree that no one, and I mean NO ONE, should feel pressured or forced to do anything they do not want to do. I am sure you don't want to just give her cunnilingus and then go away. If you had to do that 3 times a week and receive nothing in return would you want to do it still? How about if your girl wanted you to eat your own semen? Would you be willing to do that? There are many things that people like and don't like and feeling you are somehow entitled to something because you like it and then punishing or cheating on them because you didn't get your way speaks volumes about you.

As for it is her loss, sorry, I don't agree with the egotistical thought that everyone is losing out if they are not with you (that is the royal you). It isn't a loss if one doesn't like it or want it.

There ARE tons of people out there in the world and rather than totally destroy things maybe you should just get out and move on. Life shouldn't revolve around a blow job, just my opinion. Talk with her, find out if there is something that can be done to work around it. The idea that someone has to give a valid reason or a reason good enough to not do it is just poppycock. Because someone doesn't enjoy it is good enough. Whining you can't get your d*ck sucked is really a turn off to everyone though.

This is my opinion and we all have one. If it is that important to you just leave and move on.

rdy2try4 56F  
3305 posts
7/31/2016 8:21 am

BEST REBUTTAL I EVER HEARD: How many men give oral sex to a woman without having an orgasm for themselves? None. How many woman give bj's to men with no orgasm for themselves? The overwhelming majority. Why are women required to show thier love in ways that men cannot and will not. The next time you are too tierd to have sex, ask your man to give you oral sex and nothing for him. Do it as often as he expects you to show your love by giving him a bj. My bet is that the man would be angry, resentful and feel that he is being treated unfairly. If he can do that just out of love, then you have a man who really feels that one should do everything to please his partner. Every woman who is badgered for bj should do this. It would put an end to the self serving attitudes about what a woman should give to show her love. I hate bj's and would never do them. I am not single or lonely. If my partner thinks that women are lined up waiting to give him bj on demand, he can go and find this needle in a haystack. But he better line up because she is in high demand and he may not make the cut.

BiggLala 49F  
30157 posts
7/31/2016 12:24 pm

I'm going to agree with what many have said here...you should have discussed your sexual interests before entering into a relationship. That said, let's be real....many people don't do that, even in this day and age where we're more sexually open than ever before.

Now that you find yourself in this situation, I'd say you have options:
-Discuss your sexual desires with her (openly and honestly);
-Ask why she won't give you oral (without blame or resentment);
-Ask what her sexual desires are that you might not be meeting...and listen (also be willing to try something she wants to do, even if you don't want to...after all, that's what you want her to do )
-Lastly, if you cannot resolve the situation, and getting blow jobs is that important to you, then leave. Find someone who will give you what you want.

I am curious what brings you to this site, if she is aware that you're here, aware of all your sexual interests and whether you met her on here. Regardless, I'd definitely say there is probably a reason she doesn't want give you oral...outside of her just not wanting to do it.

Good luck!

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itsallfantasy 55F  
1080 posts
7/31/2016 2:06 pm

I find it vastly interesting that you claim you are faithful, yet you are here telling women to contact you and they won't regret it. Follow that with you are telling all of us how you have a high sex drive. Name a guy that says he doesn't have a high sex drive and umm.... if you are FAITHFUL why are you telling us this and have a profile HERE?? Are you telling us that you are going to use it as a weapon that if she wants to keep you she has to suck you off?? WOW.. what a guy... NOT!!! I love men that think they can force women to do crap that gets them off and only them and we are going to just stay because we have no other options better than them. Sorry, there is a line of men with high sex drives that won't force us to do crapola so maybe YOU are the one that would be losing something here.

Ladywithatti2d 81F  
485 posts
7/31/2016 2:30 pm

Well guess I am going to chime in here. Perhaps. YOU need to ask yourself. Is that the MOST important thing in your life, a MUST requirement in your relationship? You simply cannot exist without having head??? I mean seriously?
Rather shallow I would say. I can understand someone, anyone enjoying it, but I don't think I have ever read an obituary where someone died from a lack of head. That is a huge problem for most people out there, you get tunnel vision and centered on ONE thing. OHHH HEAD!!! Too bad you have not realized there are a bazillion other ways that you can enjoy sexual relations together with or WITHOUT plain and simple head.

Does it feel good, do you want it, I would venture as you asked t his question its a mighty big part of your sex life. As I am of an advanced age, and have probably had more sex in my married life than you have spent thinking about it, I can assure you, head is not the end all of a sex life.

When two people are in a committed relationship, all of those items need to be talked over BEFORE the relatlionship, no disappointments then no surprises down the line. However, when two people HONESTLY love each other, I don't know any one in my realm of friends or associates that would express that LOVE by insisting their partner do something they do not want to do nor do not like or enjoy. Life and SEX is about TOGETHER SHARING EQUALLY. And no don't even go there that YOU give her oral, but she does not return the favor. If YOU are giving her oral sex, and you do NOT WANT TO, then DON'T!!! The expression of love is CARING ABOUT WHAT THE OTHER PERSON ENJOYS WITH YOU

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