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Disposable Human Beings  

secret_lade 48F
14251 posts
11/1/2021 4:46 pm
Disposable Human Beings


are times when I feel as though I've been used up and tossed aside.... Discarded like one of the Spawn's juice containers with the straw half chewed, left to idly sit until someone returns get those last few drops of liquid from that chewed up straw.

my ex husband, I'm a disposable human being.

One day, he will not the hide behind and be such a cruel asshole me. When that day comes, I hope he languishes in his bitter misery.

I picked the Spawn up tonight after work and she hopped into the car with two grocery bags full of snacks.

"What is all that?"

"Dad bought me snacks. He said you can't any, so don't even think about ."

"I wasn't going *eat* your fucking snacks!" (Yah, I was pretty salty in my response.)

"You know dad, he doesn't like...."

"He doesn't like WHAT?!? FAT PEOPLE?!?"

Oh my feelings were so, so hurt......

We sat in silence for a good, long moment.

I could hear her sniffling, she really didn't mean hurt my feelings, but she had. I hate that fucker for showing her what 's like be a callous, hateful human being. I hope she can remember, going forward, that everyone has feelings.

Even me.

MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
11/3/2021 5:55 pm

I agree with what boobwhisperer69 said. Maybe the time you sat in silence made your daughter think a little about how we can hurt others feelings.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


positively4you 73F  
4605 posts
11/2/2021 6:37 pm

I sense you have a lot more going for you than he does. She will figure it out with maturity. I know as a mom you hope she doesnt end up with a man like him..
The fat thing, piss on it. You are successful in life. Give him no power over you with it.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/2/2021 3:34 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    He's an ass. And he's waging emotional and psychological warfare and chances are it's going to back-fire on him. It will take a while, but it will happen. I don't understand parents who are so toxic that they try to use their kids as pawns/weapons against the other parent. She will also discover that him buying her "things" is not love.
    Sorry to hear about the booster shot and flu shot causing problems. I got the booster yesterday. I'm pretty sure someone ran over me with a bus shortly after that. Ugh....
I felt pretty shitty this morning, my joints were all stiff and sore, but it's worked itself out. I feel fairly decent now. As for the ex, he's only proving what level of asshole he really is to use my weaknesses against me like that, especially after trucking his ass all the way to SC so he could witness our son graduate.


citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
11/2/2021 1:57 pm

Hopefully, one day your Spawn will wise up to the fact that her father is using her to get to you.


ProfessorNaught 109M
1406 posts
11/2/2021 11:09 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    You're right, it does lean toward a fake theme. She sees only the things she wants to see in regard to her dad. "Like my new coat? Dad bought me a new coat." He did, in fact, get her a new coat last weekend. "Isn't he a sweetie?" This is the man who also made a giant white power sign and put it at the end of his driveway to piss off his neighbors.

    Yep, sweetie alright.....

    I don't say anything, maybe I should, but deep down she's got to know, there are some issues there.
I should have use father knows best or leave it to beaver as a reference. That's what they (kids) want. It fits disney but deep down disney suffers from pedophilia - if you watch the content closely.


pagancountrygirl 65F
6466 posts
11/2/2021 7:32 am

He's an ass. And he's waging emotional and psychological warfare and chances are it's going to back-fire on him. It will take a while, but it will happen. I don't understand parents who are so toxic that they try to use their kids as pawns/weapons against the other parent. She will also discover that him buying her "things" is not love.
Sorry to hear about the booster shot and flu shot causing problems. I got the booster yesterday. I'm pretty sure someone ran over me with a bus shortly after that. Ugh....

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


ltrskr 74M  
5151 posts
11/2/2021 5:37 am

WOW! I have an ex like that, my son was 13 when I told him I had to leave, suffered that many years until he was old enough to make own his choice.
His response was "Dad if your leaving put me in the truck with u, I ain't living with BITCH either!"
Even now he refers to her as his EX-Mother!
My lawyer told me u have two choices,
U can divorce her or just shoot her, the legal fee's will be the same, BUT in 3 to 5 you'll be done with the Bitch...LOL!
I look back now and say "Damn I'd be on parole by now"
Good Luck!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
11/2/2021 3:41 am

Hopefully your daughter will reflect and learn from that moment.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/2/2021 2:22 am

    Quoting ProfessorNaught:
    Mom's house dad's house. Its a fair book but the concept is he lives in a hateful world while you reside in the more intellectual space. Your job is teaching her the difference in ways that opens her eyes without imposing your rule of law (ie: opinion - the unedited version ) . Shouldn't be too hard, kids tend to have their own view of family and the world despite what we put them through. And it tends to lean toward the [fake] disney theme...
You're right, it does lean toward a fake theme. She sees only the things she wants to see in regard to her dad. "Like my new coat? Dad bought me a new coat." He did, in fact, get her a new coat last weekend. "Isn't he a sweetie?" This is the man who also made a giant white power sign and put it at the end of his driveway to piss off his neighbors.

