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A Most Beautiful Boy  

secret_lade 48F
14251 posts
1/9/2022 2:36 am
A Most Beautiful Boy


Have you ever taken a look at someone and your heart just goes....

Pitter patter?

Love at first sight! No words spoken, just a look, a feeling, an all knowing.

This used to happen to me often, when I was younger, not so much anymore. Anymore I am busy, and my mind is occupied, I spend the majority of my day seeing but not seeing what is all around me.

Who is all around me.

The Spawn and I went to the mall in TC yesterday. She'd seen an older photo of me, from back in the days when I used to put forth effort in my makeup stylings, and had convinced me this is something that needs to be done once again!

"Your eyes are so blue! Why are your eyes so blue?!? You should be wearing eyeliner to make them pop!"

The Spawn then went on to demand to know why I cursed her with brown eyes and called me selfish.

Oh, what a stinker.

It was while we were at Target that I spied him..... I was contemplating a clay mud mask purchase when i glanced up.

And he was looking at me.

It was as if I was frozen in place and I found myself staring back at him....

"Mom! You aren't listening to me. You really need to get new brushes. How old is your eyeshadow brush?!? You've been using it for like twenty years, have you ever even cleaned it??"

The trance was broken and I looked over at the Spawn as she continued to give me shit about my 'antique' makeup applicator brushes and lectured me on proper application.

When I looked back in his direction, he was gone. All that was left in his place was a nearly naked mannequin and a woman looking at a handbag.

But it left me wondering.....

What if?

What if I hadn't been there with the Spawn, would I have said Hi? Would he have approached me? What if our paths were meant to cross, it just happened to be the wrong time and place?

I may never know.

I do know one thing, though... The moment I saw him standing there, my heart went pitter patter.

Happy Sunday!

secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/10/2022 11:39 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Good for you! This is a sign that life is still alive inside. Be ready next time, and there will be a next time , life is full of them. Put on that matching eye liner, dress to kill once in a while, go out and strut your stuff, and some day you will see him looking back at you!! Have those eyes ready.. They can say a lot in just a few blinks!!!
Strut my stuff... LOL The Sheena Easton song, 'Strut' totally popped into my mind when I read that. I may need to watch a few youtube tutorials on how to strut... It's been a while.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/10/2022 11:31 pm

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I really like boobwhisperer69 answer as well as jolielaide answer. I will say this I think you're great. You've got a great personality I like how you can sound so toff but deep down you're sweet and kind especially to your children. I have and still do at times get the feeling that you did. It reminds me I'm still alive inside, and that there maybe hope again. So when I go out even if it's to the store I will try to look presentable just "in case".
Ssshhhhh..... Don't be telling my secrets. The sweet, kind people are usually the ones that get hurt the most.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/10/2022 11:18 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I had a moment like that at the store once. I left my cart and started to approach her when she side stepped me and held up a can and I suddenly realized she was looking at her husband standing behind me. Wow! How close I came to making a total ass out of myself.
That would have been horrifying... Silver linings, my friend. Saved by the soup can.


mc_justmc 62M
6929 posts
1/10/2022 4:12 am

I had a moment like that at the store once. I left my cart and started to approach her when she side stepped me and held up a can and I suddenly realized she was looking at her husband standing behind me. Wow! How close I came to making a total ass out of myself.


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
1/9/2022 9:29 pm

I really like boobwhisperer69 answer as well as jolielaide answer. I will say this I think you're great. You've got a great personality I like how you can sound so toff but deep down you're sweet and kind especially to your children. I have and still do at times get the feeling that you did. It reminds me I'm still alive inside, and that there maybe hope again. So when I go out even if it's to the store I will try to look presentable just "in case".

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
1/9/2022 8:08 pm

Good for you! This is a sign that life is still alive inside. Be ready next time, and there will be a next time , life is full of them. Put on that matching eye liner, dress to kill once in a while, go out and strut your stuff, and some day you will see him looking back at you!! Have those eyes ready.. They can say a lot in just a few blinks!!!

