Why do girls go for bad boys?!?  

greatwhitestud78 43M
22 posts
8/26/2018 7:54 pm
Why do girls go for bad boys?!?

Why oh why oh why???

greatwhitestud78 43M
24 posts
8/26/2018 8:01 pm

I think every “nice guy” has wondered about this... I know I have. Usually, as you watch the girl you finally worked up the nerve to ask out... shoots you down to go out with the @&#hole that is already cheating on his current girlfriend with HER!?!

Many years, more than a couple beers, and beating my head against a wall... maybe a google search or two. I think I have an answer... some is borrowed from head sprinklers online... so consider the source!

Girls want to feel special, picking a bad boy and then turning him into a good guy proves how special she is and how important she is to him. Also, it allows her to live out a fairly text book romance novel story. This sounds kinda crazy when you boil it all down to one little sentence like that.

Is it true? Is it worth the excitement of the bad boy? Is it worth the abuse he puts her through? Is this why older or more experienced women start to ignore the bad boy and go for the “boring” “nice” guy?

Help me out ladies

bitchkitty2017 69F

8/26/2018 8:05 pm

been there done that and its not all its cracked up to be ..I much rather have an intelligent conversation with a retarded moose as opposed to being around a bad boy..they are too full of themselves and always cheating on whoever they tend to pretend to be with..lol

greatwhitestud78 replies on 8/26/2018 10:21 pm:
Lol, we certainly change from experience... maybe not always for the best, but always changing.

Soooo.... saying I’m the retarded moose?!? Lmao!

mufdiver69er2 61M  
1807 posts
8/26/2018 8:10 pm

god help em...they cant help themselves,it seems..

woop woop

rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
8/26/2018 8:14 pm

I know many a self proclaimed 'nice guy' or 'good guy' has turned out to BE the a**hole. I know them personally and have watched them complain women don't want them because they are nice guys or good guys and given enough time I know why women don't want them. Most definitely their idea of a good guy is not what women call a good guy and they are in fact bonafide a**holes and I wouldn't go out with them if they were the last men on the planet. People that assume someone isn't going out with them because they are too nice often are not what they seem. I am not making a judgment on anyone, just voicing what I have seen first hand.

rdy2try4 56F  
3304 posts
8/26/2018 8:21 pm

May I point out that as you are a married man that a man cheating isn't what most would call a good guy?? Again, I am not judging, but I am thinking if a wife catches her husband cheating and he is saying he wants GOOD sex insinuating his wife sucks in bed even though he is there doing it as well, why is he not helping HER to have a better time? Why is he doing what he knows will hurt her by cheating? You yourself used the line of a woman shoots you down to go out with the @&#hole that is already cheating on his current girlfriend with HER!?! Okay, so who is cheating on his wife and/or girlfriend yet thinks he is a good guy? Wouldn't that be the guy you just said was the a**hole??

I am again NOT judging, but I first hand know a man that claimed he was all that and more including he did everything in the house. His wife lost interest and he did the cooking, the cleaning, the shopping, everything... come to find out he lied about it all and was a total dick to her and did none of the above. HE thought he was this terrific catch. I just look at men that say they aren't getting any or not getting any good sex from their wives and think they are that bad boy I want to avoid. Just a thought.....

greatwhitestud78 replies on 8/26/2018 10:14 pm:
I think a great deal of what you say is probably very true, and certainly no offense taken. And while you are correct that I did refer to myself and once being a “nice guy” it was very much a past tense reference, as time and experience has certainly changed me. And I do not claim that the change is for the better.

Thank you for your honesty

s2ndegree 62M  
9797 posts
8/26/2018 9:21 pm

Ahhh,The present day perils and the questions that
still haunt those adults in high school esk relationships.
And the classic! self abhorred girl and the bad boy!

Using more than all the road!

BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
8/26/2018 9:31 pm

I can offer the converse for why boys go for crazy chicks:
"Boys want to feel needed, picking a crazy chick and then turning her into a good girls proves how special he is and how manly he is to her. Also, it allows him to live out a fairly text book knight-in-shining-armor novel story."

Now, does that sound kinda ridiculous when you boil it all down to one little sentence like that?

I will say that I'm older with some experience, more than my younger self, and I still wouldn't choose the boring, nice guy. Nice guys really aren't nice, and hardly ever have a backbone. Give me the 'good man' that speaks his mind (even when he doesn't agree with me), does what he says he'll do, doesn't go around advertising what a good guy he is...his actions will speak for themselves...and he is good to people equally, not just the females he wants to date/have sex with. Just my perspective based on personal experiences and direct observations.

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greatwhitestud78 replies on 8/26/2018 10:18 pm:
Thank you so much for your response. I think you are very correct. I have fallen victim to that very situation! And a very interesting distinction between “nice” and “good” perhaps I was never the “nice guy”, and while I am not anymore, I think I was at one time a good one.

Thank you very much, my dear. Food for thought!

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