Yep, sweetie alright.....

I don't say anything, maybe I should, but deep down she's got to know, there are some issues there.


nsnguystill 70M
428 posts
11/2/2021 2:17 am

forgive them for they know what they do... but lack the intelligence to edit their desires.

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


mc_justmc 62M
6929 posts
11/2/2021 2:16 am

I hate people like that. When I get the chance to get them for some fault or trait I don't, and they still come back to do that shit to me and others.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/2/2021 2:12 am

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    Your only response needs to be.................That's why I'm not married to your father anymore!!!!!!! Then smile, smile and smile some more!!!!!
I have said that to her and my Marine on more than one occasion. I doubt I was smiling though..... Ugh.....


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/2/2021 2:09 am

    Quoting MishyMinx:
    Ex-husbands suck. I have one too.
Yep.... An ex becomes an ex for a reason.


CUMHANDLEME 60F
794 posts
11/2/2021 12:07 am

If I remember correctly you've mentioned your ex has addiction issues as well as an asshole.

I think boobwhisperer has a great response.

Positive conservations with body positive girl power wins every day.

Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!


ProfessorNaught 109M
1406 posts
11/1/2021 11:21 pm

Mom's house dad's house. Its a fair book but the concept is he lives in a hateful world while you reside in the more intellectual space. Your job is teaching her the difference in ways that opens her eyes without imposing your rule of law (ie: opinion - the unedited version ) . Shouldn't be too hard, kids tend to have their own view of family and the world despite what we put them through. And it tends to lean toward the [fake] disney theme...


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/1/2021 10:15 pm

    Quoting  :

He is a sorry, sad man.... He does know my weight is a hot button and something I feel most insecure about, he was very calculating with his actions. I won't talk to him anymore, since the SC trip, so the only way he can convey those messages is through our daughter. What a horrible human being. I wound up telling my daughter that from now on, we'll focus on conversations that build ourselves up, not tear ourselves down.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/1/2021 10:02 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Not much anyone can do about hurt feelings.
    But your feelings can't get HURT if the comments come from someone you don't RESPECT; they're simply random words strung together.
    You'll burn yourself up — and others —unless you can channel your hate (of your EX) and ignore anything he says. Think about it and the time you have left with your daughter, before she grows wings and leaves your nest.

    I know — easier said than done; it's a challenge, for sure.
    Count to twenty? 🤔

    WTF do I know? 😶❗
I think it bothered me most to hear his words come out of her mouth. I also got the COVID booster and a flu shot after work today, so I'm not feeling 100% at the moment either. This time I'm experiencing some side effects.... Not sure if it's the flu shot or the booster though. I had chills so bad when I got home from work I hopped in a hot shower until I could stop shivering. Now my joints are all achy and swollen, too....


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8322 posts
11/1/2021 9:35 pm

Your only response needs to be.................That's why I'm not married to your father anymore!!!!!!! Then smile, smile and smile some more!!!!!


MishyMinx 40F  
9 posts
11/1/2021 9:09 pm

Ex-husbands suck. I have one too.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
11/1/2021 7:40 pm

Not much anyone can do about hurt feelings.
But your feelings can't get HURT if the comments come from someone you don't RESPECT; they're simply random words strung together.
You'll burn yourself up — and others —unless you can channel your hate (of your EX) and ignore anything he says. Think about it and the time you have left with your daughter, before she grows wings and leaves your nest.

I know — easier said than done; it's a challenge, for sure.
Count to twenty? 🤔

WTF do I know? 😶❗


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/1/2021 4:47 pm

There are times when I feel as though I've been used up and tossed aside.... Discarded like one of the Spawn's juice containers with the straw half chewed, left to idly sit there until someone returns to get those last few drops of liquid from that chewed up straw.

To my ex husband, I'm a disposable human being.

One day, he will not have the kids to hide behind and be such a cruel asshole to me. When that day comes, I hope he languishes in his bitter misery.

I picked the Spawn up tonight after work and she hopped into the car with two grocery bags full of snacks.

"What is all that?"

"Dad bought me snacks. He said you can't have any, so don't even think about it."

"I wasn't going to *eat* your fucking snacks!" (Yah, I was pretty salty in my response.)

"You know dad, he doesn't like...."

"He doesn't like WHAT?!? FAT PEOPLE?!?"

Oh my feelings were so, so hurt......

We sat in silence for a good, long moment.

I could hear her sniffling, she really didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but she had. I hate that mother fucker for showing her what it's like to be a callous, hateful human being. I hope she can remember, going forward, that everyone has feelings.

Even me.


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