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 3:00 pm

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    Was it a youngun?
    I have felt that feeling and wrote about it in my blog. We did talk; cuz his dog peed on my leg!
    But that rush, that twinge, that "be still my heart" feeling...it's delicious fun, isn't it?!
    btw, did you update your brush??
It was not a youngun... He was definitely my age as he was starting to grey a little. He was definitely my type, though.... Not a pretty boy, but a little rugged and manly. And, I did end up updating my brushes. LOL


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 2:54 pm

    Quoting Sakwes77:
    Yes I still have those moments. Looking at it from the other side, I believe that more often then we know, both parties have that same moment when the meet.

    Unfortunately I come to that understanding after the moment had passed.

    I recall one young lady who caught my eye years ago. I guess I was staring at her, and she noticed because she was feeling the same about me.
    Anyway, she looked right at me and said, "I like tall dark handsome men". My heart crashed, I took it she was telling me I wasn't what she was looking for, because I don't see myself as tall, dark or handsome. But she did apparently.

    Many years later, after we were married to others, I saw her again. She said "Hi, I remember you, I had a crush one you since the day we first met."
    I suppose it should have made me feel good but it didn't, I just felt stupid. How could I have missed such an opportunity! She was amazing!

    The thing is it has happened to me more then once. That's why I believe we often misinterpret what others think in such situations. I know I sure do.

    I strongly encourage you to take a chance the next time you have a moment like that, say Hi. You'll know instantly if the feeling is mutual. If he lights up, all smiles, he was having that moment too.
    And if he's not free or not interested yet a gentleman he will be polite and do his best to let you down easy. If he's a player he'll come on strong.

    It's funny now that I think of it. my sisters used to seek my advice on such matters, they are all happily married now so I must have been at least partially right some of the time.
Next time I will smile and say Hi.... What's the worst that could happen, right??


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 2:43 pm

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    It's those moments that give everyone hope!!!! And makes you feel alive! It also reminds us that we aren't completely dead inside!!!
It does make you feel alive.... And a little less invisible. I kind of wonder what his thoughts were....


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 2:41 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    The spawn should be singing that Crystal Gayle song; "Don't it make my brown eyes blue."
I always think of that song when she says that! She's said it more than once... I happen to think her brown eyes are beautiful, but that's me.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 2:39 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    It a new year
    Take time for yourself
    You move to a nicer place
    Pamper yourself
    You work to had
    Deal with to many things
    Day to day
    Go for a day out a massage lunch (on your own)
    Get a make over hair ,done on a Friday
    Then go out see who turns their heads
    Walks up to you talks to you
    Se the beauty that is glowing from you
    And if he ask for your number give it to him
    Or if he ask you ba , to his place go
    And let it all out I'm betting
    you both will blow each other mined out.....
    I sure love to be that guy xoxoxoxo
Would you invite me back to your place.... If you saw me?


citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
1/9/2022 1:31 pm

The spawn should be singing that Crystal Gayle song; "Don't it make my brown eyes blue."


69ereatwetpussy 60M
6778 posts
1/9/2022 11:57 am

It a new year
Take time for yourself
You move to a nicer place
Pamper yourself
You work to had
Deal with to many things
Day to day
Go for a day out a massage lunch (on your own)
Get a make over hair ,done on a Friday
Then go out see who turns their heads
Walks up to you talks to you
Se the beauty that is glowing from you
And if he ask for your number give it to him
Or if he ask you ba , to his place go
And let it all out I'm betting
you both will blow each other mined out.....
I sure love to be that guy xoxoxoxo


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8322 posts
1/9/2022 11:39 am

It's those moments that give everyone hope!!!! And makes you feel alive! It also reminds us that we aren't completely dead inside!!!


Sakwes77 68M
153 posts
1/9/2022 10:41 am

Yes I still have those moments. Looking at it from the other side, I believe that more often then we know, both parties have that same moment when the meet.

Unfortunately I come to that understanding after the moment had passed.

I recall one young lady who caught my eye years ago. I guess I was staring at her, and she noticed because she was feeling the same about me.
Anyway, she looked right at me and said, "I like tall dark handsome men". My heart crashed, I took it she was telling me I wasn't what she was looking for, because I don't see myself as tall, dark or handsome. But she did apparently.

Many years later, after we were married to others, I saw her again. She said "Hi, I remember you, I had a crush one you since the day we first met."
I suppose it should have made me feel good but it didn't, I just felt stupid. How could I have missed such an opportunity! She was amazing!

The thing is it has happened to me more then once. That's why I believe we often misinterpret what others think in such situations. I know I sure do.

