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Feeling the block....  

secret_lade 48F
14187 posts
7/1/2021 4:32 pm
Feeling the block....


Writer's block, that is.

I got a call from the funeral home today letting me know that my father's death certificates were in and asking that I stop by to view the proof of his headstone and give my approval.

I was met at the door by a woman who was filling in for the funeral director I had been working with.

She was excitedly telling me that she was counting down the days now because on the 1st of August she would finish her degree and finally be a fully licensed funeral director.

Nothing screams 'funeral director' like a smiling, giddy, mustached woman with thick glasses.

It's safe to say, I wasn't exactly sharing her excitement as I was looking at the autocad image of my father's headstone.

I tried to be nice, but I just couldn't muster it.

"yah, that's fantastic. The angel is facing the wrong direction and the date of my father's death is incorrect. "

"That's why we have the family come in and proof it."

Still happy, still smiling.... Still kind of pissing me off.

You think maybe you could hold back that glee a little while we finalize the details of my DEAD FATHER'S HEADSTONE!

Good God....

I hate to see what she's like when she's fully licensed and in action!

Cartwheels and dance moves?

I can only hope....

secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/3/2021 5:34 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    It takes a special kind of person to deal with those who are at a funeral home because of a death. They need to be compassionate and understanding, but firm when needed. They definitely need to be able to "read" people. And of course, deal with different forms of grief. But they need a sense of humor, as well. Apparently Ms Giggles failed more than one course when going through that school. Telling her personal business when someone hasn't indicated they want to hear it is not a good sign.
She definitely didn't seem to be the same type of person as everyone else I had dealt with at the funeral home. Even the blind lady who was doing our policy stuff had been very professional and very business like and straight forward. I think the part that made it easiest was how well they were able to remove the feeling of being overwhelmed. Each day was one step at a time.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/3/2021 5:31 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    I definitely won't say "Good mourning" to that funeral director
She is really something!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/3/2021 5:30 am

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    No head stone for me there's no one going to stop bye and see me. Onces I'm gone. I want to be creamated then loaded into shotgun shells give to the young's hunter I know. Each opening day of the deer season I'm to be shot off at days end. Until I'm in the woods and done. Just hope the youngster don't load me in the barrel in the stand and then shoot me off at a trophy buck only to dust his ass lololololol.
My ex husband wants to be put into shotgun shells too. He wants for all of his surviving friends to shoot him off into the woods. Are you an avid hunter?


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/3/2021 5:28 am

    Quoting WyoCowboy7751:
    Gotta say what first came too mind about her She will possibly install a pole in the conference room & entertain clients by attempting too Twerk
Oh my.... LOL You didn't get the opportunity to see her like I did, and, that would definitely be a sight to see. The mustache is a good indicator of her attractiveness.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/3/2021 5:27 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I can't imagine doing that for a living, it sounds depressing.
I definitely couldn't do that for a living. Yikes!


pagancountrygirl 65F
6466 posts
7/2/2021 3:06 pm

It takes a special kind of person to deal with those who are at a funeral home because of a death. They need to be compassionate and understanding, but firm when needed. They definitely need to be able to "read" people. And of course, deal with different forms of grief. But they need a sense of humor, as well. Apparently Ms Giggles failed more than one course when going through that school. Telling her personal business when someone hasn't indicated they want to hear it is not a good sign.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
7/2/2021 8:01 am

I definitely won't say "Good mourning" to that funeral director


69ereatwetpussy 60M
6778 posts
7/2/2021 7:11 am

No head stone for me there's no one going to stop bye and see me. Onces I'm gone. I want to be creamated then loaded into shotgun shells give to the young's hunter I know. Each opening day of the deer season I'm to be shot off at days end. Until I'm in the woods and done. Just hope the youngster don't load me in the barrel in the stand and then shoot me off at a trophy buck only to dust his ass lololololol.


WyoCowboy7751 69M
2537 posts
7/2/2021 5:16 am

Gotta say what first came too mind about her She will possibly install a pole in the conference room & entertain clients by attempting too Twerk


mc_justmc 62M
6929 posts
7/2/2021 4:35 am

I can't imagine doing that for a living, it sounds depressing.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/2/2021 3:23 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    For them...its either solemn and straightforward and some deem that as uncaring/feeling or its animated with laughter n giddiness and some deem that as uncaring/unfeeling.

    I have dealt with too many to mention. Its the nature of their business.

