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So you want a date with a CD Sissy?
Posted:Jul 25, 2021 12:06 am
Last Updated:Aug 19, 2021 7:50 pm
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Since diving into the world of attempting to be a sissy (read my profile for that story), I have discovered several things that just ruin things for in the early stages of getting first contact. I have mostly been quiet about how much it gets as I am trying be a good little sub sissy and not make waves. I have posted thins in the past tsdates about how several men have stood me at high expense, but, there are several things that get my nerves. I wanted put a list out there just in case there are any people who would take these things as a sincere ask and try incorporate them into your approach.
Keep in mind that this is more so specific to those of us who are crossdressing sissies and in my case a closeted one.

1. Why do we seek to become a sissy? There are many reasons and paths that get us there and I can’t speak for , but, I do feel we can mostly agree one thing. We have some kind of desire be feminine. Look the definition of sissy understand if you don’t know. We crave a dom guy that will treat us like ladies (or just people) outside the bedroom and like sluts inside the bedroom. Most of us are not looking for a submissive guy who wants us wear the pants… again why would we seek be feminine if we wanted be masculine?

3. I touched this in my profile, but, it largely gets ignored so I will say it again here. Especially for those of us who are not full time fem, and some degree across the board, we are not a pretty perfectly made doll the time. None of us are sitting around dressed for a night out just waiting for you say come over now! It takes a lot of time get ready. And before you say I will wait, it is not like we don’t have a life outside of our sissy life. There is no way at 7pm on a weeknight that I am going attempt get dressed go out.. It would be midnight or after before I would be ready and I have work deal with that morning!

4. We sissies love cock, but sending your dick pics thinking we are going marvel at your cock that is just like the guy that sent one 10 secs ago, and the one 10 seconds before that, then you are mistaken. Again, there is a time and place… If I ask for a dick pic, that is a good time. I personally have my pussy pics on my profile but you have be a friend see them. By no means am I saying a guy can’t do the thing.. post them your profile and I will check them out when I like.

5. Jumping into role in the first few minutes of chatting is usually boring (I admit some may like it) and is usually more fun after getting more familiar with each other.

6. Stop sending IMs at random times with the expectation that we will be able to respond right then. We usually are multitasking with many people at once or working on some other task. And don’t get pissed and tell us you will leave us alone since we are so busy unless you are asking to schedule a time to chat.

7. Stop trying to blackmail us… like it’s some sort of dom role kinky fun… it’s not… there are a lot of stories out there the BDSM sites of asshole doms that did this sort of thing and now it’s taking off as if that is something we somehow want happen! For those of us who are closeted, exposure could cost us everything, but I guess that is the point. This is why I have layers of protection and I would guess other sissies would too. Spend any time in this world and you will have those who try.

8. Not as bad as blackmail but somewhat related, stop exposing us with pics we sent in private. Some don’t care, others do… get consent before sharing photos or videos to others. Again this could have horrible consequences for us.

9. If you want to own a sissy, and I am not that experienced in going this far, but, take your time build some trust and security. It takes baby steps train a sissy your wants and desires. Don’t demand for crazy in the moment photos that somehow prove your dominance after a min conversation.

10. Trust and bonding is the key before else… Don’t try humiliate or degrade her before this foundation is in place.

11. If you want see her in that sexy dress or sexy boots, buy them for her! It takes a lot of money for these items so keep that in mind if you ask them wear something. And the other side of that, don’t get scammed by those always asking for stuff either… there is a balance, be smart.

. Don’t start something you have no intention of finishing! I can’t count the times men have begged me set a date with them knowing full well I will have money for a hotel room and spend hours getting prepped. I don’t care if it was your intention not show, but, the result is you are the scum of the earth for putting people through that, not just sissies. You have no idea the pain and resentment you create for us when we consider men in the future.

So there are my gripes, any other CD sissies want add the list, please feel free!!
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Work Craziness!
Posted:Jul 8, 2021 7:53 am
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2021 8:41 pm
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Not sure why I post news here as most never see it, but, like my profile says, I have a busy work life. Often I will sign on while I am working and reply to messages and such between busy times. Having said that, I can get pulled away in heartbeat. If I do not reply to your message, most of the time it means I was pulled away. I have to admit that many times, when the message times out or goes away, it's out of sight, out of mind for me.
Please don't take this as me not being willing to talk when I can. If I have no interest for whatever reason, I will let you know. Most times the main reason I may not invest a lot of time in chatting is the distance that makes meeting in person a challenge. Online banter is always fun, but, cybersex leaves a lot to be desired. I tend to cut off the distance at around 500 miles as more than that will be a bit much for a road trip that would allow much playtime. And in reality, that distance is prioritized for those within a 100 mile radius. It just gets so difficult beyond that. No offense intended.
If you read this, thank you! Thoughts and comments welcome!
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Chatting with me
Posted:Jun 25, 2021 7:42 am
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 5:20 pm
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For those know me, I have a personal chat server that I have used because the chat here is so horrible (does not send messages, flips offline/online, just never know if the other side got the ).

So for several months, I sort of checked out mentally and let things just float past me. I put my "special" phone in a drawer and forgot about .

Now, that I am getting sort of active again, I have been locked out of my own chat server. Simple error in the configuration will not allow me reset the pass.

So I may be pulling the plug on that server and knows if I ever get the time set up again.. Until then, I guess 's TSdates.com chat. If you are Gold, please messages as they tend work most of the time.

xoxoxo
Rae

Edit (8/11/2021) My Chat server back online!! Took some doing but I got it done!
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Thirsty
Posted:Feb 26, 2021 7:58 pm
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 3:2 pm
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Have you ever stood someone up?
Posted:Jan 9, 2021 3:53 pm
Last Updated:Nov 27, 2021 11:53 pm
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Been talking with other CDs who share the experience of spending a lot of time, energy, and effort; along with a lot of dollars, get dolled up for a guy, only have them never show up.

