ASMR – Shhh!...Sensuous Listening here!  

bustinout20202 64F  
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9/5/2021 2:19 pm
ASMR – Shhh!...Sensuous Listening here!


ASMR, have you heard of it?

It stands for Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR), sometimes referred to as auto sensory meridian response.

I know, potato, pahtato, right?

ASMR is a tingling sensation that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine. I’ve had that reaction when someone touches my head, which is not uncommon, I’m learning.

“A pleasant form of paresthesia, it has been compared with auditory-tactile synesthesia and may overlap with frisson.” [taken from Wikipedia]

Okay lots of technical terms, but one I can physically relate to is Frisson. Frisson is the name of the autonomic reaction where one gets “goosebumps” on the arms at, say, the sound of fingernails scraping a chalkboard. OMG, I’m feeling it on my thigh just writing this!!

ASMR has been a “thing” on youtube for a while. I never understood the attraction of watching a youtube video with audio in a whispered format. I listened once; it just sounded like the content creator had a bad case of laryngitis.

I don’t get it.

Wikipedia has noted that there are some who report such a euphoric event tantamount to an orgasm…hmmm…maybe in a tantric kind of way, I wonder??

There are now even channels to watch ASMRotica. Yup!

I found an older clip of an ASMRotica pioneer that I read about in researching this.
The vid was about her sucking on a lollipop.

A rainbow lollipop.

A rainbow lollipop in an elongated shape.

Yep. Eleven minutes of her eating a dick shaped lollipop in front of the camera. She’s had about 89,000 views. In another, she erotically eats her chicken salad. 20,000 views on that one. The trick, she said in the article, was to slow the words down; Enunciate. Every. Consonant. Watching and listening to her…well, I just have to say, she gives good sounds!



As I watched the lollipop vid, it made me think of the old “Flashdance” scene where the young heroine is eating lobster with her dashing date in a restaurant. “How’s the lobster?” he asks. “It sucks” her sexy reply, as she slurps the meat…

ASMR runs the gamut in sounds from whispered words to paper scrunching, to hair brushing. Yup, someone actually makes money on a video that shows her brushing her hair for an hour! Maybe I should try that??? To be honest, I never spend that much time on my hair!

But…

I must admit, I fell victim to the mesmerizing quality of ASMR in a youtuber I am currently following. This twenty-something is somewhat of a sensation in the youtube world. She is living off the grid in a tiny house somewhere in my state. She sometimes has to climb a meadowed mountain just to get cell service. She picks elderberries along the way; bathes in a shallow river stream; weaves her own wool for a warm poncho; and farms organically, of course.

Along with sweeping vistas and her cuteness in the river and out, are the correlating sounds. Everything from the flowing water to the carrots being pulled out of the earth, to her grinding her coffee beans and pouring the boiling hot water into the coffee mug is recorded and shared.

I didn’t notice I was captured by it until I made my own coffee after watching her latest video. I listened with intensity as I poured the water I heard it drip though the grounds and hit the glass coffee pot. I closed my eyes for a moment as I heard the gentle rotation of my spoon stirring in the cream. Then the tinkling tappity tap of the spoon as I caught the drips off the spoon into my mug.

It conjured up a radio show from my youth.
Back when AM was king, and the radio announcers were local celebrities. KISN was the premier station to listen to where I lived. Then as now, they would run contests for listeners to call in. This one time they ran an audio contest, “What is it?”, where they would record a sound and the callers would try to identify what they were hearing. They played that audio clip over and over, for a couple of weeks at least. No one could figure out what that sound was! Finally, a caller sheepishly asked, “Is it a plastic spoon in a coffee cup?” It was the right answer and the caller whooped and hollered right along with the DJ that day!

If anything, slowing down to hear, really hear something, has given me a sense of mindfulness that I can so easily ignore most days. It gave me a feeling of meditative calm; of being in the present, the now and connected me to the mundanity of my existence in a fresh way.

Who would’ve ever thought that making coffee could be so sensual??

What about you? Any sounds conjure up peace and serenity for you? Or better, what sounds might turn you on when you really think about it?


~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/5/2021 2:27 pm

ASMR, have you heard of it?

It stands for Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR), sometimes referred to as auto sensory meridian response.

I know, potato, pahtato, right?

ASMR is a tingling sensation that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine. I’ve had that reaction when someone touches my head, which is not uncommon, I’m learning.

