Past FB Contacts YOU?!  

fkmeallnitelong9 50F  
153 posts
9/22/2016 9:34 pm
Past FB Contacts YOU?!

So many questions when a favorable past FB/FWB contacts you after 10+ years of no contact at all. This has happened to me recently. This is the situation with him then: I was married (everyone knew) and he was single. Now: I am still married and he is NOW married. That in mind--what kind of questions would you ask?

LakeRidgeBBWSeek 61M
3847 posts
1/12/2020 10:16 pm

Ex's are ex's for a reason, whether they be BFs, GFs, wives, husbands, FWBs, it doesnt matter, and 99% of the time those reasons still apply! if FWBs, they may NOT be ex's, but you lost interest for some reason, prob cuz you got bored with the sex. I am in that situation with my current FWB, but she is such a fragile subby I am not sure how to cut her loose without causing her to have a major mental breakdown, seriously! But the sex, which was WHY we got together to begin with, is terrible, and was never that great to begin with. I only recall two ex's I would like to resume funn with, both far away, lol, one in Louisiana (1200 miles away), the other moved back to Australia, so not likely we would ever get back together. Several of my ex's are now married or in committed relationships, at least four have died, including my second wife (so she isnt really an ex), others I have lost track of.
Again, ex's are ex's for a reason, think long & hard before going back in history, as history is always looked at thru 'rose colored glasses" and wasnt as rosy as you remember!

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 1/13/2020 7:02 pm:
thank you for your thoughts

1bighammer1000 56M
4278 posts
5/23/2018 4:35 am

I have had a few fb and fwb over the years, I live out in the middle of nowhere and the main community I go to is about 20 miles away and a small place where everyone knows everyone else. Some how it has just worked out that we are still friends. Pretty much all of my past fb and fwb have gone on to be in a serious relationship or married. There is nothing like sitting around a table in the tavern with 20-25 people and realize you have fucked almost all the females at the table. Ha ha of course we were always careful not to run around telling anyone our business, and today we still flirt when no one else can hear.

Anything worth doing is worth doing right

ProfPlayful 58M
3861 posts
7/16/2017 9:35 pm

We live in a strange new world without wistful thoughts. Thanks to the internet we can all connect with eveyone we even knew (as long as they aren't dead.)

Social media is a new thing and we have no idea what it's going to do to our relationships. I can only guarantee they will never be the same. There is no going back.

In your position I would ask him about his true feelings. He would probably be happy to discuss them. Sometimes relationships end for terrible reasons. He may still be in love with you.

But the important thing is to search your own feelings. If you can envision a future in which contact with him is good for you then pursue it.

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fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 7/16/2017 11:19 pm:
that is so true...thank you for your thoughts media has changed EVERYTHING in our world..

tommyboi44266 40M

3/2/2017 11:20 am

I would be interested to hear what ever became of this?

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 3/2/2017 3:40 pm:
the answer to your question is....NOTHING...he disappeared again as quickly as he dropped off the face of the Earth...strange huh?

Trapper69 64G  
2612 posts
10/20/2016 10:26 am

I'm guessing he met the woman he married and fell in love....he should've contacted you to let you know he wanted to stop meeting with you. Perhaps, he now not getting enough at home, and wants to meet with you again? Maybe he told his wife about the fun he shared with you, and she's interested in exploring some fantasy fun???? Ask him......

About a year ago, I heard from a couple I'd enjoyed sharing many steamy, hot, MFM threesomes with for about 8 years. They decided to take a break, so our fun stopped. We still talked ever so often for about two years then lost contact with each other for almost 5 years. When they contacted me 10 months ago, they told me that they were interested in picking up where we left off. We got together the next weekend, and it was wonderful for all 3 of us. We've gotten together about 15 times since then and it's still going great.

Maybe it could be the same for you?????

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 10/20/2016 10:59 am:
wow, that's great

reallyready46 62M
1377 posts
9/23/2016 11:02 pm

I would ask why did he drop out of sight? Does his wife know about this and why now? I do find it out that he disappears then ten years later he just pops up. Something is going on here and I think it would be wise to find out.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/24/2016 10:52 am:
that is my exact thought

tedscott40 58M
2547 posts
9/23/2016 9:15 am

I would not be confrontational. If you're interested in meeting up, then see if he is looking for the same. Leave the past in the past.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/23/2016 10:24 am:
that makes sense too

Pasionnfun 61M
202 posts
9/23/2016 6:13 am

It is only my guess but I think he is wanting a 3way

]If I ate a pussy today Id be ecstatic
If I ate two pussies today its likely Id die of heart failer.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/23/2016 10:24 am:
I don't think that's it

Yours_4A_knight 57M
1502 posts
9/23/2016 3:13 am

My first thought would be WTF happened, that you had to just ghost of me? Maybe he didn't, but no contact for a decade and thinking you can just stroll back in and pick where you left off is a pretty serious display of confidence.

I am guessing that you knowing his current living arrangemnets means you have spoken some, but that would be my questions, what changed so that you had to drop me out of your life, and what changed that you think that you want me back in it.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/23/2016 10:23 am:
excellent point

Heathen_G 63M
7966 posts
9/23/2016 2:05 am

what kind of questions would you ask? ... "Why the hell did you get married", would be one of the questions. "What's been going on", would be another.

What did you do , since you're saying this happened to you recently.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/23/2016 10:21 am:
I am going to ask that

Nola7011 65M
1021 posts
9/22/2016 11:49 pm

Random thoughts. 'So, what did you think of Bush's war in Iraq?" 'Can you believe we have a black President." 'Anthony Weiner, WTF?" And, the big one, "Hey, what kinda car are you driving?" Just icebreakers.

People are strange when you're a stranger."

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/23/2016 10:20 am:
those are awesome....LOL

daddysmichele 47F  
1082 posts
9/22/2016 10:00 pm

I would ask him what his wife thought about him contacting you, and then ask if she needed to be asked to make certain? I think he just want to be with you to fill in where his marriage is lacking, and it's most likely behind her back. I know it makes a lot of guys mad that I won't meet, and they don't seem to understand that it will never happen until my husband gives his okay. There is a difference between cheating, and an open marriage, to me at least. Just my thoughts.

fkmeallnitelong9 replies on 9/22/2016 10:33 pm:
I agree totally! Thanks

fkmeallnitelong9 50F  
2465 posts
9/22/2016 9:46 pm

I can't wait to read ANY AND ALL of your thoughts...thanks ya'll

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