    Good thing they have that policy tho, to correct things before they are acted upon~
I guess I prefer the professional, straight forward approach. There is no worse feeling than when you are holding back a few tears while someone is smiling away, excitedly telling you about their weekend plans. I get it, this is your career and you do this every day..... But, it is not mine. Holding a man's death certificates in my hand is a little out of the norm for me.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/2/2021 2:01 am

hello


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/2/2021 2:01 am

    Quoting japaneseass:
    I learned from my experience, that a good funeral director would treat the customers like his own family. They care for us... They don't have to be all business like, but they know how we feel about the loss, shock, and emptiness... Guess she did not learned that at the school, tho... it must be really awkward to act so cheerful in front of the family member of the deceased... doncha think? Guess all she cares is money... how much money you can make per head of the dead... Funeral Home business is the one who makes money off of the dead anyway...but I don't want them to be so glad we lost someone...ya know???
The woman I have been working with through nearly all of this has been amazing. It's because of her that we were able to get my mother's ashes out of my father's apartment without having to take the managing company of his apartment complex to probate court. You definitely got the feeling that she cared about the people she was was working for and she does her best to make the process as painless as possible.


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/1/2021 11:30 pm

For them...its either solemn and straightforward and some deem that as uncaring/feeling or its animated with laughter n giddiness and some deem that as uncaring/unfeeling.

I have dealt with too many to mention. Its the nature of their business.

Good thing they have that policy tho, to correct things before they are acted upon~


Rafaeltjs2 27M
37 posts
7/1/2021 11:09 pm

Hello


japaneseass 55F
50231 posts
7/1/2021 10:18 pm

I learned from my experience, that a good funeral director would treat the customers like his own family. They care for us... They don't have to be all business like, but they know how we feel about the loss, shock, and emptiness... Guess she did not learned that at the school, tho... it must be really awkward to act so cheerful in front of the family member of the deceased... doncha think? Guess all she cares is money... how much money you can make per head of the dead... Funeral Home business is the one who makes money off of the dead anyway...but I don't want them to be so glad we lost someone...ya know???


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/1/2021 8:04 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Not every one can act or feel.
    I can put myself into a state, where a song on the radio, can bring tears to my eyes.
    I wish I could stop the sadness, but when it starts... some days... I just can't stop it.
    I don't know if you know what I mean. 😶
I do know what you mean....


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/1/2021 8:01 pm

    Quoting New2Midlo:
    Because I'm the king of being inappropriate, a funny story about one of my dead relatives. My great grandfather smoked, drank, ate nothing but fatty foods, and generally abused his body in every manner he could conceive. But he was a tough son of a bitch and lived to 86 years old.

    The funeral director stopped by to finalize arrangements and commented to my grandfather 'I embalmed your father him today and was surprised by how good of shape he was in; he must have really taken good care of himself'. My father, grandfather, and I erupted in laughter. You talk about an uncomfortable, and perhaps a little freaked out, funeral director...
Oh my.... Lol. That poor funeral director. He was probably judging you guys hardcore.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/1/2021 7:56 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    She was taught that in funeral directors school for you are sad and down she just try to lift your spirits lolololol
    it's bad they got the date wrong that's their loss of a good stone.
This was just a proof, it hadn't been etched into the stone yet. It was basically just a black rectangle with names, dates, and an angel on it.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
7/1/2021 5:51 pm

Not every one can act or feel.
I can put myself into a state, where a song on the radio, can bring tears to my eyes.
I wish I could stop the sadness, but when it starts... some days... I just can't stop it.
I don't know if you know what I mean. 😶


New2Midlo 53M
1075 posts
7/1/2021 5:50 pm

Because I'm the king of being inappropriate, a funny story about one of my dead relatives. My great grandfather smoked, drank, ate nothing but fatty foods, and generally abused his body in every manner he could conceive. But he was a tough son of a bitch and lived to 86 years old.

The funeral director stopped by to finalize arrangements and commented to my grandfather 'I embalmed your father him today and was surprised by how good of shape he was in; he must have really taken good care of himself'. My father, grandfather, and I erupted in laughter. You talk about an uncomfortable, and perhaps a little freaked out, funeral director...


69ereatwetpussy 60M
6778 posts
7/1/2021 4:47 pm

She was taught that in funeral directors school for you are sad and down she just try to lift your spirits lolololol
it's bad they got the date wrong that's their loss of a good stone.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/1/2021 4:35 pm

Writer's block, that is.

I got a call from the funeral home today letting me know that my father's death certificates were in and asking that I stop by to view the proof of his headstone and give my approval.

I was met at the door by a woman who was filling in for the funeral director I had been working with.

She was excitedly telling me that she was counting down the days now because on the 1st of August she would finish her degree and finally be a fully licensed funeral director.

Nothing screams 'funeral director' like a smiling, giddy, mustached woman with thick glasses.

It's safe to say, I wasn't exactly sharing her excitement as I was looking at the autocad image of my father's headstone.

I tried to be nice, but I just couldn't muster it.

"yah, that's fantastic. The angel is facing the wrong direction and the date of my father's death is incorrect. "

"That's why we have the family come in and proof it."

Still happy, still smiling.... Still kind of pissing me off.

You think maybe you could hold back that glee a little while we finalize the details of my DEAD FATHER'S HEADSTONE!

Good God....

I hate to see what she's like when she's fully licensed and in action!

Cartwheels and dance moves?

I can only hope....


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