“A pleasant form of paresthesia, it has been compared with auditory-tactile synesthesia and may overlap with frisson.” [taken from Wikipedia]

Okay lots of technical terms, but one I can physically relate to is Frisson. Frisson is the name of the autonomic reaction where one gets “goosebumps” on the arms at, say, the sound of fingernails scraping a chalkboard. OMG, I’m feeling it on my thigh just writing this!!

ASMR has been a “thing” on youtube for a while. I never understood the attraction of watching a youtube video with audio in a whispered format. I listened once; it just sounded like the content creator had a bad case of laryngitis.

I don’t get it.

Wikipedia has noted that there are some who report such a euphoric event tantamount to an orgasm…hmmm…maybe in a tantric kind of way, I wonder??

There are now even channels to watch ASMRotica. Yup!

I found an older clip of an ASMRotica pioneer that I read about in researching this.
The vid was about her sucking on a lollipop.

A rainbow lollipop.

A rainbow lollipop in an elongated shape.

Yep. Eleven minutes of her eating a dick shaped lollipop in front of the camera. She’s had about 89,000 views. In another, she erotically eats her chicken salad. 20,000 views on that one. The trick, she said in the article, was to slow the words down; Enunciate. Every. Consonant. Watching and listening to her…well, I just have to say, she gives good sounds!

As I watched the lollipop vid, it made me think of the old “Flashdance” scene where the young heroine is eating lobster with her dashing date in a restaurant. “How’s the lobster?” he asks. “It sucks” her sexy reply, as she slurps the meat…

ASMR runs the gamut in sounds from whispered words to paper scrunching, to hair brushing. Yup, someone actually makes money on a video that shows her brushing her hair for an hour! Maybe I should try that??? To be honest, I never spend that much time on my hair!

But…

I must admit, I fell victim to the mesmerizing quality of ASMR in a youtuber I am currently following. This twenty-something is somewhat of a sensation in the youtube world. She is living off the grid in a tiny house somewhere in my state. She sometimes has to climb a meadowed mountain just to get cell service. She picks elderberries along the way; bathes in a shallow river stream; weaves her own wool for a warm poncho; and farms organically, of course.

Along with sweeping vistas and her cuteness in the river and out, are the correlating sounds. Everything from the flowing water to the carrots being pulled out of the earth, to her grinding her coffee beans and pouring the boiling hot water into the coffee mug is recorded and shared.

I didn’t notice I was captured by it until I made my own coffee after watching her latest video. I listened with intensity as I poured the water I heard it drip though the grounds and hit the glass coffee pot. I closed my eyes for a moment as I heard the gentle rotation of my spoon stirring in the cream. Then the tinkling tappity tap of the spoon as I caught the drips off the spoon into my mug.

It conjured up a radio show from my youth.
Back when AM was king, and the radio announcers were local celebrities. KISN was the premier station to listen to where I lived. Then as now, they would run contests for listeners to call in. This one time they ran an audio contest, “What is it?”, where they would record a sound and the callers would try to identify what they were hearing. They played that audio clip over and over, for a couple of weeks at least. No one could figure out what that sound was! Finally, a caller sheepishly asked, “Is it a plastic spoon in a coffee cup?” It was the right answer and the caller whooped and hollered right along with the DJ that day!

If anything, slowing down to hear, really hear something, has given me a sense of mindfulness that I can so easily ignore most days. It gave me a feeling of meditative calm; of being in the present, the now and connected me to the mundanity of my existence in a fresh way.

Who would’ve ever thought that making coffee could be so sensual??

What about you? Any sounds conjure up peace and serenity for you? Or better, what sounds might turn you on when you really think about it?

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


CleavageFan4U 64M  
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9/5/2021 2:52 pm

Oh, there is no doubt about my "ear". Frequently I'll be watching some old movie or TV show and recognize the actress's voice LONG before I recognize her face (if I ever do).

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bustinout20202 replies on 9/6/2021 6:57 am:
I'll do that too, where I can recognize the voice, but then I rack my brain trying to remember the name!!!

Paulxx001 64M
21892 posts
9/5/2021 3:39 pm

The clocks in my house.
I have nine scattered about the various rooms in my house. In the dark stillness of the night — when I sit in my living room — I can hear many of them clicking. They're all just slightly out of sync, but they all tap to a steady, constant beat. It's very calming and soothing.


jajo696 66F
4024 posts
9/5/2021 6:32 pm

I have heard of it....and im going to look for it on you tube. There are forms used in psychotherapy to bring another feature of focus to the forefront.