I myself have experienced this at least 80% of the dates that I make.

I want to better understand why guys do this to us. Is it simply to hurt us? Are you just playing a crewel joke? Do you sit back and laugh after you accomplished your mission?

I am not wanting to throw rocks, I am so far past that. I feel like I can not trust anyone and I am just looking for reasons why men do this to us. Your comments no matter how harsh as long as it is the truth are completely welcome!

If you have experienced this from either side, i would love hear your story.
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Something Occurred to Me
Posted:Dec 3, 2020 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2021 9:46 pm
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I have been having part memories of activities and partly fantasying about future dates maybe where I am sitting next my man and begin caressing his manhood leading into more heavy petting and knowing I am going to go in to unwrap that present! Each time, I began to get so hot, my clitty swells and begins to gently leak.

Mind you, that I am bi and still attracted women too. For some reason, when I think of being in boy mode and doing the same with a cis woman, my fantasy gets hijacked by the thought of an angry woman slapping me with a horrid look on her face.
I know this is not how all cis women are and maybe it’s just something in my experience, but is it just me? Do others feel like it’s completely unsafe approach the majority cis women this way? And I know many trans women could be offended too. IDK, is it just me? Am I just that much of a slut?
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Shock and Loss
Posted:Sep 17, 2020 3:55 pm
Last Updated:Jul 13, 2021 4:49 pm
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Just as I am feverishly gathering resources for my mental reboot vacation, I received word that my long time mentor has crossed over... he has given me so much wonderful advise over the years. Always at the most opportune moment, like when I was struggling with someone who did me wrong, he just looked at me and said, "discernment and testing the waters is always important, after all, salt and sugar look the same at first."
In my much younger days, he committed this saying into my mind forevermore... "Mind what people do as well as what they say, their actions will show their lies."

As I struggled with many fears, he helped me overcome time and time again...

Now that I am going on vacation for a mental reboot and feeling the pain of loss, I can only lean on his words once more:

“To exist in this vast universe for a speck of time is the great gift of life. It is our only life. The universe will go on, indifferent to our brief existence, but while we are here, we touch not just part of that vastness, but also the lives around us. Life is the gift each of us has been given. Each life is our own and no one else's. It is precious beyond all counting. It is the greatest value we can have. Cherish it for what it truly is . . .
Your life is yours alone. Rise up and live it.”

If I am not around for a while, you will understand.
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Keeping photos private?
Posted:Jun 7, 2020 4:14 pm
Last Updated:Jul 6, 2020 2:12 pm
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I understand you want be discrete. That's fine. But if you don't want send photos in a private message to someone who has their photos out there, then good bye!

Seriously, it's like offering to trade a car when you won't provide photos!

Sorry, no trade.. no deal.

Am I wrong? Too harsh?
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Guidelines?
Posted:Jun 5, 2020 10:17 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 3:2 pm
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Now this is taking the fun out of it !

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The Stress of An Incognito Life
Posted:May 23, 2020 5:17 pm
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2020 8:03 pm
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My started a job and is in training. He has a shift from 5pm 10pm. Every time, he has come home early when he was in training! Several times he went work, I would think I had enough time get dressed and at least take some pics. That was not the case while he was in training. Now, he is moving from training active staffing and the last four days he has worked, he worked his full shift! So, I planned out today to try out the new hair.. red and black. I got the black to try out a goth look. my goth stuff is not in, so I have a new reddish dress I was trying out. Did a super fast makeup job that sucked, but, was just going for some quick shots. 10 seconds after I snapped a single face shot, I hear my 's car drive into the driveway!! I can hear him in the house. I locked my bedroom door and started scrambling to get back to boy mode!! along the way peeking out the window see if he just forgot something and would leave again. No.. so I scrambled frantically get well... more like Dad-mode. I walked out act surprised he was home and ask him why he was home early... he was nowhere be found. Checked the drive way. Nope.. his car gone!!
Dammit I am so frazzled and stressed! I swear I am in my own little hell!!!
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Blonde or Brunette
Posted:May 1, 2020 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2021 10:32 pm
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Cast your vote, Which is hotter to you, me as a blonde or brunette?
Blonde
Brunette
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On going illness update 1
Posted:Apr 27, 2020 9:45 am
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2020 6:59 pm
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I will call today a good day! I still have a bit of a headache and tiredness/sleepy thing going . But, its the most clear headed I have felt in two months!! At the risk of speaking too soon, maybe I am rounding a bend. This thing has done this before though. Good day and then back to bad days. Fingers crossed.
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On going illness
Posted:Apr 25, 2020 9:44 pm
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 3:2 pm
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I have given updates over and over to so many people that I though I would just start posting updates.
The back story.. over two months ago, I got cold symptoms that got pretty bad. I went to the doctor, who prescribed me antibiotics. After taking those I felt so much better. Then a few days later another different round of cold like symptoms hit me. This was about the time the pandemic hit and the last thing I wanted to do was go back to the doctors office with the risk of getting covid-19. I sat and suffered about a month and a half until I could not take it any more. It was not getting better on its own.
Doc visit and all checked out good for the major stuff, outside of elevated blood pressure. Did all the STD checks too and they were good. Doc seemed to think I had a secondary infection that was lingering. He gave me another round of antibiotics. This time they didn't do much to help.
At this point the symptoms are a cross between heart issues and allergies.
I have this never ending headache and a sleepy kind of fatigue that goes all through my body.
I have another follow up with the doc and we will see how that turns out.
Will post findings as I get them. I just know I am sick and tired of feeling sick and tired!
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