I strongly encourage you to take a chance the next time you have a moment like that, say Hi. You'll know instantly if the feeling is mutual. If he lights up, all smiles, he was having that moment too.
And if he's not free or not interested yet a gentleman he will be polite and do his best to let you down easy. If he's a player he'll come on strong.

It's funny now that I think of it. my sisters used to seek my advice on such matters, they are all happily married now so I must have been at least partially right some of the time.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 10:10 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    That moment may have been a Sliding Doors moment!
Very interesting.... I hadn't thought of it that way!


bustinout20202 65F  
1080 posts
1/9/2022 10:08 am

Was it a youngun?
I have felt that feeling and wrote about it in my blog. We did talk; cuz his dog peed on my leg!
But that rush, that twinge, that "be still my heart" feeling...it's delicious fun, isn't it?!
btw, did you update your brush??

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 9:13 am

    Quoting SilverFoxMark66:
    Yes I have experienced several pitter patters in over 40 yrs of relationships, & still do while I'm out & about these days, so yes, these days I even attempt contact if I feel the energy might be mutual, no sparks ....yet, 'tho a few friendships def developing, big warm horny hugs from London UK, Mark x
I do subscribe to the philosophy that if something was meant to be, it will be. Perhaps one day I'll find the one that was... Meant to be.

I hope.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 9:03 am

    Quoting jolielaide:
    damn. i HATE all those situations that beg to coulda, woulda, shoulda hindsight.
Me too.... Me too....


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 8:57 am

    Quoting  :

It's been a while for me too.... I don't notice things because I'm always on a mission.

Gotta get something for dinner.... Who's texting me now?? Is that food dribbled down the front of my shirt? Why is this ALWAYS happening???

I need to stop and take a breather once in a while, take in what is happening around me. Live in the moment, for a change, and not constantly worry about what I need to do next.


salty_one_65 57M
67 posts
1/9/2022 8:44 am

It's great that you can still feel that pitter-patter.

I truly hope that one day in the very distant future that you'll also experience that feeling with the person you've been with for the next 20-30-40 years!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
1/9/2022 8:37 am

That moment may have been a Sliding Doors moment!


SilverFoxMark66 68M
286 posts
1/9/2022 8:03 am

Yes I have experienced several pitter patters in over 40 yrs of relationships, & still do while I'm out & about these days, so yes, these days I even attempt contact if I feel the energy might be mutual, no sparks ....yet, 'tho a few friendships def developing, big warm horny hugs from London UK, Mark x


jolielaide 51F  
1754 posts
1/9/2022 7:22 am

damn. i HATE all those situations that beg to coulda, woulda, shoulda hindsight.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
1/9/2022 2:36 am

Have you ever taken a look at someone and your heart just goes....

Pitter patter?

Love at first sight! No words spoken, just a look, a feeling, an all knowing.

This used to happen to me often, when I was younger, not so much anymore. Anymore I am busy, and my mind is occupied, I spend the majority of my day seeing but not seeing what is all around me.

Who is all around me.

The Spawn and I went to the mall in TC yesterday. She'd seen an older photo of me, from back in the days when I used to put forth effort in my makeup stylings, and had convinced me this is something that needs to be done once again!

"Your eyes are so blue! Why are your eyes so blue?!? You should be wearing eyeliner to make them pop!"

The Spawn then went on to demand to know why I cursed her with brown eyes and called me selfish.

Oh, what a stinker.

It was while we were at Target that I spied him..... I was contemplating a clay mud mask purchase when i glanced up.

And he was looking at me.

It was as if I was frozen in place and I found myself staring back at him....

"Mom! You aren't listening to me. You really need to get new brushes. How old is your eyeshadow brush?!? You've been using it for like twenty years, have you ever even cleaned it??"

The trance was broken and I looked over at the Spawn as she continued to give me shit about my 'antique' makeup applicator brushes and lectured me on proper application.

When I looked back in his direction, he was gone. All that was left in his place was a nearly naked mannequin and a woman looking at a handbag.

But it left me wondering.....

What if?

What if I hadn't been there with the Spawn, would I have said Hi? Would he have approached me? What if our paths were meant to cross, it just happened to be the wrong time and place?

I may never know.

I do know one thing, though... The moment I saw him standing there, my heart went pitter patter.

Happy Sunday!


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