For me its the trickling water sound of a fountain in my office. Rushing water , tho i ove that too, doesnt bring the calmness . I long to listen to the waves of the ocean. In fact, 30 yrs ago a colleague was practicing his hypnotherapy and i was his guinea pig...he had me conjure up the sand, the waves, the sounds of the ocean to combat migraines. I still use it all these years later~


justskin1 69M
12792 posts
9/5/2021 7:12 pm

What a great post! I had never thought much of how sensuous sounds can be but then my hearing no longer all that good. I would say that I am more sensually stimulated by aromas and visuals than sounds. However, I would not be surprised that like you after hearing what you posted that I may become more aware of the sensual impact of sounds. I shall have to think about the answers to you last question.

Thank you for this post.

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solareclipse999 58M
42 posts
9/5/2021 10:45 pm

I like your story on asmr - your journey to sensory perception through audio is wonderful.
I Iearned a long time ago (early 70's) through a book entitled Sensory Relaxation which takes you though a journey to awaken all your senses. Touch, Sight, Smell, Taste as well as Hearing.

Next time you peel an orange explore all 5 senses - take your time go slowly - feel everything.

Wonderful if you found a partner to share the experiences - the book explores groups also (sorry to disappoint - not group sex but outdoors in nature )

How wonderful the world would be if everyone slowed down just a little.

thank you


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39291 posts
9/6/2021 1:46 am

Very interesting post.
I love the sound of a babbling stream, waves crashing, birds singing, the rain pouring down and the wind blowing. They are very relaxing sounds.
But if someone scratches a blackboard the noise goes right through me!


lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
9/6/2021 1:53 am

I've heard of that girl in the mountains, though I've never watched her videos.......

I reckon sound is one of the more over-looked senses. I love the sound of the sea......if you stop and listen to the waves breaking gently on the shore, with the birds calling, and the noise of the breeze as is caresses your face.....I often drift off while I listen to that.....but it has to be the real thing, a recording never seems to have the same effect for some reason.

Great post McBusti......and your writing, wow!!

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scoupe42 58M  
12820 posts
9/6/2021 6:05 am

As long as people are kinky, they will creat all kind of gadget and stuff, nothing surprize me anymore.


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:00 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    The clocks in my house.
    I have nine scattered about the various rooms in my house. In the dark stillness of the night — when I sit in my living room — I can hear many of them clicking. They're all just slightly out of sync, but they all tap to a steady, constant beat. It's very calming and soothing.
"...they all tap to a steady, constant beat", says the drummer in the house!
I can't hear the clocks in my house at night...too much snoring, lol!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:03 am

    Quoting  :

I'm not sure what children's book name that is but last name is LOVE-ly I'll have to research it further, I guess.
Thanks so much for stopping by!!
~Busti

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:06 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    I have heard of it....and im going to look for it on you tube. There are forms used in psychotherapy to bring another feature of focus to the forefront.

    For me its the trickling water sound of a fountain in my office. Rushing water , tho i ove that too, doesnt bring the calmness . I long to listen to the waves of the ocean. In fact, 30 yrs ago a colleague was practicing his hypnotherapy and i was his guinea pig...he had me conjure up the sand, the waves, the sounds of the ocean to combat migraines. I still use it all these years later~
yeah, rushing water sends me to the bathroom, LOL! I love the ocean sounds! I have a cd with nothing but ocean sounds: waves, seagulls, ebb and flow. Used it for meditation with my seniors I used to work with.
Thanks for stopping by!!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:20 am

    Quoting justskin1:
    What a great post! I had never thought much of how sensuous sounds can be but then my hearing no longer all that good. I would say that I am more sensually stimulated by aromas and visuals than sounds. However, I would not be surprised that like you after hearing what you posted that I may become more aware of the sensual impact of sounds. I shall have to think about the answers to you last question.

    Thank you for this post.
Thanks for stopping by and for your comments! mwah!
I think we are stimulated by all the senses, really. This acknowledgement of it, especially sounds, gets us to slow down and enjoy the simple things.

Except I do enjoy the smell of salt air in the morning! That's a favorite of mine!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:22 am

    Quoting solareclipse999:
    I like your story on asmr - your journey to sensory perception through audio is wonderful.
    I Iearned a long time ago (early 70's) through a book entitled Sensory Relaxation which takes you though a journey to awaken all your senses. Touch, Sight, Smell, Taste as well as Hearing.

    Next time you peel an orange explore all 5 senses - take your time go slowly - feel everything.

    Wonderful if you found a partner to share the experiences - the book explores groups also (sorry to disappoint - not group sex but outdoors in nature )

    How wonderful the world would be if everyone slowed down just a little.

    thank you
Ummm, peeling an orange, that sounds/tastes/smells lovely! Will do!
Thanks for the read!!
~Busti

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:25 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Very interesting post.
    I love the sound of a babbling stream, waves crashing, birds singing, the rain pouring down and the wind blowing. They are very relaxing sounds.
    But if someone scratches a blackboard the noise goes right through me!
I love the babbling stream or waves crashing too! Must be because I'm a water sign. I love the sounds of birds. I got the hubs some new birdfeeders for Father's Day this year. We've so enjoyed watching their play!
Thanks for stopping by! It's much appreciated!
~Busti

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:29 am

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    I've heard of that girl in the mountains, though I've never watched her videos.......

    I reckon sound is one of the more over-looked senses. I love the sound of the sea......if you stop and listen to the waves breaking gently on the shore, with the birds calling, and the noise of the breeze as is caresses your face.....I often drift off while I listen to that.....but it has to be the real thing, a recording never seems to have the same effect for some reason.

    Great post McBusti......and your writing, wow!!
Wow, McKilty, you are waxing poetic on here!!! I'm going to the beach next weekend, so I hope to get ma fill of of salt air and sounds!!
Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words - made my morning!!
~McBusti

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 7:31 am

    Quoting scoupe42:
    As long as people are kinky, they will creat all kind of gadget and stuff, nothing surprize me anymore.
I know, right?? How can eating a chicken salad be erotic?
I just don't think I could do that with a straight face!!
Thanks so much for stopping by!!
~Busti

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


citizen4722 63M  
73455 posts
9/6/2021 9:20 am

Do geese get people bumps?
There are times when I relish the sound of silence.


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 11:50 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Do geese get people bumps?
    There are times when I relish the sound of silence.
lol! Only when you pluck 'em!
Even silence has sounds...

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Owatalife 65M
1689 posts
9/6/2021 1:52 pm

Peace & serenity for me is the sound of birds chirping away first thing in the morning. I know that sounds a bit corny but nature in all it's glory of any kind offers so much to admire & enjoy if you take the time to soak even just a wee bit of it in.


bustinout20202 64F  
929 posts
9/6/2021 6:22 pm

    Quoting Owatalife:
    Peace & serenity for me is the sound of birds chirping away first thing in the morning. I know that sounds a bit corny but nature in all it's glory of any kind offers so much to admire & enjoy if you take the time to soak even just a wee bit of it in.
Birds chirping in the morning is one of my favorite sounds too! They are getting closer to our house too, because our birdfeeders are set up fairly close to the front door. I like to go out on the front porch in the mornings, have coffee, do some writing and listen and watch the birds.

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Erogedyne 69M
894 posts
9/7/2021 5:43 am

ASMR - I've only been aware of that initialism for a short time. However, I have been aware of the physical manifestation of it for what seems like forever!

I first became aware of it as a young child. I would go into a bathroom, foyer or other hard surfaced, enclosed space, and sing pitches until I found resonances in the space. Finding different resonances would eventually elicit the physical response you describe in your post.

Later, as I started to learn musical instruments, I found that certain passages played in tune would do the same thing. As my life progressed into a life centered around making music, I began to notice that singing harmonies in a small group would often cause that feeling. I became a Barbershop Quartet singer because of the focus on making the harmonies "ring". If they rang true, I would feel that tingling at the nape of my neck and the shiver would run down my back. I began to crave that feeling!

It was around that period of my life when I gave a name to what we now know as ADSM. I called it an "Eargasm". I became and eargasm addict. I was constantly on a search to find sounds that would create that wonderful tingle.

As a professional musician over the decades since my youth, I have consistently sought out groups with which to perform that gave me eargasms. Some groups were good for once or twice during a performance, others would provide almost constant titillation from the downbeat, to the echos of the final chord! I now believe that I have made music my way of life largely to feed my addiction to eargasms. This could also explain why I always wanted a smoke and a nap after particularly exciting performances. (just kidding!)

You can call this phenomenon ASMR all you want. As for me, I will always know it by it's true name: Eargasm!

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